2019 52 Weeks To Being Divinely Feminine Thread

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almond eyes said:
Today, I happened to watch a Youtuber who spoke about the fact that no amount of feminine energy was going to help black women behave their way into getting certain men. She said she would love to see the evidence.

For me harassing the female energy while yes men are part of the equation to create a balance, at the same time it's about not suppressing the beautiful parts of being a female and the power that comes from that. It's easy to feel like what's the point.

What so you think @PrissiSippi I'd love to hear your thoughts.

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Almond Eyes
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Yes, the truth is this won't work on every man. Why? Because like attracts like. Feminine women are highly desirable to masculine alpha men. We are becoming a match for a man who is fully in his masculine power. A feminine energy man might be turned on by a feminine woman but he generally won't have the, eh hem, guts :look: to claim her.

That's why this work cannot be about getting an outcome with a specific man. (I also think men can tell when it's not coming from an authentic place anyway.) Our attitude should be: me first and foremost. I literally can't see any man who's not adding value to my life. Boo you don't exist. :giggle:
 
Jade Feria said:
Hobbies and Rejuvenation
Go salsa dancing at least once per month.
Take myself on a date (separate from salsa dancing) at least once per month.
Continue to set time aside each week to map out and decorate my planner.
Gardening when the weather permits.
Reading books that inspire me.

Attitude/Behavior
Be less reactive when something doesn't go the way I want (particularly in situations when I'm driving, or interacting with my son's father). I will pick my "battles" more carefully.

I find myself yelling at DS often (he's 3), and I really want to stop that and find a more feminine way to communicate with him while still parenting effectively; learning how to set boundaries while still being as nurturing as I usually am.

In dating/relationship, being more receptive and less proactive. Speaking in a soft, feminine voice. Being specifically appreciative. Setting boundaries and being a challenge - in a positive way that motivates him toward me. Keeping my energy focused more on myself and less on him. Being a high value woman, always.
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Every time I think I'm done with a task, someone on here makes me realize that I have work to do. I thought I was done with my goals, but alas, I'm missing components, important ones too. I like the idea of having an 'attitude' category as it will keep my emotions in check, moreso, focusing on remaining positive and proactive.

I'm also going to add an intellectual category. I need to increase my brain power. Think I'll put puzzles and other brain games on there. I'm not fully committing to this thread, as I have other commitments this 1st quarter, but I'll be following intensely.
 
Work has really been pushing me out of my zone. My principal, a lovely lady, quit. I'm left with two racist, misogynist, aggressive men. 5 weeks with them and I am exhausted with having to "say it with my chest". They do nothing to guard us from indignant parents and I can feel myself hardening just thinking about the confrontations that will likely happen at the coming meetings.
I will complete my first outside application tomorrow when I drop the last of my paperwork off. Signing no on the upcoming contract would be a relief.
In the meantime I will do my best to flow like water. I am going to do just what I want regardless so I need to not get worked up.
 
Brwnbeauti said:
If not in lingerie I sleep in VS sleep shirts
I fix my bed every morning. With all 10 pillows :look:
I’d like to add a piece of furniture to clear my night stand, but there’s no room in this tiny apartment.
Ladies what are some cute compact storage options?
I need to buy some of those wax melts
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I love Pinterest for storage ideas
 
Hope I get these right :giggle:

Receiving: the last couple of weeks, the people I am training have been thanking me, telling me they miss me and really showing me they appreciate my presence. I’ve been softer and take the time to listen to learn and process before I speak, and I notice that people listen more or at least want your attention more. Normally, I’d cut this off, but I’ve just been receiving and accepting it.

Rest/Relaxation: I changed my Bedtime/DND from 9pm to 8:30pm. I’m telling my son we need to lay down around 8:15ish. I’m turning the tv and light before 9:30pm. Waking up upset that my alarm found time but recognizing I got enough sleep. Weekends, I’ve just been relaxing and enjoying it.

Rejuvenation (Filling Up Your Cup): I’m doing a paint class this weekend. I would like to commit to it once a month. I’ve repressed my artistic side for too long. I found a tabata hip hop workout and I love it. I cannot dance, but for me, it’s not about the results, it’s about the fun. I ain’t hitting no clubs, but it’s fun to work up the sweat and enjoy the workout. Even just my regular tabata kettlebell workout, it’s not about the results, just feeling good when I work out. I’m not trying to be toned, but just clear my mind and be healthy.
 
I've been really feeling creative lately. I've been trying to make time to unwind and spend some time with myself. This painting below is one that I quickly painted last night to change up my bathroom without spending money. This project only took an hour, but it really made me feel very accomplished after I finished. One thing to note is that masculine energy is destructive energy, while feminine energy is a creative energy.

You're probably creating without even realizing it. On your femininity journey, you should weekly change up your routine and tap into your creative energy by cooking, designing your plates, painting, writing a poem, or drawing.

Keep in mind that the activity doesn’t have to necessarily be “good”… it just needs to be created. How could you embrace all of your feminine energy and simply create this week?
 

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Receiving: I've been taking my time to receive compliments instead of saying, "Oh this old thing?"

Rest/Relaxation: I've been getting in the bed by 10. For whatever reason I still can't fall asleep. Baby steps.

Rejuvenation (Filling Up Your Cup): I changed around my bedroom. I took everything off my nightstand, put some flowers by them, and put my journal on my nightstand so I can make sure I can always reach it to write in it. My birthday is Monday so I plan to fill up my cup all weekend. We have a pre-Founders' day celebration today, so I'll go fellowship with my sorors. Afterwards I'll hit my favorite bar, and play in makeup to look really cute. I'll update when I think of some more things I could do.
 
You cannot connect with a man through:

  • Mind- All the things you have in common. (You will get a business partner or buddy)
  • Body- Sex and Sports (You will get a friend with benefits or a coloring partner)
  • Spirit- Religious Beliefs, being "nice" to him (You will get a praying partner or a friend)
You can magnetize him through your feminine energy by tapping into your EMOTIONS and connecting to his heart.
 
* Receiving: Currently working in the contact center of a health insurance company. Some conversations with customers can be difficult and sap one out of all the energy. My male supervisor sits next to me on most days. Often times, when he hears that a particular conversation is going left, he takes over, sometimes without my prompting. I just lean back and listen in.

* Rest / Relaxation: Spent the past two days at home, doing absolutely nothing. Just surfing the net, watching videos about financial independence, making better use of my computer, preparing for my vacation in a week and cooking. It felt so good: didn't come out for air in two days either. Today I started work at 10am because I still had some extra hours under my belt. Co-workers are salty but that seems to be their default mood anyway.

* Rejuvenation: Lately I've been addicted to buying music on iTunes. So far I've been able to assemble a list called 'Womanhood' that I listen to in the morning, while showering or whenever I'm cooking. After work today, I went to shop for undergarments. Had already convinced my mind that I would need to save up €300.00 to put my collection together, but H&M hooked me up with 7 well fitting bras for €24.00. :yep:

@PrissiSippi don't forget to keep us updated on your gift wrapping endeavors. This past Holiday, I had to take a gift completely unwrapped to my lil niece. Just felt like the young lady at the store was doing such a poor job :nono:. Gift wrapping is so feminine imho.
 
Rest/relaxation: I have not gotten enough sleep for like 3 days in a row and I developed a headache at work. So yesterday, I went directly home after work. I lit a candle, took a hot shower, ordered dinner then went to bed after doing my nightly skin care. I feel much better this morning! Have a lot of errands today but I feel so much better. I'm learning to listen to and honor my body.
 
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I wanted to share an instant vibration increasing tool that I own: Katarina Phang's class how to be high value and easy to lose. In the KP thread someone typed out what she said in a nutshell but there's something about listening to her say the words so you can really internalize them: to be the object of desire for a man, you don't have to do ANYTHING. She says the less you do, the better the outcome!

It's a little over an hour but talk about vibe raising! I have listened to the class before but I forgot how darn good it is. Something told me to listen to it this week. Now, when I get anxious about a particular man that I see on a somewhat regular basis, I will just listen to this again and put my darn self right back on the pedestal.
 
Saludable84 said:
Is modern siren worth it?
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RR's programs are great and she trained a lot of feminine energy coaches. But I find that other coaches present the material in a way that's easier to understand. I went back to RR's material after looking at other coaches and then the light bulb went on. A lot of it went over my head at first. Her stuff is gold but if you're just starting with this work you may have to connect the dots a bit more.
 
Belle Du Jour said:
I wanted to share an instant vibration increasing tool that I own: Katarina Phang's class how to be high value and easy to lose. In the KP thread someone typed out what she said in a nutshell but there's something about listening to her say the words so you can really internalize them: to be the object of desire for a man, you don't have to do ANYTHING. She says the less you do, the better the outcome!

It's a little over an hour but talk about vibe raising! I have listened to the class before but I forgot how darn good it is. Something told me to listen to it this week. Now, when I get anxious about a particular man that I see on a somewhat regular basis, I will just listen to this again and put my darn self right back on the pedestal.
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What’s the link to the post? I think I have notes on it on my phone (because I’m a visual learner) but I wanted to make sure I got it all. I saw that a LOT of the stuff is synonymous with some feminine mystique stuff the other femininity coaches preach. It really made sense.
 
If you haven’t noticed, we (Thank you @snoop) are shifting the challenge to focus on inner work first then moving on to outer work and then returning BACK to inner work. That means any challenge that focused on others or outward appearance(Accepting others for who they are, makeup, clothes, and etc) will be pushed back until we have mastered the mindset and the orientation to what feminine energy is and what it is NOT. Inner work is the most important. Without it, you can wear all the makeup heels and clothes you want but you STILL won’t necessarily be feminine. The outer appearance is the cherry on top. The inner work is KEY.

The Journey of Femininity Inner Work

It is never about a man. It is always about YOU.

It is never about if you will find the love of your life but it was always about whether you will learn to love yourself wholeheartedly first for someone else to be able to love me afterwards.

It is never wearing fancy clothes makeup and heels. It is about the outward matching the inward which is feline flirty and fun. The clothes and makeup is just a cherry on top.

It is never about he/she said xyz to Me & he/she didn’t treat Me well but it is always about why did YOU let anyone do/say that to You. Learning to be femininity involves having poise and tact and learning to value yourself above everything else & walk away & let go when Yoh feel someone is not meant to be in your life.

It is never about someone pushing your boundaries but it was always about why did you let them do that? Why didn’t You know what exactly your boundaries are & why didn’t You assert them firmly from the start? It is always about you learning how to stay in your feminine energy but stand up for yourself first

It is never about why he/she doesn’t understand how you feel & why they hurt your feelings. It is about why not learn to be soft on the outside but very strong on the inside through creation of boubdaries to learn to stand up for yourself and love yourself.

It is never about why you always attract the wrong men in your life. It’s about changing thw energy you are exuding in the universe that do not sync with what you desire.
 
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Throwing it Back to last year's challenge of Making routines into rituals.
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  • I got this cute feminine coffee mug ($4 at TJ Maxx) just for my early coffee morning where I work on my blog and enjoy my Saturday mornings.
  • When I have my first sip I really try to be sitting down outside, but if it's cold I'm inside relaxing, so if I have a chore to do first thing in the morning.
  • Every glance at my mug I feel feminine and I envision my femininity flowing.
  • I try to sip slowly and taste, smell, experience every sip.
 

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PrissiSippi said:
If you haven’t noticed, we (Thabk you @snoop) are shifting the challenge to focus on inner work first then moving on to outer work and then returning BACK to inner work.
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I’m having a little trouble keeping up! Can you remind me of the format of the challenge? Will there be weekly challenges accompanied by thoughts/exercises throughout the week?
 
I have been taking time to slow down. I been emotionally piling too much onto myself and it was taking a toll on night health. Over the last week or so I try a more calm approach to things. If I think it'll stress me out, I'm going to let DH pick up my slack.

My mantra for this year is "I'm entitled to..."
 
so_stush said:
I’m having a little trouble keeping up! Can you remind me of the format of the challenge? Will there be weekly challenges accompanied by thoughts/exercises throughout the week?
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I will let @PrissiSippi explain better but I’ll just give you a small example in the meanwhile.

This morning, I was talking to my cousin and I told her she needs time to herself. I know it’s hard. I told her she looks nice, but there is a difference between looking feminine and being feminine. I told her she has to shape her mind around it first. She didn’t get it. I told her you just need to demand your time (not forceful lol, just make the time and stick to it) and she will be able to better understand and grasp femininity.

She simply told me it hard to think that way. That when she’s around feminine women, it blows her mind because she doesn’t understand. If your mind isn’t there, or doesn’t connect/understand it, all of it pointless. I learned it’s following the thread last year and I’m grateful I’ve made the connection to join this year.
 
PrissiSippi said:
If you haven’t noticed, we (Thabk you @snoop) are shifting the challenge to focus on inner work first then moving on to outer work and then returning BACK to inner work. That means any challenge the focused on others or outward appearance(Accepting others for who they are, makeup, clothes, and etc) will Be pushes back until we have mastered the mindset and the orientation to what feminine energy is and what it is NOT. Inner work is the most important. Without it, you can wear all the makeup heels and clothes you want but you STILL won’t necessarily be feminine. The outer appearance is the cherry on top. The inner work is KEY.

The Journey of Femininity Inner Work

It is never about a man. It is always about YOU.

It is never about if you will find the love of your life but it was always about whether you will learn to love yourself wholeheartedly first for someone else to be able to love me afterwards.

It is never wearing fancy clothes makeup and heels. It is about the outward matching the inward which is feline flirty and fun. The clothes and makeup is just a cherry on top.

It is never about he/she said xyz to Me & he/she didn’t treat Me well but it is always about why did YOU let anyone do/say that to You. Learning to be femininity involves having poise and tact and learning to value yourself above everything else & walk away & let go when Yoh feel someone is not meant to be in your life.

It is never about someone pushing your boundaries but it was always about why did you let them do that? Why didn’t You know what exactly your boundaries are & why didn’t You assert them firmly from the start? It is always about you learning how to stay in your feminine energy but stand up for yourself first

It is never about why he/she doesn’t understand how you feel & why they hurt your feelings. It is about why not learn to be soft on the outside but very strong on the inside through creation of boubdaries to learn to stand up for yourself and love yourself.

It is never about why you always attract the wrong men in your life. It’s about changing thw energy you are exuding in the universe that do not sync with what you desire.
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Wow girl. You broke it DOWN.
 
If you haven’t noticed, we (Thabk you @snoop) are shifting the challenge to focus on inner work first then moving on to outer work and then returning BACK to inner work. That means any challenge the focused on others or outward appearance(Accepting others for who they are, makeup, clothes, and etc) will Be pushes back until we have mastered the mindset and the orientation to what feminine energy is and what it is NOT. Inner work is the most important. Without it, you can wear all the makeup heels and clothes you want but you STILL won’t necessarily be feminine. The outer appearance is the cherry on top. The inner work is KEY.

I agree. It all begins and ends on the inside. You could be in jeans and a t-shirt with your hair in a ponytail and still be in feminine energy. You could be wearing dresses and heels and still feel like a dude to a man.

The Journey of Femininity Inner Work

It is never about a man. It is always about YOU.

It is never about if you will find the love of your life but it was always about whether you will learn to love yourself wholeheartedly first for someone else to be able to love me afterwards.

When I started this journey, I was stumped about why a certain man in my life wasn't "responding" to me. And I got frustrated because even though I made the changes, he still wasn't responding the way I wanted or as quickly...It wasn't until about May or June of last year that it finally clicked for me that self-love is the lynch-pin of this whole thing. So I had to go back to the basics...

It is never wearing fancy clothes makeup and heels. It is about the outward matching the inward which is feline flirty and fun. The clothes and makeup is just a cherry on top.

Getting dressed used to feel like a chore. My clothes are the same but I'm excited about dressing feminine because it makes me feel great! It's no longer about "obligation energy" to dress like a woman. It's what I feel best wearing.

It is never about he/she said xyz to Me & he/she didn’t treat Me well but it is always about why did YOU let anyone do/say that to You. Learning to be femininity involves having poise and tact and learning to value yourself above everything else & walk away & let go when Yoh feel someone is not meant to be in your life.

Exactly. I've already leaned back on some female friendships too because I don't tolerate low value people in my circle anymore.

It is never about someone pushing your boundaries but it was always about why did you let them do that? Why didn’t You know what exactly your boundaries are & why didn’t You assert them firmly from the start? It is always about you learning how to stay in your feminine energy but stand up for yourself first

This is HUGE. I used to walk around feeling wounded, like people were doing things to me. Now I understand that I'm overreacting in some instances OR I have a choice to speak up and defend myself with grace if needed.

It is never about why he/she doesn’t understand how you feel & why they hurt your feelings. It is about why not learn to be soft on the outside but very strong on the inside through creation of boubdaries to learn to stand up for yourself and love yourself.

Yep! It's about know how/when to express your feelings ("I feel hurt" or "I feel disappointed") and when to just let go and walk away. Sometimes you just have to remove yourself from a situation.

It is never about why you always attract the wrong men in your life. It’s about changing thw energy you are exuding in the universe that do not sync with what you desire.

This is where I am right now: taking a long hard look at the type of men showing up because it's ultimately a reflection of me. Now a lot of women take offense to this idea and feel like they are being blamed for what men are doing. But I see it more as: what aura or energy or perfume am I emitting to attract this type of man?
 
so_stush said:
I’m having a little trouble keeping up! Can you remind me of the format of the challenge? Will there be weekly challenges accompanied by thoughts/exercises throughout the week?
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Yes; on Mondays we introduce we introduce the weekly challenge. The weekly challenge for this week is to be present and note your feelings throughout the week.

This week was also an orientation. The three of pillars of feminiity were explained: rest/relaxation, rejuvenation, and receptivity.

On Tuesdays, affirmations are posted related to the challenge. You can use them how you need to. I say them out loud in the mirror each day.

Throughout the week, you work towards your femininity goals and fill up your cup DAILY.
 
I went to the UPS store a couple of days ago and the attendant who was a friendly man said he just had to compliment me on how relaxed and easy going I was. He said he was used to everyone being in a terrible rush and not taking the time to really listen and engage.
He asked how I did it. I thought it was a rhetorical question for some reason (Lol) he waited for an answer. I told him I simply made a choice to not be rushed.

I am encouraged whenever I read real life encounters that show progress so I had to share this experience as well.
 
Receiving: Over the Christmas holidays a young man from another office in FL that I am mentoring sent me a gift set! He sent a lovely card that expressed how much my mentoring and coaching had meant to him and he was grateful I was in his life! I was so overcome with the fact that he took the time to find a gift that he knew would be meaningful to me...said a little bird in my office told him. Also the fact that I have touched his life...normally I would downplay myself and deflect but this time I accepted, believed and simply said thank you! It was such a great feeling but a little scary as I'm just not used to receiving.
 
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