2019 52 Weeks To Being Divinely Feminine Thread

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Receiving: @PeaceLover drove over three hours to throw me a surprise bday party and show me a great time for my 31st. Instead of saying girl you crazy I just said what should I wear lol. We had soooo much fun. The femininity challenge is working as well. We were the classiest looking women there. It really showed.

Rejuvenation- I kept looking at that last painting I did and it’s missing something. I’m going to add something else to it. I really took my time and worked on my makeup this weekend. It came out soooo perfect.

Resting- I let myself sleep until 1pm today and yesterday I lounged around and napped a lot. It felt absolutely amazing.
 
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I told @kupenda last night but I want to talk about it today.

Last night I went to a paint class and the energy was terrible. Like really awful. All the women were so... masculine. Like they were tense, complaining, couldn’t stop stressing. They said that the relaxing part of painting was a lie because they were even more stressed trying to be perfect. I just sat and watched and smiled and waited for instructions. A lady asked me if I was stressed and I said no. She asked if I was enjoying and relaxed and I said yes and smiled again.

All of these women, dressed so nice, makeup done up, even some dancing, but their energies were so masculine. The men, even the married ones were more feminine. I’m not complaining, but it’s crazy how aware you can become over something as simple as energy when you just become a little aware.
 
I told @kupenda last night but I want to talk about it today.

Last night I went to a paint class and the energy was terrible. Like really awful. All the women were so... masculine. Like they were tense, complaining, couldn’t stop stressing. They said that the relaxing part of painting was a lie because they were even more stressed trying to be perfect. I just sat and watched and smiled and waited for instructions. A lady asked me if I was stressed and I said no. She asked if I was enjoying and relaxed and I said yes and smiled again.

All of these women, dressed so nice, makeup done up, even some dancing, but their energies were so masculine. The men, even the married ones were more feminine. I’m not complaining, but it’s crazy how aware you can become over something as simple as energy when you just become a little aware.

I’ve been noticing this too! A lot of people in my area take the time to be very very well dressed, but they’re still masculine acting. They’re not friendly, they’re rushing to the next on their to do list, they’re not present and in the moment because their phone is with them the whole time, they complain instead of focusing on what they could change. Whoo Chile.

This goes into our challenge this week of being present. This is an ongoing challenge that really helps one to focus on themselves and the beauty around them.

If you’re going to cook, learn how to make a delicious and tasty meal. If you’re going to clean; throw on some soothing music and make it fun. If you’re going to paint; try to actually paint and move away from the coloring book classes to challenge yourself. If you’re going to spend time with the family; actually spend time with the family and PLAY with them. Breathe. Slow down. Enjoy being you my divinely Feminine Ladies.
 
This goes into our challenge this week of being present. This is an ongoing challenge that really helps one to focus on themselves and the beauty around them.

If you’re going to cook, learn how to make a delicious and tasty meal. If you’re going to clean; throw on some soothing music and make it fun. If you’re going to paint; try to actually paint and move away from the coloring book classes to challenge yourself. If you’re going to spend time with the family; actually spend time with the family and PLAY with them. Breathe. Slow down. Enjoy being you my divinely Feminine Ladies.


Reminds me of a quote from a book I read this week:

Extracting pleasure from simple things can be the key to a happy life. If you slow down and take pleasure in simple things, you’d re more likely to lead a contented and well-balanced existence and less like to incur unhealthy habits like overspending, hoarding and overeating. You are also more likely to be present in the moment and pleasant with your family.
 
I told @kupenda last night but I want to talk about it today.

Last night I went to a paint class and the energy was terrible. Like really awful. All the women were so... masculine. Like they were tense, complaining, couldn’t stop stressing. They said that the relaxing part of painting was a lie because they were even more stressed trying to be perfect. I just sat and watched and smiled and waited for instructions. A lady asked me if I was stressed and I said no. She asked if I was enjoying and relaxed and I said yes and smiled again.

All of these women, dressed so nice, makeup done up, even some dancing, but their energies were so masculine. The men, even the married ones were more feminine. I’m not complaining, but it’s crazy how aware you can become over something as simple as energy when you just become a little aware.

My painting class last week wasn't relaxing for me either. It was so loud and there was too much chatter. I wish they were playing something like classical music or jazz but hearing "applebottom jeans, boots with the fur..." didn't really put me in a creative spirit. o_O I don't think I'll go back.
 
Today, one of the people who work in my building picked up a 2019 calendar when he went to church and gave it to me. I was like "oh, thank you, but I already have one!" He immediately deflated and said "well you can give it to someone else." :look: I caught myself but it was too late to rectify it in that moment...so when I came back down, I said "thank you again for picking up that calendar for me! It was very thoughtful." When I came back home again, I made sure to stop and make conversation. Although my initial response was to refuse the calendar, I caught myself. #receivereceivereceive
 
Receive: My husband offered to clean up a lot this week. Normally I reject the offer because it takes him a while to get to it, but I’ve been letting go and trusting him to get it done.


Relaxation: Still need help in this area. I did take off work on Wednesday because I wasn’t feeling well, the intention was to relax but I ended up running errands all day.


Rejuvenate: I slipped in this area, normally I meditate I missed several days this past week. I’ll get back to it pronto

However for the overall Be Present challenge I did use my cell phone less especially when I was playing with my daughter
 
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Recap
Week 1: Create Femininity Goals. Find an accountability partner/Buy a Planner
Week 2: Be Present
Week 3: Polish Yourself to become Pretty n Poised


Week 3: Polish Yourself to become Pretty N Poised

"You can't always be the prettiest when you step into a room, but you can ALWAYS be the sweetest. With the best smile, the warmest gaze, the most gratitude, and the most pleasant attitude, a woman's poise is her gentle strength.

Let's think about some typical day to day situations:

1. Someone cuts you off in traffic? What could you do?
2. Someone steals the credit at work for something you did? Your actions?
3. Your husband says something unkind and insensitive to you?
4. He leaves his shoes everywhere even after you've asked him numerous times to stop.
5. A beautiful woman walks in the room....are you unnerved? Unbothered?
6. You’re supposed to meet your girlfriend for lunch but she doesn’t show up and doesn’t call you to let you know.


A woman of poise makes a profound impact and commands respect at the highest level....but she does it with grace. Are there areas in which your poise needs to be strengthened? How could you get here? Some tips I would recommend include:

1. Drop the need to be right- Okay we get it. You are right. Then what?

Our ego is tricky it will convince us that somehow we are going to win the other person to our way of thinking by over explaining and going back and forth. (Arguing is masculine) Take a break from the exchange and then let your mind and body exhale, lower the shoulders, unclench the teeth, etc. Skip the part about the person supposed to honor you (he's supposed to do something for my birthday. She knew better than to cut me off in traffic) and go straight to YOU have to protect YOURself (with your feminine boundaries), because that's the reality and how you need to conduct yourself. Set your boundary and let it be.

Have a plan in place to only be mad about 5 minutes on things that deeply trouble you. How? Here are some steps:
1. Drop the need to be right. Go to another physical space.

2. Figure out why I'm angry. Identify the emotion.

3. Decide of it's valid. Am I overreacting? Did I hear all the needed information?

4. If I determine I was right, focus on the feeling.

When do YOU decide to talk focus on how you felt (Think back to feelings messages that was posted in this thread)…that's the emotion you mention when talking to the person at hand again. I felt really neglected when you forgot my birthday yesterday. Pause and let them respond.

5. Until they responds continue being polite but determine what do you need to do? Remove yourself away from this person? Put boundaries up? How will you enforce your boundary?


2. Have compassion- Where growth is needed....compassion is required.

3. Stop rushing- It seems contradictory to our modern world, where everything is a rush, where we try to cram as much into every minute of the day as possible, where if we are not busy, we feel unproductive and lazy. We’ve been conditioned to believe that busier is better, but actually the speed of doing is not as important as what we focus on doing. Try to map out your day so you're not multi-tasking ALL THE TIME. Take time to just be. Think before you talk. Words are something we can dish out but NEVER take back. Other ways we rush? Do not eat in a hurry, no matter how hungry you are. Do not zip up your purse in an anxious and fast way. Be as quiet as possible and unhurried. This also means no slamming of car doors, house doors, fridge door, no matter how you feel. It is all about being in a relaxed control.

4. Have an organizational plan. Without a plan, we plan to fail. Many of the problems that we have within the house is because of a lack of organization. Be honest, is your home lacking organization? Take a few minutes this week to truthfully answer these questions and come up with questions of your own that meet the needs of your home.

Do you have a plan in place to keep the house running like a well oiled machine? (Towels stocked? Fridge stocked? Everyone knows where to place their things? House cleaned? Laundry folded and put away? What could you do to fix this?)
How do you prepare the hotel room during family travel?
What is your drama blocking plan?
How can you create routine, what routines do you need in your life, and what is the purpose of routine?
What is your hospitality plan for when guests come over? Do you run like a chicken with his head cut off or are you truly prepared?​

Week 3 Challenge
1. Name some ways you could work on keeping your poise in trying situations.
2. NO person or incident can take you out of your feminine grace. However, this must be a very deliberate practice. What are some things you need to change about yourself to STAY in your feminine grace?
3. What are some possible solutions/scripts for the examples listed above in purple.

 
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Hi @PrissiSippi ,

I have a nagging question, if a man offers you a piece of gum or candy and its not your flavor profile how do you turn it down politely.

Best,
Almond Eyes
"Thank you honey!" Put it in your purse and discard of it quietly.


Edit: if it was your man though and he gave you a gift you did not want (it wasn’t something for YOU. Not that you just don’t want it because it’s the wrong color or something) you should tell him in a feminine but firm way.
 
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Week 3: Polish Yourself to become Pretty N Poised

"You can't always be the prettiest when you step into a room, but you can ALWAYS be the sweetest. With the best smile, the warmest gaze, the most gratitude, and the most pleasant attitude, a woman's poise is her gentle strength.

Let's think about some typical day to day situations:

1. Someone cuts you off in traffic? What could you do?
2. Someone steals the credit at work for something you did? Your actions?
3. Your husband says something unkind and insensitive to you?
4. He leaves his shoes everywhere even after you've asked him numerous times to stop.
5. A beautiful woman walks in the room....are you unnerved? Unbothered?
6. You’re supposed to meet your girlfriend for lunch but she doesn’t show up and doesn’t call you to let you know.


A woman of poise makes a profound impact and commands respect at the highest level....but she does it with grace. Are there areas in which your poise needs to be strengthened? How could you get here? Some tips I would recommend include:

1. Drop the need to be right- Okay we get it. You are right. Then what?

Our ego is tricky it will convince us that somehow we are going to win the other person to our way of thinking by over explaining and going back and forth. (Arguing is masculine) Take a break from the exchange and then let your mind and body exhale, lower the shoulders, unclench the teeth, etc. Skip the part about the person supposed to honor you (he's supposed to do something for my birthday. She knew better than to cut me off in traffic) and go straight to YOU have to protect YOURself (with your feminine boundaries), because that's the reality and how you need to conduct yourself. Set your boundary and let it be.

Have a plan in place to only be mad about 5 minutes on things that deeply trouble you. How? Here are some steps:
1. Drop the need to be right. Go to another physical space.

2. Figure out why I'm angry. Identify the emotion.

3. Decide of it's valid. Am I overreacting? Did I hear all the needed information?

4. If I determine I was right, focus on the feeling.

When do YOU decide to talk focus on how you felt (Think back to feelings messages that was posted in this thread)…that's the emotion you mention when talking to the person at hand again. I felt really neglected when you forgot my birthday yesterday. Pause and let them respond.

5. Until they responds continue being polite but determine what do you need to do? Remove yourself away from this person? Put boundaries up? How will you enforce your boundary?


2. Have compassion- Where growth is needed....compassion is required.

3. Stop rushing- It seems contradictory to our modern world, where everything is a rush, where we try to cram as much into every minute of the day as possible, where if we are not busy, we feel unproductive and lazy. We’ve been conditioned to believe that busier is better, but actually the speed of doing is not as important as what we focus on doing. Try to map out your day so you're not multi-tasking ALL THE TIME. Take time to just be. Think before you talk. Words are something we can dish out but NEVER take back. Other ways we rush? Do not eat in a hurry, no matter how hungry you are. Do not zip up your purse in an anxious and fast way. Be as quiet as possible and unhurried. This also means no slamming of car doors, house doors, fridge door, no matter how you feel. It is all about being in a relaxed control.

4. Have an organizational plan. Without a plan, we plan to fail. Many of the problems that we have within the house is because of a lack of organization. Be honest, is your home lacking organization? Take a few minutes this week to truthfully answer these questions and come up with questions of your own that meet the needs of your home.

Do you have a plan in place to keep the house running like a well oiled machine? (Towels stocked? Fridge stocked? Everyone knows where to place their things? House cleaned? Laundry folded and put away? What could you do to fix this?)
How do you prepare the hotel room during family travel?
What is your drama blocking plan?
How can you create routine, what routines do you need in your life, and what is the purpose of routine?
What is your hospitality plan for when guests come over? Do you run like a chicken with his head cut off or are you truly prepared?​

Week 3 Challenge
1. Name some ways you could work on keeping your poise in trying situations.
2. NO person or incident can take you out of your feminine grace. However, this must be a very deliberate practice. What are some things you need to change about yourself to STAY in your feminine grace?
3. What are some possible solutions/scripts for the examples listed above in purple.


Ooh this is going to be a challenge for me. Two of my shadow traits are pettiness and passive aggressiveness. I feel like I'm on high alert for ways that people are out to personally offend me. I've let a LOT of this go...but it's still there in subtle ways. The good news is that I can usually CATCH when I'm being silly. On my to read list is the 4 Agreements. One of the agreements is that it's NOT about me! People are not out to hurt me or get me personally. I need to let things go more easily and not always respond to everything.

My answers:

1. Someone cuts you off in traffic? What could you do?
Just bless them. Maybe they have a medical emergency to attend to and are trying to get to the hospital ASAP

2. Someone steals the credit at work for something you did? Your actions?
This one would be hard for me to let slide...because this seems more like flouting a boundary of self-respect. I would find a way to tactfully let it be known that I was responsible for the idea but WITHOUT throwing the other person under the bus.

3. Your husband says something unkind and insensitive to you?
Be honest and express my feeling without saying that HE hurt ME. But I would say something like "ouch! That comment stung a bit..."

4. He leaves his shoes everywhere even after you've asked him numerous times to stop.
I would either:
-let it go
-STOP picking up behind him (and maybe allow his butt to trip over his own shoes :look:)
-Use Allison Armstrong's technique about asking when it would be a good time to talk, scheduling a time, and telling him how it makes me feel to have shoes scattered about the house and that it makes me feel afraid that one of us will trip and fall. I would ask what we could do to help him remember to put his shoes away.

5. A beautiful woman walks in the room....are you unnerved? Unbothered?
Unbothered! I love seeing beautiful feminine women! I also am not afraid to compliment another diva. Pay the energy forward :yep:

6. You’re supposed to meet your girlfriend for lunch but she doesn’t show up and doesn’t call you to let you know.
Inside I would be pissed but I would try to be the bigger person and ask "Hey sweetie! Is everything ok? I thought we were on for lunch?"
 
Week 3: Polish Yourself to become Pretty N Poised

"You can't always be the prettiest when you step into a room, but you can ALWAYS be the sweetest. With the best smile, the warmest gaze, the most gratitude, and the most pleasant attitude, a woman's poise is her gentle strength.

1. Someone cuts you off in traffic? What could you do?
Calmly hope they make it to wherever they're rushing off to. I know that I don't want confrontation so I don't get worked up or let road rage take over.
2. Someone steals the credit at work for something you did? Your actions?

This has happened before. I asked where the content came from and the person admitted I’d shared it in the past. Took a few follow up questions. This may not work in a difference industry.
3. Your husband says something unkind and insensitive to you?

4. He leaves his shoes everywhere even after you've asked him numerous times to stop.
5. A beautiful woman walks in the room....are you unnerved? Unbothered?

Curious. When I see beautiful women I want to know their stories.
6. You’re supposed to meet your girlfriend for lunch but she doesn’t show up and doesn’t call you to let you know.
After making sure she didn't have some sort of emergency I'd let her know that I was hurt by her disregard to my time and that although I value our relationship I won't block off more of my time for her

Do you have a plan in place to keep the house running like a well oiled machine? (Towels stocked? Fridge stocked? Everyone knows where to place their things? House cleaned? Laundry folded and put away? What could you do to fix this?)
How do you prepare the hotel room during family travel?
What is your drama blocking plan?
How can you create routine, what routines do you need in your life, and what is the purpose of routine?
What is your hospitality plan for when guests come over? Do you run like a chicken with his head cut off or are you truly prepared?​

Week 3 Challenge
1. Name some ways you could work on keeping your poise in trying situations.
2. NO person or incident can take you out of your feminine grace. However, this must be a very deliberate practice. What are some things you need to change about yourself to STAY in your feminine grace?
3. What are some possible solutions/scripts for the examples listed above in purple.

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I tried the tidbit about not nagging and complaining "Why didn't you do xyz?"

Instead, I said, 1st "Hey boo can you take the Christmas tree down? He said he would but didn't do it. I waited two days and said, 2nd "Boo I forgot to ask you could you take down the tree the other day. Could you help me please?" He agreed but fell asleep lol. I waited until the next day and said, 3rd "I can't believe how long it's taking me to take the tree down. I need to do better." He got up and took the tree down. I can see how that could be annoying, but I'm guessing that's a tool to be used in the toolbox when you need something done. Instead of criticizing and saying, "You don't ever do what I ask you to do!" Just simply ask again like you never asked the first time.
 
Week 3 Challenge
1. Name some ways you could work on keeping your poise in trying situations.
I need to remember to stay present. When I get mad I talk fast, I start to curse, and I start to jab. I need to learn how to slow down and sink deep in my body and think about how I feel.

2. NO person or incident can take you out of your feminine grace. However, this must be a very deliberate practice. What are some things you need to change about yourself to STAY in your feminine grace?

I need to learn how to protect myself. My boundaries are getting better, but they're weak. If i would protect myself better, I wouldn't have these problems.

3. Scripts:
1. Someone cuts you off in traffic? What could you do? Slow down and remember I'm in no rush to get to where I'm going and the only person I can control is myself. These days this is a lot easier for me because I'm in NO RUSH. I learned to not hurry when I became a stay at home mother. I LOVE IT.
2. Someone steals the credit at work for something you did? Your actions? This one is hard. I don't know how to handle this with grace.
3. Your husband says something unkind and insensitive to you? I'm working on this. Right now I use the sandwich technique and feeling messages. Honey I really feel so appreciated and cherished when we spend time together. I cant wait to spend even more time with you. BUT you really made me feel very hurt when you said xyz. It would feel better if you xyz. What do you think?
4. He leaves his shoes everywhere even after you've asked him numerous times to stop. (Either accept him for what he is or leave his shoes where they be. If I'm feeling very OCD I could clean up after him without nagging.)
5. A beautiful woman walks in the room....are you unnerved? Unbothered? Beautiful women are an inspiration to me. I love giving compliments.
6. You’re supposed to meet your girlfriend for lunch but she doesn’t show up and doesn’t call you to let you know. Call and ask her is she okay, because if she's a girlfriend I'm this close to she might need help. If she doesn't answer, the next time I would tell her I prefer not to have my time wasted and it made me feel very unappreciated from her standing me up. On the flip side, I'm trying to NOT HURRY but also be very aware of time as well so I don't stand people up lol
 
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I tried the tidbit about not nagging and complaining "Why didn't you do xyz?"

Instead, I said, 1st "Hey boo can you take the Christmas tree down? He said he would but didn't do it. I waited two days and said, 2nd "Boo I forgot to ask you could you take down the tree the other day. Could you help me please?" He agreed but fell asleep lol. I waited until the next day and said, 3rd "I can't believe how long it's taking me to take the tree down. I need to do better." He got up and took the tree down. I can see how that could be annoying, but I'm guessing that's a tool to be used in the toolbox when you need something done. Instead of criticizing and saying, "You don't ever do what I ask you to do!" Just simply ask again like you never asked the first time.
I did this as well. I said something like honey could you take down the tree? He said he would but got called for work. When he got back from work he said he would do it for me but I remembered he texted me and told me he was exhausted from work. I told him oh honey I don’t want to pressure you. The next day I asked him again like I has never asked before and he did it immediately.
 
Week 3 Affirmations
Topic: Poise
:gorgeous:I carry myself with poise, grace, and dignity.
:gorgeous:I am like a tall tree with thick and strong roots, connecting deep into mother earth.
:gorgeous:I can fearlessly, continuously, and without guilt protect myself with my boundaries and gracefully look to steer my life towards what's best for ME.
:gorgeous:I am feminine, poised, and fearless.
:gorgeous:I am the prize.
 
1. Someone cuts you off in traffic? What could you do?
Calmly ask if the person if serious but don’t rush or flip them off or even bother with negative behavior. It’s just not worth it. Patience leaves you with a lower pressure and better peace of mind.

2. Someone steals the credit at work for something you did? Your actions?
I’ve had these incidences happen. For some people, since it’s advice, I don’t say much and I’m usually thanked. For others, if full credit is taken, I start to play my cards closer to my chest. I’m very confrontational, but only use it when necessary and I know I not always graceful. So in the case of stealing credit, I would wait until another opportunity presents itself to show myself, or if what was stolen from me comes up again, I will find a way to expand on the subject and somehow throw in there “when I first suggested to...” it’s better to not get completely angry, just solve the problem.

3. Your husband says something unkind and insensitive to you?
Walk away and then speak about the matter. I don’t rush myself to speak on it. I’ll come back to a subject two weeks if I have too. But that may be more petty than graceful.

4. He leaves his shoes everywhere even after you've asked him numerous times to stop.
Find a way to make it easier to contain a mess like that. I normally leave shoes at the door, but that was a good solution for long time ago. Better than arguing about it.

5. A beautiful woman walks in the room....are you unnerved? Unbothered?
Normally, I’m more focused on energies and posture/demeanor, so I look at that and determine true beauty from that. Depending on the vibes, I’m either willing to pick up some tips or uninterested.

6. You’re supposed to meet your girlfriend for lunch but she doesn’t show up and doesn’t call you to let you know.
I would call or text her to find out what’s going on. If it becomes a repeated habit, I wouldn’t continue to use my energy on an exhausting person.
 
Have been thinking through these scenarios, I know I definitely have to work a lot on my physical response. My face and body language can impact a lot.

1. Someone cuts you off in traffic? What could you do?
Sit back in my seat, take a deep breath, pray that they get where they need to go safely

2. Someone steals the credit at work for something you did? Your actions?
Instead of going on the defense (which is my inclination), deflect the credit my way e.g. X and I really enjoyed working together on this project, my favorite part/the part that required me to learn the most was XYZ.

3. Your husband/SO says something unkind and insensitive to you?
Resist the need to go tit for tat, if that means retreating and gathering myself then do that. Once I feel calm, use the feeling words to communicate how what he said made me feel. Pause and allow him time to respond - don't ramble.

4. He leaves his shoes everywhere even after you've asked him numerous times to stop.
Decide if it's worth continuing talking about it - either leave them there or pick them up, but decide what will make me feel most at peace with the situation. I don't like nagging or constantly asking for the same thing.

5. A beautiful woman walks in the room....are you unnerved? Unbothered?
Unbothered, I don't pay much attention to other women. But my goal is to start being more proactive and complimenting women regularly.

6. You’re supposed to meet your girlfriend for lunch but she doesn’t show up and doesn’t call you to let you know.
Call her to make sure everything is okay and there wasn't some kind of emergency. If there wasn't and she just forgot, ask if she still wants to come, if she does cool, if not enjoy my lunch and people watch. Stuff happens, and if she doesn't usually flake there's really nothing else to be done.
 
This is my friend’s submission for being present this week. She made Jamaican rice and beans with an egg salad on the side. She said she wanted to learn how to make Jamaican food. Since she took her time, she felt her food came out perfect.
 

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1. Someone cuts you off in traffic? What could you do?
I usually just call the person some G-rated name while in the confines in my car (I don't swear and the kids are usually with me, anyway). Then I silently hope that the universe catches up with them so that they no longer become a hazard to anyone else. I'll try to keep my mouth shut and shake my head instead.

2. Someone steals the credit at work for something you did? Your actions?


3. Your husband says something unkind and insensitive to you?
I'm usually the culpret here, just because that that's how I play, but I understand that it can be grating so I will try to minimize that. If/when he does it and it's a joke I laugh, but if it's not joking and it's not something that I can resolve immediately I'll hold on to it and bring it up if the indiscretion happens, again. BUT, my conflict style is avoidance so I get icy and say nothing for a really, REALLY long time right after. That needs to be fixed, too.

4. He leaves his shoes everywhere even after you've asked him numerous times to stop.

He doesn't do this, but if there are too many shoes at the door I just usually fix them myself.

5. A beautiful woman walks in the room....are you unnerved? Unbothered?
Unnerved, unbothered, and in admiration, especially if she's pleasant. Then I start taking notes on what I can do to step up my game.

6. You’re supposed to meet your girlfriend for lunch but she doesn’t show up and doesn’t call you to let you know.
I'd call to find out if she's OK. If she is, it wouldn't happen a second time.
 
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