52 Weeks Towards Divine Femininity

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Recap

January- Let's Get It Started
Week 1: Create Femininity Goals. Find an accountability partner
Week 2: Print or Buy a planner. Make sure you write down and plan to do things that encompass your femininity. How many times will you cook for your family so they can practice dinner etiquette? How many minutes will you hold each child a day (10-15 minutes?) How will you polish your femininity EACH day, how will you spend one on one time with your spouse each day? Have you made time to go out with a female this week to talk girl talk? Make a plan, be intentional, and write it down.
Week 3: Be more present- Be aware of your surroundings. Don't be a phone zombie. Practice makes permanent. Constantly work on cultivating your femininity by being very present with DH, SO, your children, and friends. Choose human interactions vs social media interactions this week.
Week 4: Accept him- Accept him for who he is. This includes his strengths, his weaknesses, his goals, or lack of him. He is a person full of triumphs as well as flaws just like you. (This goal is continuous).

February- Tools Every Woman should Have in her Toolbox
Week 5: Polish Your Poise- No one can take you out of your feminine grace except you. Work on not being reactive to problems and asserting your needs but in a gentle way with your actions. Work on your look, attitude, gratitude, gaze, and overall spirit.
Week 6: Self Preservation is Key- Learn to protect your peace. Put YOU first. Have a drama blocking plan to protect yourself.
Week 7: What's in a Voice- Work on your feminine voice. Smile. Have a sing-song sweet voice at all times...especially times of struggle.
Week 8: Look Good and Rock Your Wardrobe- Aim to look feminine, put together, and GOOD every day.
Week 9: Turn Rituals Into Routine

March- Home Living
Week 10: Beautify Your Environment: Buy Fresh Flowers
Week 11: Focus on Your Home Aromas
Week 12: How Clean Is Your Home
Week 13: Set the Tone in Your Home: Make Your House a Haven

April- Feminine Refinement
Week 14: Clean Up Your Social Media Accounts
Week 15: Be more mysterious: Work on your Feminine Mystique
Week 16: Take the Help/Compliments
Week 17: Got Milk? Milk Baths

May- Strategically Selfish
Week 18: You Are the Prize
Week 19: Don’t Let them Move Your Goal Post
Week 20: Put On Your Oxygen Mask First
Week 21: Drop the need to be Right: Focus Instead
Week 22: Who are Your Male Vouchers?!

June- Feminine Refinement
Week 23: Leisure Time/ Become Well Read
Week 24: Be like Children; Not Childish but Childlike
Week 25: Let's Get Some Sunshine
Week 26: Communication 101: Stay in Control

July-
Week 27: Everything can be used against you.
Week 28: Compassionate
Week 29: Know Yourself What's your Feminine Archetype?'
Week 30: Use your Feminine Archetype to become a Force - Hone In On It
Week 31: Wine A Bit; You'll Feel a Little Bit Better

August - Etiquette
Week 32: Staircase Etiquette
Week 33: Pose for Life - Crossed Legs Pose
Week 34: Keep it Classy (Exiting car doors)
Week 35: Sitting pretty

September- The Opposite of Networking is “Not Working”
Week 36: Who Do You Admire: Interview Them
Week 37: Join a Group of Like-Minded
Week 38: Make it Intentional - Date Night
Week 39: How to be a Feminine Networking Star... Wherever You Are

October-Feminine Hobbies
Week 40: Affirmations: Affirming our Femininity
Week 41: Yoni Eggs
Week 42: Waist Beads
Week 43: Incorporating Beauty routines, perfume and Makeup
Week 44: Being Festive: Let's Enjoy the Holidays

November-
Week 45: Become a Master of your Emotions: Avoid Reactive
Week 46: Trust and Surrender
Week 47: Scripts - How to say things in a Feminine but "Strong" Way.
Week 48: Keeping a Musical Home



Week 48: Keeping a Musical Home
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Divinely Feminine Ladies, you set the tone in your homes. One way you can set the tone in your home is by incorporating music in your every day life. Music has the ability to transform spaces. A person's mood will subconsciously change to reflect a song's peace, warmth, and depth. Music can help to become a subconscious daily meditation which in turn increases your mind and the overall aura of the home. The tones and frequencies in music build intelligence and increase the mood of the house. With Thanksgiving over and Christmas quickly approaching, this is a great time to play Christmas music and make memories with your family. Turn on Pandora, bake Christmas cookies, have karaoke, sing and dance to your favorite songs, play with your children/significant other, just BE. Many black woman , "Don't Play" and that makes them boring. As a feminine woman, learn to embrace some childlike tendencies and use musical to play. How will you make memories for years to come? What music will you play? Jazz, Classical, RnB, Blues, more?

Week 48 Challenge

1. How will you keep a musical home?
2. What activities could you pair with music this week?
3. Take our Challenge Survey to improve next year: https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/QL9ZPNS​
 
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Week 48 Challenge

1. How will you keep a musical home?
2. What activities could you pair with music this week?
3. Take our Challenge Survey to improve next year: https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/QL9ZPNS
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1. I love music! We will listen to Christmas music and other R&B/ smooth grooves music. I have a really nice Spotify playlist.
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*ive been skipping the RKelly, I’ll have to remember to remove those songs
2. I do everything to music. I may put a tree up.
 
1. How will you keep a musical home?
Going to make a Christmas playlist and rotate between that and my relaxing playlist to set my mood. I am a big music person so I have a lot of playlists to get me into a certain head space

2. What activities could you pair with music this week?

Cooking in the evenings
 
My mother and I always got all my friend guys Christmas presents growing up. I always got them gifts on sale but very very nice presents. I NEVER got gifts in return. I think it conditioned me not to expect gifts from me, but on the inside I really would like a thoughtful gift.

My father never bought her a Christmas present. He said Christmas presents were for children.

I think men will play these little games if they are allowed. I'm going to make sure I don't take this on to my female children and instead kinda teach them to "Lean Back" or "Stop Paddling the Boat" when it comes to the holiday season. From now on I'ma let the man lead. If he doesn't buy me a gift, he gets no gift. And instead of begging XYZ to accompany me to holiday parties, if he doesn't invite me...I will get used to going alone. I know it might take awhile to get used to, but black women being the sacrificial lamb just for the sake of being sweet is over with for me. Issa NO.
 
PrissiSippi said:
My mother and I always got all my friend guys Christmas presents growing up. I always got them gifts on sale but very very nice presents. I NEVER got gifts in return. I think it conditioned me not to expect gifts from me, but on the inside I really would like a thoughtful gift.

My father never bought her a Christmas present. He said Christmas presents were for children.

I think men will play these little games if they are allowed. I'm going to make sure I don't take this on to my female children and instead kinda teach them to "Lean Back" or "Stop Paddling the Boat" when it comes to the holiday season. From now on I'ma let the man lead. If he doesn't buy me a gift, he gets no gift. And instead of begging XYZ to accompany me to holiday parties, if he doesn't invite me...I will get used to going alone. I know it might take awhile to get used to, but black women being the sacrificial lamb just for the sake of being sweet is over with for me. Issa NO.
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I don’t know your parents, and no disrespect, this makes me angry.
I require that dh get me really nice gifts. Last year I peeked into a bag he had on his cars back seat- wrong I know-
Well in the bag was a gray cotton north face jacket, my size.
Later, I asked who the small bag was for in his car. He told me my gift was in it. I told him it couldn’t be for me, the bag was either too big or too small.
He came correct. Would’ve been some furniture moving if he’d have given me a cotton jacket for a gift.
 
MamaBear2012 said:
I know this is no consolation, but I think you're amazing. The other week I was thinking, "Ugh, I wish I could just go and hang out with Maracuja for like a week." For real! I love your spirit and your attitude, your food looks awesome, you are gorgeous, your hair is ridiculously lush, and you just radiate warmth (even through the Internet). I'm praying that God will give you people in your life who show you just how special you are.
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Amen and we are in agreement concerning @Maracujá , who is not just a prize but a Queen!
 
I was really in my masculine this week. I'm kinda upset over letting one of my rotational daters (RD) go. I got really really negative and started acting in fear. What if I never find someone? I had to realize I need to trust and surrender. Get deep within your body. Let your feminine self FEEL. Take your time, slow down, and SMILE. You’re going to be okay NO MATTER WHAT! Accept where you are at. Surrender to it. Trust what will be will be. Steps to do this and stay in your feminine include:
1. Slow down and be present (Put the phone down. Drink that cup of coffee or tea SLOWLY, don't rush to work, take your time and put on makeup).
2. Get out of your head. Be very in touch with your feelings and express them to others. Example: It feels so amazing to hear from you today :) It felt so relaxing to soak in the tub with my bath bombs and cuddle up with a book later :)
3. Surrender More and Stop Controlling and Pushing for Outcomes in life and with the men in your life. (Protect yourself with your boundaries but be very soft on the outside)​

Loves, our feminine affirmations for today are:
  1. I am at peace in my own feminine body.

  2. Healthy masculine men would do ANYTHING to protect my softness. They’d do anything to keep me safe and remove any burdens from my shoulders.

  3. Men want to make me happy; men want to give me the world.

  4. I love receiving the love being offered.

  5. I am the passion that fires his soul. I am the peace that covers his heart.
What have you done to get in touch with your feminine side today?
 
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PrissiSippi said:
I was really in my masculine this week. I'm kinda upset over letting one of my rotational daters (RD) go. I got really really negative and started acting in fear. What if I never find someone? I had to realize I need to trust and surrender. Get deep within your body. Let your feminine self FEEL. Take your time, slow down, and SMILE. You’re going to be okay NO MATTER WHAT! Accept where you are at. Surrender to it. Trust what will be will be. Steps to do this and stay in your feminine include:
1. Slow down and be present (Put the phone down. Drink that cup of coffee or tea SLOWLY, don't rush to work, take your time and put on makeup).
2. Get out of your head. Be very in touch with your feelings and express them to others. Example: It feels so amazing to hear from you today :) It felt so relaxing to soak in the tub with my bath bombs and cuddle up with a book later :)
3. Surrender More and Stop Controlling and Pushing for Outcomes in life and with the men in your life. (Protect yourself with your boundaries but be very soft on the outside)​

Loves, our feminine affirmations for today are:
  1. I am at peace in my own feminine body.

  2. Healthy masculine men would do ANYTHING to protect my softness. They’d do anything to keep me safe and remove any burdens from my shoulders.

  3. Men want to make me happy; men want to give me the world.

  4. I love receiving the love being offered.

  5. I am the passion that fires his soul. I am the peace that covers his heart.
What have you done to get in touch with your feminine side today?
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I woke up late, but I didn't rush. I took my time and made my coffee, put on jewelry, packed my lunch like I normally would. Hugged and kissed DS, spoke to him lovingly - and he's a toddler turning 2 in a few weeks so they get in a mood very quickly! But I still was patient with him in tone and let him try to put on his own pants. Put on feel good music during my commute to not allow myself to get frustrated. When I was in the car I felt my face getting angry LOL! So I consciously changed to a smize and didn't allow that feeling to settle.
 
PrissiSippi said:
What have you done to get in touch with your feminine side today?
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Thank you for asking :grin:

So, Thursdays are my day off and Throwback Thursdays are my favs on FB. So I started the day with prayer, but this time, no sappy prayers. Just started laughing about some of the things I witness at work really. Then I posted a small story from work on FB, for which I got no likes at all, but it didn't bother me one bit. I've noticed that people are all about that "deep" and political + family news. So yeah...

Then I went for a 3h walk and made this video when I got back (also posted it on FB):



Been trying to activate Apple Pay on my iPhone for the longest but it's simply not working. Decided not to stress myself out and keep it moving. We have a vigil tomorrow night, but I won't be attending. I'll be hosting my cousin from Liège. So I'm trying to get my home ready for alladat :lol:.

Ended up just being really. A lady pastor spoke about this at the last retreat I went to, earlier this month. She said that women often know their function (what they're supposed to DO) but not their value (how they're supposed to BE). That really spoke to me. So I ended up doing nothing really, during my 3h walk I really spoke to God about how men have hurt me in the past. And then it just hit me, that I just need to believe and hope for the best. Case in point: there's a lady at my work, who happens to be obese and also not very hygienic. So the other day my male co-workers, who's rather attractive, asked her if she would also be having a baby soon, since there's a baby boom going on in our department. She didn't even hesitate: "Yes. If and when I find the right one for me, I'll think about having children." Just like that: no hesitations, no stuttering. Front and center --> BAM!

So for the remainder of the evening, I just cooked dinner:

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And now I'm out here listening to music. Will probably call my sister in a while and then head to bed. Tomorrow morning...I'll get the home ready for my cuzzo. And I intend for us to just stay home, since the weather is a mess anyway and just chat&laugh away. Like the good old days.
 
I woke up this morning and got coffee from my favorite place, Cups. I got a Blondie Latte which uses white chocolate chips, caramel, whipped cream, and lots of sugar haha. I wanted all of the calories this morning. I took my time and noted my feelings. It felt so very warm, and the quality of the coffee lingered in my mouth even after I had finished sipping.

One of my rotational dates texted me good morning. I responded dripping with all that honey and goodness. Why good morning Handsome. It feels so good to hear from you this morning :) He was eating all of it up. He immediately called and told me he can't wait to see me this afternoon. He had planned for us to go to a nice restaurant and catch a movie afterwards so I can't WAIT. :)

I really want some flowers. How could I inspire him to bring me some on our date? Should I just let it go and hope for the best? Buy some myself? I think I might try my luck and say something like, "I just love surprises. I can't wait to see what surprise you have in store for me."
 
My assistant always gives me good insight. He said he took this woman on a date when he was young. He paid for everything, but she drove because she asked to. He told her sure she could drive. They had a great date, he paid for the movie tickets and food, and all was well. When he said a few days later, he asked did she enjoy herself when he took her out...she went on a rant about how HE didn't take her on a date, SHE took HIM out on a date because SHE drove.

(total masculine energy)

The next time, she made a point to drive again. He paid for his food and said so are you going to pay for your food? You did drive so you're taking ME out right? She was so embarrassed. She assumed it was a date. He stood there for about 5 minutes and he said of course I'm going to pay for you but you offended me when you took my opportunity to date you away the first time.

Ladies, being able to be receiving and loving is a feminine trait. Let's learn how to hone in on this skill and allow ourselves to be properly loved, adored, and cared for.
 
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I really want some flowers. How could I inspire him to bring me some on our date? Should I just let it go and hope for the best? Buy some myself? I think I might try my luck and say something like, "I just love surprises. I can't wait to see what surprise you have in store for me."
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I'd say let it go. It's ok to want flowers but wanting them from him sounds like expectation energy and men can pick up on that. If you really want flowers, then buy them for yourself :look: :yep: In terms of LOA, what you focus on expands and grows so you buying yourself flowers and feeling the joy of having flowers in your environment will bring more flowers to you :yep: Keep showing up high value and perhaps if he either sees you have flowers in your home or hears you make a comment about flowers or even sees you smell flowers when you are out, he'll get the message?
 
Good morning ladies! I'm out here having breakfast, looking back at 2018 and thinking about 2019:

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In 2019 I would like to cut out junk food once and for all. One of my besties has really inspired me: she's been a vegetarian for over 20 years and has entered motherhood in the past 2 years. Her children are super healthy, barely ever get sick! They also have the softest skin and she herself barely ever gets sick. By the way, that's not sugar on the fruit bowl :lol:, they are some granules I received from a lady from Burkina Faso that I was tutoring. She said they eat it with yoghurt in her country. Have a nice week end y'all ;).
 
Feminine Ladies,

You are the prize.
You house smells like the prize.
You eat like you are the prize.
You smell like you are the prize.
Men open your doors because you are the prize.
Men love to cater, provide, and protect you because you are the prize.
You hold your head high because you care the prize.
You wear jewels in your crown because you are the prize.

Since you ARE the prize.....what will you do to reinforce this belief today?
 
PrissiSippi said:
Feminine Ladies,

You are the prize.
You house smells like the prize.
You eat like you are the prize.
You smell like you are the prize.
Men open your doors because you are the prize.
Men love to cater, provide, and protect you because you are the prize.
You hold your head high because you care the prize.
You wear jewels in your crown because you are the prize.

Since you ARE the prize.....what will you do to reinforce this belief today?
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Right now I "accept" it, when men do this. I just kindly smile, tell them thank you and keep it moving.

Today I will listen to 3 sermons on YouTube about women being the prize and God bringing your ordained spouse to you. I will also be taking notes of course:yep:.
 
I love this thread. I have not been participating however I pay close attention.

I have a close friend who has been single for 7 years now. She dresses well, cooks, has a lovely apartment, goes to church every Sunday, volunteers, her hair is always done. Very kind woman. She plates food. She goes out and gone to many conferences with Joyce Meyers. She has a good paying job and has her own place.

She asked me to stay over the weekend with her and we had the conversation about why is she single, why hasn't she met someone yet. She asked me why do you think I am single. We had a long conversation and I was stumped to be honest I hadn't spent so much time with her to observe her. All I could say is that if you have been praying, and doing all the things you are doing for seven years, then you have to do some inner self-reflection.

However, spending the weekend with her, I could understand why she was single. She was so manic about her apartment. Everytime I touched something she would get nervous, she was a perfectionist. She was also a clean freak. She would get up and clean everytime I drank from something. She would ask me if I used hand sanitizer. Then on Sunday, I wasn't feeling well for church and she was super upset and said that's why she had broken up with one of her boyfriend's he refused to go to church when she expected him to go. She told me that she didn't want her carpet messed up so there was a place I had to put my shoes which I respected when I forgot she would get very upset. She also at times was sarcastic in simple questions. She also had some latent anger issues too in talking about men. She had some 'masculine' vibes going on even though she was doing all of these feminine things and she couldn't see it.

And I felt so sad for her. She would never accept anyone to tell her the truth unless it was an older woman not a peer. It's easy for people who see you day to day to give a superficial answer, however I realized that unless someone has the guts to listen to constructive criticism she can do all of those wonderful feminine things, it won't help.

Best,
Almond Eyes
 
^^^^And as it was mentioned in another constructive thread: someone will love her just the way she is. It all depends on what a man likes. Pastor Tunasi, who is Congolese, said that he doesn't care much for food. But..."My home must be maintained like a hotel" he said. My sister sounds a lot like this friend of yours and she's been with her now DH for 15 years. It's all about being who you are and finding someone that flows in your frequency. Because otherwise, no one would have an SO. JMHO.
 
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