Week 45: Men CRAVE the Experience. CREATE IT!
Let’s think about taking a bath/shower
Men will often jump in the shower and go out in 15 minutes tops.
(Result-oriented)
However women will set out the essential oils, dim the lights, put on luxurious lotion afterwards, and wait til it soaks into their soft skin.
(Experience)
Men will often buy presents for the kids but not wrap them.
(Result-oriented)
However women will wrap the presents, put out a tray of cookies and milk for "Santa", take the family to see the lights and MORE.
(Experience)
Remember masculinity is RESULT oriented but femininity lies with the EXPERIENCE.
Men CRAVE their polar opposite.
How do you create this experience?
Men CRAVE personalization.
Example 1: I would complain to my ex husband that I cooked his food and ran his bath water. Why didn’t he appreciate it? Why didn’t he appreciate ME? He explained to me that I did this with everyone. I cooked for everyone. I had never done it but I would more than likely run everyone bath water if they stayed at the house. It was the type of person I am. I didn’t do ANYTHING special to him.
Example 2: One of the guys I dated said he loved talking to this little stud chick. She was so mean to everyone but with him she was just as soft. He felt like he worked to get her like that. He looooved she was only a girl and soft with HIM. She was a old tough chick with EVERYONE except HIM.
Example 3: This one girl I know she lied and told her now husband she doesn’t drive long distances. Now the big she had before she used to drive him around and go pick him up and just ride. Well now her husband thinks she’s just so scared of driving and she can only go xyz if he takes her. He’s always talking
About how she feels so safe with him.
Example 4: my ex husband took us to see Paw Patrol. At the end they asked who wanted to get on stage. That was my chance. That was the time to be appreciative for the tickets and the thoughtfulness. That was the time to just be SILLY and dance on stage with him and the baby and just BE. Just be a girl. Connect with him. Look him in his eyes. Pick up the baby and dance. Just have a GOOD TIME. That’s something that other men can’t give him. Only a woman. Have the confidence to not worry about what others think and just have FUN.
Make them think they’re special. Create an emotional connection. Also, putting the focus back on YOU, do things that help YOU get into the holiday spirit this season.
Set out outfits for Thanskgiving and Christmas.
Set up a plan to decorate for Christmas or make Thanksgiving special.
Let him teach you how to do something you don’t know (or you pretend you don’t know how to do it)
Act like you only eat something he he makes or. (Even if you do eat it privately). Let’s say he grills really well. Make it known you ONLY eat ribs if he cooks it. If it’s not HIS ribs, act like you couldn’t even touch them.
Act like you really like him. Scoot your chair closer to him or pout and look cute and ask him to move towards you. Smile up at him like a kid I’m a candy store. Look at him seductively like you would devour him. Set him up to chase.
Publicly Brag about how you’re not worried because he handles any kind of stuff like xyz for you.
Married/Relationships: Cuddle up next to him in the middle of the night
Married/Relationships: Rub lotion on him and make it seem like you ONLY do this for him.
Hold hands and have a silent hand squeezing contest. Be playful.
Have FUN. It’s hard to create an experience at a restaurant. You just eat, talk, and leave. Thats easy to be forgotten. Do some stuff that you’ve never done before. Dance in the rain. Jump in the pool at the pool party. Do something new together. Do SOMETHING he has never EXPERIENCED to keep you always in the back of his mind.
How do you personalize the experience for yourself daily? Remember to stay in the present moment!