Scripts
The following scripts exist as guidelines for you to go in the right direction, to show you that there's always a high-value solution / response to staying in feminine, even when a man is pushing you into masculine.
They are there to train you on developing your own voice.
They are there to remind you that if you're CONNECTED with your feminine core and authenticity in a given moment, you will know what to say in a way that is truthful to you, non-blaming (focus on what you DO like not what you don’t like), and brings the man in front of you, closer to you and inspired to please you more than ever.
When they give you a gift you don’t want: They shouldn’t do this in the beginning. You are the prize. They should impress you. You should sad: "Oh I’m really used to better quality flowers." "Oh I’m really used to more thoughtful gifts and give the gift back." Raise your value.
You don’t have to take just anything that a man gives you. You are the prize. AND this is why it's important to never talk bad about your exes. You have to give the persona that you were always treated well.
When they keep wanting to talk to you or chill but not date you: “Hi (name.) I have to admit I’m feeling confused if there is anything between us. I want a man who will step up to the plate and show me that he’s interested. If you want to actually meet, let me know. All the best.”
I’m feeling a little uncomfortable with this because I really don’t want to waste time texting people who aren’t interested in meeting/dating in the real world.
*then ignore all messages until you get a date*
When he hits you with I know you don’t like me anymore: Oh it’s not that I don’t like you. I’m just trying to emotionally disconnect from someone that doesn’t want the same thing I do.
When they want to “Hang Out” instead of dating: Oh you mean take me out on a date? If they say no I'm really not in the mood for going out. "I'd prefer we go somewhere or do something. What do you think?" "I understand honey. Feel free to hit me up when you're able to go out. Hopefully I'll see you soon."
Your time is to NOT be wasted.
They say something inappropriate: What did you say? Does this usually work for you? I find that comment offensive. It’s inappropriate. I’m not interested in men that talk to me in a vulgar manner.
You’re acting funny huh: No I am at work. I’m working. or No I’m just living life. I’m living. or No I’m busy.
It’s not clear what you want: Oh I think I make it very clear. I want (insert what you want) consistent dates, surprises, affection, and a man that protects and provides for me.
When they try to attack you:
- You’re still _________ (example)childish: If I am _______ (childish)You: why are you contacting me.
- Him: You’re so abusive. You: Why did you marry me?
- Him: You’ll never get a man? You: Well how did I get you? I got you didn’t I?
- Him: You’ll never get a man if you don’t have sex before marriage. You: Oh really? *End conversation*
- Him: You’re boring. You need to go to clubs? "I didn’t go to clubs when you met me. So, something must be working for me. Clearly, it’s something you like."
- Him: You do too much. you don’t need weave and makeup: "You met me with weave in my head. You met me with makeup on. Clearly it’s something you like."
- Him: You’re a boo boo mother Him: "Why did you entrust me with having your children then? My children are the only one that can determine that love. They don’t have problem so neither do you."
- Him: You’re a boo boo wife Him: "Clearly I did something right. You married me didn't you?"
No girlfriend scripts: (If this is your thing to continue rotational dating until you get a ring)
"I need more time to get to know you. I am not looking to be in dozens more relationships in my life, that is why I really want to take my time and get to know somebody well before I decide to be in a relationship with them."
“I’m still getting to know you. I’m not ready.”
"I have been enjoying getting to know you but I would like to take it slow and not rush into anything just yet
"
“I really like you but I don’t want to be any man’s girlfriend. I want a family, kids and to settle down and I cannot accept any commitment less than marriage. Of course I didn’t want to put pressure on him and it was his choice to stay or leave. But until he made a solid offer, I would like to keep my options open in a non-sexual way and be open to the man who was ready for a full commitment.”
When he tries to last minute date you: I’m sorry. I didn’t have a specific time and place so I didn’t think we had a date. I’d love to see you another time and spend time with you.
When can I do it again? or
When can we do it again? "Whenever you plan something feel free to let me know. I would be more than happy to spend some more time with you. "
When he asks do you date others? Oh no honey why would you say that? or Oh the only reason I would date others is if I didn’t get what I need. (When he asks what you need...tell him).
At a restaurant he asks what are you going to get: Well I was thinking about getting the steak (high end) because I have been craving it ALLLLL week, but I don’t know if I should get something cheaper. What would YOU get?
(Note if he’s going to give you what you want or will he make you settle. Sift through men that would make you settle.)
After a date that you wish to extend: Oh I had such a good time. I wish it could last longer.
When he insists to extend the date: Well *pause* I don’t know. Do you really want to go out? I guess a quick drink won’t hurt. I guess I could go out for a little bit if you insist.
When he asks “Can we try again”: Try what exactly? (Make him say exactly what you all are trying again)
I need you to help with my paper, job, or etc.: Help in what way exactly? (Make him say it). When he says help him write his paper or xyz….say Oh honey you know I could never do that….
Do you live alone:
- Play it coy: Why does it matter?
- Oh well I’m uncomfortable with people I don’t know in my personal space so it doesn’t matter because I prefer not to chill at my house.
What made you know I was the one: You didn't know he was the one until he chose you and you accepted or rejected him. You are the prize. 'When you chose me and asked me out on a date and I loved your conversation." (You are the prize not him.)
When they ask what is your occupation such as What do you do? He's not with you for your providing skills. Deflect until you're comfortable. Don't talk about your job all day. "Oh you don’t want to hear about my job. It’s not as fun as your cool job."
When he wants you to drive: Thank you but I’m not comfortable driving to meet a man. I feel special when a man is a true gentleman and comes to meet me *or drives me*.
When they constantly text you but don’t call: I’m not big on texting. I’d much rather see you in person.
*Stop responding until he calls you*
When they try to have sex with you early on: I enjoy getting to know you however sex is not a casual thing for me. Sex is something that you share with someone I have a commitment with.
Showing him appreciation: You know I thought you were going to be pretty special when I met you but I never thought you would be so ambitious, handsome, nifty, ______ insert synonym.
When you want him to pay for your hair, nails, lingerie, or outfit: Honey, you want me to look beautiful for you don’t you?
When you want something: Well you said that your girl/wife always gets the best...right?
When you want to go to a specific place: Ooh baby take me to _______ and I’ll look so beautiful I will make all the men in the room jealous.
When you want him to remember how fine you are: *hold his hand and look innocent while someone is checking you out* That man is making me uncomfortable. *look innocent*
When they are constantly hot/cold: "I'm used to more consistency from the man I'm seeing..."
When they continuously try to text you instead of talking: I would prefer to talk more in person" “Texting has felt fun but hearing your voice on the phone would be lovely. What do you think?”
When they try to talk about sex too soon: “That makes me uncomfortable.” “Ewww what was that now.”
When they ask how many children do you have or do you have children: *This is a Shera tip...I'm still trying to understand this. I guess it's mysteriousness.* Oh I would love to have ___ children. How about you? *Then change the subject*
When they seem inattentive: Honey I’d like to discuss xyz, is now a good time?
When the date is dragging on and you’re ready to go: "It's been a lovely/interesting time but I must go."
When they want you to call them: You are the prize. " I find it attractive when a man leads "
When he says something rude: Can you repeat that? And look puzzled. or "Oh I'm used to more manners from the men that I'm seeing."
Anytime you don’t know what to say: Send an emoji such as
When he says something condescending: Does this usually work for you.
(Try not to blame by saying...you are very condescending)
When he talks about sex too early: I’m sorry but I think you have me confused with a future version of myself who’s in a committed relationship. or “You don’t know me well enough to speak to me like that
” or “This makes me uncomfortable.”
When the date location is too far out: "I prefer a date closer to my location" or "I feel comfortable going to a date in my town/city".
When they are adamant about YOU picking a location and not them:
Only say the restaurants you actually like that they can pick from. Still make them pick a date spot. "There is x, y, or z nearby, I would feel happy with whichever you choose for us."
When they make a date but don’t confirm or try to date you last minute: Your time is valued as a feminine woman. You don't take last minute or poorly thought out dates. “Oh I would have loved to but I have plans. Next time let me know in advance so I can make arrangements.” "I would love to meet you but unfortunately I am not longer available. But I am available ____ or ____ days."
When he’s on his phone too much: "I love it when we talk together... I learn so much... and I find it difficult to concentrate when people are on their phones... what are your thoughts?"
When he asks why are you dating: Be mysterious. Don't tell him EVERYTHING. So a lucky guy like you can find me.
When he asks Do you miss me or Are you flirting with me: *laugh really feminine* make sure it’s not too loud because it will come across that you’re laughing AT him. If this is through text just wink. The key is to deflect. Feminine women don’t say things right off the bat.
When you want to break up: It really feels good to spend time with you. You are a good man that treated me with kindness and respect. I truly value these last 8 months, but I need to let you go with love. When you are more compassionate, please reach out to be if you feel inspired to do so.
When the man is pulling back: “I’m used to more consistency in the men I am seeing honey.”
When he says “Thank you for being amazing” or “I enjoyed you the other night”: Say "Honey, it was my pleasure."
Feminine women don't give all willy nilly or respond. They respond BACK. Don’t say you too. Stay in the feminine. Be receiving. Take in your greatness.
When he asks you out on a coffee date: If this is your thing cool. If not, you don't HAVE to accept a coffee date. Set your boundaries softly.
"Oh by that time, I’ve already had my coffee for the day. Could we meet up for dinner and a drink instead.
A real drink?"
"I would love to go to a real restaurant to get a real drink so we can get to know each other better. So when you get paid, my number will be the same. I’d love to go out on a date with you."
When he sends constant “What you doing” or “hi” or “hello” messages: It feels really good to hear from you.
(Try to stay away from messages like lying in bed or taking a shower or even cooking until you all are established. They tend to think about sex and sex only and ask can they help you take a shower or lie with you or they ask when can you cook for them. You don't audition for men. YOU ARE THE PRIZE. No not until they properly know you.)
When he sends: “How is your day.”: Try to stay very light, breezy, and feminine. Use feeling messages.
“Oh it felt really good to start my day with some hot chocolate in my coffee.”
“I feel a tingly rush all over my body because I got a promotion today. It feels so good to be rewarded for my hard work.”
When he says May I give you my number: You are the prize, not him. You don't reach out and call men. You don't respond. You respond BACK. "Sure! Oh great so I’ll know who is calling when you call love."
When he tries to schedule a last minute date: A feminine woman is soft but very strong in boundaries. Your time is to NEVER be wasted. "Oh honey, I have plans. I wish you would have told me earlier I would have loved to spend some time with you."
When he asked what to buy you: Always phrase things that you wanted such and such that will some kind of way benefit HIM. For example, Some perfume or (insert clothing, jewelry, purse, or etc.) "I would love to put it on because I think you would enjoy it."
. Should you have any time, look up the dance Kizomba from my country, it's a beautiful, intimate couple's dance. Here's the music we dance it to: 
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