52 Weeks Towards Divine Femininity

[MamaBear2012]

Week 44 Challenge

1. I am hosting a small Halloween party for some of DD's friends and their parents. Nothing major, but it should be fun. I never dress up, but after reading this, I might.

2. My dad wants to come over for Thanksgiving. So, I guess I'm cooking now. I think I'll come up with some crafts for the kids. And DH and my dad will watch sports. Christmas is always us at home hanging out and baking.

3. I'm going to slow down and enjoy my family. I'm also making gifts for people that I really value, wrapping them up cute, and writing a personal note.

 

[PrissiSippi]

Week 44
1. I bought DS a Halloween, Thanksgiving, and Christmas shirt to be worn and put very well put together.
2. I'm going to try to go to Dollar Tree and make a cheap Thanksgiving Wreath for the door
3. I don't have anything to wear yet for Halloween. I was supposed to be Cruella Deville. If I don't get it together, I am going to take the doggy ears and tail I bought for DS and wear them to school with a cute
4. I'm going to find something small to wrap just for practice but I'm going to take my time wrapping it to get into the habit of wrapping neatly.

 

[PrissiSippi]

How are we dressing feminine for fall and winter you all? I'm still rocking dressing but I have them on with tights so far.

 

[TwoSnapsUp]

How are we dressing feminine for fall and winter you all? I'm still rocking dressing but I have them on with tights so far.

Same. Tights and long boots with heels. I want to invest in a better quality long heeled boot, as well as a long flat boot.

 

[Supervixen]

Yay!!!!!!

My Feminine/Wife/Motherhood goals are:
1. Loose the rest of my baby weight to offer my best Feminine presentation.
2. Give my husband the highest masculine respect I can everyday.
3. Develop passive income streams to build my Feminine Mystique Bank Account.
4. Prepare my girls for gifted and classical school tests. Any advices here?
5. Certify as a teacher with "Fascination Womanhood" and maybe a Roots of Royals Certified Wife.
6. Keep working on softening my voice and coaching my girls on their soft girly feminine voices.

Dang how goals can change over a year. Only 1, 3, 4 and 6 I’m still interested in.

2–I have different ideas on how to do that now.

 

[PrissiSippi]

Dang how goals can change over a year. Only 1, 3, 4 and 6 I’m still interested in.

2–I have different ideas on how to do that now.

Share on this! What's your thoughts now. I don't aim to be as submissive now. I feel like I'm feminine by working on my bondaries and making sure I'm soft and sweet in my mannerisms and actions but very very strong in my boundaries on the inside. I'm doing this (and focusing on me) as well as trying to avoid the C's (complaining, comparing, correcting, criticizing, coddling, changing him)

 

[Maracujá]

1. Get into the Fall Spirit. Try to go to a Fall Festival or Halloween party. Dress up. Wear Makeup. Serve others. HAVE FUN!

Been dressing up and serving my family mostly. Because I have a limited choice of clothes with my capsule wardrobe, it's much easier to make a choice in the morning and to still switch up outfits every single day. Last week I took the bus to my mother's village and brought her soup. It brightened her day, I could tell.

2. What are your plans to spend time for Thanksgiving and Christmas?

Not so sure: def going to church, but also planning something for an elderly lady from our church who's been sick for quite some time.

3. How will you femininely embrace the holidays?

The plan is to celebrate Christmas with my church and NYE with my fam in The Netherlands, but this still needs to be confirmed. Won't stress myself too much: should be receiving my meal vouchers in two weeks and I'll try to grocery shop then. Also hope to be able to make amends with my sister, who isn't on speaking terms with me, because I confronted her with the truth but my delivery left too much to be desired. Other than that: don't want to stress myself too much, no need for too much food or too many gifts. Just meaningful ones and lots of hanging out with each other.

 

[Supervixen]

Share on this! What's your thoughts now. I don't aim to be as submissive now. I feel like I'm feminine by working on my bondaries and making sure I'm soft and sweet in my mannerisms and actions but very very strong in my boundaries on the inside. I'm doing this (and focusing on me) as well as trying to avoid the C's (complaining, comparing, correcting, criticizing, coddling, changing him)

Exactly!!! I’m aiming to look my best with makeup/wigs and keep my femininity in tact. I’m okay with submission when it’s needed, but mainly my goal is to use it (and whatever other tricks) to get my way. Idk how to explain this well, but I think DH likes it when I act selfish/spoiled (high maintenance as he puts it), it’s like motivating to him? I hope that made sense...

He usually celebrates my half-birthday, but this year, he went above and beyond...giftS, cash, and dinner. I’m on all his accounts, so him giving cash is odd, but whatever. The only difference I can see is that I’m more focused on me—not as much as before the girls, but more than the last few years.

 

[PrissiSippi]

So I came into Kroger to look for some strawberries. The grocery stocker smelled my perfume and he said oh my gosh you smell sooo good. He looked me up and down and told me that my face matched as well. lol I said Thank you. I grabbed a box of strawberries, and he said, Mam you know it's not my the pound. It's by the container. He said you deserve ALL the strawberries. They never put enough strawberries in here lol. He opened up my strawberries and added about 10 more strawberries to my box. He said, "You deserve every single one of these strawberries mam and keep doing whatever you're doing. You smell good, you look good, and you have such a nice smile. Have a nice day."

- I received his love.
-I received his compliments.
-I received the extra strawberries.
-I received his smile.
-I took my time in the grocery store. I didn't rush to get to my car.
-I walked graciously.

At the beginning of this challenge, it was hard for me to take in these actions of love. Now now. I can't wait to see where I am next year.

 

[PrissiSippi]

@PeaceLover had a cute little story.

Every week she takes her daughter to gymnastics practice. She likes to sit on the end of the aisle in the bleachers so she can quickly leave if the baby gets fussy or if she needs to breastfeed her son. She said she always takes her time, dresses up, and smiles at these gymnastics practices. It's a older man there who comes to the practice as well. She noticed that he and his son always sit in the spot she likes to sit in so no one else sits there. Then when he sees her come through the door he motions to his son and changes seats so she can always get that spot to sit with her son. He never says anything but it's like he just WANTS her to be comfortable and feel loved. That's really the power of feminine energy.

Very sweet indeed.

 

[PrissiSippi]

I dressed up for Halloween this week. I was merely just going to dress up baby boy for Halloween but instead I was Cruella Deville and DS was Spiderman one day and a Dinosaur another time. It felt really good to take my time and put on makeup, a nice dress, my dalmatian cloak, and gloves lol. The little kids said, "Oh my gosh she's the lady from the movies!!" I felt like a celebrity! Haha. I guess I need to make a mental plan on what I will do for Halloween. I have a dress and I ordered DS something that is Thanksgiving attire lol. I still need to get around to having a nice wreath.

 

[MamaBear2012]

I had a Halloween party and it took so much out of me, y'all. I'm a true introvert and parties just send me over the edge. I was tired all day long today. I'm still tired. But the party was great. Smaller than in the past so that I wasn't trying to keep up with 40+ people. Everyone seemed to have a good time, so I'm happy. I didn't dress up, but next year I will.

Are we doing this challenge next year?

 

[PrissiSippi]

I had a Halloween party and it took so much out of me, y'all. I'm a true introvert and parties just send me over the edge. I was tired all day long today. I'm still tired. But the party was great. Smaller than in the past so that I wasn't trying to keep up with 40+ people. Everyone seemed to have a good time, so I'm happy. I didn't dress up, but next year I will.

Are we doing this challenge next year?

We should! We could move around some challenges and add some new challenges. I think it would be fun to revamp a little bit.

 

[PrissiSippi]

Good morning Feminine Ladies! I’ll update soon this morning

 

[PrissiSippi]

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Recap

January- Let's Get It Started
Week 1: Create Femininity Goals. Find an accountability partner
Week 2: Print or Buy a planner. Make sure you write down and plan to do things that encompass your femininity. How many times will you cook for your family so they can practice dinner etiquette? How many minutes will you hold each child a day (10-15 minutes?) How will you polish your femininity EACH day, how will you spend one on one time with your spouse each day? Have you made time to go out with a female this week to talk girl talk? Make a plan, be intentional, and write it down.
Week 3: Be more present- Be aware of your surroundings. Don't be a phone zombie. Practice makes permanent. Constantly work on cultivating your femininity by being very present with DH, SO, your children, and friends. Choose human interactions vs social media interactions this week.
Week 4: Accept him- Accept him for who he is. This includes his strengths, his weaknesses, his goals, or lack of him. He is a person full of triumphs as well as flaws just like you. (This goal is continuous).

February- Tools Every Woman should Have in her Toolbox
Week 5: Polish Your Poise- No one can take you out of your feminine grace except you. Work on not being reactive to problems and asserting your needs but in a gentle way with your actions. Work on your look, attitude, gratitude, gaze, and overall spirit.
Week 6: Self Preservation is Key- Learn to protect your peace. Put YOU first. Have a drama blocking plan to protect yourself.
Week 7: What's in a Voice- Work on your feminine voice. Smile. Have a sing-song sweet voice at all times...especially times of struggle.
Week 8: Look Good and Rock Your Wardrobe- Aim to look feminine, put together, and GOOD every day.
Week 9: Turn Rituals Into Routine

March- Home Living
Week 10: Beautify Your Environment: Buy Fresh Flowers
Week 11: Focus on Your Home Aromas
Week 12: How Clean Is Your Home
Week 13: Set the Tone in Your Home: Make Your House a Haven

April- Feminine Refinement
Week 14: Clean Up Your Social Media Accounts
Week 15: Be more mysterious: Work on your Feminine Mystique
Week 16: Take the Help/Compliments
Week 17: Got Milk? Milk Baths

May- Strategically Selfish
Week 18: You Are the Prize
Week 19: Don’t Let them Move Your Goal Post
Week 20: Put On Your Oxygen Mask First
Week 21: Drop the need to be Right: Focus Instead
Week 22: Who are Your Male Vouchers?!

June- Feminine Refinement
Week 23: Leisure Time/ Become Well Read
Week 24: Be like Children; Not Childish but Childlike
Week 25: Let's Get Some Sunshine
Week 26: Communication 101: Stay in Control

July-
Week 27: Everything can be used against you.
Week 28: Compassionate
Week 29: Know Yourself What's your Feminine Archetype?'
Week 30: Use your Feminine Archetype to become a Force - Hone In On It
Week 31: Wine A Bit; You'll Feel a Little Bit Better

August - Etiquette
Week 32: Staircase Etiquette
Week 33: Pose for Life - Crossed Legs Pose
Week 34: Keep it Classy (Exiting car doors)
Week 35: Sitting pretty

September- The Opposite of Networking is “Not Working”
Week 36: Who Do You Admire: Interview Them
Week 37: Join a Group of Like-Minded
Week 38: Make it Intentional - Date Night
Week 39: How to be a Feminine Networking Star... Wherever You Are

October-Feminine Hobbies
Week 40: Affirmations: Affirming our Femininity
Week 41: Yoni Eggs
Week 42: Waist Beads
Week 43: Incorporating Beauty routines, perfume and Makeup
Week 44: Being Festive: Let's Enjoy the Holidays

November-
Week 45: Become a Master of your Emotions: Avoid Reactive

Week 45 Challenge

As a feminine woman it's important to be very strong in our boundaries on the inside but also be very feminine, girly, and a master of words on the outside. Please be mindful that this is NOT about being a doormat. This is about stating your boundary in a nice way.​

• Love should feel really really good. It should feel really easy.
  
  
• Being a Master of your Emotions isn't about sugarcoating blame. There can be natural consequences (oh it's too late now, but I'd love to do it another time), but no need to blame. It's about letting the person figure out how to do right by you on their own.
  
  
• You bring joy into their life. You’re easy to be with. You have very few neuroses. Your energy is light and uplifting.
  
  
• Just be super sweet. If you don’t know what to say...send an emoji lol.
  
  
• Use pet names, inside jokes, and nicknames between you and your significant other. Examples: Big Daddy, My Palm Wine Tappa, My Oke, My handsome firefighter, Grande Papa
  
  
• Use jokes and humor.
  
  
• Use emojis and gifs to lighten the mood.
  
  
• Keep it warm, light, open, kind, and feminine.
  
  
• Play to your significant others fantasy. If he likes nerdy girls, drop in a nerdy joke. If he likes good girl, play up those attributes of you.
  
  
• Nice friendly attitude, no eye rolling, no pouting, no snarky comments no passive aggressive behavior because you are holding a pissed off thought in your head...
  just stay breezy and open and kind.
  
  
• FOCUS ON NOT BEING REACTIVE.
  
  
• Don’t say what you don’t do or like. Instead say what you prefer and let him choose his actions. You can only accept or reject it.
  
  
• Be loving, giving, and sweet, but also be self-absorbed. Focus on your own happiness. Go get the things you need and fulfill them.
  

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[PrissiSippi]

Feminine ladies what have you done for yourself today? Remember there's a beautiful little girl inside of you waiting to be extravagantly loved and pampered by you. Love yours.

 

[MamaBear2012]

Feminine ladies what have you done for yourself today? Remember there's a beautiful little girl inside of you waiting to be extravagantly loved and pampered by you. Love yours.

I think that I'm going to get some candy (chocolate) and some kombucha and watch some Netflix tonight. I'm in Atlanta. These midterms are going to take me over the edge. I probably just need to watch some Korean dramas and not get caught up in this election. That is how I will love myself today.

 

[PrissiSippi]

I think that I'm going to get some candy (chocolate) and some kombucha and watch some Netflix tonight. I'm in Atlanta. These midterms are going to take me over the edge. I probably just need to watch some Korean dramas and not get caught up in this election. That is how I will love myself today.

I had some nice coffee yesterday and bought myself a nice ribeye steak and cooked it with a salad and potato yesterday. I wish I had some wine with it lol but it sufficed. I also bought myself some sunglasses for only $3.

 

[Maracujá]

Feminine ladies what have you done for yourself today? Remember there's a beautiful little girl inside of you waiting to be extravagantly loved and pampered by you. Love yours.

Been home for a week now, enjoying a much needed staycation as per usual . Tuesday I went for a walk and ended up walking 17 km: living small is really paying off, because it forces me to become an outdoorsy person. Afterwards I cooked a nice hearty dish:







Yesterday I decided to try something new with my hair, as I am celebrating my 12th nappiversary! So I tried my hand at finger coils and was pleased with the result (although I'm dealing with some porosity in certain areas):

Today I plan to go visit my mom and bring her some food. Will also contact my other family members and ask them how we will organize gift giving for the upcoming holidays. Tomorrow I plan to attend the morning prayer, pick up some clothes from the laundry service afterwards and then shop a little.

Wish you all a nice continuation for this week.

 

[PrissiSippi]

That food looks oh so yummy and your hairstyle is so regal on you! @Maracujá

 

[Maracujá]

^^^^Thank you lady! And many thanks for starting this thread, keeps me coming back to LHCF

 

[PrissiSippi]

^^^^Thank you lady! And many thanks for starting this thread, keeps me coming back to LHCF

My toddler came to me holding this cute bouquet of flowers that SO came over to bring me after work. I didn’t even ask for them. It was sooo sweet. They’re my favorite flowers and I never can find them so I know he store hopped to find these sunflowers. I’m sooo appreciative.

 

[PrissiSippi]

SO asked me to not remind him to take out my trash anymore. He told me he was a man and that he will always come and take out my trash, cut my grass, look after my car, and etc. without me asking. He says he felt I didn’t trust him by me asking all the time. Old me would be like nawww I’m just tryna make sure it gets done. New Feminine Priss...I just said okay baby. These days I just send him a appreciative call/text and just trust surrender that what will Be will be. Thank y’all for helping me get to this point.

 

[Brwnbeauti]

Feminine ladies what have you done for yourself today? Remember there's a beautiful little girl inside of you waiting to be extravagantly loved and pampered by you. Love yours.

Tuesday I took in small doses of the political news and watched some reruns of blackish while enjoying chocolate chip cookies.
I’ve been planning my night of leisure since I woke this morning

 

[Maracujá]

Today is Friday and Singles' Day is on Sunday. So it's only natural that:

Now now, I could've been way more feminine while eating this, but it was so good that I simply inhaled it. It's sautéed spinach with European sweet potato and red onions.

Used this mixture to season the shrimps overnight, both were on the cheap at Aldi.

Today was an out of the ordinary type of day, but I'm getting used to these kind of days One particular incident stood out to me:

I had been running errands all day, I do it all with public transport since I don't have my driver's license yet. At one point I'm sitting on the bus, this handsome young Black man steps in and the bus is all kinds of congested, so at one point he bumped into me. I simply smiled at him and told him it was OK. Well, that must've done something to him, 'cause homeboy couldn't stop staring afterwards.

When it came time for me to get off, he kept looking at me to see what I would do: would I scream at the two ladies blocking the exit, to move out the way...or would I maintain my poise and kindly ask them to make way? I opted for the latter of course, since I'm a bonafide LHCF alum .

Can't wait for 2019!!! Already bought my daily planner .

 

[PrissiSippi]

Maybe I can plate this food when I get home. I SURELY didn’t plate it last night. I mean I was eating the chicken as soon as it was getting out the grease. (Oops sorry not sorry lol)

Sooo SO asked me to cook all of this food that he had at his house. I have no problem with this but ALL THIS FOOD?! This is like a Sunday meal to me. I wanted to say like dangggg are THAT hungry. Instead I used it as an opportunity to brush up on my cooking skills. Sooo the bad thing about this is that he wanted to “help” so it could get done faster. I’m practicing avoiding the 9 C’s and doing more of the 4 A’s. (Presented by relationship coach, Sami Wunder) Sooo I knew I would have to be mindful to avoid correcting and criticizing SO during this process. He seasoned the chicken all sloppily. He didn’t get into all the nooks and crannies. He doesn’t season the water before putting the Lima beans in. He didn’t even boil the water first. He put the Lima beans in cold water. He doesn’t measure he just pours by with certain stuff it’s important. I really wanted to tell him these things but the bigger picture was that this was an opportunity to spend time with my honey and play and have fun. I can take my teacher cape off. We had sooo much fun. I kept all my comments to myself and surprisingly the food came out just as good. I’m still stuffed a whole day later. I can’t wait for some more spaghetti when I get home. We’re going to catch a movie tonight. To be in my feminine zone I’m going to make sure I dress up, rock a sexy dress, wear a full face of makeup, take my hair out of this bun, and smile. Can’t wait.

FYI: The Poisonous C Behaviors

1. Criticize-
   
   
2. Complain- Women have leaving rights….not complaining rights. I’s your job to accept or reject him. That’s it. You can’t change him. He has to WANT to do that.
   
   
3. Compare- Don’t compare him to other men. Don’t bring up any man period.
   
   
4. Coddle- Don’t mother him. Don't ask him to wear a jacket because it's cold. Don't ask him to call you when he has made it safely. Don't tell him to remember to eat his veggies. Don't treat him like a 10 year old.
   
   
5. Correct- Avoid being judgemental and correcting in public. Example: Honey I don’t like that shirt; could you change it? Why do you leave the top off the toothpaste; could you stop doing that? Me: Baby what time did I go to bed last night? Him: About 9:30. Well really a little before 9. Me: Noooo couldn’t be! I think I went to bed at 10 (Well why did you ask him love).
   
   
6. Control - Ultimatums. A man desires a relationship where he can be himself. He desires to do things the way he likes to do them.
   
   
7. Change- If his clothes aren’t attractive, don’t try to change this.
   
   
8. Counselor- Stay away from unsolicited advice. Plus you aren't his Dr. Phil. Don't try to "save him". He won't appreciate it and it's not your job.
   
   
9. Contempt- It is an attitude of superiority and disgust. Refrain from eye rolling, neck rolling, clapping between words, tongue smacking, being snarky, and scoffing. It tends to express itself in actions that communicate arrogance: We're not equals. I'm smarter than you. I'm more sensitive than you. I know what's best. I'm OK … you're not OK. You are beneath me!
   
   
10. Chatty- Less is more. Keep your mysteriousness
    
    
11. Cold-shouldering- Not listening. You can have silence but be polite. Don’t ignore him. Every time he walks in the room, ask him, “Do you need anything honey?”
    
    
12. Cutting him off- Interrupting him.

The Positive A Behaviors to Deposit in their lives

1. Admire- My baby can do anything. Be proud of him.
   
   
2. Appreciate- “Honey thank you so much for loading the dishwasher, you’re so great at staying on top of that. It helps me feel relaxed.” “I so appreciate how hard you work and what a great father you are. It makes me feel so thankful.” Rub his back. Color with him. Just appreciate him for the things he does do.
   
   
3. Affirm- I knew you would make partner baby. You're such a valuable asset to the company and to me. I love you
   
   
4. Accept/Approve- All his flaws and all you love and you accept. If he changes it, it's on him not you.

 

[Maracujá]

I'm starting to believe that my sole assignment on this earth is to fall in love with myself. 'Cause I swear I've been waiting for like 30 years for someone to love me and it's zilp: not family members, not friends, not no one. It really hurts.

 

[TrulyBlessed]

@Maracujá

 

[MamaBear2012]

I'm starting to believe that my sole assignment on this earth is to fall in love with myself. 'Cause I swear I've been waiting for like 30 years for someone to love me and it's zilp: not family members, not friends, not no one. It really hurts.

I know this is no consolation, but I think you're amazing. The other week I was thinking, "Ugh, I wish I could just go and hang out with Maracuja for like a week." For real! I love your spirit and your attitude, your food looks awesome, you are gorgeous, your hair is ridiculously lush, and you just radiate warmth (even through the Internet). I'm praying that God will give you people in your life who show you just how special you are.

 

[PrissiSippi]

Last week:
I didn't do good with femininity. I'm all for being "soft and feminine" but I really encompassing that the ONLY way it is SAFE to be this way is if your boundaries are strong and firm on the inside so you CAN be soft and feminine on the outside. I dropped the ball with a boundary concerning my child. I halfway did it, but I should have and NEED to go all the way. I will work on this this week and look for ways to protect my child at all costs.

I had a really fun short date with my RD-2 (Rotational Date). They said something to the effect, "You have to get THAT dressed up just to go get Fro-Yo?" Well yes I do sir. Don't you want me to look pretty for you baby? Haha I've been incorporated the entire look of foundation, blush, eyeshadow, AND lashes and when I say it has made a difference....it's really does help me look "complete" on special nights. I look GOODT. One dude almost dropped his whole cup of fro-yo looking at me haha. It's soooo funny to me. I think tonight I will dress up again just for the heck of it.

When I went out to see the movie Nobody's Love, I ran into my ex from a few years back. Baby I had on heels, a sexy little dress, a smile, my face was BEAT and I looked GOOD! He acted like he didn't see me (he was with his new girlfriend), but baby I know. I know. lol.

I'm really trying to incorporate affirmation into my daily life. I think I will start doing them before bed so it can stay on my mind while I sleep. I really want to see if I can make it make a difference in my life and attract the things I want.