52 Weeks Towards Divine Femininity

[Brwnbeauti]

@NijaG
She definitely looks vulnerably in love - does that make sense?

 

[Supervixen]

@PrissiSippi

I didn’t want to quote the whole msg, but love the post and agree with what you said about the strong message of men (BM) being the prize when it comes male/female leap dynamics in the black community.

I posted this in one of the Royal wedding threads.

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I know there was mention of how some posters didn’t like the way Megan looked at Harry in some of the pics leading to the wedding.

For those, the general feeling was it made her look too “into” him and it could be a problem or so.

I hope I can get my point across.

I think because many of therelationships we see with celeb Black/Blackish women or black wives/so of many black male celebs tends to end up with them not being really cherish and “covered” as @hopeful would say.
There is this almost instinctive advise to black women by other BW to protect themselves and be onalert just because of the frequency at which we get burned.

When you have a man who truly loves and “covers” you, then there is no need to really hide the wayyou feel about him.

The way she looks at him is actually a weapon in Megan’s hands or eyes, lol. She knows it too.

I bet he feels about 9ft tall and like such the “Man”.

All she has to do is dim the look and he is going to all up under her trying to figure out what’s wrong and what he can do to fix it.

Unless he falls out of love with herand stops caring, she can look at him as wide-eyed, and “you’re myhero” as she like.

Harry is not trying to mess that up

I thought it was super cute!!!

She is an university trained actress, so she is well-versed in how to evoke emotion (genuine or not) on her face. I’m over here trying to practice bc she nails it!

 

[PrissiSippi]

I’ve gotten pretty solid about dismissing FB arguments. I respond 2-3 times—if the person is really trying to understand and not argue, 5. That’s all. Any unknown people that DM me about what I've said get pleasantries and then my CashApp link. My time arguing or explaining, isn’t free. Yeah, I could not respond, but the CashApp link gives the person a chance to gift me and THEN I can gift them with my time and thoughts. I guess that’s somewhat passive income LOL.

LHCF arguments: I’ve been visiting this site for ~13 years. I feel like you all are an internet sisterhood of BW that are in my demographic and I share a bond and kindred spirit with you all. You all can get under my skin more than random FB people. I think I’ve done pretty well lately about not arguing here though even though I want to sometimes. There were a few posts in this thread that I typed an argument and didn’t hit send.

Now, this here man I LOVE...I need more discipline because he knows how to bring out the best and worst of me. I’ll go into shut down or stop talking mode and he’ll push all my buttons when I’m in shut down mode. Sometimes, I leave the room or the house.
I need a better strategy with him because he knows me too well and I care about his thoughts and opinions—maybe charm warfare, like an, “Awww babe don’t be like that” when he starts pushing my buttons. Tears only work sometimes. Any other thoughts?

Upthread there was a post I didn’t particularly agree with. I’m all for free speech but bruhhh you’re not even in the challenge. Gonhead on. You don’t agree...that’s fine.

@PrissiSippi

I didn’t want to quote the whole msg, but love the post and agree with what you said about the strong message of men (BM) being the prize when it comes male/female leap dynamics in the black community.

I posted this in one of the Royal wedding threads.

*******************************
I know there was mention of how some posters didn’t like the way Megan looked at Harry in some of the pics leading to the wedding.

For those, the general feeling was it made her look too “into” him and it could be a problem or so.

I hope I can get my point across.

I think because many of therelationships we see with celeb Black/Blackish women or black wives/so of many black male celebs tends to end up with them not being really cherish and “covered” as @hopeful would say.
There is this almost instinctive advise to black women by other BW to protect themselves and be onalert just because of the frequency at which we get burned.

When you have a man who truly loves and “covers” you, then there is no need to really hide the wayyou feel about him.

The way she looks at him is actually a weapon in Megan’s hands or eyes, lol. She knows it too.

I bet he feels about 9ft tall and like such the “Man”.

All she has to do is dim the look and he is going to all up under her trying to figure out what’s wrong and what he can do to fix it.

Unless he falls out of love with herand stops caring, she can look at him as wide-eyed, and “you’re myhero” as she like.

Harry is not trying to mess that up

I agree. I think Megan is more than likely very covered for emotionally, financially, spiritually, and sexually lol. It’s okay for her to show her admiration and respect for her husband because I’m pretty sure he shows his adoration every day.

I think she was very strategic in getting this too. She is a very smart girl. I wish them the best!

 

[PrissiSippi]

I honestly am no longer friends with people who push my buttons on SM- including hoteps and hoteptress, participants of the struggle olympics, and of course southern strategy repubs. I go there to lurk and like. And occasionally post. I have to deal with enough irl- being surrounded by right wing nuts.
I’ve gotten a lot better with dh. For instance we were having a conversation about children, education- things that are in my lane- and I realized that he knows nothing
I didn’t debate him. Why would I waste time debating facts? I listened and moved on. Why ruin a lovely dinner?
And I may have found a friend in femininity at work! She’s an older lady who apprehensively approached me to discuss Botox. I was like b, keep that face snatched! She takes care of herself- eats salads for lunch . She’s sorta self centered but I love it. I mean why not?

I REALLY need to work on this. Because some of these people I’m literally friends with just to say....look what she posted now lol. It’s so comvatative, negative, not conducive to femininity, or just crazy. I need to hit a few with that block lol.

 

[PrissiSippi]

I’ve gotten pretty solid about dismissing FB arguments. I respond 2-3 times—if the person is really trying to understand and not argue, 5. That’s all. Any unknown people that DM me about what I've said get pleasantries and then my CashApp link. My time arguing or explaining, isn’t free. Yeah, I could not respond, but the CashApp link gives the person a chance to gift me and THEN I can gift them with my time and thoughts. I guess that’s somewhat passive income LOL.

LHCF arguments: I’ve been visiting this site for ~13 years. I feel like you all are an internet sisterhood of BW that are in my demographic and I share a bond and kindred spirit with you all. You all can get under my skin more than random FB people. I think I’ve done pretty well lately about not arguing here though even though I want to sometimes. There were a few posts in this thread that I typed an argument and didn’t hit send.

Now, this here man I LOVE...I need more discipline because he knows how to bring out the best and worst of me. I’ll go into shut down or stop talking mode and he’ll push all my buttons when I’m in shut down mode. Sometimes, I leave the room or the house.
I need a better strategy with him because he knows me too well and I care about his thoughts and opinions—maybe charm warfare, like an, “Awww babe don’t be like that” when he starts pushing my buttons. Tears only work sometimes. Any other thoughts?

Lmbo how do you word it about CashApp? You are such a feminine savage. Smart lol.

I’m going to consciously work on this. Respond twice. That’s it. Drop off. Don’t argue.

 

[PrissiSippi]

Ladies remember to be deliberate in your words and actions and most importantly enjoy the sunshine and be a lady today!!

 

[CurliDiva]

Is it too late to join?

I'm finally perfecting my mojo as a wife. My newest role will be a stay-at-home wife and mother, I'm due in August.

 

[PrissiSippi]

You are added and awww congrats mama!!

Is it too late to join?

I'm finally perfecting my mojo as a wife. My newest role will be a stay-at-home wife and mother, I'm due in August.

 

[Supervixen]

Lmbo how do you word it about CashApp? You are such a feminine savage. Smart lol.

I’m going to consciously work on this. Respond twice. That’s it. Drop off. Don’t argue.

Pls don’t quote...


I just started. It hasn’t netted any $$$ yet, but I’ve done it less than a handful of times. My FB profile says married and there are pics with me and DH everywhere on my profile. The few DMs have come from comments about something I said about my marriage, so they KNOW I’m married.

I exchange pleasantries and say something like,

...to honor my darling husband, this conversation must be financially transactional sir—I should be making his Quiche Florentine dinner right now. *insert $20 CashApp link*

I’m new to this ‘pay me for my time/opinions’ life, so if any ladies know how I can word it better, I’m open to critque on my wording.

 

[Supervixen]

Is it too late to join?

I'm finally perfecting my mojo as a wife. My newest role will be a stay-at-home wife and mother, I'm due in August.

Congrats and welcome!!!!!

 

[Dee-Licious]

Upthread there was a post I didn’t particularly agree with. I’m all for free speech but bruhhh you’re not even in the challenge. Gonhead on. You don’t agree...that’s fine.

Hit dogs holler (meaning I feel this was directed at my post). I'm not being argumentative, but I will post this.

This is my third post in this thread. I don't typically join challenges on the board because I'm terrible with the posting of updates and such, but I have been following/participating from afar. There are people that follow and participate in challenge threads that are not "in" the challenge.

The first time I put DH's purple hull peas in a separate bowl to keep the juices from getting on the fried chicken he was in amazement and so happy. I got that tip about bowls for liquidy sides from this thread.

 

[Maracujá]

Is it too late to join?

I'm finally perfecting my mojo as a wife. My newest role will be a stay-at-home wife and mother, I'm due in August.

Welcome! Your tips on wardrobe and finances are also very welcome here

 

[PrissiSippi]

Pls don’t quote...


I just started. It hasn’t netted any $$$ yet, but I’ve done it less than a handful of times. My FB profile says married and there are pics with me and DH everywhere on my profile. The few DMs have come from comments about something I said about my marriage, so they KNOW I’m married.

I exchange pleasantries and say something like,

...to honor my darling husband, this conversation must be financially transactional sir—I should be making his Quiche Florentine dinner right now. *insert $20 CashApp link*

I’m new to this ‘pay me for my time/opinions’ life, so if any ladies know how I can word it better, I’m open to critque on my wording.

That was smart seriously. The trolls will fall off. The people who are sincere I just give any advice I can because I’m so thankful for all of y’all but I can see how that’s too time consuming. That’s a smart idea!!

 

[PrissiSippi]

Welcome! Your tips on wardrobe and finances are also very welcome here

Oooh @CurliDiva set those tips out haha. How did you revamp your wardrobe? What tips would you have on building wealth?

 

[Jade Feria]

Before this challenge I cursed a lot lol. I still do. Little sailor mouth. It’s sweet as pie but filthy lol. Every phone conversation is an opportunity for me to drop this bad habit. Every date is an opportunity for me to get comfortable in dresses and practice being fun, flirty, and free. Every time a man asks can he help me I see it as an opportunity to practice saying yes and allowing someone to help me and be graciously accepting it. Lol. Every night is an opportunity for me to practice getting cute even for the bed and not wearing my satin bonnet and instead sleeping pretty on my satin pillow.

Every single minute of the day is an opportunity for feminine refinement. It’s all in how you use it. How will you use your minutes today?

Since reading Ro's posts and watching SheRaSeven1's videos I've been doing this as well.

 

[awhyley]

The first time I put DH's purple hull peas in a separate bowl to keep the juices from getting on the fried chicken he was in amazement and so happy. I got that tip about bowls for liquidy sides from this thread.

Because of you ladies, I have this in my cart.

 

[Maracujá]

Happy Africa Day ladies

Let us rejoice and be glad during this weekend

 

[PrissiSippi]

Happy Africa Day ladies

Let us rejoice and be glad during this weekend

This is soooo dope!!!

 

[PrissiSippi]

Hit dogs holler (meaning I feel this was directed at my post). I'm not being argumentative, but I will post this.

This is my third post in this thread. I don't typically join challenges on the board because I'm terrible with the posting of updates and such, but I have been following/participating from afar. There are people that follow and participate in challenge threads that are not "in" the challenge.

The first time I put DH's purple hull peas in a separate bowl to keep the juices from getting on the fried chicken he was in amazement and so happy. I got that tip about bowls for liquidy sides from this thread.

Lol doesn’t it make a world of difference. Even my little bitty lunch meals I use my bowls and it really helps me experience the taste more.

 

[PrissiSippi]

Listen to how sweet BlueIvy’s Voice is. Oh my gosh it’s just so pleasant, unrushed, song-songy, light, and feminine! Lol so adorable.

 

[PrissiSippi]

Shera is soooo extra but she’s right.

I’m really working hard to reinvent myself.

I’m a spoiled daddy’s princess. My daddy opened all my doors and washed my car every Friday. My brothers were taught to look out for me because I can’t defend myself. I’ve never been the type to do xyz. I’m so submissive.

It’s a fantasy. It’s damsel in distress-esque. But it really does work. Lol.

 

[Jas123]

This is my third post in this thread. I don't typically join challenges on the board because I'm terrible with the posting of updates and such, but I have been following/participating from afar. There are people that follow and participate in challenge threads that are not "in" the challenge.

Me too to the bolded. I love this thread but I know better than to join a challenge, but I love keeping up with all the ladies & the tips.

 

[MamaBear2012]

Happy Africa Day ladies

Let us rejoice and be glad during this weekend

You are showing out!! This is everything!

 

[PrissiSippi]

Me too to the bolded. I love this thread but I know better than to join a challenge, but I love keeping up with all the ladies & the tips.

@Dee-Licious and @Jas123 it doesn’t matter the amount of posts just know we are here for you!!! I’ll Still add y’all to the list and I wish y’all the best

 

[PrissiSippi]

Flowers grow back even after they’re stepped on. #Resilience

Be like a flower. They are beautiful just for BEING. Also, remember to have feminine resilience

Feminine Resilience

• Declining a date, invitation, or company from someone who no longer deserves your time. You don’t owe anyone anything.
• Tending to your wounds after a disappointment, spending time to reflect why you cared about it in the first place, AND caring for yourself DEEPLY to bounce back and show self love to yourself. (Think of @hopeful when you try this. She ALWAYS urges us to take care of ourselves. It seems I’m just now getting what that means.)
• Not listening to what others negatively say about you bettering yourself or even parts of your feminine journey. I try to steer away from abusive parents in THIS thread but that’s exactly how I got here. I wasn’t taught to be feminine because for 1. My mother is not feminine. 2. I was taught I had to be smart because I wasn’t ”cut out” to be beautiful/feminine. My resiliency is my dedication to myself. Therapy, exercising, and focusing on ME and my hobbies).
• Having gratitude and counting the many many blessings of the present. (I keep a gratitude journal. In this journal I wrote one good think that happened each day.)

 

[Brwnbeauti]

Snipped my rose bushes. They’re a nice touch. I pulled that vase out of wedding stuff.

 

[PrissiSippi]

Snipped my rose bushes. They’re a nice touch. I pulled that vase out of wedding stuff.

Oh my gosh I’ve never seen real ruses from an actual Bush lol. Does that sound weird? They are a MILLION times more vibrant than the ones I see in the florist shops! How do you keep the bushes alive? Mine died lol.

 

[hopeful]

Oh my gosh I’ve never seen real ruses from an actual Bush lol. Does that sound weird? They are a MILLION times more vibrant than the ones I see in the florist shops! How do you keep the bushes alive? Mine died lol.

They really are beautiful aren’t they?

 

[MamaBear2012]

@PrissiSippi, your post reminded me of something my parents used to say. When I was little, and people used to say, "Oh my goodness, what a cute kid!" my parents would respond with, "Don't say that, you'll give her a big head." SMH. Why would parents say that? I have previously posted that my mom seems to be jealous of me because I refuse to be a mule, but now that I think about it, I think that my mom wanted to suppress my femininity. She was jealous of me even when I was a child.

I learned a lot on my own simply because it's a part of my nature to observe and analyze, but I still have so much to learn.

 

[hopeful]

@cam2717
As the mother of two beautiful daughters I cannot ever imagine telling someone that complimenting them would give them a big head. I’m sorry you were subjected to that. It’s not fair or kind. So happy for you to be reclaiming your femininity now.