@PrissiSippi
I didn’t want to quote the whole msg, but love the post and agree with what you said about the strong message of men (BM) being the prize when it comes male/female leap dynamics in the black community.
I posted this in one of the Royal wedding threads.
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I know there was mention of how some posters didn’t like the way Megan looked at Harry in some of the pics leading to the wedding.
For those, the general feeling was it made her look too “into” him and it could be a problem or so.
I hope I can get my point across.
I think because many of therelationships we see with celeb Black/Blackish women or black wives/so of many black male celebs tends to end up with them not being really cherish and “covered” as @hopeful would say.
There is this almost instinctive advise to black women by other BW to protect themselves and be onalert just because of the frequency at which we get burned.
When you have a man who truly loves and “covers” you, then there is no need to really hide the wayyou feel about him.
The way she looks at him is actually a weapon in Megan’s hands or eyes, lol. She knows it too.
I bet he feels about 9ft tall and like such the “Man”.
All she has to do is dim the look and he is going to all up under her trying to figure out what’s wrong and what he can do to fix it.
Unless he falls out of love with herand stops caring, she can look at him as wide-eyed, and “you’re myhero” as she like.
Harry is not trying to mess that up
I’ve gotten pretty solid about dismissing FB arguments. I respond 2-3 times—if the person is really trying to understand and not argue, 5. That’s all. Any unknown people that DM me about what I've said get pleasantries and then my CashApp link. My time arguing or explaining, isn’t free. Yeah, I could not respond, but the CashApp link gives the person a chance to gift me and THEN I can gift them with my time and thoughts. I guess that’s somewhat passive income LOL.
LHCF arguments: I’ve been visiting this site for ~13 years. I feel like you all are an internet sisterhood of BW that are in my demographic and I share a bond and kindred spirit with you all. You all can get under my skin more than random FB people. I think I’ve done pretty well lately about not arguing here though even though I want to sometimes. There were a few posts in this thread that I typed an argument and didn’t hit send.
Now, this here man I LOVE...I need more discipline because he knows how to bring out the best and worst of me. I’ll go into shut down or stop talking mode and he’ll push all my buttons when I’m in shut down mode. Sometimes, I leave the room or the house.
I need a better strategy with him because he knows me too well and I care about his thoughts and opinions—maybe charm warfare, like an, “Awww babe don’t be like that” when he starts pushing my buttons. Tears only work sometimes. Any other thoughts?
@PrissiSippi
I didn’t want to quote the whole msg, but love the post and agree with what you said about the strong message of men (BM) being the prize when it comes male/female leap dynamics in the black community.
I posted this in one of the Royal wedding threads.
*******************************
I know there was mention of how some posters didn’t like the way Megan looked at Harry in some of the pics leading to the wedding.
For those, the general feeling was it made her look too “into” him and it could be a problem or so.
I hope I can get my point across.
I think because many of therelationships we see with celeb Black/Blackish women or black wives/so of many black male celebs tends to end up with them not being really cherish and “covered” as @hopeful would say.
There is this almost instinctive advise to black women by other BW to protect themselves and be onalert just because of the frequency at which we get burned.
When you have a man who truly loves and “covers” you, then there is no need to really hide the wayyou feel about him.
The way she looks at him is actually a weapon in Megan’s hands or eyes, lol. She knows it too.
I bet he feels about 9ft tall and like such the “Man”.
All she has to do is dim the look and he is going to all up under her trying to figure out what’s wrong and what he can do to fix it.
Unless he falls out of love with herand stops caring, she can look at him as wide-eyed, and “you’re myhero” as she like.
Harry is not trying to mess that up
I REALLY need to work on this. Because some of these people I’m literally friends with just to say....look what she posted now lol. It’s so comvatative, negative, not conducive to femininity, or just crazy. I need to hit a few with that block lol.I honestly am no longer friends with people who push my buttons on SM- including hoteps and hoteptress, participants of the struggle olympics, and of course southern strategy repubs. I go there to lurk and like. And occasionally post. I have to deal with enough irl- being surrounded by right wing nuts.
I’ve gotten a lot better with dh. For instance we were having a conversation about children, education- things that are in my lane- and I realized that he knows nothing
I didn’t debate him. Why would I waste time debating facts? I listened and moved on. Why ruin a lovely dinner?
And I may have found a friend in femininity at work! She’s an older lady who apprehensively approached me to discuss Botox. I was like b, keep that face snatched! She takes care of herself- eats salads for lunch . She’s sorta self centered but I love it. I mean why not?
Lmbo how do you word it about CashApp? You are such a feminine savage. Smart lol.I’ve gotten pretty solid about dismissing FB arguments. I respond 2-3 times—if the person is really trying to understand and not argue, 5. That’s all. Any unknown people that DM me about what I've said get pleasantries and then my CashApp link. My time arguing or explaining, isn’t free. Yeah, I could not respond, but the CashApp link gives the person a chance to gift me and THEN I can gift them with my time and thoughts. I guess that’s somewhat passive income LOL.
LHCF arguments: I’ve been visiting this site for ~13 years. I feel like you all are an internet sisterhood of BW that are in my demographic and I share a bond and kindred spirit with you all. You all can get under my skin more than random FB people. I think I’ve done pretty well lately about not arguing here though even though I want to sometimes. There were a few posts in this thread that I typed an argument and didn’t hit send.
Now, this here man I LOVE...I need more discipline because he knows how to bring out the best and worst of me. I’ll go into shut down or stop talking mode and he’ll push all my buttons when I’m in shut down mode. Sometimes, I leave the room or the house.
I need a better strategy with him because he knows me too well and I care about his thoughts and opinions—maybe charm warfare, like an, “Awww babe don’t be like that” when he starts pushing my buttons. Tears only work sometimes. Any other thoughts?
Is it too late to join?
I'm finally perfecting my mojo as a wife. My newest role will be a stay-at-home wife and mother, I'm due in August.
Lmbo how do you word it about CashApp? You are such a feminine savage. Smart lol.
I’m going to consciously work on this. Respond twice. That’s it. Drop off. Don’t argue.
Is it too late to join?
I'm finally perfecting my mojo as a wife. My newest role will be a stay-at-home wife and mother, I'm due in August.
Upthread there was a post I didn’t particularly agree with. I’m all for free speech but bruhhh you’re not even in the challenge. Gonhead on. You don’t agree...that’s fine.
Is it too late to join?
I'm finally perfecting my mojo as a wife. My newest role will be a stay-at-home wife and mother, I'm due in August.
Pls don’t quote...
I just started. It hasn’t netted any $$$ yet, but I’ve done it less than a handful of times. My FB profile says married and there are pics with me and DH everywhere on my profile. The few DMs have come from comments about something I said about my marriage, so they KNOW I’m married.
I exchange pleasantries and say something like,
...to honor my darling husband, this conversation must be financially transactional sir—I should be making his Quiche Florentine dinner right now. *insert $20 CashApp link*
I’m new to this ‘pay me for my time/opinions’ life, so if any ladies know how I can word it better, I’m open to critque on my wording.
Oooh @CurliDiva set those tips out haha. How did you revamp your wardrobe? What tips would you have on building wealth?Welcome! Your tips on wardrobe and finances are also very welcome here
Since reading Ro's posts and watching SheRaSeven1's videos I've been doing this as well.Before this challenge I cursed a lot lol. I still do. Little sailor mouth. It’s sweet as pie but filthy lol. Every phone conversation is an opportunity for me to drop this bad habit. Every date is an opportunity for me to get comfortable in dresses and practice being fun, flirty, and free. Every time a man asks can he help me I see it as an opportunity to practice saying yes and allowing someone to help me and be graciously accepting it. Lol. Every night is an opportunity for me to practice getting cute even for the bed and not wearing my satin bonnet and instead sleeping pretty on my satin pillow.
Every single minute of the day is an opportunity for feminine refinement. It’s all in how you use it. How will you use your minutes today?
This is soooo dope!!!Happy Africa Day ladies
Let us rejoice and be glad during this weekend
Hit dogs holler (meaning I feel this was directed at my post). I'm not being argumentative, but I will post this.
This is my third post in this thread. I don't typically join challenges on the board because I'm terrible with the posting of updates and such, but I have been following/participating from afar. There are people that follow and participate in challenge threads that are not "in" the challenge.
The first time I put DH's purple hull peas in a separate bowl to keep the juices from getting on the fried chicken he was in amazement and so happy. I got that tip about bowls for liquidy sides from this thread.
Me too to the bolded. I love this thread but I know better than to join a challenge, but I love keeping up with all the ladies & the tips.This is my third post in this thread. I don't typically join challenges on the board because I'm terrible with the posting of updates and such, but I have been following/participating from afar. There are people that follow and participate in challenge threads that are not "in" the challenge.
Happy Africa Day ladies
Let us rejoice and be glad during this weekend
@Dee-Licious and @Jas123 it doesn’t matter the amount of posts just know we are here for you!!! I’ll Still add y’all to the list and I wish y’all the bestMe too to the bolded. I love this thread but I know better than to join a challenge, but I love keeping up with all the ladies & the tips.
Oh my gosh I’ve never seen real ruses from an actual Bush lol. Does that sound weird? They are a MILLION times more vibrant than the ones I see in the florist shops! How do you keep the bushes alive? Mine died lol.Snipped my rose bushes. They’re a nice touch. I pulled that vase out of wedding stuff.
Oh my gosh I’ve never seen real ruses from an actual Bush lol. Does that sound weird? They are a MILLION times more vibrant than the ones I see in the florist shops! How do you keep the bushes alive? Mine died lol.