momi
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Happy Friday! How will you spend time with your family/yourself while you polish your femininity this weekend? This has been posted before, but I don't know if I included commentary. Ro Cutno posted this one day as a Facebook post. I took the time to look up WHY this stuff is frowned upon. This is one reason it is important to cook nicely and plate and eat at home. EVERY SINGLE TIME you eat at home you are practicing dinner etiquette. Practice makes perfect. If your children don't know how to behave at a restaurant...it is YOUR FAULT because you can teach them this at home. They need to sit down (not eat and go) and practice how to eat with proper etiquette so it is ingrained in their head. @PeaceLover does a great job at this with her child. Her kindergartner asked me why was my niece not eating at the table and without a fork lol. She was so intrigued lol. She sat at the table alone and put her napkin in her lap and ate her food so gracefully. The other kids were like....wth...and eventually followed her. My niece wanted to be just like her. Eating like a princess lol. I will never forget that. So cute. BUT anyway on to some Dinner Etiquette.
1. Why the mad/serious/frowning face, even while chewing? (Try to remain with a neutral/pleasant look while eating. Enjoy the people, scenery, and experience. Be appreciative. Be beautiful. Be feminine. Smile.)
2. Why hold your head like you have a headache or are aggravated, while chewing? (Be mindful of how you look at all times. Aspire to be your OWN Beyonce. Be graceful, be mindful of your appearance and look good like a trophy wife.)
3. Why eat giant bites of food, if you're frowning like it's nasty? (Don't frown. You are not in a rush to eat. Take your time and cut a small bite of food to be placed in your mouth and eat it. Then cut another SMALL bite of food. Remember. You are NOT in a rush. Take in the experience of food instead of merely eating for nourishment.)
4. Why eat giant bites of food at all? (See above. People eat with giant bites of food because they are on the go. Eat royally. Take your time.)
5. Why refuse to use a knife. (Always set a table with both a knife and fork and not just a fork.)
6. Why aren't you resting your fork or spoon after each bite? (Again, classy women do not rush. Take your time to converse and rest between bites.)
7. Why aren't you chewing enough? (Chew your food properly. For digestion, aim to chew your food about 30 times before swallowing. Make note to never smack. Chew with your mouth CLOSED. Teach your children this. Remember children will probably have to be redirected every 5 minutes on things such as this. Keep reminding them until practice makes permanent.)
8. Why chew with your mouth open? (Be mindful to eat with your mouth closed so you won't smack and in turn you can keep from showing your food in your mouth to a minimum).
9. Why take a second bite of food, when you already have food in your mouth? (Take your time eating. Swallow. Repeat.)
10. Why drink your sweet drink while your salty food is still un chewed in your mouth? (Swallow your food THEN take a sip. Remember we are NOT rushing. Enjoy every single bite. Take in the experience.).
11. Why keep the food at your mouth waiting to fit more in? (Take one bite, swallow, and repeat).
12. Why scrape the fork or spoon with your teeth? (Don't do this lol)
13. Why open your mouth wide to take a bite? (If you were taking small bites you wouldn't do this).
14. Why smack? (Close your mouth while chewing and never talk with a mouth full of food.)
15. Why pick at your food like you don't like it, though you'll probably eat it all? (Cut one bite chew and eat. Don't pick and play with food. Even if you don't like it...it's poor etiquette to not eat offered food. Take a bite at least. Try it.).
16. Why the bad posture or sitting too far back? (Looks un-graceful and awkward.)
17. Why picking through food like an ungrateful child? (Don't pick at food. Have compassion for the person who cooked the food and thought lovingly to feed you.)
18. Why so picky & demanding to the waiter? (Acting rude to waiters and waitresses is a good way to embarrass yourself and others at the table. While it's fine to ask questions about the menu, or point out if you receive the wrong dish, it's important to be polite to everyone around. Don't be loud. Don't demand you get a discount on your meal all the time for honest and small mistakes. Don't be rude. QUIETLY handle your problem and if you can't do so discreetly pay full price for your meal and CALL THE RESTAURANT or email the company AFTER you leave as to not cause a scene. It seems like some people WANT something to be wrong with their meal so they can get it for free. If this is you get out of this habit.)
19. Why sending stuff back? (I thought this was acceptable in small doses at restaurants Ro says it is not. Handle matters discreetly. Have compassion for the restaurant and the waiter).
20. Why order expensive things on a date? (Have compassion for your significant other's pockets. Have financial respect. Order what you want but don't make it the most expensive thing.)
21. Why splitting the check EVER? (The check is NEVER for you. You shouldn't know how much he is tipping. You shouldn't know how much the meal was. You shouldn't even look his way when paying. Man should pay for food or the host.)
22. Why eating like it's the last day on earth? (Again, stop rushing life away. Savour every bite)
23. Why forgetting that other people can see you? (Act like the President’s wife haha. Act classy.)
24. Why push food in your mouth as you progressively chew? (Take your time)
25. Why use your napkin like a man? (Blot your mouth. Don't wipe. Lipstick gets all over the napkin and it looks nasty and it looks ungraceful while you are wiping your mouth like a baby.)
26. Why enjoy treating the waiter like a slave? (Have compassion. Treat your waiter with respect.)
27. Why don't you say thank you EVERY time the waiter gives any service? (Have compassion and gratitude. Every single time. How many times have you said Thank you and Please today?)
28. Why don't you look at the waiter when talking to him? (Treat your waiter with respect. Don't look at the menu. Look at everyone in the eyes when you are speaking to them.)
29. Why don't you thoroughly thank the person who paid? (Same thing for the person who paid. You are gracious and appreciative. Thank you goes a long way.)
30. Why don't you tip 20%, when you're in USA? (Tip and tip well!)
31. Why are you bossing everyone instead of gracefully asking for everything you'd like? (People are not your employees. Lol treat them as such).
32. Why do you talk about yourself the whole time? (I noticed I did this a lot as a teacher. I dominated the conversation by talking about myself and my classroom. Me, me, me. Someone told me if you remain quiet you can observe a lot about a person you need to know. They're right. I remain quiet now and add tidbits in the conversation. I don't try to dominate it. Man I was talking to this lady the other day...and even though she was asking me about DS....I couldn't get a word in for this hypothetical scenario that her friend had encountered that was supposed to be similar to DS. Don't do this. Life is not all about you plus when you converse you're supposed to be getting information from others...not just talk talk talking. People who talk too much seem like they have something to prove. They want you to like them desperately. STOP THIS. You are enough just the way you are. )
33. Why do you put your hand or arm over others' face or plate, to reach or pass something? (Don't do this. You will interrupt others conversation by interrupting eye contact. Wait til the convo is over and ask them to please pass whatever you need.)
34. Why do you think that anyone will enjoy being with you at a restaurant. A man won't tell you, but you're acting gross, depressing, manly, insensitive, selfish & BORING! (If you have bad manners you give others a bad experience)
35. Why don't you just mention what you do like or want and stay silent on the other things? (Stop telling people off and what u don't like. "Oh nawww I don't do pork they got me messed up. Oh naw I don't do carbs." Instead say what you do do or like and order it.) Example: I just love a good salad (while interally thinking that all them carbs gonna go to your thighs so Jesus said stay back Satan) and order the salad. Stop saying what you don't do. I made this mistake one time. I said oh I don't pay bills I pay respect. It's true but I sound crazy as hayle. Me just smiling and not reaching for the check and letting him pay....that did the same thing and let me keep my feminine grace.
36. Why do you start eating first? (Wait for host or everyone else to eat first. You are not starved. You do not rush. You are a woman of class.)
37. Why don't you serve your date anyway you can, since he's paying? (When the waiter comes, they will come with both meals. When they say his meal you reach out for it and serve it to your man. I also take his silverware and set it up correctly on the right side often with a kiss and a hug. If he's your husband you can place his napkin as well for an extra touch.)
38. Why cover your mouth each time you chew? (If you chewed properly there is no need. You chew with your mouth closed right? No need for your hand.)
39. Why skip the vegetables for fries? (Fried foods offer very little nutritional value. Choose veggies, salads, and protein instead. Get into the habit of making your child choose one starch, one vegetable, and one protein versus all starches that they love. I don't know how many times I see kids eating Fried Chicken, Macaroni and Cheese, and Fries. NO. Get them into the habit of making great choices today. They should eat maybe Baked chicken, mac and cheese, and broccoli. One meat. One Veggie. One Starch.)
40. Why use your fork to talk, like it's an extension of your hand, waving it in front of people's face? (Ghetto. It may seem pointless to put your knife and fork down when all you’re about to do is dive back in for another mouthful, but it’s impolite to keep hold of your silverware while you’re chewing and talking. Put the knife and Forkdown on your plate to rest while you eat and chat, and please don’t point with them. Pointing your knife, and waving your fork around is rude, and you also run the risk of injuring someone)
41. Why ask for extra napkins unless there is a spill? Don't ever ask for paper napkins exclusively. (Use cloth napkins only. You are royalty. If the time arises, you can ask for extra napkins...or maybe keep them in your purse for emergencies, but don't ask for extra napkins before you need them.)
42. Why not go to the bathroom if u need to blow your nose? (Ewwww)
43. Why ask for hot water to soak silverware? (Ghetto people tactics in attempt to look Bougie.)
44. Why not greet the server (as they will certainly greet you) (This goes for everyone from now on. The grocery store. The restaurant. The church. EVERYHERE. Say hello! How are you today. Then wait for an answer.)
45. Why order while being greeted? (People in a rush do this. Like first let me tell you we're in a rush so can we go ahead and order lol. This is rude. Let them say hello, you take your time and accept it and say hello back with a smile, then you can order)
46. Why yell for the waiter, when you can just wait until they're near? (It's impolite to yell to your waiter, your man, your kids, or anyone. It is laziness on your part. Go to them or the room they are in and ask them what you need. Stop yelling at people.)
47. Why ask for something every single time a server comes to your table? They're human too. (They are not your employees. Stop bossing people around)
48. Why not ask questions about 1 or 2 things BEFORE you order? (Be deliberate when you order stop ordering stuff and then asking a million questions about said dish. Think before you talk and then order.)
49. Why not just quit asking for lemons all together! At this point, asking for lemons is ghetto. (lol lol)
50. Why order too much, then ask for to go boxes, when you're not paying & when it's highly unlikely that you'll eat those leftovers? (This reminded me of someone's post on here. They said you rarely eat those leftovers so why get them. I didn't get it at the time. Still don't. I eat my leftovers if they're not mushy lol)
51. Why are adult humans sniffing food, then frowning, before chewing? Why?! Why?! (Respect the person who cooked the food. It's impolite to sniff food before you eat. Just eat)
51. Proper way to hold wine glass, martini glass, and water glass?
Wine- hold by the base or the stem of the glass to you don’t heat up the wine.
Martini glass- at the bowl and with your other hand holding the bottom of the glass
Brandy glass- hold it at the bowl. Brandy actually benefits from your hand’s warmth by releasing iconic aromas.
Thank you there are some great tips here.
, but that might have been because he thought I was about to kill him.
the first dress, and to snag both for less than $20! You are a true domestic diva 
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