Saludable84
Better Late Than Ugly
@Maracujá
I guess how I see it is, Lauren was never really one with herself and that reflected with her personal relationships. She also had her 5 kids with a man she never married. Not saying anything about anyone, but that says enough. Maybe thats how she wanted it, but Im not making her a goal for that. She still performs, but I dont see how she even has fans, as her turnout is usually she might come late or even at all. My hope for her is that she raises her children to be better than her. Last, there were also reasons she left the industry.
Beyonce does what she loves. She doesnt need to work, she chooses to and she is passionate about her craft. Beyonce has drive and ambition, is her own person, but that doesnt take away from her also being very feminine, stable, having a financially stable husband, is taken care of and is still able to take time for her children. Beyonce is very calculating; we see what she wants us to see when she wants us to see it. For all we know, she works 2 days a month.
I like both artist very much, no capes, but Lauren is not a standard.
And you are right; being kept and living a good life doesnt have to be flashy. However, public figures are going to be flashy regardless because the media will put them everywhere. Your private life is only public if you let it be. You cant compare everyone, especially exceptions. Not all women work like mules unless they allow themselves to be. Boundaries and mentality play a huge role in this.
I guess how I see it is, Lauren was never really one with herself and that reflected with her personal relationships. She also had her 5 kids with a man she never married. Not saying anything about anyone, but that says enough. Maybe thats how she wanted it, but Im not making her a goal for that. She still performs, but I dont see how she even has fans, as her turnout is usually she might come late or even at all. My hope for her is that she raises her children to be better than her. Last, there were also reasons she left the industry.
Beyonce does what she loves. She doesnt need to work, she chooses to and she is passionate about her craft. Beyonce has drive and ambition, is her own person, but that doesnt take away from her also being very feminine, stable, having a financially stable husband, is taken care of and is still able to take time for her children. Beyonce is very calculating; we see what she wants us to see when she wants us to see it. For all we know, she works 2 days a month.
I like both artist very much, no capes, but Lauren is not a standard.
And you are right; being kept and living a good life doesnt have to be flashy. However, public figures are going to be flashy regardless because the media will put them everywhere. Your private life is only public if you let it be. You cant compare everyone, especially exceptions. Not all women work like mules unless they allow themselves to be. Boundaries and mentality play a huge role in this.
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. Most are also not over what they experienced during their younger years, they are unwilling to forgive, which makes it difficult to become all that you can be. Some are so childish, like a pastor said: "stop being jealous of people you're supposed to learn from."
This May help somebody. I needed a list when I first started this journey. I still refer to the list to make sure im not over-functioning. Many of us use the term LEAN BACK. 
What did you achieve last week?
What are you committing to this week? 
I’ve been meditating on femininity lately, more specifically what my particular “brand” looks like. I’d been watching some Youtubers and the delivery of some of these women seem more towards shaming you for not being a certain way vs giving you any real actionable tools to tap into that energy. When I realized these videos were giving me anxiety (and I am not an anxious person), I stopped watching majority of them.
I went to the store after work and caught so many people looking at me, watching me, smiling at me. I could literally feel the goodness radiating from me.
. The same thing happened in 2017, when I ordered a refrigerator. I thought the space would be too small to fit in, but again, I just let the men do the work and it all worked out fine. 
but one of my friends reached out to be and told me I helped her become a lot more intentional. She said she was feeling overwhelmed but decided to pull back, focus on her, and do something she enjoyed which is cooking. She made a $1 pan of brownies. Added some Blue Bell Ice cream and a chocolate swirl for taste. Lol she said she immediately felt better and was able to finish the task at hand. 
