PrissiSippi
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Yall this lady that is really sweet to me at the store asked me to help her with my homework. I want to help her. She wants me to drive 20 minutes away to help. I don't want to drive that far. How do I word that?
Where is that clapping emoji! YeeeeesssssI’ve been avoiding arguments since the week we had to protect our peace. Tbh, it feels nice.
I don’t mean anything behind this (saying I’ve been doing it for a while) but I guess I don’t mention it because even though we get weekly goals, I’m usually either behind weeks (because it take me more than a week to cultivate the learnings of the week) and sometimes, let say for example, week 3 had a goal that I tried but it was meh at the time, then week 11 has another goal and it make me feel better. It’s then that I’ll go back to week 3 and I’ll feel better about that week. Sorry to side track, I just go with the weeks that’s resonate more to make the weeks that don’t finally hit home.
Anyway, last week, I was having a conversation with my supervisor. Luckily we are close. We were talking about something work related and I told her I understood her point, but she didn’t understand mine and that her focus was wrong (not that mine was right, but she was trying to control an outcome that, overall, she can’t). She admitted she knows her focus is wrong but continued on. My response was “ok”. She made another comment and I told her I checked out of the conversation. She laughed and said she knew. I was more concerned about my peace than being right.
The previous week in a meeting, they were working out certain logistics (internally) and my input was to focus on those we had the most control over and get a plan for them (plan b) but for plan a, lets make a proposal and only work it out if we got approval. People were trying to figure things out and I told them “it’s pointless and a waste of time”. Controlling an outcome is not protecting your peace.
I have more but I’m glad you ladies bought it up. It definitely keeps you feminine.
Yall this lady that is really sweet to me at the store asked me to help her with my homework. I want to help her. She wants me to drive 20 minutes away to help. I don't want to drive that far. How do I word that?
It's okay and quite normal to doubt the future. The key thing is to stay in the present, keep working on becoming a better you, and FLIPPING negative beliefs so you don't stay in your head and with these thoughts for long. I've been working on flipping quite a few of my negative beliefs. Some of them areBeen single for 13 years now and the thought that I may never find an SO/DH has been popping up in my mind on a daily basis. Also, the fact that I've always done the chasing in ALL my relationships, whether romantic or not. Today I spent the day home: didn't call anyone or anything like that. No one called me either. Spent the day 'Resurrecting' my dreams: mostly travel and wardrobe dreams. Also preparing my 34th + 35th b-days . There's a hope for the future...come what comes.
You have a lot of fear. Once you work on it and push it out or reframe your fears into your wants, that person will come. You are blocking him right now. If you want him, stop blocking him. You’re definitely walking in the right direction.Been single for 13 years now and the thought that I may never find an SO/DH has been popping up in my mind on a daily basis. Also, the fact that I've always done the chasing in ALL my relationships, whether romantic or not. Today I spent the day home: didn't call anyone or anything like that. No one called me either. Spent the day 'Resurrecting' my dreams: mostly travel and wardrobe dreams. Also preparing my 34th + 35th b-days . There's a hope for the future...come what comes.
Ask her to share her work via google drive and you will try to give her feedback to improve her skills. There’s no need to do things in person.Yall this lady that is really sweet to me at the store asked me to help her with my homework. I want to help her. She wants me to drive 20 minutes away to help. I don't want to drive that far. How do I word that?
I always feel like this and I understand why. Most of it stemmed from childhood. The rest from me just being an introvert. Two things that help me:My intimacy fears concern my energy. I feel like I just dont have that it factor. I'm scared that since I didn't create some good energy as a child, I'll never have it. I'm learning how to set boundaries and look good and be feminine....but my self confidence is still low
I have a friend like this. A lot of it comes with trying to prove yourself even when you don’t have/mean to. So it keeps your guard up. Instead, do you think you could try not contributing to the conversation and when you do, use short sentences/statements? I say that because when we talk about being feminine with men, we listen to them and engage to let them know we are listening. Try it with regular conversations and see how it works for you.^^^^Same here. But in all honesty, it comes with time. I had 0 confidence in my professional abilities, fast forward half a decade later and I barely recognize myself, seriously. I just devoured professional books, blogs, forums and videos, it's yielding great results.
As for love matters, I grew up in a very negative environment. Despite of that, I thrived in school. The result is that I come across as very one-dimensional even though I'm not. I'm always trying to bring my book smarts to the forefront, when it's not necessary in every setting. I see other ladies at work who are able to just wind down and put their guard down, with tons of positive energy & laughter to boot...and I'm just not there yet. At least not with people I feel uncomfortable with anyway. But I believe it will come .
^^^^Same here. But in all honesty, it comes with time. I had 0 confidence in my professional abilities, fast forward half a decade later and I barely recognize myself, seriously. I just devoured professional books, blogs, forums and videos, it's yielding great results.
As for love matters, I grew up in a very negative environment. Despite of that, I thrived in school. The result is that I come across as very one-dimensional even though I'm not. I'm always trying to bring my book smarts to the forefront, when it's not necessary in every setting. I see other ladies at work who are able to just wind down and put their guard down, with tons of positive energy & laughter to boot...and I'm just not there yet. At least not with people I feel uncomfortable with anyway. But I believe it will come .
I always feel like this and I understand why. Most of it stemmed from childhood. The rest from me just being an introvert. Two things that help me:
-write down what I don’t have and for every point, tell myself I already have it.
-get some extroverted friends. If you can find one on a cusp (I know) it’s better. They will help you to get out your shell, better “accept” yourself and you’ll see you had it all along.
Say that! Why kill yourself for a job that would replace you in a week if you died. NO. My boundary is to choose ME at all times.This morning, a worker called in to work from the field. So, she was calling her supervisor and I just so happened to be by the phone because I was forwarding my coworkers phone. So I looked at the phone, I told myself dont answer but my gut told me to answer. When the employee speaks, I told her "you sound terrible? are you ok?" and proceeded to tell me no, she was sick, but she was out yesterday (because she was sick) she didnt have sick time and work that needed to be done. I told her that our job does not allow us to work when sick (sore throats and no voice included), she can still stay home and use her vacation time (it accumulates faster) and when shes dead, her work will still get done. I finally told her "you need to take care of yourself, but if you want me to account for you, thats fine..." She told me she can go to the doctor.
It was meant for me to take that call. If the people she works with had picked up, she'd be out here still working. A man would not have thought twice about calling out.
And the comment was made in jest, even though Im usually deadpan with my sarcasm (its very high level ). She kept pausing every time I convinced her it was ok to call out. It just really made me feel bad because she really sounded terrible and was debating working herself more sick just to not hear I learned very early that I am getting paid regardless. I still take mental health days.Say that! Why kill yourself for a job that would replace you in a week if you died. NO. My boundary is to choose ME at all times.
Awww you look so cute! I need to stop by into Old Navy. They ALWAYS have a sale.Be back to answer this week questions
I wore this to work today. A jersey dress one size up from old navy and a cardigan from loft. Everyone complimented me. My principal asked where I got it because his wife would love a dress like this no you’d love it on your wife...
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I almost didn’t buy it because flower prints scare me, but for $10 I decided to give it a try.
My organizational + adulting skills are being put to the test. I can no longer get by with procrastination...how do you ladies handle busy times?
@RoundEyedGirl504 How are you handling your pending move + job change?
The Lady Sim seems to be back!
I think I do need to work on not being so hard on myself. I think this is all a process and I'm trying to get to the destination instead of enjoying each day as it comes. I'm going to try to slow down and just enjoy this process. I can say my confidence is higher than a few months ago...and that is progress. Each and every day I'm making progress. Let my focus be on the PROGRESS/EXPERIENCE and not the RESULT. Thank you ladies for that.
I went on a date last night. I don't think he was interested in me. He was very quiet and didn't make eye contact with me AT ALL. I ordered my food and drinks, stayed about 15 minutes waiting on him to initiate conversation or even look at me....then I bounced lol. I joined the table with another girl I knew and we danced and laughed all night long. I have never had the confidence to do that before. This journey is really teaching me to stay in the present and keep the focus on ME.
lol Yeeees he sent me a text message saying he was upset I blocked him *shrugs*Oh WOW! Was he shocked when you left??