2019 52 Weeks To Being Divinely Feminine Thread

[Saludable84]

Rituals that I have are:
-taking time for myself, even if it means not making plans when I know I’m tired.
-hot baths weekly
-wash day, which relaxes me because I get to massage and love my hair
-manicures (pedicures need work, they feel like a routine)
-exercising though I need to do it more often

I’m still working on listening. What I am realizing is that when I sit back to listen and not respond, I’m not as emotional, therefore, not reactive. It allows me to receive and be feminine in my responses. Even towards women. It seems this change is becoming noticed.

 

[PeaceLover]

I made the switch back to full set nails with gel polish. Before I was getting my real nails done with gel polish, but I feel more feminine with the longer nails. I recently got a coffin shaped. It fits in very well with my dresses and makeup for a more polished look.

 

[phynestone]

I've really worked on my receptivity. I was looking at a Shera video and she even touched on the fact that when you come across a PENNY on the floor, just pick it up. That is the universe's way of being abundant and giving to you. PICK IT UP to start off small getting into the habit of accepting from men, women, and the universe and being comfortable with it. Female energy is about staying open to receive. This means you stay open to receive intuitive guidance, apprpriate touch, support, money, gifts, protection, favors, and more.

So let me tell you about my day yesterday.

I came across a penny. I almost went past it, but I stopped rushing and picked it up. I received it. After that I went about my day. Later on I lost my debit card. I called the store, and they said I knew exactly whose card it was. It's the little lady who smells so good and always smiles in the store. Your card is waiting for you. I went and picked up my card with no problems.

After a picked up the card, one of my rotational daters so happened to meet me at the house. He wanted to take me out AGAIN (we had gone out the night before). I could have said naw I'm busy, but I took my time, dropped my son off, and we went out.

Then he went and filled up my tank with gas because he noticed I was low. At first I handed him my card, but he just got out the car and filled it up. I blushed and said awww baby with a kiss. So that was a $60 I kept in my pocket. I was very appreciative and receptive. I said baby you always make me feel so special and cherished with the little things you do for me. I didn't feel like I had to MATCH his gift. I'm learning and practicing everything one day at a time.

How are you receiving today?

Last weekend, I took my car to get serviced and shortly after I sat down in the waiting room, I noticed a $20 bill on the floor. Of course I picked it up, but was immediately reminded of this thread.

I feel a man should take care and cover his woman at all times, and this is one of the many things they should do.

I am receiving by taking more time for me and not being anyone's mule. Whenever someone is bringing their toxic energy or words towards me, I am giving it right back by refusing to accept it. It isn't being savage, it's about respect, boundaries and protecting oneself.

 

[mrselle]

Today is cold and rainy. Its been a long week filled with meetings, appointments for my kids and some volunteer work. Even though I really just want to lounge around in bed this morning, I got up and I'm doing a henna treatment on my hair. I'm doing some laundry and light cleaning. After lunch I should be done with all the housework I plan to do for today. Prayerfully, the remainder of the day will be spent relaxing and we'll go out for an early dinner.

Getting things done and being organized makes me feel peaceful. I don't like rushing to get stuff done. Knowing that everything...or most everything....has been done makes it easier for me to relax and take some time for me.

I've been feeling pretty good about myself lately. I've been getting my hair done every three weeks (a treat to myself and a necessity in order to keep my hair healthy and strong). As a stay at home mom I wear jeans most days, but most of my tops are feminine and I almost always have on my diamond pendant or pearl pendant necklace. I've been more careful to make sure I make direct eye contact when interacting with people and smile. My natural speaking voice can be high pitched and girly, so I make sure to lower my voice just a bit.

 

[Maracujá]

Saw this online, while I was at work the other day. Background story: my next door neighbor, who usually received my packages (he did so for 10 years) was forced to move out. So I was all kinds of stressed out about this important package from Ikea, thinking I would once again have to go to the post office afterwards, to go pick it up and shovel it to my home.

Not so. My other neighbor kindly received my package. So on my way home from work I bought him a thank you note and inserted €5.00 in it. Gave it to him when I went to pick up my package at his home. Do y'all know that this man followed me back to my home just to reimburse me the €5.00? He said it was his pleasure to do something kind for me.

 

[Jas123]

I came across a penny. I almost went past it, but I stopped rushing and picked it up. I received it. After that I went about my day. Later on I lost my debit card. I called the store, and they said I knew exactly whose card it was. It's the little lady who smells so good and always smiles in the store. Your card is waiting for you. I went and picked up my card with no problems.

WoW! You must really make a great impression on the store employees with your lovely smiles & smells.

 

[PrissiSippi]

Let’s test what we have learned so far. Hypothetical Feminine Question:

Your husband pays for groceries. He refuses to eat leftovers. You all are throwing away A LOT of food because of this. This triggers you because in the past you’ve not had enough money or food to eat. You feel hurt about having to throw food away. What’s a feminine solution?

 

[Saludable84]

Let’s test what we have learned so far. Hypothetical Feminine Question:

Your husband pays for groceries. He refuses to eat leftovers. You all are throwing away A LOT of food because of this. This triggers you because in the past you’ve not had enough money or food to eat. You feel hurt about having to throw food away. What’s a feminine solution?

This has been an issue in the past. My solution was to cook enough for dinner, no seconds and that was it. Eventually, only daily shopping was done for meat and vegetables. Finally, on nights i didn’t feel like cooking (because lack of leftovers becomes a strain) I would express not wanting to cook, leaving him with the problem of eating and figuring out the problem. He’d have to cook or order out, pick a meal or a restaurant, and I’d just accept whichever. It becomes an issue, but I didn’t make it my problem.

 

[Brwnbeauti]

I made the switch back to full set nails with gel polish. Before I was getting my real nails done with gel polish, but I feel more feminine with the longer nails. I recently got a coffin shaped. It fits in very well with my dresses and makeup for a more polished look.

Very pretty! I cannot find a salon that doesn’t file my nails down to nothing so I’ve been painting mine 2-3 times a week

 

[phynestone]

Let’s test what we have learned so far. Hypothetical Feminine Question:

Your husband pays for groceries. He refuses to eat leftovers. You all are throwing away A LOT of food because of this. This triggers you because in the past you’ve not had enough money or food to eat. You feel hurt about having to throw food away. What’s a feminine solution?

Talk to him about it and the money lost as a result.

Cook enough just for that meal.

Use the leftovers in new recipes perhaps? This may be too much, but it's just a suggestion.

 

[Brwnbeauti]

Let’s test what we have learned so far. Hypothetical Feminine Question:

Your husband pays for groceries. He refuses to eat leftovers. You all are throwing away A LOT of food because of this. This triggers you because in the past you’ve not had enough money or food to eat. You feel hurt about having to throw food away. What’s a feminine solution?

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Pack it as my lunch or even eat it myself And say something like this “ honey I really enjoyed last nights dinner, so I’m having it again. What are you doing for dinner?”

 

[mrselle]

Let’s test what we have learned so far. Hypothetical Feminine Question:

Your husband pays for groceries. He refuses to eat leftovers. You all are throwing away A LOT of food because of this. This triggers you because in the past you’ve not had enough money or food to eat. You feel hurt about having to throw food away. What’s a feminine solution?

Cook enough for that night, so that there aren't any leftovers. Discuss what nights you will and won't be cooking, that way he knows up front that on such and such night he needs to plan on eating out or doing the cooking himself.

In real life I cook five nights a week. I have learned how to cook just enough for that night so there are no leftovers. The nights I don't cook, hubby knows we are going out. Simple as that.

 

[PrissiSippi]

Let’s test what we have learned so far. Hypothetical Feminine Question:

Your husband pays for groceries. He refuses to eat leftovers. You all are throwing away A LOT of food because of this. This triggers you because in the past you’ve not had enough money or food to eat. You feel hurt about having to throw food away. What’s a feminine solution?

I said the only person you could control is yourself so cook less. Don't nag, criticize, or try to change your husband. If in this case he DIDN'T pay for groceries, ask him for extra money for groceries if it makes the grocery bill increase. Focus on YOU and your happiness and let go of the need of control. Let HIM figure out how to solve this problem. Trust that he knows what he wants and Trust that he knows how to solve his own problems. Keep the focus on YOU.

 

[Sosoothing]

Let’s test what we have learned so far. Hypothetical Feminine Question:

Your husband pays for groceries. He refuses to eat leftovers. You all are throwing away A LOT of food because of this. This triggers you because in the past you’ve not had enough money or food to eat. You feel hurt about having to throw food away. What’s a feminine solution?

I would mention in a casual way, just once, much money is being wasted. It will be up to him to decide how to proceed after my comment.

After that, cook smaller portions. Also I might freeze any extra and serve it in a week or two. Somethings like stews freeze well. And I'm hoping he won't tell the difference.

 

[PrissiSippi]

Week 9: Manage Your Leisure Time

Participants -
@PrissiSippi
@ms-gg
@Supervixen
@TracyNicole
@PeaceLover
@Belle Du Jour
@SimplyWhole
@snoop
@Maracujá
@YvetteWithJoy
@LovingLady
@Jade Feria
@Meridian1944
@Sweetg
@Brwnbeauti
@LadyPBC
@intellectualuva
@tmv1
@rafikichick92
@cam2717
@CurliDiva
@Dee-Licious
@Jas123
@TwoSnapsUp
@Sosoothing
@AnjelLuvs
@taz007
@Keen
@Saludable84
@Soaring Eagle
@Daina
@mrselle
@Nefertiti0906
@RoundEyedGirl504
@LostInAdream​

Recap
January
Week 1: Create Femininity Goals. Find an accountability partner/Buy a Planner
Week 2: Be Present
Week 3: Polish Yourself to become Pretty n Poised
Week 4: Block History Month
February
Week 5: Self Preservation isn't a Luxury; It's Essential
Week 6: What's in a Voice?
Week 7:
Week 8: Turning Routines into Rituals
Week 9: Manage Your Leisure Time

Manage Your Leisure Time/ Become Well Read

What are you out at the reservoir for. I responded, “Writing Poetry.” My brother kind of scoffed. It was a tone I’ve heard oh too much. Silently he was yelling...go do something productive. Go do something worth your while. Leisure time is not important. Be a busy bee.

Participating in leisure and recreation activities can help you become more feminine and in turn help you to better manage stress and reduce depression. Leisure provides you the chance to find balance in your life; it also puts you in control of how you're spending your time, which is an important consideration because you may feel overwhelmed by obligations from your husband, SO, family or children.

Identify those things that make your heart sing. Some will find this so easy; they’ll assume it should go without saying. But a surprising number of people devote so much of their time to work that they’ve forgotten what it is they truly love to do just for fun. Whether it’s physical activities like dancing, tennis, doodling, playing outside, or fishing, or craft activities like photography, sewing or knitting, find those things that create joy and contentment in your heart. Pencil yourself in above everything else. Put yourself FIRST.


Pull your planner out if you have to and continue to pencil in time for yourself. Make time for YOU. Take care of yourself and do it WELL!

One way to accomplish this is to become well read. It will give you more to talk about in conversations and help you to become more well rounded.

Be well read. You don’t need a college degree (although there’s certainly nothing wrong with having one) to be able to read good books! I’m not referring to self-help books. Develop your mind by reading classics, books about history, literature, biographies of important people and missionaries, and other tasteful genres of reading.


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Week 9 Challenge

1. Name 3 books you intend to read that are not self-help books. Specifically, make time to read for leisure.
2. What are you doing in your leisure time? Make a plan to pencil in leisure time each day. Bath time? Read a book for 20 minutes a day? Walk a mile or two? Sit on the beach? Play in the garden? Brunch with some friends? Play on a playground? Work on developing your leisure plan. What can you do for leisure each day?
3. Choose a book or series of articles to read on self-development. Read it for 5 minutes each night before you go to bed, or before getting out of bed. What did you learn?​

 

[Saludable84]

I would mention in a casual way, just once, much money is being wasted. It will be up to him to decide how to proceed after my comment.

After that, cook smaller portions. Also I might freeze any extra and serve it in a week or two. Somethings like stews freeze well. And I'm hoping he won't tell the difference.

I do this alot with lasagna. TBH, its definitely something you can cook today and just have lounging around for whatever occasion. Especially when you are having a little get together and want something you can reheat without having to take away from company.

 

[Maracujá]

Week 9: Manage Your Leisure Time

Week 9 Challenge

1. Name 3 books you intend to read that are not self-help books. Specifically, make time to read for leisure.
2. What are you doing in your leisure time? Make a plan to pencil in leisure time each day. Bath time? Read a book for 20 minutes a day? Walk a mile or two? Sit on the beach? Play in the garden? Brunch with some friends? Play on a playground? Work on developing your leisure plan. What can you do for leisure each day?
3. Choose a book or series of articles to read on self-development. Read it for 5 minutes each night before you go to bed, or before getting out of bed. What did you learn? ​

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1. Currently reading three books (yes, I am one of 'those' type of readers lol): Michelle Obama's 'Becoming' - Joyce Meyer's 'Power Thoughts' and 'Remix: decorating with culture, objects and soul' by Jeanine Hays & Bryan Mason. The latest book I purchased is this one, since it's Black History Month:



2. My main leisure time 'passivities' include reading, writing and cooking. Here's what I made today (Bajan fish cakes):

I had to incorporate an 'activity' for good measure: walking. I do it quite often actually, it soothes my soul and calms me down. I am home once a week, during the week anyway, so I use it for either leisure or to organize my home. Brother Zac Poonen said that most women nowadays know how to work a computer very well, but aren't as well versed in the kitchen. I took it as a challenge .

3. The book I'm currently reading on self-development is Joyce Meyer's book. I read it when I can, to really grasp all of what she is saying in the book, as the mind is the battlefield.

 

[PrissiSippi]

For leisure I had a really good time cooking to make that easy peasy Peach Cobbler. The consistency comes out more like dump cake but I really liked how it tasted. It made me feel like superwoman to get it right and it tasted soooo good with ice cream.

This week I think I'm going to try to make it walking today since you said something about it @Maracujá. I really need some exercise and that would be right on time.

I'm reading Educated by Tara Westover. It was on Obama's Book list for 2018 so I'm hoping I like it.

 

[Brwnbeauti]

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Week 9 Challenge

1. Name 3 books you intend to read that are not self-help books. Specifically, make time to read for leisure.​

The Flight Attendant Chris Bohjalian
If she were blind Laney Wild
Bb with another later.

2. What are you doing in your leisure time? Make a plan to pencil in leisure time each day. Bath time? Read a book for 20 minutes a day? Walk a mile or two? Sit on the beach? Play in the garden? Brunch with some friends? Play on a playground? Work on developing your leisure plan. What can you do for leisure each day?​

Reading
YouTube on various topics
Being
When it is warmer I take walks

3. Choose a book or series of articles to read on self-development. Read it for 5 minutes each night before you go to bed, or before getting out of bed. What did you learn?​

When I wake, Manson’s The Subtle Art... really helps me prioritize my personal life and decide what I will put energy into at work.

HBR’s Top 10 Reads on Managing Yourself
I’ve been reading it every morning as I eat breakfast. Very eye opening on managing your career, especially as a skilled worker.

 

[snoop]

The other day I realized that when I was in my 20s I had a lot of fun. There were certain things that I was doing that made me a lot more feminine than I am now, even though back then I didn't think I was.

One of the things I really enjoyed doing was going to to the library and taking out stacks of fashion magazines...as well as Cosmo (after graduating from Seventeen ) I've been trying to find either US Cosmo or British Cosmo for weeks with no luck. DH surprised me on the weekend with a copy of the US version! He'd been looking too and managed to find one so that's what I'll be endulging in this week. Judge all you want, but guilty pleasures can be soooo satisfying!

My "serious" reading material will be related to German grammar. Sounds boring, but every so often I get a breakthrough and I feel so proud of myself. I had one last week and I'm going to continue to ride that motivating wave through to the end of this week. As I do my homework, I try to make time to practice my penmanship, which I think is a feminine thing to do. Eventually, I'm going to re-write my notes so that they (hopefully) are penmanship porn worthy. I've ordered some highlighters and brush pens and hope to teach myself brush calligraphy.

 

[PrissiSippi]

1. Name 3 books you intend to read that are not self-help books. Specifically, make time to read for leisure.
Educated Tara Westover
Becoming Michelle Obama (I haven't completely finished it)
Americanah- I'm revisiting

2. What are you doing in your leisure time? Make a plan to pencil in leisure time each day. Bath time? Read a book for 20 minutes a day? Walk a mile or two? Sit on the beach? Play in the garden? Brunch with some friends? Play on a playground? Work on developing your leisure plan. What can you do for leisure each day?

Reading
YouTube on makeup, decluttering, and femininity
Walking with my little one

3. Choose a book or series of articles to read on self-development. Read it for 5 minutes each night before you go to bed, or before getting out of bed. What did you learn?

I'm currently reading on the 12 Universal Laws and trying to see how they fit into my life.

 

[Maracujá]

The other day I realized that when I was in my 20s I had a lot of fun. There were certain things that I was doing that made me a lot more feminine than I am now, even though back then I didn't think I was.

Probably because you were led by the spirit and not a bunch of rules (2 Corinthians 3:6). I remember being in my teens and twenties and being the exact same way. Even in relationships, there were no rules, it was all simple: if you're cool with me, I'm cool with you.

Right now I'm revisiting that side of me and I believe Revelation 2:4 speaks on this. This is why I gifted this book to my sister who is in her early 40s:

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A few days ago I spoke about a particular outfit I wore, that had guys looking at me . This is said outfit:



Now granted, this is the kind of outfit that could send the fashion police after me. But guess what? I did not care. It's what I felt like wearing and I felt good in it and beautiful. There's nothing more beautiful than a woman who feels comfortable in her skin, because the way the enemy attacks women, is by feeding into our insecurities. Which are extrapolated if one has an insensitive SO/family member .

Saturday I will be off to cut my hair and I am bracing myself for the negative comments. But guess what? Again: I.DO.NOT.CARE. The following words really set me free: "You were not meant to be understood by people. You were meant to be free."

 

[PeaceLover]

Last Week:
My rituals now are kickboxing, applying makeup every day, and taking my daughter and I to the nail shop for daughter mommy time.

This Week:
In my leisure time I mostly exercise or watch youtube videos while I apply my makeup.

 

[PrissiSippi]

Week 9 Affirmations
Topic: Leisure Time​

1. I walk into every situation expecting the best.
2. I deserve to be healthy and feel good.
3. I am the prize and I treat myself accordingly.
4. I partake in activities that allow me to relax and enjoy life.
5. I am full of positive loving energy. I welcome leisure time and happiness into my life.

 

[MamaBear2012]

Last Week:
My rituals now are kickboxing, applying makeup every day, and taking my daughter and I to the nail shop for daughter mommy time.

This Week:
In my leisure time I mostly exercise or watch youtube videos while I apply my makeup.

I have been looking for a nail salon to take my daughter. DH told me a couple of days ago that I need to spend some mommy-daughter time with her. She loves to play rough, to play with boys...DH said she needs some of your femininity and grace. He's right. She loves dresses, nail polish, etc. I just haven't really put the time into encouraging that side of her. When she comes home from school, it's homework, dinner, devotional reading/listening, bath, and bedtime. On the weekends, I'm tired!!! But I need to make this a priority.

I'm thinking about taking her to paint pottery, to go see a movie, and dinner. Then I can work on finding a nail salon.

 

[PrissiSippi]

I've been consistently "filling my child up with love" before he goes to school and it's been working. He's been less clinging leaving me and he already knows what's about it happen. He blushes and acts like he doesn't want to hug me lol. Don't be shy and bashful boy. Give your mama a kiss :hug:

I'm really having a time potty training him though. I am really going to have to get really consistent with him. I cant wait to cook something yummy tonight.

 

[PrissiSippi]

I have been looking for a nail salon to take my daughter. DH told me a couple of days ago that I need to spend some mommy-daughter time with her. She loves to play rough, to play with boys...DH said she needs some of your femininity and grace. He's right. She loves dresses, nail polish, etc. I just haven't really put the time into encouraging that side of her. When she comes home from school, it's homework, dinner, devotional reading/listening, bath, and bedtime. On the weekends, I'm tired!!! But I need to make this a priority.

I'm thinking about taking her to paint pottery, to go see a movie, and dinner. Then I can work on finding a nail salon.

You want to be in on our challenge? You should join us!

 

[PrissiSippi]

My friend is still participating in the femininity challenge. She sent me this picture today and I couldn’t do anything but smile. Both she and I have come a long way.

 

[PrissiSippi]

How do you femininely pose? There are just certain people who just wonderfully pose. One of my friends that does a great job at this is a ballerina. She moves so gracefully and it shows. Because of her I try to be very very mindful of how I pose. This is an area that is easily improved if you wear heels (I don’t often wear them). What’s your favorite feminine pose?



(They touch on your feet at the 8 minute mark)

 

[PrissiSippi]

T-bone steak with sautéed green beans and loaded mashed potatoes.

I was so surprised but my toddler ate the mess out of this meal! He was so happy to see the “colors” and happily gobbled it up. We had a really fun day playing around with blocks and “cooking” together.