Participants -
@PrissiSippi
@Supervixen
@TracyNicole
@PeaceLover
@Belle Du Jour
@SimplyWhole
@snoop
@Maracujá
@YvetteWithJoy
@LovingLady
@Jade Feria
@Meridian1944
@Sweetg
@Brwnbeauti
@LadyPBC
@intellectualuva
@tmv1
@rafikichick92
@cam2717
@CurliDiva
@Dee-Licious
@Jas123
Recap
Week 1: Create Femininity Goals. Find an accountability partner
Week 2: Print or Buy a planner. Make sure you write down and plan to do things that encompass your femininity. How many times will you cook for your family so they can practice dinner etiquette? How many minutes will you hold each child a day (10-15 minutes?) How will you polish your femininity EACH day, how will you spend one on one time with your spouse each day? Have you made time to go out with a female this week to talk girl talk? Make a plan, be intentional, and write it down.
Week 3: Be more present- Be aware of your surroundings. Don't be a phone zombie. Practice makes permanent. Constantly work on cultivating your femininity by being very present with DH, SO, your children, and friends. Choose human interactions vs social media interactions this week.
Week 4: Accept him- Accept him for who he is. This includes his strengths, his weaknesses, his goals, or lack of him. He is a person full of triumphs as well as flaws just like you. (This goal is continuous).
February- Inner Self Work
Week 5: Polish Your Poise- No one can take you out of your feminine grace except you. Work on not being reactive to problems and asserting your needs but in a gentle way. Work on your look, attitude, gratitude, gaze, and overall spirit.
Week 6: Self Preservation is Key- Learn to protect your peace. Put YOU first. Have a drama blocking plan to protect yourself.
Week 7: What's in a Voice- Work on your feminine voice. Smile. Have a sing-song sweet voice at all times...especially times of struggle.
Week 8: Rock Your Wardrobe- Aim to look feminine, put together, and GOOD every day.
Week 9: Turn Rituals Into Routine
March- Home Living
Week 10: Beautify Your Environment: Buy Fresh Flowers
Week 11: Focus on Your Home Aromas
Week 12: How Clean Is Your Home
Week 13: Set the Tone in Your Home: Make Your House a Haven
April- Refinement
Week 14: Clean Up Your Social Media Accounts
Week 15: Be more mysterious: Work on your Feminine Mystique
Week 16: Take the Help/Compliments
Week 17: Got Milk? Milk Baths
May- Strategically Selfish
Week 18: You Are the Prize
Week 19: Don’t Let them Move Your Goal Post
Week 20: Put On Your Oxygen Mask First
Week 21: Drop the need to be Right: Focus Instead
Week 22: Who are Your Male Vouchers?!
June- Feminine Refinement
Week 23- Leisure Time/ Become Well Read
Week 24- Be like Children; Not Childish but Childlike
Week 25- Let's Get Some Sunshine
Week 26- Communication 101: Stay in Control
Week 26: Feminine Communication 101: Asking Questions One at a Time
One of the goals in this challenge is to learn to display anger and displeasure in a feminine way. One way to do this is to stay in control at all times. One way to accomplish this is being mindful of your voice, tone, and your end goal will help keep emotions at bay and make you better able to communicate in a strategic, feminine, but precise manner.
Don’t raise your voice
What for? You’re in control of this entire show. You set the tone, the temperature, the weather, the wrath, the love. You don’t have to yell for ANYTHING. Yelling usually means you feel unheard or unloved or frustrated. If you are feeling this way, cut the conversation short and either walk away or end it gracefully until you are at peace and can speak again. “I feel neglected because you are not listening to me” is often more effective than yelling. According to neuroscience, the volume of your voice can make all the difference in an argument. Talk softly in your sing-song voice. Whisper if you must. It will drive them crazy, but they will feel silly for yelling or hollering at such a sweet and innocent voice.
Ask ONE question at a time. EVEN IN TEXT MESSAGES.
First, asking more than one question may confuse the male about which question to answer, making it difficult for them to focus on one issue at a time.
Second, your significant other may skip potentially important questions as they attempt to answer either the question they remember or the easiest question, and they may not yield the most important information.
When doing this, they may feel uncomfortable They may want to wiggle themselves out of the questions you just asked them because this is what they are used to. DO NOT allow this. Simply ask the original question again. Remember as a feminine woman you are also unrushed. As a result, allow for silence, don’t rush to save him and fill your own discomfort with additional questions, only focus on listening.
Stick to ONE issue at a time.
If he didn’t come home on time, this is not the time to bring up he didn’t take the trash out either. ALWAYS remember the end goal. You have to focus on one issue at a time. This may take some time to reflect and get to the root cause. Stick to ONE issue, communicate that point, and THEN get to the other issues at a later time.
Make them say it.
Ask specific questions.
Exactly how do you want me to help you? Exactly what is it that you need from me? Most of the time men are reaching. Either they want you to “help” by doing all of their dirty work for them, but they can’t actually say this out loud because it sounds silly OR they are acting like you don’t do something when in actuality you do…then you could follow with another question such as: Do I not do xyz. Have I made you feel like this….how so? Remember only ask ONE question at a time.
All of this being said, remember to not argue. Arguing takes two people. You don’t have to be that person to make it into an argument. Don’t allow it to happen. End the conversation gracefully. Try not to let it disrupt your peace.
Week 26 Challenge
1. Think back and post about a situation in which you could have asked one question at a time. What would have been the questions you could have asked?
2. In future disagreements for the next two weeks, remember to stay in control, ask strategic questions, and ask one question at a time.
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