@TracyNicole
^^^^Oooooo....comments like the one made by your husband's friend just
BURN me up inside!!!
Girrrrl Idk how you remained so calm, but the analytical side of me (the side I'm trying to tone down some...
) would have interjected and ripped him a new one....in a stern, yet feminine fashion of course...
I can't help it, I'm a debater by nature....but I'm trying tone that side of me down some lol.
Ugh! I
HATE that so many men (and even women) have such a negative, warped and inaccurate (I might add) view of us as black women. It really hurts my heart, because not ALL of us are like this! I think there are a few who may fit that mold (maybe due to no fault of their own), but I don't think it's the MAJORITY. Either way, kudos to your hubby for shooting him down.
You married a great man! And good for you for keeping it classy, elegant, and respectful. After all, you did the right thing. A woman is to wait for her man to fight the battles on HER behalf.
Also, I've noticed that sometimes in arguments silence can be golden. Sometimes it's best to just stay QUIET after someone has made such a foolish statement. Let thier foolishness ruminate in the air a little bit, and when they see that you are keeping it classy, they may re-think their words and realize that they are sounding so ignorant. But when we are quick to get loud, angry, offended, and argumentative, it's almost as if it THAT attitude just reinforces whatever negative imagery they have of us to begin with.
I almost hate to ask (because I think I already know the answer
), but what race/culture/ethnicity was your husband's friend???
You are SO right, this "movement" is so much
DEEPER than just US. It goes deeper than just looking nice, smelling nice, shaving your legs, and being "feminine". It's about taking back a RIGHT (a HUMAN right) that we as
black women were born with, that is constantly being overlooked, downplayed, ignored, or trashed. We are WOMEN, and therefore we have a RIGHT to act, think, behave, and be TREATED as women. Period.
Be the best you that you can be, but do it for
YOURSELF. We can't change other people/their thoughts unfortunately, but what we CAN do is show the world that we beautiful, feminine, and regal women.