Feminine Belles - Info/discussion/support Thread
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barbiesocialite
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@sweetvi It means birth order wise you behave as a first born because you are the first of your gender. First borns tend to be doers, have take charge attitudes, tend to be bossyand are used to getting their way. It's a very masculine way of being.
I completely disagree with this.
But that's probably for another thread, don't want to derail.
Kimbosheart
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I think you can demonstrate those leadership, bossy, driven, control traits of an oldest sibling through a feminine lens. It doesn't have to be a masculine expression, it could easily be the feminine expression of leadership.
That video is why I don't mind paying for good courses, reading the book is helpful but I think it takes both the reading and personal instruction to really learn a subject.
That video is why I don't mind paying for good courses, reading the book is helpful but I think it takes both the reading and personal instruction to really learn a subject.
thatscuteright
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I've been lurking. I'm first born of brothers and sisters. I really related to that article about birth order.
Duchesse
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I love this forum. I had purchased "Powerful and Feminine" a couple years ago but never got around to reading uit..I guess I wasn't ready to be all activating my womb juices lol.. I'll start tonight. I really enjoy Melinas blog, but need to add something with a bit more weight to it.
Crystalicequeen123
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@sgold04
Great update!!
I'm glad you went on the date with him and practiced your feminine "charm"
Sounds like you had fun! WOW....channeling that "womb space" is powerful huh?? I have to admit, when I try hard to focus on my womb space while speaking with someone, I notice that I'm more calm, centered, speaking from the heart, and I'm not worrying too much about what people are thinking about me. It's a very calming and relaxing place to be. It's HARD to continue focus there (I always feel like I'm thinking too much...even when I focus there) while speaking with someone or engaging with people, but I'm going to practice so that I can get good at it. I do notice that when I'm "in my head", I am MUCH more worried about what type of impression I'm making on others, or more blabbing and trying to make "good impression". I'm glad your date went well! Would you go out with him again?
@sweetvi
Wow, thanks for posting this video!!!
I had no idea the author was Australian! I noticed a difference IMMEDIATELY when she started speaking from her "womb space" (that always sounds so funny to me lol
) and when she was just talking "in her head". When she was talking in her head, what she was saying was fine, but it just sounded a little robotic. Like, it was hard to pay attention to her or something. But as soon as she started talking about Australia from her womb space, she immediately captivated my attention so much more, she seemed a bit warmer, I was more focused on what she was saying, and her words seemed to have more weight, depth, and emotion. I can't explain it! LOL! 
That's AMAZING!! It seemed like she was really FEELING her words.... whereas before it just seemed like she was rehearsing a script. It seemed kind of fake/phony.
sweetvi
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Im glad!!!! Girl i can't explain it. from calling in the one to Feminity, It is like I am embracing my self more and being more aware and open to new opportunities..
caribeandiva
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Most of my exes are the youngest brother of sisters and brothers. This makes sense.
sgold04
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@sgold04
Great update!!
I'm glad you went on the date with him and practiced your feminine "charm"
I'm glad your date went well! Would you go out with him again?
@sweetvi
Wow, thanks for posting this video!!!
I noticed a difference IMMEDIATELY when she started speaking from her "womb space" (that always sounds so funny to me lol
These emojis crack me up lol. I'd go out with him again, but I'm not romantically interested in him. He's a youngin and still trying to figure out his life, plus i like men who are a bit more masculine. I feel more like his mentor than anything else, but he feels differently. Plus I'm leaving Philly permanently in 3 weeks, so I'm just practicing for the time being
caribeandiva
Human being
Dang it! I wanna read the Powerful and feminine book but it's not in my budget right now. So it'll have to wait. I've been practicing speaking from my womb space for a couple of weeks now (I watched the video before). Placing my hand on my womb space takes me there instantly. I don't know how to do that without looking weird AND still pay attention to the conversation. Plus I keep forgetting to do it in the moment! I need to practice.
TracyNicole
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If you ladies are building your book stash don't sleep on used books from Amazon. @caribeandiva I got my copy for $4.
JollyGal
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Hey! I need to read this thread from my last post. So much development for the feminine belles 
I'm part of the first born club too. I mostly fit the description especially in my dating life
powerful, single men are intoxicating to be around. Femininity must be intoxicating to them too.
Tamera Mowry-Housley I am glad someone mentioned her. I watch The Real youtube clips for her. The Real is a good show the hosts come across as authentic and very in touch with their emotions. I remember parts of the twins reality show.
To me tamera is a good role model to demonstrate a way of being feminine.There are things she has mentioned that I don't always agree with but like it was said in this thread tamera is soft and light. You can see it shining through her. how she does it in the harsh entertainment world? I do not know.
I'm part of the first born club too. I mostly fit the description especially in my dating life
powerful, single men are intoxicating to be around. Femininity must be intoxicating to them too.
Tamera Mowry-Housley I am glad someone mentioned her. I watch The Real youtube clips for her. The Real is a good show the hosts come across as authentic and very in touch with their emotions. I remember parts of the twins reality show.
To me tamera is a good role model to demonstrate a way of being feminine.There are things she has mentioned that I don't always agree with but like it was said in this thread tamera is soft and light. You can see it shining through her. how she does it in the harsh entertainment world? I do not know.
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TracyNicole
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I love Mimi. She has some really great videos explaining why and how to look your best every day.
It's why I posted her color video up thread I love Mimi and her videos
sweetvi
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topnotch1010
Real Housewife of Houston
Me too, girly!! I signed up yesterday and just can't get enough of this feminine stuff!
awhyley
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One more here, the older of two girls in fact.
Whereas for me....having been born into a family where I am the firstborn and siblings are only GIRLS....I find men to be a completely different species altogether.
I am REALLY trying to work on curbing that this year SERIOUSLY, because one of the main points in that book I posted about ("Powerful and Feminine") stated that one of the major things that reduces your feminine energy/radiance the MOST is over-thinking, over-analyzing, trying to control everything, and not being in the present moment.If you think about it, all of those traits (analyzing, controlling, over-thinking, etc.).....those are all MASCULINE traits!
Definitely at the bolded. I have no clue what they're talking about sometimes either
Pertaining to the over-thinking, I have an analytical job as well, so that really makes it difficult to turn off the brain sometimes and just feel the moment.
When she was talking in her head, what she was saying was fine, but it just sounded a little robotic. Like, it was hard to pay attention to her or something. But as soon as she started talking about Australia from her womb space, she immediately captivated my attention so much more, she seemed a bit warmer, I was more focused on what she was saying, and her words seemed to have more weight, depth, and emotion. I can't explain it! LOL!
I know exactly what you're talking about. When she started talking about her roots and traveling back home at first, I was bored to tears and actually turned down the volume. But when I glanced back up, her posture was excellent, staring the camera straight in the eye, and when I turned the volume back up, she was still discussing the same thing (her trip back, etc.) but I seemed to care more. I'm going to practice this, and report back on the results!
Speaking about Tamara, I met both twins last year, and I'm sorry that I didn't study their mannerisms more closely. I'm definitely going to watch the Real more and see if I agree with what's been said here.
topnotch1010
Real Housewife of Houston
sweetvi
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JollyGal
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Thanks for posting this. @topnotch1010 can you tell me how to find the entry? Is it a recent post? I missed it but yes it is shocking. I'm debating whether to email Melina about this blog entry. Surely she must be aware of her international readership so why write something like that? It is offensive and reflects a feeling (hers?) of superiority.
I thought about what she could write about caucasian beauties that fits with the descriptions of the other beauties. The descriptions of the african, asian, middle east beauties paint a good picture in mind. I am struggling to come up with an alternative description for the caucasian beauty
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Duchesse
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In my most un belle-like voice and mannerisms -Oh helllll naw! Definitely not a good look. Where did she post that?
Kimbosheart
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It does look bad, but I don't want to ascribe intent until I read the entire article. That being said, it's not like we will get our money back . So, I do suggest emailing her about it. While I have mixed feelings about teachable moments, just let her know that it reads wrong without accusing her of anything. Most of the information she provides is really just her opinion and not facts. She has a right to her opinion on her blog, however I hope she would appreciate that this opinion may hurt her business and credibility.
Crystalicequeen123
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Mmmmm.....that's not a good look..... Why couldn't she just describe the caucasian woman the same way she described the other women of other races and ethnicities? Why does one version of femininity have to be "better" or more "above" another?
And even if you feel like one is 'better' than the other, not EVERY woman of that race or ethnicity is projecting themselves in a feminine way. It's a VERY generalized statement. I'm surprised she made a statement like that on her blog.
What a put-off indeed.... 
I agree with Kimbo however....I wouldn't go off on her or accuse her of anything, but I would kindly inform her that her comments in this particular blog didn't come across well at all, and that a truly "feminine" woman wouldn't try to elevate one woman's femininity over another simply based on color or race. To me that's VERY unfeminine. Not only that, but it might alienate her readers. Even women who ARE caucasian might be a little put off by that little comment. I haven't read all of her blogs, but has she mentioned anything like this in some of her previous writings? I'm trying to figure out if this is just a slip-up due to poor writing, or if she has these little sentiments sprinkled throughout her whole entire blog here and there.....
topnotch1010
Real Housewife of Houston
https://theartofbeingafemininewoman.wordpress.com
That's the addy for the page. While it's her blog and she can write whatever, I flat out asked her if the blog was designed for white women because that article contained elements of white superiority. We should be very watchful of what we consume. We are told every single day by the media of how we are inferior. I will not knowingly consume MORE of the same and my point is to make my sisters aware of who this person is. Mistake or not, it was inferred and disgusting.
That's the addy for the page. While it's her blog and she can write whatever, I flat out asked her if the blog was designed for white women because that article contained elements of white superiority. We should be very watchful of what we consume. We are told every single day by the media of how we are inferior. I will not knowingly consume MORE of the same and my point is to make my sisters aware of who this person is. Mistake or not, it was inferred and disgusting.
sweetvi
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Let us know what she said?? In the meantime, I'm going to stick to the book that waa suggested earlier by the Australian author..
. Lol
Crystalicequeen123
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Good for you...
Maybe hearing from more than one person will help her to see that her comments could be viewed as offensive to some. I'm actually kind of curious to see what she responds back too lol....
Lol...Yes, I've read ALL of "Powerful & Feminine" and the author doesn't tout any "white is right" mentality in her book. It moreso focuses on the INSIDE of a woman and being able to captivate attention by your movements, how you interact with others, your charm, being PRESENT in the here and now, being comfortable with yourself, your energy, etc. She does talk about the "physical" outer appearance later on in the book, but I never got the impression while reading her book that ww are the epitome of femininity. If anything I got more of a holistic approach from her, and felt that she moreso valued Chinese and Eastern approaches to femininity as opposed to the Western world honestly.
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