Thread for the heartbroken

LdyKamz said:
Thank you. As far as the bold :lol: I guess it's all relative. I feel like it's been forever! But I'm not feeling better. It's Saturday and I woke up feeling the way I feel when I've been dumped. Just so down and depressed. I showered, did my hair, did my makeup and got dressed. I look bleeping hot! But I don't want to leave the house. I just want to sit here all day and night by myself in the dark and just feel sad. I seriously have no idea what's wrong with me.
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Awww, I'm sorry you're still feeling down. If you're really not up to going out, maybe put on something funny to watch, or do some at home self-pampering.

I know in the past for me, when the weather started getting warm, I would feel extra single and get a little depressed that I didn't have a SO to go out and do stuff with. But it always passed. Whatever it is, I hope you come out of it soon.
 
It's cloudy now and that fits my mood. I want to drink but I didn't want to go outside so I compromised with myself and went to Duane Reade like 5 steps from my apartment and got some cheap wine. I'll get drunk quicker and I was back inside in under 5 minutes. If I could get the Mexican place on the corner to deliver me some chips and guac my sad arse cinco de mayo will be complete. :(
 
LdyKamz said:
It's cloudy now and that fits my mood. I want to drink but I didn't want to go outside so I compromised with myself and went to Duane Reade like 5 steps from my apartment and got some cheap wine. I'll get drunk quicker and I was back inside in under 5 minutes. If I could get the Mexican place on the corner to deliver me some chips and guac my sad arse cinco de mayo will be complete. :(
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Hope you're feeling better! Are you into nature at all? Next time you're feeling down, consider going on a short, relaxing hike. It saved me from myself! I go every weekend just to reset. I either listen to the sounds of nature or pop in an audio book or guided meditation. It's nice to be away from it all.
 
MzLady78 said:
I'm sorry this happened to you.

I know it's hard, but try not to spend too much time trying to figure out what you may or may not have done wrong. In all likelihood, it has nothing to do with you. Something probably changed for him, and instead of doing the kind and mature thing and telling you, he chose to go this route.

As far as what to do, all you can do is start moving on. I know you want answers, but continuing to reach out to him while he's ignoring you won't do anything but feed his ego and make you feel worse. And there's really nothing he could say that would justify his behavior anyway.

Men's lack of empathy is really disturbing to me. :nono:
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Thank you MZLady78. I will do exactly as you suggested. No answers he gives me will be a good enough answer to justify the lack of empathy or even common decency. I will just swallow it and move on. Nothing else can be done.
 
Evolving78 said:
When this has happened to me, I would give myself 5-7 Days to get over it. And believe me I get where you are coming from. I was having the time of my life with this guy, and he just disappeared on me. I just couldn’t make sense of it. But I gave myself a week to ponder over it, and would check the days off on a calendar. I would be on to the next! Lol
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Thanks Evolving78. I have stopped trying to make sense of it too .
 
@SurferBabe the weather is finally nicer now so this might be a good idea. It gets difficult to force myself to do anything when I just want to go straight home and hide in my apartment though.

I went to volunteer this evening and then visited with my mother and grandfather. That lifted my spirits a bit. But then I explained to my mom how I've been feeling lately and she was very unhelpful. She said she thinks my biological clock is ticking and it's time for me to settle down so I better get to work. So yeah, considering I have no prospects that was not something I wanted to hear.
 
LdyKamz said:
Thanks for asking. Pretty much the same. But I'm trying to focus on other things and keep myself busy. Not sure when the feeling will pass but I just feel in a daze, less optimistic about romance, and kind of down in general. I'm pushing through though and hopefully eventually I'll start to feel better.
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:(

I hate that you're still feeling this way. If you ever wanna talk or vent, I'm here.

:bighug:
 
hopeful said:
This too shall pass. It won’t always be like this. Life is fickle, fragile, and fleeting. Try not to take it too seriously and take extra good care of you.
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I'm trying. I think when people feel like this they forget to. I'll admit I've been trying to just stay busy and get through it instead of actually taking care of myself. I think I'll do something nice for myself tomorrow.
 
So still nothing has changed. What in the world is my problem? I'm trying to be normal and do normal things and treat myself well. I've been hanging out on the forum more often than usual for entertainment, talk to friends, read, went to the bookstore and bought myself some new books, gone for walks (even though the weather has been miserable), made myself a fancy dinner one night this week, meditated and have taken like 20 bubble baths and still I'm kind of just going through the motions. All those things are good and they feel good but I still feel just kind of down, heartbroken and blah.

I went on a date this week too and it went well. Great actually. He made plans for the next day but next day came and crickets. I didn't bother reaching out. He finally called and apologized and made plans for tonight. Crickets. Lol I don't care but I'm already in a funk and wasting my time pissed me off even more for a second. I was able to get over that almost immediately. But I still feel like crap in general. Somethings gotta give.
 
LdyKamz said:
So still nothing has changed. What in the world is my problem? I'm trying to be normal and do normal things and treat myself well. I've been hanging out on the forum more often than usual for entertainment, talk to friends, read, went to the bookstore and bought myself some new books, gone for walks (even though the weather has been miserable), made myself a fancy dinner one night this week, meditated and have taken like 20 bubble baths and still I'm kind of just going through the motions. All those things are good and they feel good but I still feel just kind of down, heartbroken and blah.

I went on a date this week too and it went well. Great actually. He made plans for the next day but next day came and crickets. I didn't bother reaching out. He finally called and apologized and made plans for tonight. Crickets. Lol I don't care but I'm already in a funk and wasting my time pissed me off even more for a second. I was able to get over that almost immediately. But I still feel like crap in general. Somethings gotta give.
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(((Hugs)))
 
I just let my two year relationship go. I’m not cut out to be a forever girlfriend. At this point if I allowed the relationship to continue I could mess around and be like Chrissy . I’m not her and he surely isn’t Jim Jones. I will not wait for any extended length of time for a man to pick me or settle for me .
 
So my ex sends me a text ...he all of a sudden got approved for a huge home with enough room for me and my children to move in with him and his kids. First of all didn’t I explain to him there will be no shacking ? Secondly you just assumed because I love you I’m willingly to uproot me and my children in a home that only has your name on it? No sir my mama didn’t raise a fool. No ring means no commitment. Girlfriends don’t get acknowledged in not a single court of law . I’m too old for that nonsense . I need more and deserve more. I’m over it . I drank two Coronas and I’m watching Jurassic Park.
 
Adgirl said:
I’m dealing with a case of being ghosted by a guy I’ve been seeing for two years. All was well , at least according to me but he started to ignore my phone calls with a quick I’m in a meeting reply and never calling then followed by I have visitors in town I’m Busy texts therefore I stopped even trying. I did not even see the red flags. I kept checking in my head over and over again but nothing stands out in particular. Two years of my life I can’t get back! We never had a fight, no cheating , no disrespect....then poof gone :( .Don’t know what to do ? I don’t feel hurt. I’m just confused. What to do ?
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So , Ladies! I just found out from some friends that I was left for a blond European white woman, that is drunk all the time and he pretty much drags out of bars as she gets loud and embarrassing .
Amazing! Not even an upgrade! I’m just speechless to say the least. I’m ashamed for him!
 
Adgirl said:
So , Ladies! I just found out from some friends that I was left for a blond European white woman, that is drunk all the time and he pretty much drags out of bars as she gets loud and embarrassing .
Amazing! Not even an upgrade! I’m just speechless to say the least. I’m ashamed for him!
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Your gain and his loss/problem. Sounds like you dodged a major bullet!!!
 
Adgirl said:
So , Ladies! I just found out from some friends that I was left for a blond European white woman, that is drunk all the time and he pretty much drags out of bars as she gets loud and embarrassing .
Amazing! Not even an upgrade! I’m just speechless to say the least. I’m ashamed for him!
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It doesn't mean he left you FOR her either. I'd say he just left and this is what's occupying his peen for now. Water meets its level girl and you DEF dodged a bullet. I'll admit, I'd probably be racking my brain trying to figure out what was wrong with me, where did I go wrong etc. but trust and believe, if he wasn't on your level the universe had to let you know since you ain't seen it yourself. NOW you see and NOW you know :)
 
@Gine 4s. Thanks for shading some light on the situation. You are so on point!
Fine 4s said:
It doesn't mean he left you FOR her either. I'd say he just left and this is what's occupying his peen for now. Water meets its level girl and you DEF dodged a bullet. I'll admit, I'd probably be racking my brain trying to figure out what was wrong with me, where did I go wrong etc. but trust and believe, if he wasn't on your level the universe had to let you know since you ain't seen it yourself. NOW you see and NOW you know :)
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I dealt with a hood type dude with a huge peen that had me confused for about a year or two in my 20s.
Then, he got another girl pregnant and I was so happy and even offered to help buy clothes for the baby lol. It was a weird reaction but I also knew he was DONE and broke forever. Then, the girl started crank calling me. Poor girl, she didn't see how far ahead I was. PS word on the street is he's still hood, on the outs with his family and hasn't seen his daughter in a long time. Who's laughing now? I mean he wasn't serious but still...he was NEVER ever ever on my vajin level to begin with. Admitting that I used to mess with him is embarrassing but let me tell you that peen was amaaaazing...
 
I just found out that a guy that I dated for almost a year around 7-8 years ago is getting married, and it opened up this wound that I thought had long since healed. He is the only guy I was involved with to where I never got closure, and our relationship went out with a huge bang. It took me several months to put it behind me. We were good friends before we started dating, and it hurt to lose that when things went bad.

So now I think about him more often than I wish to now and I'm trying not to be too down about things. I still miss him and wish that something more would've come, but I know that it really wasn't meant to be even if we had stayed connected.

I just feel so lonely now and like I'll never find a good guy. Everyone is getting married or starting new relationships, and I'm having a hard time dating.
 
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