*-*Single Ladies Support Thread!!*-*

yaya24 said:
Something weird just happened. A man called me on my personal cell (after searching my information online).. just to tell me he sent me a FB friend request on Friday and was waiting for me to accept.

I only picked up the call bc the # called me 3xs back to back, so I thought it was someone I knew or something important.

He proceeds to tell me he's sorry if this is kind of weird, but that he found my information online and to please check and accept his FB friend request and that he would like to get to know me and be friends.

Chile.

Our phone call was brief, but I was legit concerned. That was a 1st. I'm use to the random one off unsolicited IG/ FB phone calls..

He sounded like a 1st gen American and mentioned his Indian background and asks me if I'm East African or Nigerian.. I didn't answer any of his questions, but I was still kind, bc men can be unhinged/he could be a serial killer lol
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I watch scammer
baiter videos and
a scam is what
that sounds like.
Romance scams.

Such weirdos.
 
PatDM'T said:
I watch scammer
baiter videos and
a scam is what
that sounds like.
Romance scams.

Such weirdos.
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This guy is hilarious (and smart)!

It is scary that scammers are really able to trick unknowing people.

I watched this one on cloning voices (below).. all they need is 10-15 seconds of your voice and can possibly clone it.
10-30 minutes is ideal.

**This is probably what the caller was trying to do to me.**

Think about all the people that go "back and forth" on calls with scammers.. (my parents argue with them etc). They are trying to get voice samples. :(

 
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yaya24 said:
This guy is hilarious (and smart)!

It is scary that scammers are really able to trick unknowing people.

I watched this one on cloning voices (below).. all they need is 10-15 seconds of your voice and can possibly clone it.
10-30 minutes is ideal.

**This is probably what the caller was trying to do to me.**

Think about all the people that go "back and forth" on calls with scammers.. (my parents argue with them etc). They are trying to get voice samples. :(

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It is scary.
I don't answer
numbers I don't
know whether it
is a call
or a text.

Even when I
was looking for
work, I figured
they would leave
a message if it
was legit. If
no message is
left, I Google
the number. If
it means nothing
to me... BLOCK.

Check this out:
 
fall semester is starting in just a few short days. I'm a lil nervous about it tbh.

smh I won't have any time for recreational reading until december :cry:
yall know my TBR pile bout to be long as hell
 
CoiledOrchids said:
fall semester is starting in just a few short days. I'm a lil nervous about it tbh.

smh I won't have any time for recreational reading until december :cry:
yall know my TBR pile bout to be long as hell
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Can you do
Audible? Being able
to "read" while
you commute to
work or school
by listening worked
like a charm
for me when
I had school
or work keeping
me from curling
up with a
good book. :poke"
 
I was sad because my phone screen stopped responding. The warranty expired and I don’t have enough money to go the shop and fix it. They wanted over $120 to replace the screen. It was pretty much useless.

It was a bad purchase because it was an impulse buy and I feel like I could’ve gotten a more recent iphone at a better price. I wanted to wait but I needed it for a car rental I had placed to take my mother out for Mother’s Day.

I watched a few YouTube videos and bought a screen replacement from Amazon. I was able to change the screen and back glass for around $35. The shop wanted to charge me $180.

I was so happy I was able to fix it, I bought myself a privacy screen to celebrate.

I want an Apple Watch to track my steps and sleep habits. I might buy a broken one and fix it myself.
 
GraceJones said:
I was sad because my phone screen stopped responding. The warranty expired and I don’t have enough money to go the shop and fix it. They wanted over $120 to replace the screen. It was pretty much useless.

It was a bad purchase because it was an impulse buy and I feel like I could’ve gotten a more recent iphone at a better price. I wanted to wait but I needed it for a car rental I had placed to take my mother out for Mother’s Day.

I watched a few YouTube videos and bought a screen replacement from Amazon. I was able to change the screen and back glass for around $35. The shop wanted to charge me $180.

I was so happy I was able to fix it, I bought myself a privacy screen to celebrate.

I want an Apple Watch to track my steps and sleep habits. I might buy a broken one and fix it myself.
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@GraceJones I had to drop the class smh. I didn't want to but my payment never processed which is strange. It's fine, I can save up and try again in the spring. I'll still finish the prereqs though, just a semester later than i'd planned
 
I love declining sub-par experiences before they even start.

That's self love ♡ and self care.

Below was a recommendation from one of my (happily married) male friends yesterday. We are like family. . But he clearly does not know me, after sending such a suggestion, and thinking it was appropriate.

FIRST OF ALL (lol) I am nobody's rebound, and all my friends know I am not interested in making new friends with single males ... or converting possible dates into clients. Bad business.

Men are weird lol. His wife would never have approved this pairing for anyone she had high regards for.

My friend called me after me shutting it down.. and I asked him would he ever set his sister or one of his daughters up with someone like this?

I am single by choice, not desperate for any man to come and frustrate my life.

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In the same vein, my mother gave my number to a guy even after I said I wasn’t interested in talking to anyone :rolleyes:. All I knew was his age (55), widowed and with a son (30). And his pic on WhatsApp shows he wasn’t a troll. :lol: I saw “Yoruba demon” when I saw the pic.

He reached out a few weeks ago via text to chat on the phone on a particular day. I hate talking on the phone plus I wasn’t free that day. Which I replied back to say I wasn’t available. Guess that is respectable of him to attempt to set up a time to chat. Then I replied back saying texting is fine. He replied back like 3 days later to ask about my day :rolleyes:. I replied back like an hour later. Then he responded 5 days later asking the same thing. I didn’t reply and have ignored since. :rolleyes: Not wasting my time, energy, and peace on someone who can barely communicate. He probably used to putting in little effort and the women come flocking. He got the wrong one! And probably looking for a caretaker at his age. :nono:

And my mother is the last one I would be getting dating recommendations from after seeing her husband choice. :look:

Yay for boundaries! And not being pressed.
 
One of my besties lives out of state. She just texted a pic of her hanging out at a bar having drinks with friends.

I told her to have fun and be safe. As for me, I'm sitting under the dryer doing a dc. I'll pick a movie to watch as I'm airdrying. Maybe have a glass of wine. On my couch. Alone. Living my best life! :lachen:
 
My rental is finally close to being done. I’ll finally be able to make money off of it.

I started to take up coloring as a hobby. I bought a really cute Nightmare Before Christmas coloring book. I got it from Five Below. Five Below has quickly become my new favorite store. It has a lot of cute stuff:

Does anyone have any fun coloring books that they like? I’m looking for a color by numbers book.

I’m also trying to make my home nice. Interior design, DYI home improvement, and furniture refinishing are also some of my hobbies. I’m still working on my few side businesses.

I still haven’t gotten a better playing job. I’m still hoping I’ll find one in the new year.
 
GraceJones said:
My rental is finally close to being done. I’ll finally be able to make money off of it.

I started to take up coloring as a hobby. I bought a really cute Nightmare Before Christmas coloring book. I got it from Five Below. Five Below has quickly become my new favorite store. It has a lot of cute stuff:

Does anyone have any fun coloring books that they like? I’m looking for a color by numbers book.

I’m also trying to make my home nice. Interior design, DYI home improvement, and furniture refinishing are also some of my hobbies. I’m still working on my few side businesses.

I still haven’t gotten a better playing job. I’m still hoping I’ll find one in the new year.
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Congratulations on your rental properties status!

What style are you going for with the interior design of your home?

I'd like to do some updates to my home's interior in 2025. I think I want to go for a maximalist vibe.

I love bright fun colors, but still want it to look grown up. I've saved some cute pinterests pics and IG posts to help me bring my vision to reality..it will be budget friendly and girly.

I have this coloring book:
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yaya24 said:
Congratulations on your rental properties status!

What style are you going for with the interior design of your home?

I'd like to do some updates to my home's interior in 2025. I think I want to go for a maximalist vibe.

I love bright fun colors, but still want it to look grown up. I've saved some cute pinterests pics and IG posts to help me bring my vision to reality..it will be budget friendly and girly.

I have this coloring book:
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Idk my style is a bit eclectic. I would like to do a boho glam style in my bedroom, but a more rustic theme in my office. My second bedroom operates more like my office though, although I do my furniture repairs there too. I was thinking of blend between modern and traditional for the living room. I have a Pinterest board that I made up also to give me more ideas.

My bathroom hasn’t been updated since the 70s. It has tile on the walls, shower, and floor, but I think it would cost too much to retile. I’m not sure what else to do to it to make it look more modern.

It’s a bit annoying because all of the dust from the sanding gets on my desk and computer. I don’t have a garage to work out of.

As for my coloring, I have a bunch of coloring pages from Etsy I have saved in my cart. I will be printing from work . I don’t want to waste my ink at home.

Here’s my Pintest board that I made. It’s inspiration for my bedroom


https://pin.it/6YmnVnJus
 
currently washing my hair. I'm not sure what to do with all this hair for work tomorrow or next week but i'm getting my braids done october 4th.

this weekend, i'm doing the walk for suicide prevention. It's supposed to be nice out so i'll have a good time.

other than that, I'm trying to take better care of my mental health. I'm exhausted tbh I might have to take a mental health day soon
 
I’m going to a volunteer event on Saturday. Some of the ladies are saying that they hope to meet guys there, but typically if there are men at an volunteer event the ladies swarm.

That kind of triggered me because I’ve resigned from dating completely. I’ve had too many bad experiences. I’ll spend all day working on my hair, make-up, and outfit only for no men to approach or ask me for my number when we go out. Now I just make sure I’m presentable and clean. It just makes me feel like no matter how much I try, I’m still unattractive to men.

I want to meet a guy, but I can’t help but to think that men are just looking for the most attractive trophy they can trick into sleeping with them. Plus my last experience really traumatized me. The guy was really broke and his member was short. I thought maybe I had to try to make it work with him since I really don’t have many options. He made me all these promises of spending more time together and then when he broke up with me he said he thought I only had casual relationships. I haven’t dated for a year and I’m still too bitter to start again.

Idk when l’ll be ready. I’m just too bitter with my experience with men.

Right now I’m just focusing on my businesses and making new friends. I’m just over trying so many strategies.
 
I nixed ole dood at six months. Communication issues that I will not continue to address. We are grown adults.


And have added 2 to the casual dating roster.

Shy boy is younger than me. He’s boring as toast and about to get dropped.

Shorty doo wop, fine like wine. I’m about to play him like a violin.
 
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