Thread for the heartbroken

They say a key to healing and growing is to keep the heart open, so when you are in the midst of the heart ache take very deep breathes and let the pain pass thru you.

it's a small thing but yet it helps.

just my 2cent

Jesus said let not your heart be troubled. . .
 
I know I am with the ABSOLUTELY WORST man I could have found. I could not have gotten worst if I had prayed, "God give me worst". The question I ask myself on a daily basis is, Why are you still with this man?

I sometimes feel so bad about myself because I know I can not find my TRUE if I stay with this person who is just taking up space. We've been through so many things some good, mostly bad.

Every time I go I start to feel like I am going to ba alone forever and succum to the plethora of calls and text messages.

He went to jail for like 4 months and I tell you,, hat was the happiest time I've had in a long time. I saved money, hair grew out AND I lost weight. HOW GOOD IS THAT???
He got out,, and it was ALLLLL down hill from there.

I'm putting off this marriage for as long as I can cause my aunt said,, once he gets those married hooks in me,, he'll NEVER let lose.

I don't know what I'm waiting for. Everytime he mess up, I say ok, thats it. Then take him back, then pray he mess up again so I can be rid of him (each time I say FOR REAL THIS TIME).

I know this is some dysfunctionsl ish.... and don't be so hard on me ladies...
 
aww ((HUG)) to all the ladies going thru it. I just went thru it. Dcember & Jan I couldnt get out of bed for days and didnt eat. I lost 15 lbs, hair was matted and falling out. the pain was unbearable. I probably woudve healed a lot faster if it wasnt for social media and access to everything. We were together Valentines then i found out he was already seeing someone right after we broke up in dec. the scab was ripped open. when we r heartbroken and want them back we tend to glorify or make the relationship better then what it really was. Lessons are learned about ourselves. God sometimes takes us into troubled waters not to drown us...but to cleanse us.
Time time time helps. my winter was horrible but my spring is looking up and i'm stronger and learned a lot. My next relationship will be the right one.
 
Penelope74 said:
I know I am with the ABSOLUTELY WORST man I could have found. I could not have gotten worst if I had prayed, "God give me worst". The question I ask myself on a daily basis is, Why are you still with this man?

I sometimes feel so bad about myself because I know I can not find my TRUE if I stay with this person who is just taking up space. We've been through so many things some good, mostly bad.

Every time I go I start to feel like I am going to ba alone forever and succum to the plethora of calls and text messages.

He went to jail for like 4 months and I tell you,, hat was the happiest time I've had in a long time. I saved money, hair grew out AND I lost weight. HOW GOOD IS THAT???
He got out,, and it was ALLLLL down hill from there.

I'm putting off this marriage for as long as I can cause my aunt said,, once he gets those married hooks in me,, he'll NEVER let lose.

I don't know what I'm waiting for. Everytime he mess up, I say ok, thats it. Then take him back, then pray he mess up again so I can be rid of him (each time I say FOR REAL THIS TIME).

I know this is some dysfunctionsl ish.... and don't be so hard on me ladies...
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@Penelope74 it may look like and feel like you are not making any progress but trust me, you are! You have to go thru your go thru until you get through. Once your mind is made up ain't nothing no one can do about, you will not even need a reason to dismiss him. one day or one moment you will decide "I'm done".

Don't you be so hard on yourself. change is coming.
 
I cannot wait until this feeling past. This weekend was hard considering we spent the weekends together. BLAH
 
I have a coworker who just came to me about her guy friend... who also happens to work with us. They've been on again/off again for over a decade and he recently got back with one of his exes a few months ago and proposed to her... even though he and the coworker are still dealing with each other. All I could tell her is that a man will only do what he's allowed, and that she needs to keep her head up and let go of him. I've been there, and I could see that she wanted to break down in my office. That is one pain that I wouldn't wish of satan himself.
 
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Feeling like its the end of the World. Emotions fluctuating. He's not cute but has a level head. I think he has the wrong impression of me such as he thinks I am looking for to much at this point. I wish I knew how to get over him. He's definitely dragging me and seems to want to call all of the shots (at least that's what I think because he calls me when he gets good and ready). What I'm really afraid of is, when he calls, if I don't answer then he will definitely stop trying and that I don't want (not right now). I just don't know how to "win" him over. I say things to him that I think he wants to hear thinking I am helping boost his ego then after saying it I regret it because he's not bulging. However I am not calling him even though I want to sooo bad. Will this feeling eventually go away I keep asking myself. I really need encouragement. My head is spinning:drunk:.
 
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I ended our relationship MONTHS ago and rightfully so. I finally realized he didn't deserve me. So tell my why is he the one struggling and having a hard time with this...STILL.
 
deltadreamland said:
I ended our relationship MONTHS ago and rightfully so. I finally realized he didn't deserve me. So tell my why is he the one struggling and having a hard time with this...STILL.
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Oh no, deltadreamland!

I'm so sorry to hear this. It seemed like things were going so well!

But of course, if he wasn't acting right, I'm glad you gave him the boot!
 
crlsweetie912 said:
Cause he knows he missed out on a good thing!
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Right. Couldn't tell him a thing when he was out running the streets with MULTIPLE women. Once the ish hit the fan and I received confirmation times two, I severed all ties. For some reason, he wasn't expecting that. :ohwell: Maybe I gave off the vibe that I was desperate and would put up with anything from him. :nono: So.....he's been struggling. I don't care. I have not looked back.
 
deltadreamland said:
Right. Couldn't tell him a thing when he was out running the streets with MULTIPLE women. Once the ish hit the fan and I received confirmation times two, I severed all ties. For some reason, he wasn't expecting that. :ohwell: Maybe I gave off the vibe that I was desperate and would put up with anything from him. :nono: So.....he's been struggling. I don't care. I have not looked back.
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Oh my goodness....smh. that stuff always comes to light... .
 
blackviolet said:
What do you mean? Is he promising he'll change? or trying to get you to give him another chance? or is it as simple as just seeing him ?
More info needed to help us help you fix it:blowkiss:SuchMagnificance
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No...havent spoken to him since he left. ..just thinking about breakups and heartaches in general...tired of going through the motions. .
 
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