Thread for the heartbroken
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crlsweetie912
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Country gal
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I know it is hard.Sometimes the loss is a blessing and we just don't realize it. It is hard getting over the dissapointment. I saw some pics of another couple getting married. It just feels like everyone else just got it right. it's not fair when you heart is broken and the sadness of what could have been.
Smiley79
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I am so depressed lately. I ended things with my guy after a year because he lied to me about being married. He wasn't with her it was just that the divorce wasn't final and I hadn't known he was married. It hurt me a lot to know he could lie about something like that. And then his reaction afterwards was even worse, like I did something wrong. He claimed he wanted to work it out but I just can't trust him.
I really cared for him but I knew it was for the best. I was hoping he would try harder to get me back even though I knew we should split. Now I've found out that he is seeing someone else. An old friend he's known for quite some time I think. It hurts. And there are days when I feel like if he came back I would take him back without a second thought. What is wrong with me. How do I get over this?
I really cared for him but I knew it was for the best. I was hoping he would try harder to get me back even though I knew we should split. Now I've found out that he is seeing someone else. An old friend he's known for quite some time I think. It hurts. And there are days when I feel like if he came back I would take him back without a second thought. What is wrong with me. How do I get over this?
Angelicus
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Simple short story: Met a guy a few months ago, handsome, sweet great conversation, had dreams and goals. Great chemistry. I fell hard...
Then he started mentioning about being just friends... That he didn't have his life together. I ended everything from that moment. Block block block.
This is a broken record.
Thanks for reading.
Then he started mentioning about being just friends... That he didn't have his life together. I ended everything from that moment. Block block block.
This is a broken record.
Thanks for reading.
Had a panic attack in the elevator this morning. It's really strange that after a couple months I am now going through the grieving stage of the end of my relationship. Everytime I think about it I get physically ill and want to wretch. i don't know what my problem is but everytime I close m eyes I see his face and I just wish it would go away.
This morning in the elevator I thought about the text from him I would usually be responding to the way I did every morning. I looked at my phone this morning with no message and suddenly couldn't breathe. I'm pitiful.
This morning in the elevator I thought about the text from him I would usually be responding to the way I did every morning. I looked at my phone this morning with no message and suddenly couldn't breathe. I'm pitiful.
Lucie
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KammyGirl, you are NOT pitiful. You are hurting. We all deal with heartbreak in our way. When I am heartbroken I cannot eat, sleep, I stay in bed as much as I can. You spent time with him, had routines, shared love, et cetera. It is going to hurt. I wish I could say/do something to make you feel better but only time can do that. In the meantime don't feel bad for feeling how you feel. XO
Holla
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Make a list of all his good/bad qualities. Write everything down. Stick it in your purse and keep a copy by your nightstand.
Plus, would you want him to see you like this? Think about that. He's out on the town with some chick and you are in bed looking drab. Wouldn't it be better if the next time he saw you, you were looking fierce! I mean drop dead gorgeous! Girl, do some exercise tapes, slap on a mud mask, and swipe on a coat of pretty nail polish. Men always -- ALWAYS! -- pop back up in your life so be prepared for when he does.
Make him think that HE lost a good thing, not you.You know what's funny I was doing this last night. And I wrote down all the good things first. I started feeling awful. Then quickly wrote down all the bad things before I lost my nerve. I even started writing down silly things like he does this weird winking thing when he's nervous or trying to be sexy. It's weird. Hahaha That made me feel just a little better.
MRJ1972
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Make a list of all his good/bad qualities. Write everything down. Stick it in your purse and keep a copy by your nightstand.
Plus, would you want him to see you like this? Think about that. He's out on the town with some chick and you are in bed looking drab. Wouldn't it be better if the next time he saw you, you were looking fierce! I mean drop dead gorgeous! Girl, do some exercise tapes, slap on a mud mask, and swipe on a coat of pretty nail polish. Men always -- ALWAYS! -- pop back up in your life so be prepared for when he does.
KammyGirl
This is the absolute TRUTH!!!! Friends told me the same thing when I was going through my breakup, and I did not believe it. Chile, stay cute!!! LOL
But, make new memories/experiences...Don't go out alone!!!!...Go out with friends ( girls and guys) casual dates, etc. I forced myself to go out and never regretted it.
I hear you guys but for some reason I know that he is now just somebody that I used to know. No one that I will ever see or hear from again. Why is that still making me sad? Who the heck knows. But I know I'm ready to get over here...now. I wish I had somewhere to go tonight. BUt tomorrow I'll do something.
Holla
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I was told years ago that men hear silence louder than words. It is surprisingly true. I use silence after I have said everything there is to say, not before.
I also read this today and thought of you: "How would your life be different if you learned to let go of what has already let go of you?"
Delete his contact info from your phone. Delete old voicemails and texts. If you have to pick up your phone 100x just to see if he called/text/ etc., fine. But don't call him. Men know how to reach you when they want to reach you. Trust me.
khadicurls
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You called him because it's familiar. Have you deleted his number from your phone yet? Do you know his number by heart? I was so frustrated with a guy over Valentine's Day that I deleted his number. I automatically dialed his number when I told myself that I wouldn't. He didn't answer either. So I had a very quick conversation with myself and deleted his number.
Healing from a broken heart is a very frustrating process but it takes time for the heart to heal. I promise that you will feel stronger and happier in the end. Just try not to beat yourself up about it. There are a lot of wonderful women here on LHCF that have given you great advice and support.
I was told years ago that men hear silence louder than words. It is surprisingly true. I use silence after I have said everything there is to say, not before.
I also read this today and thought of you: "How would your life be different if you learned to let go of what has already let go of you?"
Delete his contact info from your phone. Delete old voicemails and texts. If you have to pick up your phone 100x just to see if he called/text/ etc., fine. But don't call him. Men know how to reach you when they want to reach you. Trust me.
I like this. I actually thought about it and I know it would be different. I am deciding right here right now that this is it. I'm finished. No more of this crap. I'll feel bad. But I'll get it through it. And I'll be just fine! Thank you so much!
Contact info deleted. All of our pictures from my cell deleted. I haven't even looked at the pictures on my computer or my camera. There are just too many to tackle right now but like I said above, I'm finished. I'm tired of letting him make me feel this way. I can take control of this situation and move on with dignity and respect...what little I have left anyway.
Thank you ladies sooooo much! I needed the advice in this thread. E-hugs all around!
I keep coming in here to read the post I wrote before this one to keep me sane. Is it a good thing that I woke up this morning almost numb? I don't know, but I just felt nothing. I had an appointment this morning and the whole train ride I stared out the window not thinking about anything but listening to my music and just staring. Same thing on the way back. I don't remember a single face I passed on the street, can't remember if anyone said anything to me. I'm just...blank. It sounds like a bad thing but it feels good because it feels like nothing. Am I making any sense at all?
Omgosh I wish I knew about this thread a few months ago. What a difference time makes. While I'm not 100%, I def feel like I'm moving forward. I have had some bad moments recently but they are becoming far and few in between.
Ladies stay strong. I'm going to read this thread now.
Ladies stay strong. I'm going to read this thread now.
Was having terrible dreams last night. They were more like reliving our happy times together. I've never dreamt anything like that before. Reliving actual times we were together. It must have been the drinks I had last night at the show I went to. Now I'm up early with thoughts of him running thru my mind. So much for feeling numb. 
Briabiggles
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I hate this thread bc I hate seeing so many beautiful ladies hurting. I've posted in here after a couple break ups. Things get better! They really do!
I agree with everyone stating to delete the contact info. Do it! Don't talk to those guys anymore. Calling them up just to chat doesn't help you. Cull them out of your life.
((HUGS))
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I agree with everyone stating to delete the contact info. Do it! Don't talk to those guys anymore. Calling them up just to chat doesn't help you. Cull them out of your life.
((HUGS))
Sent from my iPad mini mini.
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