Awesome! I sense no rancor in your questions, btw. I am just as interested in you are in discourse, and I will try to answer as truthfully as I am able.
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In my view, the above women are more likely the "type" you will see walking down the street in any black neighborhood on any given day. In fact, I swore I saw S. Epatha in Fort Greene the other day at one of my fave restaurants. My brother was with me and he is a L & O fiend and he was like, "No, that's not her." But he admitted that the woman did look a lot like her. I maintain that you are far more likely to see an S. Epatha lookalike than you will a Paula Patton lookalike or someone who looks like, say, Kerry Wilson. Aisha Tyler is a slightly different story - I find her to be the average "pretty" black girl, i.e., nice skin, proportioned body, a few typically "black" features. There are far more Aishas in the world than there are Paulas or Kerrys, but probably even more Reginas than there are Aishas.
I'd disagree. If that's you in your avatar, you're gawgeous! Lovely skin and cheekbones. You have a beautifully well-proportioned face.
LOL, no I don't think you're naive at all. Again, I don't find you to be average-looking, but even if I did, I agree that there are exceptions to every rule. I'm not going to stand here and say that some less-than-attractive AA women won't be able to catch the eye of a marriage-minded White American male. That would be foolish. But on average? I think there are more WM dating above-average-looking BW than are dating average girls. I again use the women in this very section to back up my argument. All of them are lovely, some of them could be models. I have not yet found a woman on this board who has said she is dating or has dated a WM who I found to be average in looks.
This is an excellent question. I will use myself as an example. I am a classically trained cellist. I am now at Columbia University getting my graduate degree in cello performance. I speak three languages - Russian, English and Spanish. I have lived abroad. I despise rap music and have season tickets to the opera and to the New York Philharmonic. I watch the BBC regularly and read magazines like The New Yorker and The Economist. I have more in common culturally and socially with the average White male living and working a white-collar job in New York than I have with black males from my old neighborhood. Yet, I have had zero white boyfriends, even though since age 8, when I first started playing cello, I have been around white American men and white men of European extraction day in and day out. Most of my friends are white and male. My best, busom pal is white and male. Yet I have had - I'll say it again - ZERO white boyfriends. I have been told by white men that I am the "perfect" girl, have everything in common with them, but they are not attracted to me. I had a guy who was a third-generation Russian-American befriend me to practice his Russian. We had tons in common and enjoyed each other's company. Yet, he dated a Thai girl who barely spoke English and fussed with him all the time. She was gorgeous, though.
But I can't stress this enough - my experiences are just that. Mine. The OP asked a question, and I answered it the best way I, personally, knew how. If it's your experience that average black women can attract a white man's attention for a real relationship, then I can't and won't argue with that. Everyone's experiences are different. But I really don't think - and it has been alluded to on this board in several threads that are now locked - that every black woman in the world will be able to attract a marriage-minded white man. I just don't think that is possible.