Re: your first bold--yeah, I wear big hoops too (not all the time, but I like em!). I remember my exboyfriend's girlfriend (yeah, messy. We all went to school together
) talking about how hoops were ghetto, but uh.....not on me, boo! lol
Second bolded: I have realized that one of my oldest friends is very tomming and cooning when it comes to white men. It turns me off of her (we're growing apart in other ways but this right here makes me give bold, obvious sideeye). She was telling me a little while ago how she works with this "regular" white guy and found out he had a black babymama and searched her on facebook and saw that she was "regular black" and now she feels differently about him. She literally said, "I almost want to thank him for being one of those white men that dates black women."
Really, girl? Please stop. And she's dated white men before and doesn't have a problem getting approached by anyone, so I really don't get it.
Regarding the fetish idea: um............I have straight up asked a guy about that before. (I know, that's bad. I'm ratchet
) In my defense, I didn't word it in a way that implicated race.
ETA: About the idea that they don't like Black women who date Black men....IDK. That hasn't been my experience. There is one guy in particular--professional type; attorney--who has seen me on a date with a Black guy, came up and made light conversation, and also knew about a boyfriend I had. And he would always ask me out or try to keep tabs on whether I was still with the Black boyfriend. He'd always say, "...how's that guy?
" And then also, I've been downtown with my Black guy friends and white guys will approach when I get alone or with a girl friend. (And not necessarily wiggers, either. lol.)
One thing I don't like, though, is that white people (men) definitely see all these articles about the state of Black people and will use it in their approach if they get comfortable enough. I don't like that
(Now, obviously, the guys that will try to play on something like that probably aren't desirable anyway, but it has made me aware of the fact that they are aware of the "Black men in jail/Black women single" propaganda.)
