Blossssom said:This is my favorite one! LOL!
The only way I would be able to get a man of another race is to clubbed him over the head!
It's nice to see that dark women get hit on by white men. They must live outside of Cali, though.
The last time I saw a really dark black woman with a white man was about 15 years ago. She was 9 months pregnant and they were walking to his pick up and he looked ready to bolt!
Nice & Wavy said:The same with me. Men of other races, usually Italian men and spanish me hit on me all the time. I married an Italian because that is who the Lord showed me would be my husband. At first I was like "Lord, you know I like my dark skinned brothers" but when the Lord spoke to me about him (my husband) I was obediant and I'm so grateful I was because he is one of the best things that ever happened to me and I have been truly blessed because of my obediance to God and not listening to myself!
Hairgasm said:I was thinking about this the other day, so thanks for bringing up the topic!
My mother is a redbone like Vanessa L. Williams' complexion, and I am the darkest one in my family. My color is pure brown, like peanut butter. Not light, not dark, just brown.
We were not allowed to discuss color and shades in my family, so no one did. My mother never even mentioned the fact that she's a redbone, and I've never heard her refer to herself as light-skinned.
It was a GOOD thing for me, and has helped me to develop a healthy attitude regarding skin color. I see beauty in us all.
As a brown-skinned woman, I've never been taunted by our people for being "high yellow" or "black as night."
Do y'all think that people from either extreme (light or dark) are the most color-struck with color complexes, or do you think we're all guilty of it for the most part?
BackToMyRoots said:I can honestly say that i don't look at black people in terms of color. I see individuals as either beautiful or not beautiful, tall or short, thick or thin, funny, etc. That's why i can find Beyonce pretty and India Arie gorgeous at the same time. I'm a woman of a darker hue, when I look in the mirror I see someone that is attractive (not to toot my own horn). I also know that my body type...i'm tall and slim with a little bit of everything...may not be what some black men initially find attractive or some white men for that matter. So, even though I'm approached by men of all races it all comes down to individual preference. If a brother is into big butts and boobs, he's not going to look my way, or he may notice my smile and decide to look a little deeper.
I'm also honest enough to recognize that because i may have what some call the "model look" (i get asked that question alot) that men will approach me for that reason as well. Across all races there is this fascination with models...which i think is completely shallow...but that's apart of it as well.
melodee said:Hmmm! Interesting. I know lots of folks who get mad at black people (especially women) for claiming black heritage and/or not being the ethnicity that they're perceived to be.
This happens to lots of girls I know--my sister is one of those. People insist she is Middle Eastern. Usually not me--unless I am wearing a hairpiece or wig--my naps give me away, or shall I say--scream " I'm black and proud".
ETA: The original question...oh yeah... I get hit on by all ethnicities. But I have been spoken for since I was a teen, so all them men can keep on steppin. (The compliments are nice though)
Being that she lives in the DC area, Sylver2 says she gets mistaken for Ethiopian alot as well.Hairgasm said:I feel you on this. When I first saw your pics, I thought you were Middle Eastern, too.
I get this ALL THE TIME from the Ethiopians...especially in D.C. Good Lord!
One cab driver got in an argument with me over it. I told him the majority of my African side comes from East Africa (Ethiopia/Eritrea), but he was steady saying that my immediate family is from there and I was trying to "pass" as an American.
I'm the same race as Ethiopians, but nationality is a whole other thing!
I have to agree. I just like what she had stated. It was beautiful.UmSumayyah said:Just had to highlight that part. Isn't that the TRUTH!
SweetNic_JA said:I can sooo relate to this. I would wake up in the morning with my 4a/4b twa smashed into the pillows and my baby would turn over and say "baby yoou look so beautiful". He always always complimented me, especially when I started wearing out my natural hair. He isn't white though, he's Japanese.
Those pictures came from Andre Walker's book. Andre Walker is Oprah's stylist. I have the book on my bookshelf.auntysmoky said:No problem..... I just did a google image search under nappy hair and it came up.
Thanks for your answer.
auntysmoky said:First of all, I didn't intend to offend any of my darker skin sisters. I just want and have to know. Also, I am speaking from my experience and those of my close friends.
I live in South Florida. I don't think that FL is the best place to find and date men of other races because even though FL is diverse, a lot of people are closed-minded. I also believe that the educated and anti-MTV/BET AA sisters are struggling with finding partners here. I feel that many of the men here are more interested in dating Caribbean women or native African women. All of the stereotypes about African American women have affected the way a lot of men of other races view us.
I am attractive and I have no problem getting a man but most of the time I see white men with darker complected women. My darker complected friends have white men checking for them all of the time. I get a few crumbs here and there. Why is that? I want to know.
1st Question - If you are a darker complected woman, do you feel you can get a man of another race easily because they hit on you regularly.
2nd Question - If you fit question #1, where do you live?
**White = anything other than black.
I know this may seem like a crazy question but I'm sure there is at least 1 other woman out there that feels the same way.
BTW, I have dated several middle eastern men, Arab and Non-Arab.
Candy1978 said:I lived in South Florida (Miami) for 6 long hard years (lol), and I can attest that a sistah..especaially an American Sistah can't get NOOO Love. I now live in Orlando, and men hit on me all day long, even men outside my race..especially Puerto Rican men (which are my all time favorite flavor...que rico..lol). I love Orlando...not to mention it's cheaper that South Florida!!
czyfaith77 said:Those pictures came from Andre Walker's book. Andre Walker is Oprah's stylist. I have the book on my bookshelf.
Candy1978 said:I lived in South Florida (Miami) for 6 long hard years (lol), and I can attest that a sistah..especaially an American Sistah can't get NOOO Love. I now live in Orlando, and men hit on me all day long, even men outside my race..especially Puerto Rican men (which are my all time favorite flavor...que rico..lol). I love Orlando...not to mention it's cheaper that South Florida!!
Shea said:i have been wanting to try dating outside my race how do I put myself out there?
Ayeshia said:Shea if you're into the online dating thing that would be one of your best resources besides the tradtional dating scene. In "normal" scenarios you have to wonder if the guy is interested in women of other races and becasue of that you're lmore likely to blow him off (these are instances where you notice him before he notices you) . But with online dating racial preferences are right there in profile...no need to inquire I even found that some men who only listed whites and asians as their preference contacted me wanting to know more and if I wanted to chat.
classimami713 said:Is there interrcial speedating?
UmSumayyah said:Why do you think that is? :scratchch: I wonder why they don't include bw in their preference list.
Ayeshia said:IMO I find that with most white men anything in comparison to their skin is considered dark anyway regardless of the "shade" of brown you are. To them you are darkskinned. I never really thought much more into it other than that.
I asked and the # 1 reason is that they thought that I wouldnt be interested in them or that socially they havent been around black women enough to develop a curiosity....Usually these men are older white men in their mid 30s to early 40s...but for the most part the younger generation of white men do have AA as a preference. I dunno i never checked hispanic or indian in my box but I saw some pretty hot profiles on the net....but I dont contact guysrozlips said:I've been asking this question for quite a while, mainly because people keep asking ME! I've suspect that for the most part black women don't cross their minds as possible date/mates. Some might assume that black women wouldn't be interested in them. Others might not want to put women of other races off. And of course, the risk of losing white skin privilege. But its still odd to me that given those issues that they would then email a black woman! erplexed You'd think they'd at least take the time to alter their profile if they simply came across someone they found attractive. Bottom line is, I haven't a clue, and don't know how I'd respond if I encountered this particular phenomenon. But based on the emails I receive this happens A LOT, and bothers the hell out of black women. And well it should. At the bare minimum its both insulting and discouraging.
sunnydaze said:I only get hit on period when I am looking broke down..ironically the time when you really just want to be left alone.
sylver2 said:I'm brown and all I ever get is east indian men, iranians, pakistanish men, arabic coming on to me all the time. Ethiopians most definately. Italians and the Irish men.. can't keep the Irish men away..lol they love some brown suga
Arcadian said:hmmm.. Well I consider myself to be pretty dark. Considerably so than my siblings.
I went on a date with a black guy only once. Later after the date he said he was intimadated and turned off by my intelligence and that I "talked white" and was reserved. Oh, but I was cute.
Ok damn, I'm geeky but come on!!
Back in the days of dating, black men generally did not even want to speak to me. hell its not like I'm not cute! But I wasn't "light" and I wasn't "white" so I guess that disqualified me.
One thing I have heard from guys I dated is that they just don't see me as being black. So dunno what that means either
I do get hit on by a lot of white guys, especially of european descent. I always have. Could be how I carry myself, how I talk, my interests, or what have you. I really just don't get it myself.
SO is white, told me he had to import me cause he couldn't find him no women up here ( hell he could have been blue with yellow polkadots and I would have been fine with it as long as he was respectful of me, intelligent, and cute) I have NEVER been picky as far as color was concerned. But if you do have to work with what you get handed sometimes. I think I made out ok
I dated more men who had a fetishism about dating a woman with muscles than someone who was black, which made me extremely gunshy in the dating game.
-A
Blossssom said:This is my favorite one! LOL!
The only way I would be able to get a man of another race is to clubbed him over the head!
It's nice to see that dark women get hit on by white men. They must live outside of Cali, though.
The last time I saw a really dark black woman with a white man was about 15 years ago. She was 9 months pregnant and they were walking to his pick up and he looked ready to bolt!