I understand that reaction - and I've had it at times. I wasn't judging you for what you wrote. That reaction is the natural product of the ideals and myths we've been indoctrinated with - both by family members and media. I can't even can't how many times I've had an extended family member say under their breath " yeah, but he ain't gonna marry yo a**"
I recognize that being shocked by any man's - no matter how beautiful/rich/talented - genuine interest in black women is wrong. It's an implied self-devaluing. Like - no way am I good enough for him. But being able to recognize it doesn't mean I'm completely free of it.
I love watching little blonde chicks do it in reverse with my SO. He's white and I'm in the vicinity but in their mind it's like ' no way is he with her.' and then they walk off all salty a few moments later - self confidence shaken by my BF's obvious lack of interest.
OK, but still I have seen some twins, and you are like ok, that one definitely looks better.
I think a lot of those white men are 'faking the funk' though.
Take Timberlake for example - he's got blaccent, does r&b/pop music, dances but he goes supermegawhitegirlwhite when it comes to dating. I think he'd be down for a black chick, but he lacks the cojones in real life to go after one.
I do believe that you are my IR dating twin, as we have had so many similar experiences.
Gawd, older white men loooove me. I'm so not interested, but if they want to buy me drinks while on the road, I won't stop 'em!(These are men in my industry that I'll see when we're at events/conferences and stuff... I know the deal and make sure that they get the idea that every one of our interactions will be out in the open with a whole lot of people around!)
I've had an NRA/Reagan-loving WM from Florida show serious interest and his mama was one of those, "Well, what about the children?" types. Yeah, that wasn't gonna work, but he was for real though in his interest.
The others have been more middle-of-the road. Only one true tree-hugging liberal hippie type, lol.
My current guy is more center-right, but like you said, he's the type to have traveled the world, interacted with many different people, etc., so his political leanings are based mostly on fiscal policies and his general upbringing in conservative towns, not any kind of closed-mindedness toward others.
Not the type that I'd expect to holla at a sister in a million years! 
You should see the type of white guys my mother attracts!
While we're on the subject, I've noticed a trend where I live that goes against what many people assume about age and open-mindedness. Black women in their 30s and older are approached way more often by white men than the younger ones. Young white men here don't show much interest in black women on the same scale as their older counterparts. I don't think this is the case everywhere, but it certainly is the case here. You'd think that the younger generation would be more open minded, but it looks like that comes with age. I have a black friend who dates white men exclusively, and she talks about this all the time.
However, I've seen "two" older interracial couples in the last year...still not many because it's so rare. Just today, I was at the mall and I saw a couple...they were older....the guy was walking with a brace and the black lady with him didn't seem to be his attendant..I assumed they were a couple. Last year, I was at a store and there was an older couple...odd as they looked 
(I'm not going to use this opportunity to rag on them)...they were at least 65-70 years of age. I also had a conversation with an older white man last year or 2007 in a doctor's waiting room. We're from the same area and somehow he just mentioned that he "got him a Black woman." 
erplexed Not sure why he felt the need to tell me that but he was older like 60-65. Oh and speaking of getting hit on my older white men...they used to "flirt" with me all the time. A few years ago, an *older* white dude felt the need to give me his "card" and said he has a big house and lives by himself. 
See, I was coveting his pancakes and he took it to mean something else (you have to understand this was hospital cafeteria food and I was like why am I stuck with cold grits and he gets pancakes? ).
I think a lot of those white men are 'faking the funk' though.
Take Timberlake for example - he's got blaccent, does r&b/pop music, dances but he goes supermegawhitegirlwhite when it comes to dating. I think he'd be down for a black chick, but he lacks the cojones in real life to go after one.
A hot mess. You like what you like, and nothing can change that.
Not because I think they don't find us attractive but because I rarely see it. Most white dudes around here that date Negroes are either hella old, hella fat, or pseudo-gangsters. when someone talks about how they're married to/dating a fine white boy, I'm looking like 
blush:
when I finally see his picture.
Just visited this site, and I admit I didn't really read it. I just looked at the pictures. There are a lot of actors and other yt men in power, who I had no clue about them being married to, or even attracted to black women.
My biggest shock was Luke Goss, who I think is a very fine specimen of a man, and I was always attracted to physicallity in movies. Was married to a black woman. He just embodies the yt womens dream of a handsome man so I admit I was shocked a black woman snatched him up.
Pictures for those who don't know who he is
In one night with the king
In Hell boy II (just remembered that hell boys wife is black as well)
He also was in blade II as the main villian. But that movie was gross to me.
When he was younger far left.
and check out his brother....
Memories...from wayyyyyyyyyyy back 
) But she was raised in a very insular bmc cmty.
OMG I didn't know these two were still in the entertainment industry!
Pictures for those who don't know who he is
If it's not tmi, what city and state is this?
What do you think it is about your mom and aunt?
I just recently *really* opened my mind to actual IR dating and am finding something similar. I remember nice guys of different races used to hit on my mom, but she couldn't even let herself consider it. (She's tall, like 5'10, a size 10 and gotta donk
No time for that these days. It's a numbers game.
nono. Yea the older generation of BW aren't going to go there. I don't blame them. Looking at the crap my mother had to endure growing up, there's no way she could ever be sexually attracted to a white man and look past his skin.I might get stoned for this, but I find myself incredibly shocked when I see a good looking white dude with a black woman.
Even on here
My mother and aunt currently reside in North Mississippi but end up dating a lot of guys from Memphis
I'd have to agree with this...I don't see many "young interracial couples." Like I've only seen "three" over a period of 10-15 years.
Okay, now THIS makes a whole lot of sense.
I completely understand why many older black women wouldn't want to go there. Although things have changed to a degree, what happened back then to black women (including sexual exploitation) was real.
I just give the side eye to black women under 25 from say, uh, Cleveland, Ohio, who are like, "White men only want you for sex!" and they haven't even talked to nary a white man.
(I just randomly picked out Cleveland because it popped into my head... basically, I am just referring to young black women so far removed geographically and age-wise from real-live in-your-face exploitation by white men and are just feeding off what they've heard from others.)
rolleyes. Part of her IR experiences might have to do with the fact that her and her WM male peers spent their formative years in a very progressive era. Also, she attended a PWI progressive independent school for lower and middle school, so that might have something to do with it too. Throughout her adult life she's also dated IR and I think her location (BK,NY) and the circles she travels in also played a major role.No lie, this pic of the actor really reminds me of the Republican guy I mentioned. When I first saw him (the Repub), I immediately felt like I knew him from somewhere - I finally realized that he strongly resembled T-1000 from Terminator 2
. His eyes had a coldness about them but were very penetrating...That is hysterical. They don't even interact with white men but want to tell you what one wants you for?
Luke's wife. AAAllllriiight.
http://www.lukegossforum.com/forum/index.php?showtopic=112&hl=shirley
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Hfc6liFhC6M
If it's a Older man in the club - a lot of the time he's foreign. I have NO idea what that is about. erplexed
I think the age thing - especially moving forward - is geographic.
When I go out with my friends I'm approached by more young white guys than any other group. After that comes young black men. (YBM are by far the most vocal - they will make comments or *ahem* YELL at you from across the room in an effort to get my attn.) Older WM tend to approach me when I'm minding my own business - I got invited to a corporate christmas party while pumping gas
In college I found that young white men are interested, but sober many of them are afraid to approach black women b/c they assume that we don't date "out". I've literally heard them say this. It's kind of like some BW don't check from them b/c they figure they aren't checking for us, and some WM don't check for us, b/c they figure we aren't checking for them.
Now..you get some liquor in 'em and it's a whole other story.
hands, on hips naah ahhh ova heya.You should see the type of white guys my mother attracts!
While we're on the subject, I've noticed a trend where I live that goes against what many people assume about age and open-mindedness. Black women in their 30s and older are approached way more often by white men than the younger ones. Young white men here don't show much interest in black women on the same scale as their older counterparts. I don't think this is the case everywhere, but it certainly is the case here. You'd think that the younger generation would be more open minded, but it looks like that comes with age. I have a black friend who dates white men exclusively, and she talks about this all the time.
