Ok. I'm back on the wagon.
Since last week i've stepped it up. I started going out with this "girls night out" meet up group that i joined eons ago. I went last week wed. and had a BLAST. After that I went again this Wednesday and had a good time too. Last week I was drunk and just giving out my number to any guy who asked..smdh..foolish i know. anyway i got this guy I just can't shake now. I swear he won't leave me alone. He called me constantly, I never picked up. He began msg'ing me and just wouldnt stop calling. Finally I responded and then he eased off a bit.
Anyway, altho I had fun that night i was thoroughly annoyed at all the middle eastern men that came on hella strong and IMO, treated me or expected me to be, a common whore. NOT cool.
i didnt meet anyone worth mentioning that night, except for two cool girls from the meetup group. anyway i went again this wednesday and it was cool, cept for the fact that i met this french girl from the meet up group and her male friend. they asked me if i wanted to go eat denny's w. them and i said ok. while on our way out this fine hispanic guy that i was eye tried to talk to me and she brushes him off and goes "my friend doesn't wanna talk to any guys! sorry" i was like.."****!!! says who?" IMH of course. smdh. there was this guy that i kept talking to the whole night, but when i was walking by i saw he was talking to some other girl and kept on walking. the french girl's male friend was ok until i realized he had kids and was a divorcee, who was bitter about marriage. so i figured my prospects for the night had dried up and just ate breakfast w. these bitter folks and went on my way.
the next day. thursday. i hit the jackpot. i was looking extra fly in my blk dress, knee high boots, beautiful accessories, eye catching make up and high bun w. tendrils hanging down. me and my gf was supposed to go to this one club she said she heard was good. we went and it was a bust. so we tried another... latin night. so we went downtown. couldnt find anything that let ladies in free. it was 1am and clubs down here close at 2am so we didnt wanna pay for any place that would just let us in for an hr. so we continued to walk. just as i was beginning to lose hope, i spot this one place i always wanted to try. its this bar that always seems to have interesting characters in it. so i ask the doorman how much. he lets us in free. its ladies night! hurray!
we go in and at first its a little uncomfortable bc of the way the bar is built. there was no real place to chill. finally we go to the back of the bar, and we're sippin on our cups of water, lol. we're just hanging out looking at ppl and discussing them, then someone gets up from a table and i tell my friend to grab it. we sit down and continue our convo. someone asks to sit down across from us. he's not cute at all and im just wishing he'd get up and stop cramping our style.
my friend sees this cute white boy thats a few feet away from us. she keeps going on and on about how hot he was. the weird guy eventually gets up and a minute later the cute white guy sits down. of course he effs it up by his opening being "so we have this bet. we're trying to figure out what 'knuck if you buck' means." of course my first thought was "why is he askin US that? are we supposed to know bc we're black?" i dont say that tho. instead i just answer his question, which leads to more questions and chatter back and forth. i didnt think he was cute at first but i thought he was funny and his personality made me kind of attracted to him. he calls his friend over from the bar and they both sit down and we're all talking. the convo leads to them telling us about there being a back part of the bar. where the dance floor is. we immediately feel dumb for thinking that the bar was really that small. we decide to go back and check it out. we were thinking the boys were going to come w. us, but apparently it was just a misscommunication bc they werent behind us when we arrived at the other part of the club. anyway, i immediately spot this GORGEOUS guy that I saw for a mini second earlier. he was just...
he was really tall, very lean, he looked kind of serious, stood very straight, had big light brown eyes and long curly eyelashes that i would kill for. pretty caramel skin and looked kind of exotic. like you cant tell if he's black, mixed, hispanic..what. all i knew was that he was fine.
and of course when im close to a guy that high up in the realm of hotness, i become incredibly shy and have a hard time making eye contact and even looking like im the least bit interested. so me and my friend are talking and i cant help but notice that he keeps looking my way.
i thought maybe he was intimated bc i was w. my gf. (he was standing by himself). but then my gf said she was gonna go back to where she just came from to go look for the white boys. so i said ok. he still didn't approach. i could tell he was looking at me and id look at him but he'd turn away and when he looked back at me i'd turn away.
when my gf came back i pointed him out to her and she agreed that he was cute and said he kept looking at me. she suggested we go over there but i told her that if he was interested he'd come to me. i wont go out of my way to make things easy for him. anyway we go on the dance floor and come back to our spots and me and him are still playin the same old game. finally i remembered the whole maintaining eye contact thing and smiling. which is SOOO much harder to do than u would think. esp if the guy is really cute. but i finally got tired of the back and forth and looked his way, he looked my way, i chickened out and looked away again. lol. BUT then i immediately forced myself to look back again. he was still looking so i maintained eye contact and smiled. he gave a little head nod and started walking my way. smh. this whole thing lasted about 30 min and all i had to do for him to come was smile. lol. i made a joke about it after he came over and he said he was gonna "make his way over" and he was "getting there." lol, girls he wasn't gettin nowhere. if i never smiled at him we would've never started talking. as cute as he is you would think he'd just go up to girls expecting them to be interested. *shrugs*
anyway, to make a long story short. the three of us hung out for the rest of the night. he walked us to my car. we exchanged numbers. he msg'd me that night and we msg'd until we fell asleep. then we msg'd all day today. we set up a date for monday which is only 3 days away. im SO excited ! he's easy to talk to and we seem to be getting along. we're going to the fair, which i think is an excellent place for a first date.
next week i plan on going back to that bar/club. this time however i will get there much earlier and i'll drink a lot =D i'll make sure to tell you guys how the date goes.
oh yea. stats on him
height: 6'2
race: black and guyanese/indian (hence the exotic look i guess)
build: lean and muscular
age: 25
profession: pro athlete (he REALLY didnt wanna tell me this) and apparently, according to my friend. he got recognized by 2 diff ppl while we were walking back to the parking lot. (im always in my own world so i didnt notice). i hope this doesnt become a problem. i really dont kno if im confident enough to date an athlete. but let me not jump ahead of myself.
anyway i already kno not much can come out of it bc he's only gonna be here for a few mths. he travels a lot. anyway, ill let u ladies know how it goes.
ETA: i made a mistake on his height. he's 6'4, not 6'2
) I'm not sure where it's going, but just stay on friendly terms for now.
. I guess that wasn't that bad lol. I'm either really picky or it was the quality of the guys, or maybe it's me 
I felt like such an a-hole after I sent the message. I apologized, and hopefully he'll forget/forgive me. I'm kicking myself now, but if it's meant to be, then it will be.
erplexed So I told him I don't have unprotected sex and I don't have sex with men I'm not in a committed relationship with so I don't really have any issues like that. He then proceeded to ask me how many men I was currently dating, after I responded "a few" sarcastically. He then told me to tell them all I'm done with them because I'm seeing him now. Then he tells me he dodges 10-12 women/week who want him. 
and I sent it to Tim. 
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i kno its a major no no to go out w. a guy you just met 3 times in one week, but i feel like im entitled since we're working w. limited time here.
