Single and Ready to Mingle: 2011 Edition!

[thatscuteright]

Ladies Please help, I recently moved to a new place and I would like to become more social,but I do not know where to start.

 

[lushcoils]

What kind of place did you move to? Any clubs you can join? Events you can go to? Things you can volunteer for? You look on meetup.com?

 

[Siren84]

Me! Me! Me! I want to join toooooo! I want to get out more. Been cooped up way too long in this little *** town.

 

[phynestone]

Ladies Please help, I recently moved to a new place and I would like to become more social,but I do not know where to start.

I second meetup, salsa dancing, going to the gun range (lots of men), intramural sports clubs, gyms, sports bars....

Can you give us a location or a city that's very close to where you are. By close, I mean, at least within an hour of you.

 

[SuchMagnificent]

Checking in..
nothing really to update, I havent met anyone..potentials have shown their true colors and my enthusiasm and patience is wearing very thin..
Did a little mingling last saturday..went to a college track meet..People every where..I smiled, made eye contact (somewhat)..Had fun..Will be going to Mike Epps concert this saturday with the bestie..I hope to have a great time..Hope all is going well with the rest of the ladies in the challenge.

 

[phynestone]

^^^^Don't get discouraged.

 

[lolascurls]

I went out with work colleagues today and they were all very friendly. We went to a local pub (bar) down the road and it was a nice relaxed atmosphere.
One thing I noted is that instead of what I always worried - that I would be either a bored wallflower or be bored by the conversations around me - I was pulled easily into conversation with people I hadn't formally met before. Men and women around my age, all happy to a night out, free from work and just chat about what our plans were, what we did before this and then the ladies broke off giggling about love-lives. Funnily enough, we managed to get some of the guys to jokingly throw in their sixpence (they were single).

A good chilled night and I could head off home before 10pm with some others because we all have work tomorrow morning...lol! I need to do this more often! You know, mingle!

 

[phynestone]

Guess what girls?

As of Friday, I am no longer single. I won't get into specifics as I am about to go on a trip and won't be back for 2 weeks, but I've been seeing a few guys these past few weeks and he stood out. The guys I continued to see had a lot of things I was looking for in a man, but this one distinguished himself. And I kept my standards high in the process.

I am keeping my Goddess books that have helped me in the process, but let's just say there's a lot of helpful information in them. Of course, Sherry Argov's books, John T. Malloy's Why Men Marry Some Women and Not Others and just staying on top of my appearance.

This is what I had PMed someone not too long ago. My story, even though it is somewhat new. Please don't quote b/c I will probably delete it. Thanks!

I had gotten a little fed up with putting all of my eggs in one basket, hoping the one guy I was interested in would notice me or want to get to know me. After being stood up for a date by one of my classmates, I decided to take matters into my own hands and try my hand at online dating. I posted a nice photo of myself and received over 100+ in 24-hour period. From then, I started to date, date and date! I mean, I was worn out, but well-fed for a few weeks. I thought things were looking good with the first guy I began seeing, but then he dropped me out of nowhere and through a text message! It botherd me briefly, but then I realized there were PLENTY of other men that wanted to get to know me. I had placed three requirments on my page - be a Christian, between the ages of 27-36 and have a bachelor's degree and be a professional. There were a few men who claimed they didn't see that on my page that I saw, but later dropped. I can't deal with folks who can't follow directions. One dude got mad b/c he felt I was ignoring him due to his age and not meeting another one of my requirements. I did tell him that it bothered me and I was straight up with what I wanted, but I did contact him the day prior and no response from him. I was not in the mood to deal with an individual who read MY requirements, ignored them and was choosing to give me grief over my desires. No sir. And I don't like being indoctrinated on a first date. I'm a Christian, but you never saw Jesus trying to be pushy or force people to follow Him in the Bible. If so, please direct me to a scripture.

I did some things on some of my dates I had never done before. One guy took me to wine country in VA and that was one of the nicest dates I've been on. Another guy made me laugh like no tomorrow and I had a TON of fun on that date. Others falsely submitted photos that were years old and some even blatantly checked out women while we were together. Ugh!

My sweetie was one of the first guys I went out with, and like most of the men, he wanted to know about his competition. However, he didn't breathe down my neck and give me a hard time. He gave me space and was always there. During various dates I was going on, a family crisis occured and I was stressed to high heaven. He was there, unlike some of the other dudes. He wanted to see me more times during the week, even though he worked long hours and made it happen. Now he's not perfect and does things that bother me, but I'm glad he's mine. It's still very new and I'm trying to relax and take it slow, but I know he's lucky to be with me.

That's the story, hope it wasn't too long.

 

[SuchMagnificent]

Checking in...sitting at the bar watching the college championship game.

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[Imani]

phynestone Great story and excellent post! Very inspiring, and right on time, I was in need of a positive story today. Thank you and congrats.

 

[SuchMagnificent]

Checking in..went to a local club last night for a classmate's bday party...will be going to a lounge tonight...

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[SuchMagnificent]

Single ladies, lets get it together in the upcoming weeks...It is playoff time! I know yall know what that means...The men will be out in full force, eating wings, drinking beer, talking smack to their homeboys...I say this with love, "Get out the damn house!!" I will be going somewhere tonight, I dont know where yet, but I will be going...Take advantage of this..go to ESPN.com and learn a couple of basketball jargons so you can keep up with the convo, dont be yelling touchdown or offsides, or anything like that..I love yall..lol

 

[SuchMagnificent]

Checking...at a local bar watching the game...dont know how long imma be here...the women to men ratio is a no go...will head to another spot if the outlook doesnt change..and fast

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[chocolat79]

Checking...at a local bar watching the game...dont know how long imma be here...the women to men ratio is a no go...will head to another spot if the outlook doesnt change..and fast

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You doin' it! I'm gonna try to hit up somewhere this weekend...

 

[SuchMagnificent]

So im sitting at a table myself and 3 gentlemen come and sit at my table...im looking like a boss right now

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[thatscuteright]

Are there any sites where a person can find event listings for their city?

 

[Keshieshimmer]

So im sitting at a table myself and 3 gentlemen come and sit at my table...im looking like a boss right now

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You are going hard girl! Good luck.

 

[Keshieshimmer]

phynestone

What site were you on to get so many replies? I get very few replies (when I was online dating) because I am in a podunk area.

Congrats though on finding a man who complements you!

 

[Maa Maa omo mti]

I'm joining this thread. A lot changed and it's time for me to embrace my new status. Moving forward and onward regardless.....

@Yemaya try meetups.com. if you have an android phone download Got Eventz,

 

[SuchMagnificent]

How are yall doing ladies??
Checking in...at the bar watching the game..having good conversation with a nice guy sitting next to me...hope you ladies are doing well

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[Renewed1]

A friend of mine works in fashion and she help me purge my closet of clothes that don't fit my body type. I love her for it! Plus she gave me valuable tips on how to look mix and match my clothes.

So I went out today, running errands for my mom, I noticed that I received alot more looks from men and a few hellos. Just because I changed up how I look.

Tomorrow evening, I'm thinking about going to the movies in the evening and to a local bar/restaurant (if I finish my homework in time).

 

[SuchMagnificent]

Checking in.. at Dave and Busters, sitting at the bar with a Hurricane and buffalo wings...menfolks everywhere..Im feeling pretty good

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[keykee]

Checking in.. at Dave and Busters, sitting at the bar with a Hurricane and buffalo wings...menfolks everywhere..Im feeling pretty good

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did you go on your own?

 

[EricaJoyce]

Ok. I'm joining this thread! Nothing going on right now, but that is gonna have to change! I love that you ladies are taking action!

 

[SuchMagnificent]

did you go on your own?

Yes Ma'am..most of the time when Im checking in with you all, Im by myself...Ive gotten used to it now, but before, I was really nervous.. It hasnt been too bad, although I havent met anyone yet, I do enjoy getting dressed up and out the house.

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[ms.mimi]

Yes Ma'am..most of the time when Im checking in with you all, Im by myself...Ive gotten used to it now, but before, I was really nervous.. It hasnt been too bad, although I havent met anyone yet, I do enjoy getting dressed up and out the house.

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Good for you! I used to do that when I was single and looking to add someone to my dating stable. It was easier on the men to approach a single lady instead a GROUP of women.

 

[keykee]

On Wednesday I may be going to an international language exchange.
It's a gathering that brings together people from different countries and it gives people a chance to practice a language .... however i've heard a lot of the people go to hook up. haha.
This is going to be a great opportunity for me to practice french. I believe I was complaining about my singleness and the fact that I am not retaining a lot of the french that I've been learning to a french lady at work.. and she said the best way to practice french and retain it is to have a french boyfriend! excellent! LOL

I will report back.. plans aren't confirmed yet but I'm excited and terrified all at once!! Hope it happens!

 

[Imani]

I have a new goal. To go on at least one date this summer! And not just with some random joker just to say I went out. I mean someone I could actually really be interested in.

 

[mstrublvr]

Hi Ladies, I wanna join! I am in So Florida and am newly single. I surfed through the page and found some really inspiring stuff! I go to the movies by myself, but never thought to hit up a D&B or a sports bar. I will definitely try both. Also, like someone said..I am saying yes more than I say no when people ask me to go places. You never know.

 

[bunnie82]

ooooo i wanna join this thread!!!! i am determined to find my husband this year! the big three-oh is knockin on my door!!!

tonight i'm going to a neo-soul lounge with my friend....hopefully i'll find some potential....