Sense and Sensuality ("Loving" Spinny)

Do_Si_Dos I don't know where everyone is, but I have a testimony to tell! :grin:

It's kinda long, so whoever is reading this, you can skip to the last paragraph for a summary. :lol:

This weekend, I decided to take this thread for all it's worth. On Friday I started reading from page one to find all of the book recommendations that I could copy and paste into a word document (I'm up to page 30). I was already following this thread last year when it started. However, I fell off and maybe it was because I wasn't mentally ready for such a change. Well, I shouldn't have fallen off because I calculated the time I met my current bf and the time this thread started and it was around the same time. Something was working and I didn't even realize it. :drunk: Now that I'm living in a new city (Houston), I need to get back at it.

Anyways, I just started Mama Gena's book and I'm loving it. It doesn't have certain pages where it says "do this now", but I still like the structure of the book. I can implement my own action steps. I'm not far into chapter one, but I made a list of everything I can think of that makes my life perfect right now. Having goals is just as important as being happy about your current situation. After reading "Love Your Flesh" I made a list of all of the physical attributes I love about myself. There's more than I thought because I was so used to thinking of the things I don't like all of the time. I already find myself taking more care of what I love about myself and in turn, I'm taking better care of me.

I woke up this morning ready to love me. I went to Fallbrook Church for the first time. I was by myself and had an awesome time. I was speaking with a woman about the church and at the end of the conversation she said, "I just love your skin. It's just so smooth. And your personality. I hope you come back." Someone may take that as a yea-whatever comment, but for me it's great!

Summary: Now, I'm not saying that I'm anywhere near where I want to be as far as my confidence in myself and being in touch with my divine femininity like Enyo or FemmeFatale or Lucie . :curtain: That's ok. I'll get there in due time and that's what matters.

ETA: There are action steps at the end of each chapter. I was just excited and incorporated my own without reading all the way through the chapter, but it helped because some of my own are activities that she tells you to do.
 
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I really enjoy this thread. The thread title indicates this is a spin off. Does anyone know the link to the thread that inspired this one? I'd like to read that one too.
 
*SkolarStar* I am really happy for you! It is such a beautiful feeling when everything just starts to click for you and you just start coming into your own. It's like unlocking a whole new world. And as a result new worlds, people and experiences open up for you. I find that no matter how much you accomplish, or know, there's always more you can learn and play with.

CASE AND POINT:

A few weeks ago I kept wishing I could go to a trichologist. I didn't have any recommendations and don't like to go to just anyone with my hair. I was at a graduation party and my ex-boyfriend's mom and brother were there. I said hi to the brother and introduced myself to the mom. She had no clue I had dated her son about 17 years ago. As I was to leave she asked me about my hair and what my goals were and I told her. Lo and behold, she is a trichologist. I went to her yesterday and she showed me different massage therapies for my scalp. A new roller setting technique and gave me some product recommendations. I've been roller setting for a while but I definitely appreciated her wisdom.

And from that point on I discovered we shared SO MUCH in common. She shared many YouTube people I could watch about Haitian history. I discovered she is naturopath. And so much more! She said when she saw me I had such a light about me and she thought that if her deceased son was still alive I would have definitely been his type. She didn't know that we did and when I told her she laughed. We ended up chatting for TWO HOURS! She said that since she has become more holistic the negative people in her life have dropped away and good people have come in and stay. The Universe (or if you believe in God) knows your desires and will always guide you if you are open. Perhaps, that is why this thread has helped you.

Women are so powerful my dear. I think Roseanne Barr said, 'The thing women have yet to learn is nobody gives you power. You just take it.'

That is why I love this forum, Pinterest, talking to older women, et cetera. And I noticed once I started really being receptive; people that could teach me things started flocking to me. Much like this trichologist that I met at a graduation luncheon. The world is yours boo. Thanks for the update. xo
 
Still here! Just more quiet these days. I have something cooking. I'd definitely like this thread to be more active again. It really kind of fizzled when the mods moved it here.
 
There is nothing like the power of a white strapless sundress. I wore one today with a chunky necklace mixed with pearls, clear crystals and gold rings. I received tons of compliments and I felt so feminine and beautiful. Completely stunted on all the women walking around in workout clothes.
 
I didn't catch any numbers last night, but I had a great time and I attracted people. Men and women alike. I was at the club so I don't focus on getting quality men in that arena just because of the setting of drunk women and hormones raging for instant sex. :lol: I just go for a good time.

This morning I ran into two guys that two of my friends are talking to. I'm moving out so I had a bunch of bags and they were walking ahead of me. I yelled out, "So you're just going to let a lady walk with all of these bags?" They turned around and said oh hey, I didnt see you. Then started apologizing profusely as they grabbed my bags. I told them that I was just kidding and I just wanted to say hey. As we were walking and talking to my car one said, "You're so positive. I was just telling Brittany last night that you're so positive and fun." I replied that I'm just happy about life. What's there to be angry about? Even when I go through trials and tribulations, I know that everything will be fine. Then I told them about how my roommate left me a couple of days ago and that I was almost homeless, but how staying positive got me a new one 2 hours later. :clap:

All in all, I didn't carry any bags and my positive mindset is making people around me happy too.

I am in love with where I am in my progress as being happy. I'm still working on the femimine part and I think that will come as my joy develops. My bf keeps saying that I sound high because I'm such a relaxed person now. :lol: Joy is a beautiful thing and it's never to late to get it.

I hope this thread gets live again with updates.
 
Okay I wanted to report back as promised. So I haven't been active with posting since the thread died down, but I wanted to encourage the ladies still reading that this stuff works. I still have work to do, but incorporating suggestions from my personal studies and from this board have made a huge difference in how I feel about myself and how others treat me.

I have changed on the outside- hair, clothes, smiling more, etc but more importantly I have changed on the inside. I've finally started to embrace who I am, realize that I matter, and treat myself with love and kindness. I've found the changes challenging but I promise you, if you are thinking about getting more in touch with your feminine side, see it through.

You know a few years ago, I would have said wearing makeup and dresses is not majorly important but because it makes a difference in how I perceive myself it is actually of crucial importance. Last week I was feeling great in this sexy red dress heading to the spa. When I got there an older gentleman rushed to pay the meter for me. Then coming out of the spa another gentleman asked if he could walk me to my vehicle. Of course I tossed my hair and smiled at him and allowed him to walk on the outside as a proper man should. My husband, who dropped the chivalry act quite some time ago opens my door and holds my chair again. I can't begin to describe how very much my life has changed. I am happier and looking forward to continuing my studies. Thank you to the ladies who have contributed to this thread, especially Lucie and Enyo. The resources here are invaluable!
 
Yey! Updates! Updates help me stat motivated because I like to know that it's working for more than just me. And testimonies help spread the gospel of femininity! Show me the receipts! :lol:
 
I haven't posted a lot lately either, but I just wanted to share this. Yesterday I made a maxidress from this really bright, colorful fabric I bought last week. It's overcast here today so I hesitated a bit, but then I put on a little makeup, pulled my hair back and wore the dress with some flip flops to meet a friend for breakfast. Men who I see practically every day were doing double takes; one guy ran across the street to tell me how much he loved my dress and another guy stopped me in the restaurant to tell me how beautiful it is.

Lately I've become acutely aware of something that my sister always points out when she visits from the south; NY women don't really wear bright colors even in the summer. I LOVE bright colors so most of the dresses and skirts I make are yellows, oranges, hot pinks, purples, royal blues, etc. because I feel so much more feminine in those colors. But sometimes the attention they attract makes me a bit uneasy. I'll just have to get used to it though because I have no intention of going back to a mostly-black wardrobe. And I'm going to hit the fabric stores again sometime this week to see if there's any other bright fabrics I missed.:yep:
 
BK Bombshell said:
I haven't posted a lot lately either, but I just wanted to share this. Yesterday I made a maxidress from this really bright, colorful fabric I bought last week. It's overcast here today so I hesitated a bit, but then I put on a little makeup, pulled my hair back and wore the dress with some flip flops to meet a friend for breakfast. Men who I see practically every day were doing double takes; one guy ran across the street to tell me how much he loved my dress and another guy stopped me in the restaurant to tell me how beautiful it is.

Lately I've become acutely aware of something that my sister always points out when she visits from the south; NY women don't really wear bright colors even in the summer. I LOVE bright colors so most of the dresses and skirts I make are yellows, oranges, hot pinks, purples, royal blues, etc. because I feel so much more feminine in those colors. But sometimes the attention they attract makes me a bit uneasy. I'll just have to get used to it though because I have no intention of going back to a mostly-black wardrobe. And I'm going to hit the fabric stores again sometime this week to see if there's any other bright fabrics I missed.:yep:
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That is quite perceptive. I noticed that as well. I wear bright colors all year long.

Today I am wearing a Caribbean green school dress with gold sandals. Colors make me feel good. :grin:
 
I want to bring up something that I'm still working on because this thread is such a judgement free zone. *So please don't judge me* :lol:

Essentially, my question is this. How do you remain confident among other people who are also confident? Does it end up looking like a power struggle? (I hope this question makes sense.)
 
*SkolarStar* said:
I want to bring up something that I'm still working on because this thread is such a judgement free zone. *So please don't judge me* :lol:

Essentially, my question is this. How do you remain confident among other people who are also confident? Does it end up looking like a power struggle? (I hope this question makes sense.)
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I think it only becomes a power struggle when your main focus of confidence is them rather than on yourself.
 
Hmm.

I just bought my first purely yellow dress and the colour looks great on me. Tis just a basic dress, but its cute on.
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Yellow is truly a brown skinned woman's colour (of any tone).

My SO came in unexpectedly while I was trying it on and was like "OOOOOH!" :shocked::lick: :lol:
 
belleama said:
I think it only becomes a power struggle when your main focus of confidence is them rather than on yourself.
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Yeah...I think a strong component of true confidence is letting others be great because well you really dont care--not in a bad way though. Like said above the focus is self.
 
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Sumra said:
Hmm.

I just bought my first purely yellow dress and the colour looks great on me. Tis just a basic dress, but its cute on.

Yellow is truly a brown skinned woman's colour (of any tone).

My SO came in unexpectedly while I was trying it on and was like "OOOOOH!" :shocked::lick: :lol:
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This dress is not basic. It is sexy. I've developed an appreciation for wrap dresses because if you get the right one it hugs (and hides) all of the right places (I think I learned that in this thread :lol:). I love bright colors including white on brown women. Especially white on black women.
 
*SkolarStar* said:
This dress is not basic. It is sexy. I've developed an appreciation for wrap dresses because if you get the right one it hugs (and hides) all of the right places (I think I learned that in this thread :lol:). I love bright colors including white on brown women. Especially white on black women.
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LOL, I find the dress sexy which drew me to it! I wear this style very often because it makes the best of my body shape:yep:.

Probably using basic in the wrong way for clothes. It cost £7.99 (sale) and now I've seen the material I don't feel like it was such a bargain:lol:. It looks good, but the low quality makes it not one of my better dresses.

Unfortunately, not all bright colors bring out the best in me if they are close to my face. I like all bright/bold colors in underwear though. Stuff like hot pink and bright orange REALLY don't do anything for me:nono:. Purple, turquoise and coral for example make my complexion look completely different in a good way. In most cases I just have to find the right tone, but I've given up on most pinks lol.
 
Sumra said:
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Unfortunately, not all bright colors bring out the best in me if they are close to my face. I like all bright/bold colors in underwear though. Stuff like hot pink and bright orange REALLY don't do anything for me:nono:. Purple, turquoise and coral for example make my complexion look completely different in a good way. In most cases I just have to find the right tone, but I've given up on most pinks lol.
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I was going to bring this up when you said yellow is a brown skinned girl's best friend.-of any skin tone.

I have to disagree.... Which is why pinks and oranges don't look good on you.

You have to know your Undertones.

Yellow looks absolutely horrid on me... So does blue and red, but they probably look amazing on you.... That's because I can already tell you have a red undertone.

Pink and Orange, teal and beige look amazing on me... (Not so much bright white, but off white)

And that's because I have yellow undertones.

Once you know your undertones, you automatically know which makeup and clothing look best on you.

You can tell by looking at the veins in your arms... If they show up blue, I believe that makes someone a red undertone, if they show up green (mine do) then you're a yellow undertone
 
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