Sense and Sensuality ("Loving" Spinny)
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Yayy! Mine got delivered at my PO so I will have to wait to pick up! Can't wait!!!
Kimbosheart
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Just got the book. I can't wait to read it and discuss. I love books that I can pass along.
ladysaraii
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I'd love to join you iwth the book, but I'll have to add it to my ever growing list. I'll be interested in reading your thoughts and impressions!
Speaking of books, I need to find my copy of The Art of Seduction.
Speaking of books, I need to find my copy of The Art of Seduction.
Smiley79
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So I notice that ever since I've been working on my self (self-love, self-esteem, healing my heart, mind, body,etc) it's seriously boosted my sensuality. It's like I've fallen in love with myself all over again 
and it's slowly but surely been radiating in my everyday life. People have been noticing a certain glow and lightness about me and my overall spirit. It shows in my outer appearance from clothes to hair and it also shows by the sort of conversations I have...more positive, inviting, friendly and even a pinch of vulnerability that we've discussed in this thread several times (yea, I think I finally understand what that feels like). Now that my mind is on the road to being in a much better place and I see the results of working my tail off to get it there, now, I naturally feel my sensuality and femininity just oozing all over me.
Interestingly, my life hasn't changed in any extraordinary way, the same old problems and anxieties still lurk around, but by being in control of my mind and heart and working hard to rebuilding myself back to how I used to be, it's like I am aroused by the beauty of my happiness and dedication to trying my best everyday. I get a natural high off that and I think people are seeing it in my day to day living. As a result, I've had better encounters with individuals on all different levels and it's a satisfying and sensual feeling that feels warm and good on the inside and it feels so good to know that I'm giving that to myself. It also set a bar for what others can or should give me.
OT: By the way I have to give full credit to prayer (100%), therapy, detox of negative people/things, healthy reading, exercise, better eating habits, and finally getting my sleep routine back on track. All of these things have helped tremendously, each one of them.
and it's slowly but surely been radiating in my everyday life. People have been noticing a certain glow and lightness about me and my overall spirit. It shows in my outer appearance from clothes to hair and it also shows by the sort of conversations I have...more positive, inviting, friendly and even a pinch of vulnerability that we've discussed in this thread several times (yea, I think I finally understand what that feels like). Now that my mind is on the road to being in a much better place and I see the results of working my tail off to get it there, now, I naturally feel my sensuality and femininity just oozing all over me. Interestingly, my life hasn't changed in any extraordinary way, the same old problems and anxieties still lurk around, but by being in control of my mind and heart and working hard to rebuilding myself back to how I used to be, it's like I am aroused by the beauty of my happiness and dedication to trying my best everyday. I get a natural high off that and I think people are seeing it in my day to day living. As a result, I've had better encounters with individuals on all different levels and it's a satisfying and sensual feeling that feels warm and good on the inside and it feels so good to know that I'm giving that to myself. It also set a bar for what others can or should give me.
OT: By the way I have to give full credit to prayer (100%), therapy, detox of negative people/things, healthy reading, exercise, better eating habits, and finally getting my sleep routine back on track. All of these things have helped tremendously, each one of them.
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ladysaraii
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I've resumed reading The Art of Seduction.
So many gems, so many things to think about. I'm enjoying it and really trying to let it all soak in.
So many gems, so many things to think about. I'm enjoying it and really trying to let it all soak in.
Kimbosheart
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This should be an interesting read. I didn't realize how well I know the author. I really need to get better with names. I won't judge the message because of the messenger.
Lucie
Dancin' on sunshine!
Sumra, get on their e-mail list. My dude and I went to Miami and the BalHarbour had an AP there and the saleslady signed me up. I can only shop them with they are on sale but they are so worth it! I love their girly, sensual packaging and their underthings are awesome! Why spend $470 on a bra, if I can wait for it to go down to $60?
I made a new rule for myself. All bras must be accompanied by a matching thong/panty. I need some lighter colors. SO, doesn't care either way. He said he feels like he is opening up a gift.
I made a new rule for myself. All bras must be accompanied by a matching thong/panty. I need some lighter colors. SO, doesn't care either way. He said he feels like he is opening up a gift.
Layluh
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Just had a paradigm shift!
So we all know that e=mc2, which means everything boils down to energy.
I have a periodic table of elements as my shower curtain and I just looked at it & realized that at our highest selves we are all noble gasses.
Take for example potassium chloride. Both chlorine and potassium need 8 electrons to be complete. So when they come together they form a bond and share 8 electrons between the both of them. But when this relationship occurs, it's really just co-dependency. There's energy stealing going on and feeling like a victim because you're incomplete- so you HAVE to pair up with someone else in order to feel normal, and they're highly reactive. They react to every little thing that happens around them.
But lets take say Argon which is fine on its own & has a low reactivity level. Even if Potassium Chloride comes by looking all sexy, Argon don't really care. Argon is cool. Argon ain't stealing nobody's energy cause everything it needs is within it already.
I'm argon right now & my husband is Potassium. Jesus take the dag on wheel.
So we all know that e=mc2, which means everything boils down to energy.
I have a periodic table of elements as my shower curtain and I just looked at it & realized that at our highest selves we are all noble gasses.
Take for example potassium chloride. Both chlorine and potassium need 8 electrons to be complete. So when they come together they form a bond and share 8 electrons between the both of them. But when this relationship occurs, it's really just co-dependency. There's energy stealing going on and feeling like a victim because you're incomplete- so you HAVE to pair up with someone else in order to feel normal, and they're highly reactive. They react to every little thing that happens around them.
But lets take say Argon which is fine on its own & has a low reactivity level. Even if Potassium Chloride comes by looking all sexy, Argon don't really care. Argon is cool. Argon ain't stealing nobody's energy cause everything it needs is within it already.
I'm argon right now & my husband is Potassium. Jesus take the dag on wheel.
ladysaraii
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Ladies, to help figure out your seduction type via the Art of Seduction
a quiz
I got the Star, which kinda surprised me, but I can see. It's just frustrating b/c that's the kind in the book that is the most hands off!
You are the Star! Everything about you is a mystery, and maintaining that mystery is an important part of your allure. You know that love is a game, and so you are a little bit of everything... and some of nothing. In your elusive nature, you embody a Star or a God that others worship. In your mysteries, others fill in whatever they want to see. You are a master of illusion, and your incredible grasp of paradox is what holds others in your thrall.
Symbol: the Idol
Famous Historical Stars: John F. Kennedy
a quiz
I got the Star, which kinda surprised me, but I can see. It's just frustrating b/c that's the kind in the book that is the most hands off!
You are the Star! Everything about you is a mystery, and maintaining that mystery is an important part of your allure. You know that love is a game, and so you are a little bit of everything... and some of nothing. In your elusive nature, you embody a Star or a God that others worship. In your mysteries, others fill in whatever they want to see. You are a master of illusion, and your incredible grasp of paradox is what holds others in your thrall.
Symbol: the Idol
Famous Historical Stars: John F. Kennedy
Layluh
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Your result for Your Seductive Style Test ...
The Natural
Alluring with Innocence...
You are the Natural! You have a joyful youthfulness about you that is almost magical. Those that have become jaded by the hardships of the world are especially drawn to you with your untainted sincerity. You notice all of the little pleasures in life, and you are often characterized as a bright light in the lives of anyone you touch.
The Natural
Alluring with Innocence...
You are the Natural! You have a joyful youthfulness about you that is almost magical. Those that have become jaded by the hardships of the world are especially drawn to you with your untainted sincerity. You notice all of the little pleasures in life, and you are often characterized as a bright light in the lives of anyone you touch.
Lucie
Dancin' on sunshine!
You are the Coquette... brilliant, alluring, aloof. When you walk by, others swoon, except you're more likely to be carried on your dias by young admirers than walking. Everyone wants you, and you will use this power to your utmost advantage. After all, you know that the most tantalizing thing is what no one can have.
Symbol: the Shadow
Famous Historical Coquettes: Andy Warhol, Josephine de Beauharnais (lover of Napoleon Bonaparte)
Sounds about right, LOL!
Symbol: the Shadow
Famous Historical Coquettes: Andy Warhol, Josephine de Beauharnais (lover of Napoleon Bonaparte)
Sounds about right, LOL!
ladysaraii
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As I'm reading the book, I have to say I was intrigued by the Masculine Dandy. And I thought I'd breeze right past it, but I really resonated with the example used in the book of Lou Andreas-Salome. I loved how she was described as a woman feminine in dress and manner, but had that masculine edge when it came to her analytical nature. This is pretty much me and where I've struggled in life.
I swear, this book is helpful in helping just for the face that it puts ideas into words which makes it easier to consider.
Now just to work on rooting out my anti-seducer tendencies. I think that if I can tame my nervous habits, I can channel that into the Coquette aloofness instead of just being awkward and tongue tied, lol!
I swear, this book is helpful in helping just for the face that it puts ideas into words which makes it easier to consider.
Now just to work on rooting out my anti-seducer tendencies. I think that if I can tame my nervous habits, I can channel that into the Coquette aloofness instead of just being awkward and tongue tied, lol!
Ha! According to the test...
You are the Star! Everything about you is a mystery, and maintaining that mystery is an important part of your allure. You know that love is a game, and so you are a little bit of everything... and some of nothing. In your elusive nature, you embody a Star or a God that others worship. In your mysteries, others fill in whatever they want to see. You are a master of illusion, and your incredible grasp of paradox is what holds others in your thrall.
Symbol: the Idol
Famous Historical Stars: John F. Kennedy
You are the Star! Everything about you is a mystery, and maintaining that mystery is an important part of your allure. You know that love is a game, and so you are a little bit of everything... and some of nothing. In your elusive nature, you embody a Star or a God that others worship. In your mysteries, others fill in whatever they want to see. You are a master of illusion, and your incredible grasp of paradox is what holds others in your thrall.
Symbol: the Idol
Famous Historical Stars: John F. Kennedy
ladysaraii
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@RegaLady
That explains why I like your font!
I've been doing research on the female dandy, but a lot of info was for women who were more into cross dressing, like wearing male clothing and suits and that's not what I want.
I do notice from my perusal of Pinterest that I'd drawn to outfits that are feminine, but not necessarily girly if that makes sense. Like dresses, yes, frills, not really. That might be where my style is headed.
Ok I'm done rambling, I just have been having some mini epiphanies.
That explains why I like your font!
I've been doing research on the female dandy, but a lot of info was for women who were more into cross dressing, like wearing male clothing and suits and that's not what I want.
I do notice from my perusal of Pinterest that I'd drawn to outfits that are feminine, but not necessarily girly if that makes sense. Like dresses, yes, frills, not really. That might be where my style is headed.
Ok I'm done rambling, I just have been having some mini epiphanies.
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Yes! I like your font too!
Went back to reread the Star in The Art of Seduction. Its interesting because now that I think of it, I do have alot in common with this archetype. I still think I have elements of the coquette as well.
The dandy is something I need to look into, because part of bringing out more of my femininty has something to do with a small element of masculinity I have not yet accepted or I know it exsists and I want to demininish it.
ladysaraii
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I'm wondering if (just me thinking aloud) if it's more an issue of redirecting it in a way that works for you instead of getting rid of it or hiding it.
Now that I'm looking, I'm thinking the Star probably encompasses or draws upon a little bit of all the other types to create/sustain that mystery. I'm going to have to read this with a more critical eye when I get home.
YES! I actually thought about that while I posted my last reply. But yes, I need to redirect it in a way that will work best for me. I agree with you
.Cute quiz
You are the Ideal Lover! Romantic, sensual, and exceptionally multi-dimenional... you have the perfect balance between danger and comfort. You always stick up for your friends and protect those you care about. Everyone knows you are the one they can count on in a tough spot. You are that typical teenage dream... except you are the real deal.
Symbol: Portrait Painter
Famous Historical Ideal Lovers: Casanova
You are the Ideal Lover! Romantic, sensual, and exceptionally multi-dimenional... you have the perfect balance between danger and comfort. You always stick up for your friends and protect those you care about. Everyone knows you are the one they can count on in a tough spot. You are that typical teenage dream... except you are the real deal.
Symbol: Portrait Painter
Famous Historical Ideal Lovers: Casanova
CarLiTa
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A few incidents this past month have made me think of this thread. Around new year's day, I was telling a friend that I wanted to be a more... what's the word... emotionally intelligent? authentic? person. I've been working on that this past year, particularly in regards to dating, and it's been working out really well.
Last year, the goal was framed as having more meaningful relationships with men, and to me that meant 2 things:
1) not to see our relationship as its own little island, i.e, integrate the person more into my regular life;
2) to have the comfort to voice my opinions more, particularly if I'm voicing concerns or anything that I'm not thrilled with.
I saw significant changes in my dating life as a result of those 2 things. I admit though that I did more of #2, and I saw more improvement there. #1 could use more work still.
Around NYE 2014, I was thinking that this broad skill is something I want to develop even more (authenticity, more emotional openness, etc.). Lucie came to mind
I was even telling my friend about Lucie's e-persona
without actually referencing LHCF (my little secret
) or how I "know" this person that I've never even met
Do I sound like a stan?
Anyway, in the past week, I've gotten all these really touching compliments about how I make people feel at ease, am thoughtful, etc.
One latest one:
I have a new colleague that I met about a week and half ago. I really like him! Is there such a thing as a personality crush? Because I think I have had that many times, and that's probably what I have toward him too. I'm not attracted physically, to be clear. We've been hanging out a lot as a group and individually, and after awhile I would always be smiling when talking to him
and I noticed the same with him. I just really liked his energy.
We had his going away dinner last night, and he wanted to wish me goodbye then, but I was like: well, I'll see you later. You can come say bye before you leave (we are staying in the same hostel). I ended up falling asleep early, and he left to the airport during the night.
I woke up this morning, and there was a hand-written note under the door that said how great it was to meet me, other things, and to "keep up the great energy and positive vibe you naturally bring in your conversations."
I'm sooo touched.
I've met this other new colleague (a woman) whose personality I also love (she has amazing energy and is so sweet). We are both hoping to lead a project in his country this year.
Last year, the goal was framed as having more meaningful relationships with men, and to me that meant 2 things:
1) not to see our relationship as its own little island, i.e, integrate the person more into my regular life;
2) to have the comfort to voice my opinions more, particularly if I'm voicing concerns or anything that I'm not thrilled with.
I saw significant changes in my dating life as a result of those 2 things. I admit though that I did more of #2, and I saw more improvement there. #1 could use more work still.
Around NYE 2014, I was thinking that this broad skill is something I want to develop even more (authenticity, more emotional openness, etc.). Lucie came to mind
I was even telling my friend about Lucie's e-persona without actually referencing LHCF (my little secret) or how I "know" this person that I've never even met Do I sound like a stan?Anyway, in the past week, I've gotten all these really touching compliments about how I make people feel at ease, am thoughtful, etc.
One latest one:
I have a new colleague that I met about a week and half ago. I really like him! Is there such a thing as a personality crush? Because I think I have had that many times, and that's probably what I have toward him too. I'm not attracted physically, to be clear. We've been hanging out a lot as a group and individually, and after awhile I would always be smiling when talking to him
and I noticed the same with him. I just really liked his energy.We had his going away dinner last night, and he wanted to wish me goodbye then, but I was like: well, I'll see you later. You can come say bye before you leave (we are staying in the same hostel). I ended up falling asleep early, and he left to the airport during the night.
I woke up this morning, and there was a hand-written note under the door that said how great it was to meet me, other things, and to "keep up the great energy and positive vibe you naturally bring in your conversations."
I'm sooo touched. I've met this other new colleague (a woman) whose personality I also love (she has amazing energy and is so sweet). We are both hoping to lead a project in his country this year.
CoutureMe06
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First off to finally finding this thread! The joy of using the app at times.
I am really surprised by m results of the quiz. I tend to be introverted yet social. I am not the prowling type on men yet I am always told I am very sexual and have a sexiness about myself. I agree in someways why I want to fully refine myself ti know my full power. Anyways…
Your result for Your Seductive Style Test ...
The Coquette
Charmed, I'm sure...
You are the Coquette... brilliant, alluring, aloof. When you walk by, others swoon, except you're more likely to be carried on your dias by young admirers than walking. Everyone wants you, and you will use this power to your utmost advantage. After all, you know that the most tantalizing thing is what no one can have.
Symbol: the Shadow
Famous Historical Coquettes: Andy Warhol, Josephine de Beauharnais (lover of Napoleon Bonaparte)
YOUR ANALYSIS (Vertical line = Average)
You scored 52% on Sexuality, higher than 72% of your peers.
You scored 48% on Attachment, higher than 8% of your peers.
You scored 65% on Narcissism, higher than 93% of your peers.
You scored 45% on Extroversion, higher than 22% of your peers.
You scored 38% on Innocence, higher than 10% of your peers.
Sent from my iPhone using LHCF
I am really surprised by m results of the quiz. I tend to be introverted yet social. I am not the prowling type on men yet I am always told I am very sexual and have a sexiness about myself. I agree in someways why I want to fully refine myself ti know my full power. Anyways…
Your result for Your Seductive Style Test ...
The Coquette
Charmed, I'm sure...
You are the Coquette... brilliant, alluring, aloof. When you walk by, others swoon, except you're more likely to be carried on your dias by young admirers than walking. Everyone wants you, and you will use this power to your utmost advantage. After all, you know that the most tantalizing thing is what no one can have.
Symbol: the Shadow
Famous Historical Coquettes: Andy Warhol, Josephine de Beauharnais (lover of Napoleon Bonaparte)
YOUR ANALYSIS (Vertical line = Average)
You scored 52% on Sexuality, higher than 72% of your peers.
You scored 48% on Attachment, higher than 8% of your peers.
You scored 65% on Narcissism, higher than 93% of your peers.
You scored 45% on Extroversion, higher than 22% of your peers.
You scored 38% on Innocence, higher than 10% of your peers.
Sent from my iPhone using LHCF
tapioca_pudding
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You are the Natural! You have a joyful youthfulness about you that is almost magical. Those that have become jaded by the hardships of the world are especially drawn to you with your untainted sincerity. You notice all of the little pleasures in life, and you are often characterized as a bright light in the lives of anyone you touch.
Sent from my iPad using LHCF
Sent from my iPad using LHCF
spacetygrss
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Hmmm. I finally took the quiz mentioned upthread and got "The Siren."
I'm not surprised.
You are the Siren, and you are the stuff of sexual fantasies. Derived directly from Aphrodite herself, you know exactly how to flaunt your wiles, being both tantalizing and elusive. Those that fall within your rapture are yours so long as your mood lasts. You may be extremely sexual, but you are not an easy target, and those long periods where you potential lover agonizes over you are the sweetest in your mind.
Symbol: Water
Famous Historical Sirens: Cleopatra, Marilyn Monroe
I'm not surprised.
You are the Siren, and you are the stuff of sexual fantasies. Derived directly from Aphrodite herself, you know exactly how to flaunt your wiles, being both tantalizing and elusive. Those that fall within your rapture are yours so long as your mood lasts. You may be extremely sexual, but you are not an easy target, and those long periods where you potential lover agonizes over you are the sweetest in your mind.
Symbol: Water
Famous Historical Sirens: Cleopatra, Marilyn Monroe
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