Sense and Sensuality ("Loving" Spinny)
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TracyNicole
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We need a location poll. I'm in MD but have a car. I could do the DMV or the tri-state area. I'd go with where the majority of interested ladies are located.
CarLiTa
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Had crappy day today and went shopping. Bought a soft feeling, bright, short night gown. I look nice in it 
I'm headed to the gym for a vigorous workout and some time in the hot tub/sauna. Tomorrow, doing nails and straightening my hair. Might even thread my eyebrows. Going to do it up with the femininity this weekend. I so need it right now.
I'm headed to the gym for a vigorous workout and some time in the hot tub/sauna. Tomorrow, doing nails and straightening my hair. Might even thread my eyebrows. Going to do it up with the femininity this weekend. I so need it right now.
ladysaraii
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I'm in MD too! I would love to do a meetup and June would be good since I'll be out of school then
Rocky91
NYE side boob.
Rolling my eyes at how all of yall are on the east coast. Darn it.
random musing: my feminine energy is mature, way older than my actual age. I'm 21 and lately i notice the guys i attract are in their 30s.
Idk how to feel about this. I don't wanna change the way i am-i like me. It feels natural to do the things i do that men find sexy. But i would like to date guys my own age.
I met a guy at an art gallery who looked 25. We had a great convo then he called me and i find out he's 36.
darn that melanin that allows black to not crack lol
How do i be more girly? Is that the question i wanna ask? Idk im confused
Sent from my phone-typos to be expected
random musing: my feminine energy is mature, way older than my actual age. I'm 21 and lately i notice the guys i attract are in their 30s.
Idk how to feel about this. I don't wanna change the way i am-i like me. It feels natural to do the things i do that men find sexy. But i would like to date guys my own age.
I met a guy at an art gallery who looked 25. We had a great convo then he called me and i find out he's 36.
darn that melanin that allows black to not crack lolHow do i be more girly? Is that the question i wanna ask? Idk im confused
Sent from my phone-typos to be expected
Rolling my eyes at how all of yall are on the east coast. Darn it.
random musing: my feminine energy is mature, way older than my actual age. I'm 21 and lately i notice the guys i attract are in their 30s.
Idk how to feel about this. I don't wanna change the way i am-i like me. It feels natural to do the things i do that men find sexy. But i would like to date guys my own age.
I met a guy at an art gallery who looked 25. We had a great convo then he called me and i find out he's 36.
How do i be more girly? Is that the question i wanna ask? Idk im confused
Sent from my phone-typos to be expected
This use to be my issue as well. Its no wonder I married a man about 10 years older than me
. I tend to and have always attracted men a bit older than me, but to be honest, I think subconsiously I wanted to because I didn't have time for childish games of men that were my age. A woman like me loves to be pampered by someone a bit older. Not to bring up Beyonce and Jay Z(but their age difference comes to mind).Needless to say, embrace who you are and work with it. Own it! Make it work to your advantage. I tried the girly thing and it wasn't me, so I owned being a young woman with a mature mind. My hubby felt he got the best of both worlds
NappyNelle
Kinky Coily 4A, Fine Strands, WSL
Rolling my eyes at how all of yall are on the east coast. Darn it.
random musing: my feminine energy is mature, way older than my actual age. I'm 21 and lately i notice the guys i attract are in their 30s.
Idk how to feel about this. I don't wanna change the way i am-i like me. It feels natural to do the things i do that men find sexy. But i would like to date guys my own age.
I met a guy at an art gallery who looked 25. We had a great convo then he called me and i find out he's 36.
How do i be more girly? Is that the question i wanna ask? Idk im confused
Sent from my phone-typos to be expected
Story of my life! Only older men (10+ years) seem to talk to me. Younger ones (teenagers) say silly things in a joking manner, but the 35 - 85 year olds love me.
I have a date tomorrow with a 34 year old. I thought he was younger than me.
NappyNelle
Kinky Coily 4A, Fine Strands, WSL
BTW, she has an updated version for 2013 and she also has a book about For Women Only: Dealing with Men in the Workplace. I want to purchase it, but I have to wait until May since I have so many books that I need to read on my radar/kindle
I didn't know there was an updated version; that's what I get for not reading each post every day. I'm reading the Workplace one right now! I recommend it for anyone that wants a leg up on understanding/changing how to channel/control/ or change the perception of your femininity in a work environment. I'm trying some of the tips in how I speak to my boss; especially when I'm sick.
Enyo
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@ All ya'll ladies. I still want a response to my long arse post/question. Also, I need you all to ground me.
I have two guys in my official rotation and the third guy who I tried to set up with my intern says he still prefers me.
I told the kid it's not going to work (he's 11 yrs younger than me), but he doesn't care. We do have things in common, and I like talking to him, but I dunno how I feel about becoming a cougar at age 32.
All of these guys seem like they are getting more and more attached to me as the weeks go by and I feel like I'm leading them on. I love the attention of course, but I do truly like them all. Each one is smart, funny in his own way, respectful, and handsome. One of the guys has much more potential as a long-term mate than the others, and if I could only have one, I'd pick him in a heartbeat. But I'm not sure if I want to be in another serious (and therefore monogamous) relationship right now, especially since I haven't gotten all my letters from grad school (got one, but it was a rejection
). But all three of them keep trying to claim me for themselves, each one thinking that he's winning.
I mainly worry about the guy I like the most. I told him we're not an official couple, but he just ignores it. I thought he was laboring under an infatuation, but in the last month, I've come to realize that he's pretty serious. His flirtations and fantasy comments ("let's do something crazy and move to Florida tomorrow") have turned into practical plans that make sense for a serious couple.
I'm thinking that I should wait to see if I get accepted into graduate school. That might may a whole lot of difference. I'm supposed to get the rest of the letters this month, so it shouldn't be long now. If I have to move, that'll solve my issues. If I have to stay, then I'll re-evaluate my situation. What say you?
I have two guys in my official rotation and the third guy who I tried to set up with my intern says he still prefers me.
I told the kid it's not going to work (he's 11 yrs younger than me), but he doesn't care. We do have things in common, and I like talking to him, but I dunno how I feel about becoming a cougar at age 32. All of these guys seem like they are getting more and more attached to me as the weeks go by and I feel like I'm leading them on. I love the attention of course, but I do truly like them all. Each one is smart, funny in his own way, respectful, and handsome. One of the guys has much more potential as a long-term mate than the others, and if I could only have one, I'd pick him in a heartbeat. But I'm not sure if I want to be in another serious (and therefore monogamous) relationship right now, especially since I haven't gotten all my letters from grad school (got one, but it was a rejection
). But all three of them keep trying to claim me for themselves, each one thinking that he's winning. I mainly worry about the guy I like the most. I told him we're not an official couple, but he just ignores it. I thought he was laboring under an infatuation, but in the last month, I've come to realize that he's pretty serious. His flirtations and fantasy comments ("let's do something crazy and move to Florida tomorrow") have turned into practical plans that make sense for a serious couple.
I'm thinking that I should wait to see if I get accepted into graduate school. That might may a whole lot of difference. I'm supposed to get the rest of the letters this month, so it shouldn't be long now. If I have to move, that'll solve my issues. If I have to stay, then I'll re-evaluate my situation. What say you?
MsWowFactor
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Wildchild453
When I hit waist I stop
I seriously love this thread. I've found so many wonderful book recommendations.
I have a question though. I'm the sort of person who 'lives' in their head. It makes me a great visualizer because I can create these amazingly complete images to connect to but how does that work with living in the now or being in the moment?
Can anyone give me tips on gaining a better balance?
I have a question though. I'm the sort of person who 'lives' in their head. It makes me a great visualizer because I can create these amazingly complete images to connect to but how does that work with living in the now or being in the moment?
Can anyone give me tips on gaining a better balance?
ladysaraii
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*sigh* So I've been seeing these two guys. One is just for fun, but the other has serious relationship potential. The only issue is that one of them latched on to me pretty quickly and now thinks we are seriously in a relationship. I told the guy we are just getting to know each other, but he's so into me that I don't think he's listening. He's coming on very strong, but in an I-am-32-and-looking-to-get-married way. The words "wife" and "married" come out of his mouth every time we talk. It's an odd feeling because I normally don't like that kind of stuff, but he's got this honest, happy-go-lucky Midwestern charm that I always fall for. He's naturally giving, cheerful, and empathetic. He makes good money too, which is always a plus.
I'm just trying to stay cool until his infatuation wears off. Goodness, I hope it's soon. I would like to be more emotionally and physically intimate with him. Right now I only allow kisses on the cheek and rarely talk about deep personal things. But I learned the hard way that doing those things with an infatuated person makes stuff worse. I personally blame everyone in this thread for making me so appealing.
Of course, I have an intern update for you which leads to a question about our daughters.
Apparently Ms. Missy and I share certain intimate habits that I will not share in public. But it's safe to say that I'm really going to have to monitor her. She is becoming hyper aware of herself in the last few months and the young men are starting to sense it. She's always had men, but her uber softness attracted users. Now she has two decent ones that are trying their best to woo her.
Young Man #1 is clingy and always wants to see her. He practically begs to take her out for lunch (he works close to our office) and then begs to take her home after work. She's not used to guys thinking her time is valuable and seemed more confused than anything at first. Now, she pretends to complain that she "[doesn't] feel like seeing him right now", but is quick to put on lipstick, brush her hair, and borrow my perfume before she goes out to meet him. She always comes back with a little smile on her face. She actually met Young Man #2 through me. As a result, sometimes the young man will text me about her because he's shy and wants advice on dealing with her. Sometimes I show her the texts and I can tell that she's flattered Young Man #2 is so fascinated with her.
Intern has always been interested in how I manage my men and allow them to vie for my attention, but now she's experiencing it for the first time in her life. She was a little lost and confused at first, but now she's hitting her stride. From what I gather, she feels a little guilty about seeing two guys at once despite the fact that she made it clear neither of them are her boyfriend. But, when we talk, I can tell she's loving it. My question is this: How do we encourage a young lady to enjoy being treated like a princess by multiple men without pushing her overboard? I don't want her to become a user or someone who toys with people's hearts. I'm worried because she's still a teenager mentally and biologically and yet has the sexual instincts of a woman. She creates a rather sophisticated form of sexual tension with alarming ease, and I worry that doing this to too many men at once (or the wrong man) will put her in a bad situation.
I feel like I've taken a child to the shooting range, and now she's picking up guns that she doesn't really know how to handle. Ideally, I want her to just stick with the stuff that she admits that she likes - dinner, movies, rides home (hey, DC buses can get rough), etc. with decent boys her age. But she's realizing how much she's worth, and it might be tempting to see how far she can push a man. It's all fun and games until it goes wrong. I'm in my 30's, so I have mastered the MMM, but she's a novice. How can I get that across to her without seeming like a hypocrite?
Advice, please. Thanks.
Enyo
I've been pondering this since you posted it. I think the only and best thing you can do is sit her down and explain your concerns. Also, do you have some examples from your past about things that went wrong for you or someone that you know? I think that might be the best thing so that she can see clearly te differnce btwn using her feminine wiles and just using people. And also so she can understand potential dangers and keeping herself safe.
This is one of my biggest struggles. I have a pretty well-constructed world going on in my head, which I personally find pretty interesting. For me, connecting with other people helps. Also, actually doing some of the things that I'm daydreaming about instead of just daydreaming about them. If that makes sense.
kweenameena
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I'm in the DMV and I'm down. Can we plan something sooner than later? Maybe like a meet and greet and we can start to make it a regular thing.
My ex-DH is in town so I have a free babysitter on the weekends. LOL. So yeah, I'm trying to capitalize on that. *selfish plug*
My ex-DH is in town so I have a free babysitter on the weekends. LOL. So yeah, I'm trying to capitalize on that. *selfish plug*
TracyNicole
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Melina posted an interesting article today. I only get the free portion now, but lets discuss. It's long but the gist is that women have a responsibility to look attractive even after commitment. I honestly let myself go, but I'm working on it. What do you ladies think?
http://theseductivewoman.blogspot.com/2013/04/wife-school-importance-of-being-hot-wife.html
Wife School; The Importance Of Being A Hot Wife
Good afternoon my feminine darling! Many divorce files reveal that husbands are often disappointed in their wives' appearance. This disappointment, which is a strong negative factor in marriage, often manifests itself a relatively short time after the wedding.
The husband in question thought that he was marrying a pretty and feminine woman, and he was. Nevertheless, after a few years - often sooner - he discovers that he was mistaken. The image he had painted of his wife before the wedding has undergone a profound change.
Perhaps when they were dating, as well as during the period of their engagement, her carriage, style of dressing, hair and face were always attractive. But since the wedding she may now pay little or much less attention to these important externals when she's alone with him.
She ignores his wishes. He admonishes her and complains. But finds little response. He may even start looking at other women and making comparisons. He will hold these better looking women up as models, and scenes of jealousy will be the result.
"How well-dressed ----- looked this evening!" the husband may remark. "Then why didn't you marry her?" the wife may respond.
Some women believe that when a husband is always finding fault with his wife that he really wants another woman. I don't think this is quite the case, lovely. I believe the husband wants his own wife, but he wants her perpetually and eternally different.
Not only does a man want a hot wife, but a wife's whose twenty women in one, always the same, and never the same! To him this gives monogamous marriage the charm of legalized polygamy.
According to the complaint of many a husband, wives neglect themselves physically at home.
They say things like;
"Every day she walks around with her hair in the same old bun with one of those ugly scrunchies."
"Every time I get home she's wearing old sweat pants. It's getting unbearable..."
"She never makes an effort to be attractive. Even when she leaves the house with me. It's embarrassing."
Yet when the same women expect one of their friends over they may stand in front of the mirror for hours! Such wives more or less lets themselves go, dove. But when the same wives visit other people, or have visitors, they often undergo a sudden and complete change.
Husbands of such wives are usually completely blind to the fact that the same reproach can be leveled against themselves. They may only see messy hair that's in need of a wash, unkempt clothes, the same old t-shirt and pair of jeans, faded old underwear, no makeup, a lack of effort to attract...
The results of a woman's self-neglect are obvious.
Since a husband and wife spend a lot of their time home together, the home is the very arena where the wife should be attractive to her husband.
It's in your home where you should be the most feminine and seductive in your appearance. A home is also the place where a man's image of his wife is formed, and where it becomes engraved on a husband's mind.
Sadly, lovely, many wives are overlooking this to an extraordinarily shocking degree. Such wives may go about the house with rumpled hair, put on sweats every morning, welcome their husbands home in clothes reserved for house-cleaning, sit at their tables looking just as shabby, and reserve their best outfits for strangers.
Interestingly, many a husband interprets a wife's negligence as a sign that she has lost interest in him, and that her consideration and love for him have subsided.
The fact of the matter is that many men are quite vain about their wives, lovely, and are more than concerned with looks. They expect their girlfriends, fiancees and wives to look as hot as possible at all times, and they also have a 'type.'
Yet men take only a small part in choosing their wives' clothing, hair-styles and so on. Ideally, from the day of her wedding, a woman should see to it that her husband takes an active interest in her shopping for outfits. Ideally, as well, he should help his wife choose the things that make her pretty and feminine in his eyes.
The advantage of this is obvious. The wife pleases her husband, and she eliminates in advance any justification for criticism of her clothing. Moreover, she shouldn't be angry, much less feel hurt, if her husband admires another woman's hair, the color of her lipstick, another woman's dress, her shoes, and so on.
Fortunately for wives there are always other dresses and pairs of shoes just as pretty, another specimen of the same lipstick, and ways to make their own self just as alluring.
It may be true that a wife won't choose for herself what's becoming on another woman, but her husband can certainly assist her in choosing whatever flatters her face, her figure, and her personality. *Smile*
If a husband says to his wife about one of their friends "Paula dresses so well." Or: "Evelyn really knows how to look feminine." His wife should insist that he accompany her the next time she goes shopping to buy a new outfit.
Furthermore, cupcake, feminine dresses, skirts and heels are undeniably of considerable importance in a marriage because dressing femininely for a husband, and with with taste, pleases a husband and gives a woman an advantage.
On the other hand, sloppiness and ugliness of dressing only cause a husband disappointment, and possibly, embarrassment.
However, even the loveliest and most feminine items of clothing will be of no avail to a wife if she wears them unattractively. To be attractively dressed isn't merely a matter of money. It's rather a matter of wit, taste, understanding, and knowledge.
A woman with a fifty-dollar dress may be better dressed than a woman with a five-hundred-dollar dress. And a woman who owns five dresses may be better dressed than one who owns twenty.
A smart woman is clever with the way she dresses. She learns to change her clothes like an intelligent card shuffler, and always gives them another charming nuance with a couple of colorful clips, a flower, an attractive scarf, and/or a bright belt.
"Another new dress?" may be her husband's response. The smart wife will never answer with responses such as: "New? I've been wearing it for eight weeks. You never look at me!"
An intelligent wife will simply smile at the question and offer her husband variation in her clothing.
For it's the change, the 'always different' that's intriguing to men. Furthermore, to speak of dresses means also to speak of dressing and undressing - or vice versa. And the more charmingly a woman is dressed, the more fascinating it is to undress her. *Giggles*
http://theseductivewoman.blogspot.com/2013/04/wife-school-importance-of-being-hot-wife.html
Wife School; The Importance Of Being A Hot Wife
Good afternoon my feminine darling! Many divorce files reveal that husbands are often disappointed in their wives' appearance. This disappointment, which is a strong negative factor in marriage, often manifests itself a relatively short time after the wedding.
The husband in question thought that he was marrying a pretty and feminine woman, and he was. Nevertheless, after a few years - often sooner - he discovers that he was mistaken. The image he had painted of his wife before the wedding has undergone a profound change.
Perhaps when they were dating, as well as during the period of their engagement, her carriage, style of dressing, hair and face were always attractive. But since the wedding she may now pay little or much less attention to these important externals when she's alone with him.
She ignores his wishes. He admonishes her and complains. But finds little response. He may even start looking at other women and making comparisons. He will hold these better looking women up as models, and scenes of jealousy will be the result.
"How well-dressed ----- looked this evening!" the husband may remark. "Then why didn't you marry her?" the wife may respond.
Some women believe that when a husband is always finding fault with his wife that he really wants another woman. I don't think this is quite the case, lovely. I believe the husband wants his own wife, but he wants her perpetually and eternally different.
Not only does a man want a hot wife, but a wife's whose twenty women in one, always the same, and never the same! To him this gives monogamous marriage the charm of legalized polygamy.
According to the complaint of many a husband, wives neglect themselves physically at home.
They say things like;
"Every day she walks around with her hair in the same old bun with one of those ugly scrunchies."
"Every time I get home she's wearing old sweat pants. It's getting unbearable..."
"She never makes an effort to be attractive. Even when she leaves the house with me. It's embarrassing."
Yet when the same women expect one of their friends over they may stand in front of the mirror for hours! Such wives more or less lets themselves go, dove. But when the same wives visit other people, or have visitors, they often undergo a sudden and complete change.
Husbands of such wives are usually completely blind to the fact that the same reproach can be leveled against themselves. They may only see messy hair that's in need of a wash, unkempt clothes, the same old t-shirt and pair of jeans, faded old underwear, no makeup, a lack of effort to attract...
The results of a woman's self-neglect are obvious.
Since a husband and wife spend a lot of their time home together, the home is the very arena where the wife should be attractive to her husband.
It's in your home where you should be the most feminine and seductive in your appearance. A home is also the place where a man's image of his wife is formed, and where it becomes engraved on a husband's mind.
Sadly, lovely, many wives are overlooking this to an extraordinarily shocking degree. Such wives may go about the house with rumpled hair, put on sweats every morning, welcome their husbands home in clothes reserved for house-cleaning, sit at their tables looking just as shabby, and reserve their best outfits for strangers.
Interestingly, many a husband interprets a wife's negligence as a sign that she has lost interest in him, and that her consideration and love for him have subsided.
The fact of the matter is that many men are quite vain about their wives, lovely, and are more than concerned with looks. They expect their girlfriends, fiancees and wives to look as hot as possible at all times, and they also have a 'type.'
Yet men take only a small part in choosing their wives' clothing, hair-styles and so on. Ideally, from the day of her wedding, a woman should see to it that her husband takes an active interest in her shopping for outfits. Ideally, as well, he should help his wife choose the things that make her pretty and feminine in his eyes.
The advantage of this is obvious. The wife pleases her husband, and she eliminates in advance any justification for criticism of her clothing. Moreover, she shouldn't be angry, much less feel hurt, if her husband admires another woman's hair, the color of her lipstick, another woman's dress, her shoes, and so on.
Fortunately for wives there are always other dresses and pairs of shoes just as pretty, another specimen of the same lipstick, and ways to make their own self just as alluring.
It may be true that a wife won't choose for herself what's becoming on another woman, but her husband can certainly assist her in choosing whatever flatters her face, her figure, and her personality. *Smile*
If a husband says to his wife about one of their friends "Paula dresses so well." Or: "Evelyn really knows how to look feminine." His wife should insist that he accompany her the next time she goes shopping to buy a new outfit.
Furthermore, cupcake, feminine dresses, skirts and heels are undeniably of considerable importance in a marriage because dressing femininely for a husband, and with with taste, pleases a husband and gives a woman an advantage.
On the other hand, sloppiness and ugliness of dressing only cause a husband disappointment, and possibly, embarrassment.
However, even the loveliest and most feminine items of clothing will be of no avail to a wife if she wears them unattractively. To be attractively dressed isn't merely a matter of money. It's rather a matter of wit, taste, understanding, and knowledge.
A woman with a fifty-dollar dress may be better dressed than a woman with a five-hundred-dollar dress. And a woman who owns five dresses may be better dressed than one who owns twenty.
A smart woman is clever with the way she dresses. She learns to change her clothes like an intelligent card shuffler, and always gives them another charming nuance with a couple of colorful clips, a flower, an attractive scarf, and/or a bright belt.
"Another new dress?" may be her husband's response. The smart wife will never answer with responses such as: "New? I've been wearing it for eight weeks. You never look at me!"
An intelligent wife will simply smile at the question and offer her husband variation in her clothing.
For it's the change, the 'always different' that's intriguing to men. Furthermore, to speak of dresses means also to speak of dressing and undressing - or vice versa. And the more charmingly a woman is dressed, the more fascinating it is to undress her. *Giggles*
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TracyNicole
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No, dove, I'll say a little about women's hair. Nowadays, the ways of cutting and styling women's hair have become very individual and expressive. The length and styles of women's hair, have, throughout the centuries, spoken a varied language.
It was once the expression of the marital state, of virginity, of dignity or disgrace, and of strength or weakness. Modern feminine hair styles express, much more clearly than ever before, a woman's own will and individuality. Especially with the advent of advanced hair-colorant technology.
As for your own hair, it has its 'day-life' and its 'night-life.' A day-time hairstyle may look ridiculous framed against a pillow; its night dishabille would probably have the same effect by the light of day. Moreover, for some reason the majority of men find loose hair on a woman more flattering in bed, and more provocative.
Long hair fanned out on a pillow has its own language, and its own magic. A woman needs only to bring it into play. *Smile*
I also think that a woman should change her hair style throughout the week, and she should change it often. Never scimp on your hair! The appeal, femininity and greater individuality of modern women's hair is reflected in the specific ways of arranging it.
A clearly marked 'dressing of the hair' has developed. The 'hair dress' has supplanted the 'hat dress.' And a modern wife should take advantage of the whole new range of hair accessories such as feminine flowers, combs, feathers, glittery headbands, and so on.
She should also let her husband say what he really thinks of it, even if he disapproves.
A feminine hair style - such as long strait or wavy hair that reaches past the shoulders - will always arouse a husband's attention. That being said, the majority of men seem to prefer long strait hair on women so a ceramic hair straightener may be required or a blow-dryer and a paddle brush.
You should ask your husband what he prefers.
A discussion of the 'pros and cons' with respect to any part of your personal appearance is healthy in a marriage, and of benefit.
What do men notice most about a woman's hair - besides being long?
Perhaps you'll be surprised at the views men have on this subject. It isn't a question of a woman having long hair or strait hair, or even about the color so much, but hair that shines with cleanliness and good condition.
A woman's hair must look as inviting and as touchable as skin, dove. Therefore, fussy hair styles, especially those with a hard, set look, are frowned upon by men. Staggly ends are disliked by men, as well, but more than anything, the male vote is for hair that looks freshly shampooed and shines.
Another thing that men really like is when a woman's hair smells good. You can make your hair smell good with a light spritz of hair fragrance mist. Many men favor for the hair fresh, clean and fruity fragrances that smell like apples, pears and peaches.
To be a hot housewife keep your hair immaculate. Cleanliness, a becoming feminine style, and a delicate fragrance are the three most desirable qualities, in order of their importance.
Ideally, a woman shouldn't ever allow herself to be seen by her husband sitting in a hair salon before her hair is done - such as when colorant, bleach or perming rods are still in her hair. Furthermore, pins, curlers, or other apparatus in the hair (or between the teeth,) aren't an ideal picture during the day or at night-time.
Of course, a husband has to accept the realities of life, and he can't always expect his wife to appear as though she had just come from a beauty parlor. But unkempt hair takes a fraction of a woman's charm away, as does a split seam, a sleeve that has become separated at the armpit, a stocking seam that's not in center, or a bit of slip that shows below a dress.
Husbands also love pretty lingerie on their wives, and especially love matching bras and panties in bright colors and with feminine lace and trimmings.
Do husbands like perfume on their wives?
They love it (if they're not allergic to it.) There's no doubt about that, but they're particular about what, and how much you use. When you reek of your favorite fragrance, you may be causing a headache instead of a quickened heartbeat, and a bad case of embarrassment as well, for men don't like to be made conspicuous.
Too much perfume on a woman proclaims itself just as loudly as too much make-up.
As for which scents men prefer on women, some men like floral scents, some like a dash of the Oriental.
What some men said about perfume:
"I'd rather not be able to identify the fragrance a woman's wearing exactly. I like to think of it as part of the personality of the wearer."
"I feel cheated if the lady I'm with doesn't have some perfume on. I love it, and it's the only way I can enjoy it... by proxy!"
"I wish more women would wear perfume."
Make an ally of perfume, dove, but do apply it mistily, with an atomizer, and not with a sponge!
**Most of these contributions are from husbands who've had an opportunity of studying the situations at close range. Young, middle-aged, and elderly husbands with years of loyal service behind them, have all contributed their quota of opinion. *Smile*
How do husbands feel about about weight control? Are they sympathetic with a wife who's honestly trying to lose weight?
It almost goes without saying that to be a hot housewife you should watch your weight. The majority of men prefer slim but curvy women whose bodies are in proportion. A well-balanced figure will also be well-carried.
It was once the expression of the marital state, of virginity, of dignity or disgrace, and of strength or weakness. Modern feminine hair styles express, much more clearly than ever before, a woman's own will and individuality. Especially with the advent of advanced hair-colorant technology.
As for your own hair, it has its 'day-life' and its 'night-life.' A day-time hairstyle may look ridiculous framed against a pillow; its night dishabille would probably have the same effect by the light of day. Moreover, for some reason the majority of men find loose hair on a woman more flattering in bed, and more provocative.
Long hair fanned out on a pillow has its own language, and its own magic. A woman needs only to bring it into play. *Smile*
I also think that a woman should change her hair style throughout the week, and she should change it often. Never scimp on your hair! The appeal, femininity and greater individuality of modern women's hair is reflected in the specific ways of arranging it.
A clearly marked 'dressing of the hair' has developed. The 'hair dress' has supplanted the 'hat dress.' And a modern wife should take advantage of the whole new range of hair accessories such as feminine flowers, combs, feathers, glittery headbands, and so on.
She should also let her husband say what he really thinks of it, even if he disapproves.
A feminine hair style - such as long strait or wavy hair that reaches past the shoulders - will always arouse a husband's attention. That being said, the majority of men seem to prefer long strait hair on women so a ceramic hair straightener may be required or a blow-dryer and a paddle brush.
You should ask your husband what he prefers.
A discussion of the 'pros and cons' with respect to any part of your personal appearance is healthy in a marriage, and of benefit.
What do men notice most about a woman's hair - besides being long?
Perhaps you'll be surprised at the views men have on this subject. It isn't a question of a woman having long hair or strait hair, or even about the color so much, but hair that shines with cleanliness and good condition.
A woman's hair must look as inviting and as touchable as skin, dove. Therefore, fussy hair styles, especially those with a hard, set look, are frowned upon by men. Staggly ends are disliked by men, as well, but more than anything, the male vote is for hair that looks freshly shampooed and shines.
Another thing that men really like is when a woman's hair smells good. You can make your hair smell good with a light spritz of hair fragrance mist. Many men favor for the hair fresh, clean and fruity fragrances that smell like apples, pears and peaches.
To be a hot housewife keep your hair immaculate. Cleanliness, a becoming feminine style, and a delicate fragrance are the three most desirable qualities, in order of their importance.
Ideally, a woman shouldn't ever allow herself to be seen by her husband sitting in a hair salon before her hair is done - such as when colorant, bleach or perming rods are still in her hair. Furthermore, pins, curlers, or other apparatus in the hair (or between the teeth,) aren't an ideal picture during the day or at night-time.
Of course, a husband has to accept the realities of life, and he can't always expect his wife to appear as though she had just come from a beauty parlor. But unkempt hair takes a fraction of a woman's charm away, as does a split seam, a sleeve that has become separated at the armpit, a stocking seam that's not in center, or a bit of slip that shows below a dress.
Husbands also love pretty lingerie on their wives, and especially love matching bras and panties in bright colors and with feminine lace and trimmings.
Do husbands like perfume on their wives?
They love it (if they're not allergic to it.) There's no doubt about that, but they're particular about what, and how much you use. When you reek of your favorite fragrance, you may be causing a headache instead of a quickened heartbeat, and a bad case of embarrassment as well, for men don't like to be made conspicuous.
Too much perfume on a woman proclaims itself just as loudly as too much make-up.
As for which scents men prefer on women, some men like floral scents, some like a dash of the Oriental.
What some men said about perfume:
"I'd rather not be able to identify the fragrance a woman's wearing exactly. I like to think of it as part of the personality of the wearer."
"I feel cheated if the lady I'm with doesn't have some perfume on. I love it, and it's the only way I can enjoy it... by proxy!"
"I wish more women would wear perfume."
Make an ally of perfume, dove, but do apply it mistily, with an atomizer, and not with a sponge!
**Most of these contributions are from husbands who've had an opportunity of studying the situations at close range. Young, middle-aged, and elderly husbands with years of loyal service behind them, have all contributed their quota of opinion. *Smile*
How do husbands feel about about weight control? Are they sympathetic with a wife who's honestly trying to lose weight?
It almost goes without saying that to be a hot housewife you should watch your weight. The majority of men prefer slim but curvy women whose bodies are in proportion. A well-balanced figure will also be well-carried.
TracyNicole
Thank you for the lovely article and it is right
Dh loves me to look good but doesnt want me to spend too much time or try to hard to. He likes a feminine but effortless, natural look. "Letting go" is not an option in my book but that is only because one should enjoy taking care of themself.
Thank you for the lovely article and it is right
Dh loves me to look good but doesnt want me to spend too much time or try to hard to. He likes a feminine but effortless, natural look. "Letting go" is not an option in my book but that is only because one should enjoy taking care of themself.
I am gonna be honest, this is one of biggest issues. It isn't healthy at all. It has its pros but reading all these books have taught me the importance of living in the moment. In the book the "Quiet Your Mind" John Selby talked about some activities that help you become more present.Taking walks and observing nature, reading improment books, sitting in silence and alone, among some of them. Being on the internet was not one of them, something I am working on
. In the "Powerful and Feminine" book Rachel Groover talks about being aware of the energy in your body. Feeling the sensations, the buzz. That helps you to become aware of where you are. Some practices to help being out of your head is meditation, focusing on breath, observing silence. It is interesting, but being present is extremely linked to sensuality. You have to be present to enjoy the senses of everything. In "Power of Now" Ekhart Tolle says you have to be in your body, not in your head to fully enjoy life. You have to observe your thoughts as a watcher with no judgements.
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ladysaraii
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I thought it was a good article as well. I do think that men need to be realistic about life's demands ie babies, work demands etc that might keep women from being a 10 at all times. And that if they want that to happen, effort might be required on their parts. Ex, you want me to be slim, that might mean you need to watch the kids so I have time to work out, etc, etc.
But I digress.
Oh, I bought a book a few months ago called Wife Dressing. It's from the 60s (disclaimer) I haven't read it through entirely yet, but it looks like it's chock full of information and tips to husbands.
Wife Dressing
But I digress.
Oh, I bought a book a few months ago called Wife Dressing. It's from the 60s (disclaimer) I haven't read it through entirely yet, but it looks like it's chock full of information and tips to husbands.
Wife Dressing
TracyNicole
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ladysaraii that sounds like a good book. Please let me know how it is so I can decide if I want to shell out $10 bucks to add to the stack I haven't finished yet
Wildchild453
When I hit waist I stop
Thanks RegaLady
I figured it would be one of the hardest things to combat because it has become sort of a safety net. I have been hanging out with friends and daydreaming which has become more and more apparent that that's not how I want things to go.
My local library has "Meditation Secrets for Women" so I'm going to check that out and see how it goes.
I figured it would be one of the hardest things to combat because it has become sort of a safety net. I have been hanging out with friends and daydreaming which has become more and more apparent that that's not how I want things to go.
My local library has "Meditation Secrets for Women" so I'm going to check that out and see how it goes.
ladysaraii
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I am gonna be honest, this is one of biggest issues. It isn't healthy at all. It has its pros but reading all these books have taught me the importance of living in the moment. In the book the "Quiet Your Mind" John Selby talked about some activities that help you become more present.Taking walks and observing nature, reading improment books, sitting in silence and alone, among some of them. Being on the internet was not one of them, something I am working on
In the "Powerful and Feminine" book Rachel Groover talks about being aware of the energy in your body. Feeling the sensations, the buzz. That helps you to become aware of where you are. Some practices to help being out of your head is meditation, focusing on breath, observing silence. It is interesting, but being present is extremely linked to sensuality. You have to be present to enjoy the senses of everything. In "Power of Now" Ekhart Tolle says you have to be in your body, not in your head to fully enjoy life. You have to observe your thoughts as a watcher with no judgements.
I think that's slightly unfair. Of course, I'm probably biased lol, but I think that some amount of this is normal and important for people, particularly if they are introverts. Or highly creative. Or (insert astrology science here) have certain signs in your chart. We need a little time to withdraw into ourselves b/c it allows us to recharge.
I think the challenge is balancing it with the ability to step outside ourselves and be in the moment to connect with the outside world.
Just my thoughts
Oh I totally agree
. I think it's unhealthy for me because reality becomes skewed and anxiety sets in. I don't connect with people and moments because I am in my head. Also being an introvert it is my protection and most of my genius moments come from it,lol. But being present keeps worry at bay.
ladysaraii
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Oh I totally agree
Ah, I totally get where you're coming from (forgive me, I should avoid posting while sleepy/hungry/watching Big Bang Theory)
It's hard being an introvert in an extroverted world, that's for sure!
FemmeFatale
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Good morning ladies.. Interesting newsletter that I received..
Top 4 Mistakes Women Make When Speaking To Men…Or To Anyone!?"
By: Patty Contenta
I should go into this article pointing out that I know you don’t necessarily want to seduce everyone you speak to. When I talk of seduction in terms of attracting “anyone”, I want you to keep in mind the actual definition of seductive: “Having alluring, tempting or enticing qualities.” And really, there are very few instances where you wouldn’t want to have those qualities. Think about it: if you are in sales for a living, then what you want is to tempt and entice your potential client into purchasing your product or service. If you want a favor from a co-worker or the best service at a restaurant, then you can build rapport – and get what you want – using these very same qua lities. We all know women who seem to get their way all the time, right? It’s because they know how to talk the talk. So don’t think the only application for what I’m teaching you is romantic.
However…the romantic application is likely why you’re here, so I will focus on common mistakes that actually work against you when you’re trying to attract a man:
1-Talking too fast
Slow down, it’s not a race! Speaking too quickly betrays your nerves, making you seem less than confident. It also makes it almost impossible for a man to be truly attentive when your words are speeding by too fast for him to follow. Speak more slowly and enunciate carefully; your words will have more impact, and you will seem together and self-assured.
2- Not stopping for a breath
Are you a chatterbox? Do you find yourself monopolizing the conversation when you are socializing at a party or club? While being the life of the party is entertaining in larger group sessions, in a one on one situation, it’s a romance killer. It sends the message that you feel that what YOU have to say is more interesting and worthwhile. Speaking more slowly (as above) and being attentive to his cues will help you find natural breaks in the conversation. Take a break every now and then, give him a chance to relate to you. This shows him that you value what he has to say, and that you desire to know more about him. There MUST be give and take to truly be able to relate with a man, and that includes conversation!
3- Speaking too high-pitched
Do you find your voice getting higher pitched, even a little squeaky, when you are feeling nervous or uncomfortable? It’s a pretty telltale sign, don’t you think? And NOT sexy! Not exactly the message you want to be sending! Put your hand on your belly and take a few deep breaths from your diaphragm (your belly should expand if you’re doing it right). Now, think about speaking from that area of your body, not your throat…your voice should feel more full. Dropping your voice an octave not only makes you sound more self-assured, it will give you that throaty, bedroom voice that sounds positively post-coital ….and THAT is guaranteed to get his attention!
4- Speaking too loudly
While some situations, like a noisy club or concert, mean you HAVE to shout just to be heard, speaking loudly creates distance. It makes even a one-on-one conversation less intimate. When you speak loudly enough for the people at the next table to hear, it shows him that what you are saying isn’t personal, or just for him. If you want to encourage a man to move in a little closer, lower the volume a bit. It suggests that your words are a juicy, delicious secret that you want to share with only him. It gives him an excuse to move in a little, smell your perfume, feel the brush of your hair on his forearm…it’s an instant intimacy builder!
So, now that you know some of the mistakes women make when speaking to men--and what to do instead—you don’t have to be one of them. Use the power of your voice to show off the sensual, confident woman you are!
CHECK IT OUT!
QUICK TIP:
When I talk of seduction in terms of attracting “anyone”, I want you to keep in mind the actual definition of seductive: “Having alluring, tempting or enticing qualities.” Use the power of your voice to show off the sensual, confident woman you are!
My Sexy In Seconds DVD Program can be the perfect assistant you need to remind you to step in your fabulous, feminine self! Every week you can make 1 DVD your focus to embody what being a confident, sensual woman looks and feels like! Click here to get more details!
Be all the woman you were meant to be!
I've just got to share this with you, because your DVD's have quite literally changed my life!!
A month ago I truly believed at 53, menopausal, a little over weight, that I was one of those women of a 'certain age' who become invisible, and my confidence and self-esteem were not in a good place. Frankly I didn't know how to change myself, or my life and I was SO stuck and downhearted.
I came across your DVD clips on YouTube and started to play, and I mean really play with your ideas .... and something miraculous happened .... I began to find myself!! When you are open to learning the teacher will come.
Straight away I ordered your extraordinary DVD set and I began to practice, practice, practice. The mental and emotional changes I've experienced so far as I begin to connect with my body, my heart and my unique and glorious sensuality have given me a joy for life, a deep warmth and openness when talking to men (and not just men, everyone!). I've charmed the postman, my boss, and male colleagues who have ignored me for years now seek me out. I was even asked on a date by a tall dark handsome 22 year old guy!!
But this is so much more than being a superficial ego trip for me, it truly is about transformation, about coming home to myself. It's about not being afraid to be seen, whatever my age or size, because sensuality is the gift I've awoken in myself, and men are drawn to the light that shines from a woman who is in touch with herself ... they simply can't help it!
When I know how to truly understand my feminine sensuality I feel complete and can move forward in life with love, fun, playfulness and a healthy irreverence for all the 'games' we play as men and women. I feel confident to know my own mind, make decisions and find boundaries, and my mind has followed my body.
And I tell you, wonderful Patty, I'm only on DVD 2!!!!!!!!! I would be thrilled if you wanted to share some my my delight with other members, because I'm so happy I've started my sensual journey.
Love and gratitude to you
Sensually yours"
- Karen
Top 4 Mistakes Women Make When Speaking To Men…Or To Anyone!?"
By: Patty Contenta
I should go into this article pointing out that I know you don’t necessarily want to seduce everyone you speak to. When I talk of seduction in terms of attracting “anyone”, I want you to keep in mind the actual definition of seductive: “Having alluring, tempting or enticing qualities.” And really, there are very few instances where you wouldn’t want to have those qualities. Think about it: if you are in sales for a living, then what you want is to tempt and entice your potential client into purchasing your product or service. If you want a favor from a co-worker or the best service at a restaurant, then you can build rapport – and get what you want – using these very same qua lities. We all know women who seem to get their way all the time, right? It’s because they know how to talk the talk. So don’t think the only application for what I’m teaching you is romantic.
However…the romantic application is likely why you’re here, so I will focus on common mistakes that actually work against you when you’re trying to attract a man:
1-Talking too fast
Slow down, it’s not a race! Speaking too quickly betrays your nerves, making you seem less than confident. It also makes it almost impossible for a man to be truly attentive when your words are speeding by too fast for him to follow. Speak more slowly and enunciate carefully; your words will have more impact, and you will seem together and self-assured.
2- Not stopping for a breath
Are you a chatterbox? Do you find yourself monopolizing the conversation when you are socializing at a party or club? While being the life of the party is entertaining in larger group sessions, in a one on one situation, it’s a romance killer. It sends the message that you feel that what YOU have to say is more interesting and worthwhile. Speaking more slowly (as above) and being attentive to his cues will help you find natural breaks in the conversation. Take a break every now and then, give him a chance to relate to you. This shows him that you value what he has to say, and that you desire to know more about him. There MUST be give and take to truly be able to relate with a man, and that includes conversation!
3- Speaking too high-pitched
Do you find your voice getting higher pitched, even a little squeaky, when you are feeling nervous or uncomfortable? It’s a pretty telltale sign, don’t you think? And NOT sexy! Not exactly the message you want to be sending! Put your hand on your belly and take a few deep breaths from your diaphragm (your belly should expand if you’re doing it right). Now, think about speaking from that area of your body, not your throat…your voice should feel more full. Dropping your voice an octave not only makes you sound more self-assured, it will give you that throaty, bedroom voice that sounds positively post-coital ….and THAT is guaranteed to get his attention!
4- Speaking too loudly
While some situations, like a noisy club or concert, mean you HAVE to shout just to be heard, speaking loudly creates distance. It makes even a one-on-one conversation less intimate. When you speak loudly enough for the people at the next table to hear, it shows him that what you are saying isn’t personal, or just for him. If you want to encourage a man to move in a little closer, lower the volume a bit. It suggests that your words are a juicy, delicious secret that you want to share with only him. It gives him an excuse to move in a little, smell your perfume, feel the brush of your hair on his forearm…it’s an instant intimacy builder!
So, now that you know some of the mistakes women make when speaking to men--and what to do instead—you don’t have to be one of them. Use the power of your voice to show off the sensual, confident woman you are!
CHECK IT OUT!
QUICK TIP:
When I talk of seduction in terms of attracting “anyone”, I want you to keep in mind the actual definition of seductive: “Having alluring, tempting or enticing qualities.” Use the power of your voice to show off the sensual, confident woman you are!
My Sexy In Seconds DVD Program can be the perfect assistant you need to remind you to step in your fabulous, feminine self! Every week you can make 1 DVD your focus to embody what being a confident, sensual woman looks and feels like! Click here to get more details!
Be all the woman you were meant to be!
I've just got to share this with you, because your DVD's have quite literally changed my life!!
A month ago I truly believed at 53, menopausal, a little over weight, that I was one of those women of a 'certain age' who become invisible, and my confidence and self-esteem were not in a good place. Frankly I didn't know how to change myself, or my life and I was SO stuck and downhearted.
I came across your DVD clips on YouTube and started to play, and I mean really play with your ideas .... and something miraculous happened .... I began to find myself!! When you are open to learning the teacher will come.
Straight away I ordered your extraordinary DVD set and I began to practice, practice, practice. The mental and emotional changes I've experienced so far as I begin to connect with my body, my heart and my unique and glorious sensuality have given me a joy for life, a deep warmth and openness when talking to men (and not just men, everyone!). I've charmed the postman, my boss, and male colleagues who have ignored me for years now seek me out. I was even asked on a date by a tall dark handsome 22 year old guy!!
But this is so much more than being a superficial ego trip for me, it truly is about transformation, about coming home to myself. It's about not being afraid to be seen, whatever my age or size, because sensuality is the gift I've awoken in myself, and men are drawn to the light that shines from a woman who is in touch with herself ... they simply can't help it!
When I know how to truly understand my feminine sensuality I feel complete and can move forward in life with love, fun, playfulness and a healthy irreverence for all the 'games' we play as men and women. I feel confident to know my own mind, make decisions and find boundaries, and my mind has followed my body.
And I tell you, wonderful Patty, I'm only on DVD 2!!!!!!!!! I would be thrilled if you wanted to share some my my delight with other members, because I'm so happy I've started my sensual journey.
Love and gratitude to you
Sensually yours"
- Karen
TracyNicole
Well-Known Member
It is true. I read that you should tape yourself to hear what you sound like. I tried it and I was like ugghhh. I really want to work on lowering the pitch of my voice and pacing. I don't know how anyone gets a word in edgewise.
Ladies, listening to this awesome podcast about sex. sensuality and food. It's long but here is the link: http://www.blogtalkradio.com/honeysoul/2012/04/04/sensuality-sex-and-spice-with-dr-sunyatta-amen
I'm thinking of going to her convention next month since it's local. Any DMV ladies have the low down on Sunyatta Amen? Anyone want to go to any of her seminars?
Ladies, listening to this awesome podcast about sex. sensuality and food. It's long but here is the link: http://www.blogtalkradio.com/honeysoul/2012/04/04/sensuality-sex-and-spice-with-dr-sunyatta-amen
I'm thinking of going to her convention next month since it's local. Any DMV ladies have the low down on Sunyatta Amen? Anyone want to go to any of her seminars?
FemmeFatale
Well-Known Member
I can't wait to check it out when I get home. Also my book "Slow Sex" finally came in the mail, can wait to get started on it.
ladysaraii
Well-Known Member
TracyNicole
Are you talking about the movement & Wellness Expo over Memorial Day weekend? That looks amazing!
Are you talking about the movement & Wellness Expo over Memorial Day weekend? That looks amazing!
TracyNicole
Well-Known Member
Yes ladysaraii I would love to go. I have an out of town wedding the Saturday but thinking about going at least one day. I am seriously interested in some of the seminars listed on the calendar. I was just thinking if anyone else is interested it might be a great opportunity to grab lunch or something
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