I really like this. In fact, I tihnk it's a great way to perceive all people.
I feel a little agitated, and it is even bothering ME, because I like feeling calm and light in my love life. 
Any help?
I am frustrated with someone (a guy) and I'm having trouble controlling my energy with him. In the past, he's commented a lot on feeling safe with me, feeling welcomed and at ease. He's said I'm inquisitive, non-judgmental of him, feminine and sensual, and that my presence is soothing.
Right now I feel like my energy conveys none of those things
We are having communication issues and I think we will be broaching the topic then. It is possible that I might choose to end the relationship, but regardless, I need help getting rid of that anxious energy around that person
Enyo said:
But I want to own that energy no matter what is going on around me
I would love tips on that if anyone can share.
Our feminine energies have coalesced into some sort of sensual superpower. I had my own charms before this thread, but recently I've attracted men who are very devoted to winning me over emotionally and physically. Is there an "off" button?? A sista is getting tired!!
Hm, he wasn't cool. He was worried I would dump him, which is what I was going to do. I'm not very good at conflict resolution, so I get agitated when I have to actually do that. I end up feeling like it's a challenge to manage all my emotions and I lose grasp of my feminine energy. It's easi(er) to be feminine when you're happy and all is great. When they're not... I don't know
BTW, I did end up talking to the guy in question and found that I managed my energy well! I was still smiley, sweet, and everything. It helped that he started the conversation already brainstorming ways to fix what was bothering me and expressing that he wants to make me happy. Looks like I'm still dating him
*sigh* So I've been seeing these two guys. One is just for fun, but the other has serious relationship potential. The only issue is that one of them latched on to me pretty quickly and now thinks we are seriously in a relationship. I told the guy we are just getting to know each other, but he's so into me that I don't think he's listening. He's coming on very strong, but in an I-am-32-and-looking-to-get-married way. The words "wife" and "married" come out of his mouth every time we talk. It's an odd feeling because I normally don't like that kind of stuff, but he's got this honest, happy-go-lucky Midwestern charm that I always fall for. He's naturally giving, cheerful, and empathetic. He makes good money too, which is always a plus.
I'm just trying to stay cool until his infatuation wears off. Goodness, I hope it's soon. I would like to be more emotionally and physically intimate with him. Right now I only allow kisses on the cheek and rarely talk about deep personal things. But I learned the hard way that doing those things with an infatuated person makes stuff worse. I personally blame everyone in this thread for making me so appealing.
Of course, I have an intern update for you which leads to a question about our daughters.
Apparently Ms. Missy and I share certain intimate habits that I will not share in public. But it's safe to say that I'm really going to have to monitor her. She is becoming hyper aware of herself in the last few months and the young men are starting to sense it. She's always had men, but her uber softness attracted users. Now she has two decent ones that are trying their best to woo her.
Young Man #1 is clingy and always wants to see her. He practically begs to take her out for lunch (he works close to our office) and then begs to take her home after work. She's not used to guys thinking her time is valuable and seemed more confused than anything at first. Now, she pretends to complain that she "[doesn't] feel like seeing him right now", but is quick to put on lipstick, brush her hair, and borrow my perfume before she goes out to meet him. She always comes back with a little smile on her face. She actually met Young Man #2 through me. As a result, sometimes the young man will text me about her because he's shy and wants advice on dealing with her. Sometimes I show her the texts and I can tell that she's flattered Young Man #2 is so fascinated with her.
Intern has always been interested in how I manage my men and allow them to vie for my attention, but now she's experiencing it for the first time in her life. She was a little lost and confused at first, but now she's hitting her stride. From what I gather, she feels a little guilty about seeing two guys at once despite the fact that she made it clear neither of them are her boyfriend. But, when we talk, I can tell she's loving it. My question is this: How do we encourage a young lady to enjoy being treated like a princess by multiple men without pushing her overboard? I don't want her to become a user or someone who toys with people's hearts. I'm worried because she's still a teenager mentally and biologically and yet has the sexual instincts of a woman. She creates a rather sophisticated form of sexual tension with alarming ease, and I worry that doing this to too many men at once (or the wrong man) will put her in a bad situation.
I feel like I've taken a child to the shooting range, and now she's picking up guns that she doesn't really know how to handle. Ideally, I want her to just stick with the stuff that she admits that she likes - dinner, movies, rides home (hey, DC buses can get rough), etc. with decent boys her age. But she's realizing how much she's worth, and it might be tempting to see how far she can push a man. It's all fun and games until it goes wrong. I'm in my 30's, so I have mastered the MMM, but she's a novice. How can I get that across to her without seeming like a hypocrite?
Advice, please. Thanks.
)because I was feeling so uptight. I let my hair hang, turned up some Afro beats and starting moving and dancing around the house. I even flirt, dirty danced for dh and he loved watching me
. I just let it all hang out. It was warm today, I put on my first casual dress of the season, put on my boots to run errands. Let me tell you, I felt great, today. My energy must have been up there cause the men the the streets were speaking, and a couple approached. A mom at my son's school even commented how pretty I looked. I am really enjoying being in that sensual mood. The process feels great!
Yes!'
Let me tell ya, I was in a rut for the past couple of days. I wasn't feeling "it". I took down my bun ( I am obsessed with PS until I reach my goal
I think feminine energy is comprised of emotion and logic. When I feel like I want to just flip out, it helps me out tremendously when I take the time to think how this will affect me a day from now? A week? A month? A year? That helps to stabilize what I feel and stay on track. If it was just emotions I would feed the need to blow up and end up not being my most ladylike.
As per your last paragraph I think it might be hard for you to be vulnerable. When it is difficult to be vulnerable, you repress your emotions. In order to combat that, do one thing a day that makes you scared/uncomfortable. Perhaps, you can tell a really smart woman, how intelligent she is. Or strike up a conversation on the line at the bank with the person closest to you in proximity. It may sound silly but little things like that positively affect your confidence and shave away your discomfort at being vulnerable or showing emotion.
Have you ever been out to eat alone? Or a movie?
@kweenameena Yep, I have a few slots open.
Lucie you are dead on as usual. Especially the part about being able to pay a compliment to a stranger. It's difficult. I remember my heart pounding and palms sweating when I first tried to get into the habit. We have to make sure we are open and kind not just for ourselves but also for our sisters.
The timing is funny because today I was studying in the quiet room and this lady was just staring at me. Like not even trying to hide it. I thought maybe I was making too much noise but then she actually came over and complimented hair. I thanked her and smiled and she lit up. I was secretly thinking how sad it was that she seemed to be worried I would be rude. It's definitely time we start embracing each other more.
Also agree with the going out alone part. It can be a challenge at first and you may feel very uncomfortable but if you fight through it you will find out all sorts of things about yourself, grown more confident and perhaps meet new people. And just a tip, don't take a novel or something engrossing with you. It works best if you can actually absorb your surroundings.
Lucie, we so need a meetup
Not many people can/do. A meetup would be great! Are you in NY? 
LOL! I am very friendly but having my cell, to-do list and book makes me keep my head down. And usually when people see me with my things out, they are not as chatty. Also, I read that when you eat it is best to JUST focus on your food. You digest better. I don't know why I am so gung ho to try it.
