FunkyMunky
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chocomom said:As a native Floridian who very recently relocated (oct this year), I think that what you are experiencing is very normal. You are correct, many of the non-black men in South FL like their black women dark. I was a stripper, and I made far more money once I moved into the mainstream (i.e. white) clubs. Black men may like them light, but the 'others' like their coffee black--very little cream if any.
But you are also in a region with a pitiful percentage of decent black men. And at 30, the pickings are extremely slim. Just a fact. I wish I had advice, but many of my friends in your age range are having the same issue.
Thank goodness, someone else from South Florida has experienced this and has friends that are in the same boat. It is pitiful.
MuseofTroy said:Honestly I don't think whether someone is dark or light skin determines if mine outside of one's race makes a pass on them. I believe how physically attractive you are (intially) along with your personality determines how often an individual gets hit on.
Unfortunately, I have to respectfully disagree with this one. Only because I am physically attractive but I also believe that we all have preferences. For instance, I know that I am more attracted to medium brown skinned black men and the middle eastern/italian/mediterranean look. I have never been attracted to blond hair. I will admit that there are attractive men that have blonde hair but I just can't get into them so their personality means nothing. Like Brad Pitt, he is fine but I would take Colin Farrell or George Clooney over him any day. When I walk into a club or a bar my eyes automatically gravitate towards my preferences and it is in no way intentional it just is. Some people like redheads, some like brunettes and some like blondes. Some people like tall men etc.. But I just feel that medium to dark complected girls get more play with men of other races. Maybe they stand out more to white men........ I don't know.