I don't want to hijack my own thread but I have to say it.
I rarely get approached by black men and I am a light complected sista.
Now, I can get a thug, gold teeth and all any day of the week. The thugs seem like the only brothas that don't discriminate.
However, a black man with a college degree, won't look my way. I have been at the stop light on many occasions, with a black guy in the next lane and he intentionally won't look my way but when I am walking with a man of another race he's all in our faces knowing he wouldn't holla if I was alone.
Me and my friends call them the $30,000 n****'s, because we feel that once they make a little bit of money and get a decent vehicle they give us their a** to kiss and 9 times of out of 10 we are making more than them. I am not high maintenance on someone else's dime so they can't go there. Honestly, half the time I don't know what a brotha is looking for. They say they want an independent, beautiful, educated black woman but turn their heads on us. Many times I feel like they look down on me like I don't have s*** and I need them to give it to me.
Like another poster said, men holla when I look a hot mess. Why is that? Do I have to look damn near homeless for a man to feel like he saw a diamond in the rough and turned me into something great? Why can't I catch a man in a suit, confident, nice smile, with my stuff together? Could they be assuming I'm already taken?
Sometimes I go out and no one approaches me....(but a thug
or a boy). It's been like that my whole life.
I am just over 30, attractive, exotic looking (many people think I am black and asian but I am 100% AA) well educated, home owner and I know how to let a man be the man. I am very nice and down to earth and when a brotha does approach me and he sees that I'm cool they always make it seem like I was going to be nasty. I am never disrespectful.
I am so close to moving to meet a quality partner. Brothas in South Florida ain't trying to holla and I can't get no play from the other races because the Latinas and Caribbean sistas got that on lock.
Someone help!!! Tell me where to go LOLOLOL