StrawberryQueen
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I like how you articulated this, especially w/o saying "should," or "have to."Its hard to explain b/c like I said you just have to be raised that way. I'm a real southern girl and dh is a real southern boy, its expected I guess.
Even with my inlaws who all live dead in the country, all the men are sitting down chatting while we are up cooking, laughing talking and yes 'waiting' on their plates. I learned early how to balance two plates. I can remember pulling up a chair to the freezer 'bring my daddy a beer'
There are many other things I do for dh that I feel fit the 'feminine' role of a wife. I bake b/c dh likes it. But like I said the little things I do add up to the big things he does for me. What I want, I get. Dh never tells me no to things and I rarely do as well.
He plays his masculine role as well, its just unspoken. So I bake, fix his plate....but you know what I don't even touch my car except to drive it, he takes my truck and fills it up every few days, I don't even know how much gas costs. I have never had to get an estimate for ANYthing, if something is broken, he finds out how to fix it; the trash, the yard, the pool, whatever....I just go outside and enjoy the ambiance. He also has never cooked a meal, outside of boiling waterbut I really don't expect him to.
I take care of the inside of the house and he takes care of the maintenance of it. I honestly do think there are some things that 'men' just do and 'women' do.
Whatever works for you! Your family sounds a lot like my family, although now that my Dad doesn't work as much, he's cooking dinner 2x a week and driving my bro and sis around to their events and such.