deltagyrl
Well-Known Member
I don't know anyone who would turn this down
You know?
Girl, I retired my superwoman cape and I let him do all those little nice things. Shoot, I expect it now.
I don't know anyone who would turn this down
*thinking* I hope I can articulate this well.
Because it's tradition and an un-said/understood rule for me. I was just raised that way. With my family, I think it dates back to the days where men worked the hardest, had a very long day, were the bread winners who made having food possible; therefore the women in my family would serve them first. All the other food went to the wife and children.
So, with me, I'm still showing that respect since DH is that type of man in my life, he's the head of the house, he's the bread winner, and in my mind he has to have a certain type of treatment for who he is/what he does. This idea transcends to other things around the house as well.
*thinking* I hope I can articulate this well.
Because it's tradition and an un-said/understood rule for me. I was just raised that way. With my family, I think it dates back to the days where men worked the hardest, had a very long day, were the bread winners who made having food possible; therefore the women in my family would serve them first. All the other food went to the wife and children.
So, with me, I'm still showing that respect since DH is that type of man in my life, he's the head of the house, he's the bread winner, and in my mind he has to have a certain type of treatment for who he is/what he does. This idea transcends to other things around the house as well.
Do you make your SO/DH's plate?
If I had a HUSBAND I would. No doubt. My mom fixed my dad's plate, so I would do the same for my husband whenever I'm married.
But just a boyfriend...SO...whatever you wanna call it--nope.
He's not getting that kind of 'wifey duty' from me, if I'm not his wifey.
MMhmm I definitely agree with this.Do you make your SO/DH's plate?
If I had a HUSBAND I would. No doubt. My mom fixed my dad's plate, so I would do the same for my husband whenever I'm married.
But just a boyfriend...SO...whatever you wanna call it--nope.
He's not getting that kind of 'wifey duty' from me, if I'm not his wifey.
I voted no. I'm not married but my SO fixes my plate. At his place or mine, at BBQs, baby showers, wherever. I let him do it because he seems to like it.
But I do make his on occasion (once a month or two?) and he smiles all wide-eyed and happy. I don't mind. But I don't want him getting too comfortable with that.
Am I wrong????
That is one thing I like about this board being majority female. Less "ms. me too"ing and stunting for the men on the board.That's silly! What's the "correct" way? If it works for the women who don't do it, then how is it wrong? Oh well. Seems like a competition of trying to be better than others and make people feel bad.
That is one thing I like about this board being majority female. Less "ms. me too"ing and stunting for the men on the board.
I voted no. I'm not married but my SO fixes my plate. At his place or mine, at BBQs, baby showers, wherever. I let him do it because he seems to like it.
But I do make his on occasion (once a month or two?) and he smiles all wide-eyed and happy. I don't mind. But I don't want him getting too comfortable with that.
Am I wrong????
That is one thing I like about this board being majority female. Less "ms. me too"ing and stunting for the men on the board.
no no please don't get intimidated by other people's views/responses. YOU know best who your SO is, his values, what he takes for granted, and the general workings of your relationship. Trust in that. What works for some....
huh?Huh, I've only noticed two dudes here and that's Nikos and the other person who I never really see write anything. :whois:
I really have to start being more attentive but I don't care about em' too much. Wow I even missed the thread that everyone is referring to.
huh?
Im saying I like that this board is majority women. Having mixed gender convos tends to lead some women in a direction to say things to gain male attention over other women, which is what I suspect happen on another forum where the women were downing other women who didnt plate fix.
Yes, do what works for you .no no please don't get intimidated by other people's views/responses. YOU know best who your SO is, his values, what he takes for granted, and the general workings of your relationship. Trust in that.
Five cents per use royalties.Okay, I'm going to steal that.
Wow. Stunting on a message board for people you will most likely never meet. How sad is that?Im saying I like that this board is majority women. Having mixed gender convos tends to lead some women in a direction to say things to gain male attention over other women, which is what I suspect happen on another forum where the women were downing other women who didnt plate fix.
*thinking* I hope I can articulate this well.
Because it's tradition and an un-said/understood rule for me. I was just raised that way. With my family, I think it dates back to the days where men worked the hardest, had a very long day, were the bread winners who made having food possible; therefore the women in my family would serve them first. All the other food went to the wife and children.
So, with me, I'm still showing that respect since DH is that type of man in my life, he's the head of the house, he's the bread winner, and in my mind he has to have a certain type of treatment for who he is/what he does. This idea transcends to other things around the house as well.
I understand. Do you work?
I'm a teacher. Then work half the summers.
ITA with all of this.
y'all both work. Does he make your plate?
Hijack: for the traditionalists, does this value transcend to other aspects of your home life.
For example, how many of you who fix the plate are SAHMs, or work less than the DH/SO?
Do you only have physical relations in the missionary position? (Not stereotyping or trying to demean but I really want to know,lol)
Does he have final say in all household decisions?
Are you knowledgeable about your financial portfolio/assigned as a delegate on all financial matters?
Do you pick and choose which rule in tradition you follow and which one you don't?
My family are from the south and when I go down there I laugh at them.
I have seen it time and time again. I still think it's funny to see a man sit down at the table and wait for his woman to make his plate.
y'all both work. Does he make your plate?