Do other races of men approach you?

Ediese said:
Not IRL, but get on one of those dating sites and it'll be like a moth to a flame.

My SO said for a lot of them, it's a little intimidating. I still don't get it.
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This has been my experience. I have only been approached a few times in real life. But dating webites, 40-50 percent of emails I get are from white males. Usually 40-50 years old well educated, professional types. Go figure.....
 
Nope, i've never been approached by men of other races. I usually get stared at a lot by men in general :ohwell:. Anyhoo, CarmelCupcake I don't know if this has been asked but are you soley interested in dating men from other races?
 
I've noticed that I get approached more by other races when I'm alone, or apear to be alone. I guess they're scurred of us in groups LOL! :lol:
 
I do all the time. I hang out in pretty diverse areas, so I think that helps. I prefer black men, but it's always interesting to observe how the white guys approach me. Very different overall.
 
Ediese said:
Not IRL, but get on one of those dating sites and it'll be like a moth to a flame.

My SO said for a lot of them, it's a little intimidating. I still don't get it.
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Very true. I get just as many messages, if not more, from white men on the sites I'm on as I do from Black men.
 
Yep yep. I'm in NYC and I love all the diversity. Mostly white men from other races and Chinese/Japanese/Korean the least.
 
Yes, they do. I go to a predom. white university (in northeastern PA)...most of the interracial couples here are BW/WW I've noticed. When I go to parties, however, I'll see the BM be all over the WW...they seem to like that (the BM/WW) a lot. I don't see the WM all over the BW, or vice versa...at parties, that is. At bars/clubs it's a different story though. It's the exact opposite :lol: It may be because there aren't a lot of BM there to begin with (at the bars/clubs around here), so the WM don't feel threatened...or as threatened as they would feel at a house party...where there's sure to be a much higher number of BM. And although I would like for WM to 'grow some balls' I guess lol...I honestly don't blame them. The way the BM here behave at parties is scary and threatening :lol: (and Idk what it is about the BM up here...but they HAVE to say 'nicca' every.other.freaking.word in regular conversation smh)

And I agree about WM approaching women differently. Definitely :lol:
 
i've only been approached by white men in person a couple times, but on dating sites the majority of messages i get are from white and 'other' men.
 
I honestly think that white men are generally intimidated or don't know how to approach a black woman if they haven't been around us (in exposure, experience) IRL. I guess the stereotypes affect them.

I get approached by WM who are friend of a friend. They'll tell that friend they think I'm pretty who would tell my friend who would tell me, lol. Or if they do approach, their kinda half-drunk and then confess their attraction (amusing).

One recent exchange last week was telling; this guy had some low self-esteem, though... He went on about how he's always been attracted to black women, but always felt like he'd get shut down, and he liked me. I think he thought I would chew him out since he couldn't dance or something :lachen:

This is why I hate on media stereotypes of black women since people don't realize how BIG of a role it actually plays in our every day lives.
 
I'm from the San Francisco Bay Area in NorCal so it's very diverse here and yes I have been approached by white and Asian men. It's true they definitely do it differently although they can get bold if they really want to.:look: Another thing I've heard from white/Asian men is that many are truly interested in black women, but the media portrays black women as only wanting black men. So a lot of white/Asian men don't approach because they think they don't have a chance.:nono: That explains some of the stares I've gotten from white/Asian men lol.:ohwell:
 
Yup, not surprising as I live in a melting pot city. I seem to be really approachable which can be good and bad lol. I get alot of European men, which I find more interesting anyhow lol and a little bit from other races but mostly black and white men.

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swirl said:
i get that alot. white men ARE attracted to us. they just don't want anyone that they know to know it. that's why they approach us when they are faaarrr away from home with little chance of getting busted. LOL
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or when they're drunk. makes things easier in their mind. :yep:
 
Not lately.

When I was on Eharmony, I had several white guys message me and "seem" interested. I never pursued anything with anyone from there.

IRL, a handful have showed some interest but I felt like they wanted me to make the first move.

Asian, Hispanic/Latino...no
 
Interesting how most of these approaches either involve alcohol, online messaging, going through a friend, living in the right ir locations, and/or 35+ year old men.

To answer the thread, not really. Maybe I need to start going to crazy junk parties.
 
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I was actually just thinking this today because the white guys come out the woodwork when my hair is curly. Today it was crazy. Hispanic guys approach me all the time. Other races not so much.
 
Probably about 3 or 4 times. I once had a white guy beg and chase after me to get my number when I was at the airport. I was engaged to DH at the time so I had to tell him no thanks.
 
For me, it really depends on location. I live in Atlanta, and it rarely happens here. BUT, when I was in NC (especially near the coast), I was approached pretty frequently and a few other places like NoVa.
My friend and I were JUST talking about this last night...I think the approach is just WAY different and a LOT more subtle. I think that BW are so used to the bold approach by BM, that when men of other races try to approach, it's barely noticeable. Like another poster said, just asking for the time can be them "approaching". I think I've missed several opportunities because I didn't recognize what he was doing beyond just being nice or polite. I haven't had any trouble recognizing signs from non-American men though, LOL.
 
Yes, I've been approached by non black men. But because of their different approach, I didn't recognize it at the time.

Because many are less forward it seems like they're just friendly as opposed to genuinely interested.

Also, this will sound real old school, but when I do realize I'm being hit on by a white guy (the more forward ones) I feel like I'm a fetish. I doubt the sincerity in their approach. That may be my own bias, but thats how I feel about it. ::KanyeShrug::

However, statistically, when people rate attractiveness, black women and Asian men are lowest on the totem pole here. I'll have to find the study that backs it up.

None of this really matters though because I'm happily attached.
 
ImanAdero said:
Also, this will sound real old school, but when I do realize I'm being hit on by a white guy (the more forward ones) I feel like I'm a fetish. I doubt the sincerity in their approach. That may be my own bias, but thats how I feel about it. ::KanyeShrug::
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that is true. i have also been realizing, in the same way that it seems like black men who are... less than ideal a lot of the time date fat or unattractive white women, the inverse of that is nerdy, ugly white guys that white girls don't want figuring that at least a black woman will want him. there are also a lot of white guys who want to 'experience' sleeping with a black woman, or who think it will be easier to get with a black woman. idk how i feel about that one because white women are supposed to be pretty easy to sleep with but who knows if that's true either.

i do think that all men, in general, are less discriminating, sexually at least, than all women, in general. but it's hard not to think of ulterior motives when the guy is not black sometimes, for some people.this sh8t is just bogus, basically. i wish it didn't have to be like this.

these a korean guy in my program that ive been talking to lately. at his birthday party a couple weeks ago he playfully kissed me in front of everyone and later on joked/not really about us going home together. since then we all have been joking about it on facebook, like the people i hang out with. now when i see this guy at school, he'll always speak to me and the last day of class before break, he's like what are you doing over break we'll hang out ok? and since then we talk from time to time online. he made a comment on our friend's relationship update - she is now in a relationship with this other korean dude - about how that gives him hope for getting with a white american girl. when i mentioned that i told him that black women and asian men are at the bottom of the dating totem pole. thats not a pity thing, it's true, unfortunately. he was the one who brought up the whole small penis thing as a cause of it. since then he has said things like me and you should just get together then, and asked me why do i like him, and asked me if i wanted to move out of state with him when he does his phd, probably joking, im sure.

really, i'm not particularly interested and definitely don't want to hook up with him, but i think the interaction, at least, is interesting. i havent heard from him since i told him all he talks about is school, though :lachen:
 
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