barbiesocialite
Well-Known Member
LHCF is so contradictory... so y'all don't believe in fwb because it cheapens sex yet you believe in one night stands and legalizing the selling of poussay?
Let me be real here - some women are playing the game wrong - a woman never needs to even kiss or hold a mans hand to be compensated for her time with gifts and financial support if thats what she desires... It's nothing to do with sex and u will probably get more from a man without sexing him if that's the game you are in - it's all about the type of man you choose.
Some men are so cheap and/or broke that you can buss it open all night every night and sing on that mic all night and get zilch. Others you will have what you want just cause he wants to make you smile, to impress you etc and that's who he is.
Same thing with marriage and relationships - if you meet a marriage minded man who is at the right time in his life and you meet his requirements he will marry you whether you slept with him on the first night or after a year, whether he was your first or your hundredth - cause your the one and he knew it from the first moment he met you - most women do not need to do magic tricks or acrobatics to get a man to marry them - the hard part, is staying married given that most pre engagement relationships are only 1-3 years and marriage is for life.
See that's where the game is effed up.
This isnt about money. This is about time, affection, commitment. REAL investment. That's the cost. That's the payment. Top dollar ish. The expensive ish. Hard to get. You can tell when some women are used to gold diggers, sluts or the women who dont get ish as their standard. Petty ish for petty chicks. There is a middle and more meaningful ground BUt unfortunately, a lot of black women havent been exposed to it so they dont know it or understand it. It took me a long tie to get the women in my life to tell the truth about their sex life. For real, I literally had to pull my gma, aunt and mama's teeth. my mama still lyin! Why? Because their real lives say they are quality women of value. None of them ever demonized sex but if I can look at their lives, just as an observer, it clearly says these are women of value who when they share themselves others value it. Ugh the following is gross to say but clearly the men in their life value their vaginas too....At the same time their are sadly other women who live lives that show they arent worth much. Their vajajays arent worth much either. And they dont care. They'll probably juust never be worth anything. If that's what some women choose to do more power to them. I support it. So they will have to settle for cut buddies and fwb instead of really determine things on their own terms---no strings--- or getting everything with all of the strings
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