After a few more dates? Why in the world would you be going on a few more dates with a resentful, childish idiot who took you out knowing you assumed the norm (i.e., that he would pay) and then left you with the check in order to express disdain for social norms governing dating? That kind of boy is mean-spirited and most likely has issues with women. He shouldn't even get a "good night". If a man wants a more "modern" (read: cheap, unchivalrous, and exploitative of women) approach, he should disclose that prior to the date rather than deliberately embarrassing and surprising the woman.
You need to check your standards. Months? Girl, no.
I totally agree. My guy and I are modern too. I can be a queen sometimes, but I absolutely love to treat and be treated when in a relationship. On a date, I will let him pay, but not before I attempt to pay for myself. Most of my adult life was been spent with men that paid for everything, so when I got to a position where I can pay for myself (because I work very hard for what I want), I prefer it. I believe that a healthy independent dependance is necessary. I want you, but I can still eat what I want without you is my mantra. But it if makes him feel more like a man to pay for the first date, then I let him.
