Thread for the heartbroken

I've been fully committed to my diet and it has helped me keep my mind off of him!

I also have a little crush on someone:grin:. This is HUGE because even though I'm not going to pursue it, it proves to me that I can be interested in other people. I now have a more clear idea of what I want for myself in the future and how he doesn't fit it.

I needed this relationship and heartbreak so that when the right one comes along, I'll identify and appreciate him. :yep:
 
EdgyGirl said:
I've been fully committed to my diet and it has helped me keep my mind off of him!

I also have a little crush on someone:grin:. This is HUGE because even though I'm not going to pursue it, it proves to me that I can be interested in other people. I now have a more clear idea of what I want for myself in the future and how he doesn't fit it.

I needed this relationship and heartbreak so that when the right one comes along, I'll identify and appreciate him. :yep:
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That's wonderful!!! :yep:
 
Subbing to this thread...it came on time for me as well. The ex and I have been broken up for a couple of months, but I really need to let go completely.
 
Wow. I'm about 95% over him. One day I woke up and it just happened! I prayed for this pain to go away, and it did! I'm so happy! On top of that, tomorrow is Friday and I have plans for the entire weekend. I've lost about 7 lbs as well. I'm sure most of it is water weight, but I don't care. SOME baggage is gone. I'm going to be so fabulous come December!
 
I soooo needed this thread tonight.

I'm tripping off this guy who I went out with a few times even though he had a girlfriend. I know I know my mistake but I thought this time would be different because we dated before and he told me he was breaking up with her. Now he talking about he confused and doesnt feel comfortable starting something new before he ends his situation.

SMH

I'm so done with relationships right now
 
mscurly said:
I soooo needed this thread tonight.

I'm tripping off this guy who I went out with a few times even though he had a girlfriend. I know I know my mistake but I thought this time would be different because we dated before and he told me he was breaking up with her. Now he talking about he confused and doesnt feel comfortable starting something new before he ends his situation.

SMH

I'm so done with relationships right now
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Leave this situation before you get even more emotionally attached AND do not let him lure you back in! Right now the situation is comfortable for him because he has both of you. If you leave he's going to do everything in his power to convince you to stick around except leave his girl. I know it's hard to walk away but I promise you that it will be easier now than down the line. If he's the type of guy who could cheat on his girl, he can cheat on you...believe it.
 
EdgyGirl said:
Leave this situation before you get even more emotionally attached AND do not let him lure you back in! Right now the situation is comfortable for him because he has both of you. If you leave he's going to do everything in his power to convince you to stick around except leave his girl. I know it's hard to walk away but I promise you that it will be easier now than down the line. If he's the type of guy who could cheat on his girl, he can cheat on you...believe it.
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That's right...leave now. He wants to have his cake and eat it too....Good luck!
 
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EdgyGirl said:
Leave this situation before you get even more emotionally attached AND do not let him lure you back in! Right now the situation is comfortable for him because he has both of you. If you leave he's going to do everything in his power to convince you to stick around except leave his girl. I know it's hard to walk away but I promise you that it will be easier now than down the line. If he's the type of guy who could cheat on his girl, he can cheat on you...believe it.
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I know you're right. But a little background on this situation. This is a guy I briefly dated 2 years ago. We ran into each other again back in June, purely by accident at an event. We talked and he told me he had a girlfriend but he and I were cool we were never on bad terms or anything plus we always stayed friends on fb.

We texted and talked back and forth for a few months and he told me he was thinking about breaking up with his girlfriend because they were having problems. So we decided to hang out. I didnt see anything wrong with it because I had no intentions on doing anything with him. We went out a few times and only kissed on the lips no tongue no touchy feely, no sex or anything like that. Strictly PG

My problem with him is that his career keeps him so busy that he rarely has time now. At the time he told me he was going to break up with her but he wanted to do it in his own time. When I spoke to him a few days ago he said he hasn't had time to end the relationship because he has been soo busy with his career and how he hasn't had time to focus on his personal life. He also said that he feels guilty about pursuing a relationship with me when he hasnt ended his relationship yet.

At this point I'm done with the situation. After we spoke I just decided I'm not calling him, texting, or reaching out period.

I just blame myself because I feel like I should have known better. :nono:

I dont know why I even started seeing him again I should have just kept it platonic
 
mscurly said:
I know you're right. But a little background on this situation. This is a guy I briefly dated 2 years ago. We ran into each other again back in June, purely by accident at an event. We talked and he told me he had a girlfriend but he and I were cool we were never on bad terms or anything plus we always stayed friends on fb.

We texted and talked back and forth for a few months and he told me he was thinking about breaking up with his girlfriend because they were having problems. So we decided to hang out. I didnt see anything wrong with it because I had no intentions on doing anything with him. We went out a few times and only kissed on the lips no tongue no touchy feely, no sex or anything like that. Strictly PG

My problem with him is that his career keeps him so busy that he rarely has time now. At the time he told me he was going to break up with her but he wanted to do it in his own time. When I spoke to him a few days ago he said he hasn't had time to end the relationship because he has been soo busy with his career and how he hasn't had time to focus on his personal life. He also said that he feels guilty about pursuing a relationship with me when he hasnt ended his relationship yet.

At this point I'm done with the situation. After we spoke I just decided I'm not calling him, texting, or reaching out period.

I just blame myself because I feel like I should have known better. :nono:

I dont know why I even started seeing him again I should have just kept it platonic
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I hear you! We live and learn and you can do so much better, but I'm sure you know this! :yep:
 
I'm finally at the point where I no longer long for him and I'm not upset about us not being together. Occasionally I feel a bit of anger about the situation, but I'm learning how to look at the bright side--he wasn't the one and I found out sooner than later.
 
I saw this thread when it began and some reason I knew I would end up posting..I'm going to come out of lurkdom to share and maybe get advice...

Me and my guy are over. Well, we've been broken up since August, ( I broke up with him). but we were trying to work things out and for the past 2 weeks, I just decided that I don't think it will work between us ( I don't really feel like giving details) but he tried his hardest to get me back and give us one more chance and that we are meant for each other blah blah, well we had a really good weekend and I decided that it wouldn't hurt to give it one more chance. So last night I texted him GN, i love you and miss you and want to be with you. This is after we got off the phone. He never responded. He texted me this morning saying he apologizes for not responding, he didn't want to be dishonest. Well he basically said he does not think he wants to be with me, that there is something missing.....blah blah basically everything I was telling him before. So yes I am hurt but I am ready to move on, its just getting over the memories we had and that it happened like this. We had such a fun weekend. It just hurts...Anyway, I blocked his number so I will not receive any texts or calls for him. The only communication we have is email and thats only because he owes me money for a plane ticket, we went on vacation this summer. So I gave him directions in setting up a Paypal and how much he owed me and stuff. I watch too much Judge Judy, he is not getting away with that. I already cried it out, my mom feels really sad, I don't think she knows how to help me. We were together for 2.5 years so this is just really hard right now...im rambling, let me stop.
 
Getting used to being without him. Doesn't mean I don't WANT him but...I'm starting to realize that maybe he did me a favor. I don't hate him. He treated me too well for that. If I find another man that can treat me as well but want to be with me forever...I'll be a lucky woman.
 
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Getting used to being without him. Doesn't mean I don't WANT him but...I'm starting to realize that maybe he did me a favor. I don't hate him. He treated me too well for that. If I find another man that can treat me as well but want to be with me forever...I'll be a lucky woman.
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I hear you! My ex and I had some good times and he definitely treated me well most of the time but he was a liar and very manipulative. He wasn't much of a provider either and the stuff that went down after the break up shows me that he ISN'T the one. The right man will be kind, mature, honest and the "take charge" type. I'm trying not to give up hope that he's out there.
 
Good thread! A girl once told me that it took her an entire year to get over a relationship. At that time I thought she was crazy. I was like, 'no way I"m giving anyone that much time to get over something!'. This time in my life I now understand what she went through. Even though I have healed and forgiven myself and the situation the hurt still flashes through my mind sometimes but its so easy to shake it off now. It's like nothing. But it did take a few years to get to this point. I believe it took me about 4 years even with lots of prayer. Crazy, huh? :nono: Til this day I will catch myself thinking about the hurt but its more so of missing the feeling of being in love with someone (not him) that consumes me. I miss those days. :yep:
 
Half a year has past since the breakup. I still think about him daily. I haven't had any contact with him since I sent him an e-greeting for his bday in which he briefly responded "thanks". My birthday came around and he didn't even bother to contact me at all. I am convinced he had moved on before I decided to end things so I am not shocked he doesn't even care to contact me, but it still hurts. I still love him...maybe the next 6 months will be better.

Awesome thread OP!!!
 
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Almost 3 years since we broke up and I think about him every now and then. We were together 3 years. I don't think of him often, but when I do it hurts so bad. :'(
 
There's so much I want to say but for once in my life, don't feel like reiterating anything. I hope this gets better.
 
Some of you ladies are saying you're still heartbroken years later meanwhile I've only been heartbroken for 2 weeks. That's not very encouraging lol.

In January we were moving in a 2 bed together. Lease is signed and deposit paid. At what point do I ask "soooo who's getting the apartment?" :lachen: I'm laughing but really the only reason I'm avoiding it is because if we decide what to do about the apartment it will be the nail in our coffin. His cousin sent me a message yesterday asking what our plans are for New Years so that we can get together. Well cousin, my plan is sitting at home crying with my single booty :lol: I don't think I'll be invited to the family party. I hate when people get news late.

Sigh LHCF I love this man with everything I have. 2 years done just like that. I apologize in advance for my emo-mantics in the upcoming months.
 
Broken, confused, and afraid. He wants to be friends. I've been helping him with a side hustle to make extra money. But feels like he's using me and playing with my emotions. I love him so much, I would do anything to just be by his side. Confessions of a fool who ends up in the same type of relationship over and over again. Is there something wrong with me? SMH.
 
Asmsladii


I know exactly what you are going through! I could have written your post myself. No, there is nothing wrong with you. You just have to STOP and love you and put you first. You have to look at the patterns on why you keep attracting these types of dudes. You will overcome this!

((((((BIG HUG))))))
 
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