Thread for the heartbroken

Crystalicequeen123 said:
I've unfortunately been in a situation like this before. :ohwell: It was definitely hard time getting over him since I had to see him every week and also see his new girl as well. :ohwell:

But don't worry, it WILL get easier with every passing day, every passing week, every passing month, etc. I am definite living proof of that. :yep:

For some people it takes them a year or so to completely get over someone, so don't feel horrible if you're not over them immediately. It took time to develop your feelings for him, and it will take time for them to go away.

I whole-heartedly believe in seeking therapy if you feel the need. :yep: Even just a FEW sessions can do wonders (it did for me :yep:).

In the meantime, is there any way you can sort of avoid having to see him and his new main squeeze? Or do you two work together or something or are in a place where it's unavoidable that you will see him?




Tell me about it.... :ohwell:

The care-free girl I once was before my big heart break years ago is probably long gone..... :nono: But I'm steadily trying to get her back. :giggle:

I recently unfortunately just went through something....not a heartbreak or a breakup per se, but more so a lost hope of a potential romance. :ohwell: :( So, not quite as painful as a breakup in the least, but still kind of disheartening. I'm still getting over him, and it may take a little more time :cry3: , but I've made huge strides already! I find that focusing on myself right now is helping tremendously. :up: :yep:





I'm sorry girl.... :hug2: I know how it can feel. I think you taking a more objective look at this guy is helping you to think more rationally and realize that this guy (although maybe great on paper) wasn't all that "great" if he dumped you or wasn't nice to you.... :nono: Sometimes we can get so caught up in our heartbreak or pain of being dumped that we forget to look at the men (or person) objectively, and realize that they must not have been a good fit for us if they cut things off or if it didn't work out. :ohwell:

I watched this video from Matthew Hussey (relationship coach) the other day and found it to be very encouraging. :yep: Maybe it will help some ladies here in a small way...

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Man that video spoke to my soul!!!!!!!!! :cry2: Thank you for sharing.
 
nesha24 said:
i really don't think im ever going to be in a real relationship. i don't think it's in the cards for me. it hurts, but i need to be happy being alone.
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I have started to feel this way. I am 30 now. I feel like I missed my boat in college, even though I spent 3 years of it in a committed relationship that ended in a disaster. I hope I am wrong, though.
 
I decided to go the supplement route to deal with my daily outbreaks of emotion. When I think I am good, something triggers an outburst.

I ordered NOW Foods Mood Support to see if that would help me deal with things a bit better. I took two yesterday and felt emotionless, which I also think is unhealthy. So today I am trying just one to see if that is my magic number...
 
Qtee said:
I hate feeling like I wasted 2 years n I'm older n still single.. Too old to still b single.. I don't want anyone else but I also don't want to still b single.. I don't know which is making me more sad..
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@Qtee I feel for you I do but I can guarantee you where he is, he's probably not sparing you a thought. Don't waste your time/life obsessing about what could have been. *hugs* there's someone as good if not better just waiting for you:-)
 
About to go to the place we met for the 1st time in over a year. I hope to God I don't run into him.

ETA: this was a bad idea. I'm not ready. Every time a dude walks in the door that looks like it could be him, my heart stops. F**k, I hate this. That negro ain't thinking about me and he's all up in my friggin head. :nono:
 
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levette said:
Lassies. Make sure not to rebound keep your standards high or it will be worse
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I had a distant relative throw in my face that my life is sad and lonely. She chooses to settle with a man that has been in and out of jail for drug dealing with 4 kids by different baby mommies. She do not have any transportation. Yeah I would rather be lonely than dealing with a loser like him.
 
We spoke yesterday for the first time since February. I wasn't looking for, and didn't need further confirmation that removing himself from my life was the best thing he could have done for me. But I sure as hell got it anyway. That man couldn't be honest and upfront with me if his very life depended on it.

So to him I say, thank you so much for setting me free so I can be available for someone who actually deserves me. Because you don't and you never did.
 
Well! I'm here. Long story I'm sorryI met someone in April we hit it off instantly spent everyday together. Enjoyed our time we said we were jus going to be friends and hang out the other person started to catch feelings and want more. I was open to it but I needed to clear something's before I committed and he understood. We continued to hang and the thing was we enjoyed each other in the physical but when we were apart we would fight due to his insecurities.

He was with this woman for 5 yrs they were supposed to get married this ur around this time but they broke it off last August and he moved back to NJ in March and we met in April.

I compromised a lot for this person, mistake one!

He never admitted his wrongs the fights were ways my fault even when it was him.

My birthday was July 16 prior to my birthday we stopped speaking for 2 weeks

For my birthday he came to my house and left flowers on my porch didn't even give them to me I caught him while he was pulling out my driveway I called asking for him to come back he said no he had to go back to work. Which is shyt because he works for himself.

So that night thinking we were in a good place I invited him out. He declined and said he hoped I enjoyed my night. I found out her was in a fender bender ok cool

Two days later he texts me all this stuff about how we were just two friends hanging out it was nothing more. It was cool sometimes but he never had feelings for me.

He made me feel like I Was crazy he said I was living in a fantasy world because I'm like yo I now u asked to be together! Wtf! So now ur just going to deny everything. He also said the flowers meant nothing it was my birthday and he thought it would be weird to send a text to say happy bday so he got the flowers since I've done nice things for him previously.

Which makes no sense because he had to go out of his way to come to my house because he lives about 30 mins away. Then to pick out flowers! Then he was like, I was in the area! So coincidently u were in the area on my bday with flowers! He also said he never liked me saying he likes someone is like the L word for him yet his own family has told me that he has said he really liked me and how happy he has been since we met.

I figured because of the ex he was trying to negate his feelings deep down I knew, but I got confirmation that he is indeed speaking to the ex again and is going to move back down south.

I really liked this person and I feel like such a fool, allowing myself to fall for this person that tried to negate me as if I was nothing.

I know good things won't come to him and karma will get him.

It just sucks because it took me three yes to find someone after focusing on school and being busy and picky.

I have an intuition that when things go sour with the ex gf he's going to remember how good I was despite the stupid arguments.

He's a Sagittarius BTW, intend to always attract this sign. They always talk about sags being honest, but in this case he totally lied about his feelings and I had no evidence to shot him out because I deleted our texts!
 
@MizzKutieQ :bighug:


I am so confused with men that go back to women that do not care about them and then say there are no good women. I am also picky about who I give my attention to so when you find someone and they drop the ball it is frustrating. Keep your mind off of him and focus on your fabulous self. When you least suspect it he is going show up apologizing.
 
LovingLady said:
@MizzKutieQ :bighug:


I am so confused with men that go back to women that do not care about them and then say there are no good women. I am also picky about who I give my attention to so when you find someone and they drop the ball it is frustrating. Keep your mind off of him and focus on your fabulous self. When you least suspect it he is going show up apologizing.
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I've been starting to slowly go back into my routine. it sucks because we literally spent everyday together since we met then I figured he started talking to the ex and started acting funny. It amazing how he made it seem like we wouldn't work yet he's going back to someone that it hasn't work with for 5 yrs. why call off a wedding just to get back together? It's dumb. Karma will go after him, I just hope I'm lucky enough to watch it unfold. I'm pretty close with his cousin. The cousin was the one that told me he's back talking to the ex.
 
I haven't heard from him in 4 days becasue he was ignoring my calls. He calls me from a blocked number and calls me stupid *****.
 
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