Thread for the heartbroken

nesha24 said:
Everyone around me is dating/married/getting engaged. I'm happy for them all, but I can't help but think when will it be my turn. I try to do the right things, but I sometimes just don't think it's in the cards for me to be married.
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I'll just give you a :bighug: because honestly, I feel the same. And not even in a "woe is me" kind of way. It's more like resignation. I just don't think it's gonna happen. Idk, maybe I missed out cuz of all the time I wasted with dudes who weren't serious.

I guess I'm just at the point where I'd rather end up pleasantly surprised because I did find someone than keep holding out hope and end up being disappointed because I didn't. :ohwell:
 
Some days I'm so good I find that I barely think of him. Then there are random moments when it hits me and I wonder how I get by and then I get angry with myself for being weak. But I get angry with him for not feeling this way as well (or I don't know if he does but who cares)
 
I haven't talked to him in going on 3 months. I blocked his number and everything. I went to play on my Ipad yesterday and I saw these messages he's been sending me. I thought if I blocked him from my phone that it would block him from everything since I didn't get any of his messages on my macbook.

He emailed my work address yesterday morning asking me to call him. I promptly deleted the message. I haven't reached out to him once, but I'm secretly happy that he's been trying to contact me and really happy that I've had him blocked and wasn't able to respond.
 
I thought I'll never venture here but alas! I cant believe I will be in my mid 30's this year and no kids, husband or even have a healthy relationship. The guy just broke my heart again or maybe I expected too much... the moment I turned 30, my luck has gone downhill. It is depressing, my cousin just got engagement for a second time..
 
So he can randomly text me "to say hi", but couldn't text me for my birthday yesterday, which happens to be the day before his, so I doubt he forgot. Even my father called me, and I swear to you, I can't remember the last time that happened.

TBH, old me probably would have text him (and then made him guilty for not texting me). New me is like "just another Thursday". I'm really not even mad or hurt. Just another reminder of what kind of person he is.
 
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I feel like I've ruined my life on the love/relationship/marriage front.

Every other area of my life is progressing but this one. I'm lonely, but I don't wanna put myself out there anymore. I have no interest in dating. This last situation...I think it may have obliterated the little bit of optimism I had left. I can't do it. I don't think I have anything left to give.
 
MzLady78 I felt the same way when my husband walked out but not anymore. I think that God will present you a man when you are ready. At this point I don't think that you are. Once you are happy with yourself than a man will come. just focus on yourself. And you may just be feeling this way because Valentine Day is tomorrow. Hugs your way. Don't give up on love because some jerk did you wrong. I have faith that you will meet your prince in shiny armor
 
Yesterday and today were just awful. I got up and went to work today so I wouldn't sit around crying all day. We are off tomorrow too. sigh....
 
I'm in here! Feelings of calm, anger, sadness, emptiness, and even happiness plague me. Life goes on, though.

Most of the time, the one that hurt you seems to find a way to move forward when you cannot...just doesn't seem fair.
 
Hugs to all the women in this forum that are hurting. This weekend being Valentine Day doesn't help. It just seems like the men are moving along and us women are still hurting. 7months later and I still think about him everyday. I know for a fact that he has moved on. I still hurt as it it was yesterday.
 
Was it just me or did Vday seem to drag on forever? I wasn't sad. This is the 2nd year in a row no Valentine. He has moved on and got engaged. I just would love to have a decent date. Starbucks doesn't count/
 
Each day is better. I always hope that my healing is quick. I have found that the more I am hurt, the quicker it is for me to get over the next hurtful event. The last few mornings, when my mind was quiet, I found myself thinking...and the thinking was negative. But when I get up and start moving around, those negative feelings begin to diminish. My friends have been super supportive, even though they say I inadvertently put myself in these impossible situations. I agree with them.

Some things I can see crashing and burning from a mile away, but I still go for it. Like a boss... lol
 
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I can't get away from my ex. He lives across the street from me so I sometimes see him and his girlfriend/ baby mother who knows what she is. But now for sine reason my grandmother keeps asking me about him and why it didn't work out. It's so annoying. I don't know what to do
 
I was doing so well. I thought that maybe I could be friends with him.......so wrong. He's so emotional unavailable. I guess I was feeling lonely and a little sad. I'm tired of being alone, but I'm also scared of getting involved with the wrong type of men.

Sigh.
 
From Trent Shelton's FB page (if you're not familiar with him, PLEASE check him out). Some of the realist stuff I've ever read. Thought it might help someone.

Hey you, Stop breaking your own heart by trying to make a relationship work that clearly isn’t meant to work. You can’t force someone to care about you. You can’t force someone to be loyal. You can’t force someone to be the person you need them to be. I’ll be real with you, sometimes the person you want most is the person you’re best without. You got to understand some things are meant to happen, but just not meant to be. Some things are meant to come in your life, just not meant to stay. Don’t lose yourself by trying to fix what's meant to stay broken. You can’t get the relationship you need from someone who’s not ready to give it you. And I know it’s hard when your heart has labeled that person as someone you could spend forever with, but you just have to accept that they’re not that person anymore. And you might not understand WHY NOW, but I promise you your future will always bring understanding of why things didn’t work out. TRUST ME. Don’t put your happiness on hold for someone who isn’t holding on to you. Some chapters just have to close without closure. Straight up. That broken thing you keep trying to put back together is keeping your life from that beautiful thing that’s waiting to be built. God loves you too much to answer a prayer that’s going to leave you hurt. You deserve better.
 
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nesha24 said:
I was doing so well. I thought that maybe I could be friends with him.......so wrong. He's so emotional unavailable. I guess I was feeling lonely and a little sad. I'm tired of being alone, but I'm also scared of getting involved with the wrong type of men.

Sigh.
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This is exactly where I am right now. I woke up feeling pretty bad this morning.

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The ex sent an email stating that he needed my signature for the divorce paper work. Every pain that I was trying to repress came back. It final hit me that he had moved on and had someone. All these months I have been by myself and not dating anyone as legally I'm still married.how can one just up and leave a marriage without thinking twice. He wants to see my son in two weeks. I don't know what I'm going to do. I feel like crap, alone, hurt and stupid. Stupid mostly. It's been 8 months and I hurt like it was yesterday. I don't know how to start healing. I'm thinking about going back to therapy. Crying as I typed this because I realized today that I still love him. Heartbreak sucks
 
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