Thread for the heartbroken

crlsweetie912 said:
I was sitting outside my house today waiting for maintenance. My heat isn't working. He texts me out of the blue and I haven spoken to him in over a month. And during the exchange when I told him not to contact me anymore he says I saw you going into the house and you seemed upset. I'm like wtf are you doing by my house! My house is not anywhere where somebody would be just passing by. He said he's been passing by for the past few weeks. My sister is a sherrif and my mom and aunt work for the local city council. He works for the city and I know he doesn't want to lose his job. But you better believe I will report his ***....
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Ugh..This ninja gonna make me come to B-More. :hardslap:
 
crlsweetie912 said:
I was sitting outside my house today waiting for maintenance. My heat isn't working. He texts me out of the blue and I haven spoken to him in over a month. And during the exchange when I told him not to contact me anymore he says I saw you going into the house and you seemed upset. I'm like wtf are you doing by my house! My house is not anywhere where somebody would be just passing by. He said he's been passing by for the past few weeks. My sister is a sherrif and my mom and aunt work for the local city council. He works for the city and I know he doesn't want to lose his job. But you better believe I will report his ***....
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Wow, the nerve to be watching you and then contact you. I'd be furious as well. I hope this is the first and last time!
 
So my ex husband sends my son Christmas gift today. I have mixed reaction to this. Why wont he stay gone? Why is he doing this to us. Maybe im looking into this to much. I just want to cry
 
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proudofmynaps said:
So my ex husband sends my son Christmas gift today. I have mixed reaction to this. Why wont he stay gone? Why is he doing this to us. Maybe im looking into this to much. I just want to cry
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Don't do it. Keep thinking positive and focused you you and your son. Don't let him have that power over your emotions!!!!! HUGS
 
yeah they get crazy. I thought i was so in love and in bliss last year. but i guess i fell for his representative. that heartbreak i had last Christmas, new years thru spring was no ****** joke :nono:
started seeing someone. was happy & content and here comes the ex pleading, begging, crying..smh (that's how they do). gave him another chance and nah..this dude is cuckoo, has demons etc etc. he is self destructive. I would lose myself if i were to stay with him. he will bring me down.
He sent me this disturbing video some months back of the song 'pretty' by 'The weekend" In the video dude kills his ex and her new man. smh.
I'm ok for my bad experiences because they sure taught me what I don't want or will tolerate and who will appreciate me.
I still get sad, mad once in a blue moon..etc. but then i realize how pathetic he is and will never get someone like me again. Then i feel sorry for him.
 
sylver2, I remember you saying you were giving him another chance and I wondered how it was going. I'd say sorry that it still didn't work out, but it sounds like it's better for you that it didn't.
 
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MzLady78 said:
sylver2, I remember you saying you were giving him another chance and I wondered how it was going. I'd say sorry that it still didn't work out, but it sounds like it's better for you that it didn't.
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thank u.
Ladies its real hard when it happens. ive felt everything u all r going thru...but u will get thru it and find someone worthy of u. time, patience, self confidence. Im glad the man im seeing has been so patient. he has restored my trust & faith in love.
u think stuff was real before.. until u actually experience 'real unconditional love'
i regret giving my ex another chance..but i had to really learn.
I believe I dodged a bullet.
 
Still not quite where I'd like to be, but doing ok. Last week, I was informing everyone that my nephew had been born, and I debated whether or not to text him but ultimately decided against it. I have to continue to move forward and stop looking back. He's not part of my life anymore.
 
I am not feeling heartbroken. the rap Song I DONT give a **** about you is very helpful. Last Christmas was a very dark time for me. This year I am hopeful again. He wasn't the one. God has someone better for me. I just keep saying that over and over.

Anyone that is a killjoy or puts me in a negative headspace will be on a no flex zone list
 
Country gal said:
I am not feeling heartbroken. the rap Song I DONT give a **** about you is very helpful. Last Christmas was a very dark time for me. This year I am hopeful again. He wasn't the one. God has someone better for me. I just keep saying that over and over.

Anyone that is a killjoy or puts me in a negative headspace will be on a no flex zone list
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yep, it helps me too. I sing loud right a long and replace the words with bi%ch azs ninja :lol: This time last year was a reallly dark time for me too. it does get greater later. it really does. time, patience.
 
I saw him. He couldn't even look me in my face. And broke down crying. Like bawling and snotty. A part of me felt a little bad but...oh well
 
Country gal said:
So true. I was able to get through Christmas but that ***** New Years got me in my feelings. I was hoping I would have someone by now.
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Same here. Especially since his birthday is New Years day. I keep wondering about how he's spending it. I feel like I'll always associate New Years Day with him. Its already been a year and I'm still not even halfway over his fine, lying cheating stinking self.
 
JustSitNBePretty said:
Same here. Especially since his birthday is New Years day. I keep wondering about how he's spending it. I feel like I'll always associate New Years Day with him. Its already been a year and I'm still not even halfway over his fine, lying cheating stinking self.
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Yep. mary hit the nail on the head with that it's been a whole damn year song.
 
Having a moment and I really need for it to pass.

It's crazy how someone can swear they love you and just essentially turn their back on you. One day, you realize that they've checked out and you don't even really know what happened. I know that at the end of the day, the who, what, where and why shouldn't matter, considering I shouldn't have been in the ish to begin with. But it still hurts.

I keep telling myself to stop thinking about the past and accept where we are NOW. My last committed relationship ended when I was 27 or 28. I spent pretty much all my early to mid 30s in love with this man who was never gonna give me what I wanted. How much more f**king time am I gonna waste on this dude? We may not be involved amymore, but time spent reminiscing and trying to make sense of things is still wasted time. It's so frustrating. Sometimes I feel like this is the one part of my life that isn't getting better.
 
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MzLady78 said:
Having a moment and I really need for it to pass.

It's crazy how someone can swear they love you and just essentially turn their back on you. One day, you realize that they've emotionally checked out and you don't even really know what happened. I know that at the end of the day, the who, what, where and why shouldn't matter, considering I shouldn't have been in the ish to begin with. But it still hurts.

I keep telling myself to stop thinking about the past and accept where we are NOW. My last committed relationship ended when I was 27 or 28. I spent pretty much all my early to mid 30s in love with this man who was never gonna give me what I wanted. How much more f**king time am I gonna waste on this dude? We may not be involved amymore, but time spent reminiscing and trying to make sense of things is still wasted time.
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Sis, all you can do right now is focus on YOU! YOU DID NOT MISS OUT ON ANYTHING! If he was all that then he wouldn't have walked away so easily. He did you a favor by walking away. Don't waste any more time on him than you already have!
I guaran-dayum-tee that he will be back trying to get in good. And that whatever "life" he has now isn't going well. People who don't do right don't get right in their lives.
 
crlsweetie912 said:
Sis, all you can do right now is focus on YOU! YOU DID NOT MISS OUT ON ANYTHING! If he was all that then he wouldn't have walked away so easily. He did you a favor by walking away. Don't waste any more time on him than you already have!
I guaran-dayum-tee that he will be back trying to get in good. And that whatever "life" he has now isn't going well. People who don't do right don't get right in their lives.
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Yeah, I know all this in my head. Just need my heart to get with the program.
 
Everyone around me is dating/married/getting engaged. I'm happy for them all, but I can't help but think when will it be my turn. I try to do the right things, but I sometimes just don't think it's in the cards for me to be married.
 
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