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Just checking in to see how everyone is doing......holiday season is here and I know this can be a hard time..
 
nesha24 said:
Just checking in to see how everyone is doing......holiday season is here and I know this can be a hard time..
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Hey ladies. Doing quite well. So thankful. I know for real for real that this is the best place I can be in. No lies....no secrets...no baggage. Opened up my life for more positive things to come into it. Coming up on my super busy season at work. So I have a lot to keep me busy.
((((((((Hugs)))))))) :bighug: to everybody.
Don't think about what you lost.....think about the peace you have gained!!!!!
 
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crlsweetie912 said:
Hey ladies. Doing quite well. So thankful. I know for real for real that thus is the best place I can be in. No lies....no secrets...no baggage. Opened up my life for more positive things to come into it. Coming up on my super busy season at work. So I have a lot to keep me busy.
((((((((Hugs)))))))) :bighug: to everybody.
Don't think about what you lost.....think about the peace you have gained!!!!!
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Church and Tabernacle. :yep:

I am constantly telling myself this. If I'm being 100% honest, I was unhappy way more often than I was happy. I went back and read my journal, and my posts here and the bad definitely outweighed the good. I probably cried more over the last 4 years than I have in my entire life combined. :nono:

My focus right now is not letting the holiday blues/loneliness get to me. This can be a tough time of year, then add the fact that my little sister is beating me in life- having gotten married and now expecting a baby, it's hard to not feel some kind of way. Don't get me wrong, I'm thrilled for her and can't wait for the baby to come but it'd be nice to have something of my own to look forward to.
 
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MzLady78 said:
Church and Tabernacle. :yep:

I am constantly telling myself this. If I'm being 100% honest, I was unhappy way more often than I was happy. I went back and read my journal, and my posts here and the bad definitely outweighed the good. I probably cried more over the last 4 years than I have in my entire life combined. :nono:

My focus right now is not letting the holiday blues/loneliness get to me. This can be a tough time of year, then add the fact that my little sister is beating me in life- having gotten married and now expecting a baby, it's hard to not feel some kind of way. Don't get me wrong, I'm thrilled for her and can't wait for the baby to come but it'd be nice to have something of my own to look forward to.
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Sis, truth be told we ain't missing out on much. They are. Not perfect, not rich, not a size 0, but we are damn good women who have a lot to offer!

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Let me edit before somebody tells me I was praising this man all up and around the forum. Yup, I sure was, but it wasn't "real". For me it was, but he was just playing a role. He put on what he wanted me to see and hid the rest....the ugly truth.
 
crlsweetie912 said:
Sis, truth be told we ain't missing out on much. They are. Not perfect, not rich, not a size 0, but we are damn good women who have a lot to offer!

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Let me edit before somebody tells me I was praising this man all up and around the forum. Yup, I sure was, but it wasn't "real". For me it was, but he was just playing a role. He put on what he wanted me to see and hid the rest....the ugly truth.
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UGH.. I hate when a man sends his representative and not his real self. Just UGH... have you all up in the clouds over a LIE. And those usually end up being the hardest relationships to get over. All because we were in love with a lie. Stupid men
 
Taleah2009 said:
UGH.. I hate when a man sends his representative and not his real self. Just UGH... have you all up in the clouds over a LIE. And those usually end up being the hardest relationships to get over. All because we were in love with a lie. Stupid men
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You know what I ain't gonna lie and say I wasn't devastated when things all came out. It was REALLY rough. I was in pieces. But one day I just decided that I was NOT gonna waste any more time on this man. I wasted enough. He didn't deserve me pining after him. So I had to suck it up and move on. His loss....
 
crlsweetie912 said:
Sis, truth be told we ain't missing out on much. They are. Not perfect, not rich, not a size 0, but we are damn good women who have a lot to offer!

ETA:
Let me edit before somebody tells me I was praising this man all up and around the forum. Yup, I sure was, but it wasn't "real". For me it was, but he was just playing a role. He put on what he wanted me to see and hid the rest....the ugly truth.
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I feel you. You think you hit the jackpot in the love department. Only for the rug to be swept from under you. I am feeling the holiday blues. I know I am better off alone but I fear being lonely.
 
proudofmynaps said:
nesha24 im doing ok. Therapy is going well. Will be surrounding myself with family this holiday season. How are you?
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I'm doing ok. I'm the opposite, I'd rather not be around family or friends. I hate being asked questions, people trying to get me to meet their son, nephew neighbor.....I just want to be left alone and watch lifetime and netflix.
 
He text me Saturday that he was thinking of me and wanted to see how I was doing. I was shocked. I guess whatever stuff it is he's been dealing with last few months is getting better (although he did say his daughter got arrested.):ohwell:
 
MzLady78 said:
He text me Saturday that he was thinking of me and wanted to see how I was doing. I was shocked. I guess whatever stuff it is he's been dealing with last few months is getting better (although he did say his daughter got arrested.):ohwell:
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DELETE!! And hope you didn't reply. Ignore him! Give him a dose of his own medicine!!

Man, I don't even know you or this guy but I want to shank him for sending you this message. Ugh!
 
deediamante said:
DELETE!! And hope you didn't reply. Ignore him! Give him a dose of his own medicine!!

Man, I don't even know you or this guy but I want to shank him for sending you this message. Ugh!
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Sooo...yeah...I kinda have this disorder that doesn't allow me to ignore people. :nono: I have to say that he's never not responded any time I've text him, he just doesn't initiate. Which I guess is a form of being ignored. :look:

But in either case, it doesn't change anything. Business as usual.
 
Sitting at home thinking about my baby celebrating his birthday without a dad is making me sad and angry. I really hate this man. I know hate is a strong word. Just pray for me.
 
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Deleted because I need to get a grip.

It's nice to see that ladies I am familiar with around these parts have been through some heart ache as well.
 
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Happy Thanksgiving Ladies!
Everything has been going well for me for about a week or two. I mean well and it's kind of mediocre for me because when you think you're doing good then it fails so to speak. He texted me last week and I didn't text back at all. Well 2 weeks went by and he texted me again the other day asking how was I doing and I waited 10 minutes and texted back "i'm well", and did not get a response back. Why did I do that? I should have stayed out of sight &mind. I believe he will contact me again and I think my plan of action should be not to respond to any of his contacts. Thoughts? Today Im feeling a little down because I should have stuck to my plan. You cant call the shots and contact me on your time.
 
nesha24 said:
the worst part of a break up is not always breaking up with the person you were with. sometimes its the thought of having to start all over again with someone else. it's scary, draining and sad.
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This all day everyday! The thought of dating is exhausting, sharing yourself again!
 
TayMac said:
How did you find out? That is unacceptable. Make your local friends/family aware.
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I was sitting outside my house today waiting for maintenance. My heat isn't working. He texts me out of the blue and I haven spoken to him in over a month. And during the exchange when I told him not to contact me anymore he says I saw you going into the house and you seemed upset. I'm like wtf are you doing by my house! My house is not anywhere where somebody would be just passing by. He said he's been passing by for the past few weeks. My sister is a sherrif and my mom and aunt work for the local city council. He works for the city and I know he doesn't want to lose his job. But you better believe I will report his ***....
 
crlsweetie912 said:
I was sitting outside my house today waiting for maintenance. My heat isn't working. He texts me out of the blue and I haven spoken to him in over a month. And during the exchange when I told him not to contact me anymore he says I saw you going into the house and you seemed upset. I'm like wtf are you doing by my house! My house is not anywhere where somebody would be just passing by. He said he's been passing by for the past few weeks. My sister is a sherrif and my mom and aunt work for the local city council. He works for the city and I know he doesn't want to lose his job. But you better believe I will report his ***....
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Thank god you have people on law enforcement to watch your back. :yep: report him. Don't worry about his job. He obviously doesn't care.

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