Overjoyed
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I am a 36 year old woman educated, fairly attractive, self-sufficient, but for the life of me I cannot find a decent man. I sincerely desire to be married, but unfortunately it is an issue beyond my control. I haven't given up, but I have put it on the back burner because I do believe when the time is right God will bless me with a good man.
I have a male friend who is 36 years old who constantly complains that he does not fit the criteria of what the average black women is looking for. He claims that "us" black women overlook him because he is overweight, does not drive the right car, make enough money, wear the right clothes or say the right things. I have told him numerous times that we are all entitled to have a choice of who we are attracted to whether it is right or wrong to others.
About 2 weeks ago I was shopping and I saw a white man wandering around the store who I thought was a mentally challenged patient from a group home or something. He wasn't dressed the best nor was he in the best physical shape and he looked as if he got straight out of bed. When I went to pay for my purchases I noticed there was a fairly decent looking white woman on line with him and I realized they were a couple when he kissed her on her forehead and she put her head on his shoulder. As I watched them and listened to their conversatioin while waiting on line I realized that there was nothing wrong with him....he was just plain unattractive.
As I drove home I thought about on how many occasions I have seen very attractive white women with not so attractive white men, which leads me to the question: Are there a high percentage of black single, unmarried black woman because we are too critical of physical appearance? Are some of us umarried because if it's not pleasing to the eye then we will go no further to find out more about the man? I can honestly attest that if a man is not physically my type I just won't bother.....why? because aside from other qualities I have to like what I am looking at.
Ladies what are your opinions on this issue?
I have a male friend who is 36 years old who constantly complains that he does not fit the criteria of what the average black women is looking for. He claims that "us" black women overlook him because he is overweight, does not drive the right car, make enough money, wear the right clothes or say the right things. I have told him numerous times that we are all entitled to have a choice of who we are attracted to whether it is right or wrong to others.
About 2 weeks ago I was shopping and I saw a white man wandering around the store who I thought was a mentally challenged patient from a group home or something. He wasn't dressed the best nor was he in the best physical shape and he looked as if he got straight out of bed. When I went to pay for my purchases I noticed there was a fairly decent looking white woman on line with him and I realized they were a couple when he kissed her on her forehead and she put her head on his shoulder. As I watched them and listened to their conversatioin while waiting on line I realized that there was nothing wrong with him....he was just plain unattractive.
As I drove home I thought about on how many occasions I have seen very attractive white women with not so attractive white men, which leads me to the question: Are there a high percentage of black single, unmarried black woman because we are too critical of physical appearance? Are some of us umarried because if it's not pleasing to the eye then we will go no further to find out more about the man? I can honestly attest that if a man is not physically my type I just won't bother.....why? because aside from other qualities I have to like what I am looking at.
Ladies what are your opinions on this issue?