Well, I am taking part in an online class teaching femininity (you gotta pay for it) and this is a problem women have ACROSS THE BOARD (sorry to use caps, just trying to emphasize). Especially for white women (which would make sense because they are the majority)
Women are getting more masculine and men are getting more feminine. I think it has to doing with lack of understanding between both genders. Women have been so mistreated throughout the course of history that they've begun to overcompensate
Also, because black women tend to live in poorer socioeconomic areas, femininity is seen as a weakness, many women are not allowed to come into their own brand of womanhood. The woman teaching the class even said this, and she is white (although she only mention the class difference, not the race difference). Being feminine would essentially turn you into a target. Many black children have also grown without fathers and no one to protect them.
Again, this is not a "black woman's issue", it's an issue I've seen for white, black, asian and in between. In many Asian cultures (and African/WI as well), women are taught to put on a good face so you while they may look happy you don't know what is going on behind closed doors. I'm friend with some Asian women and men and some are the stories are un-be-fricken-lievable
I'm sorry but white men, IME, seem the worst in the relationships that I hear. I don't mean to generalize but IDK, they just seem very entitled? Maybe I'm using the wrong words but they seem to whine and moan very easily and give up when things start giving them trouble. And worst then that they are very passive and don't take responsibility for anything they do. Maybe it's is the entitled culture that they grow in, because I notice this with mainly middle class kids/upper middle class.
I would post some femininity tips here but I don't think they would be well received.