southernbella
ITA also.
I thought the OP was clear that we don't need to compare as though we are the latter.
I think I was having a #brandnew moment
erplexed, because I'm confused at the turn the thread has taken. Maybe I didn't understand what was truly being asked. I dunno' now.
Still, I'd like to take a stab at answering one of your question posed above about "looking else where" with a personal example. I hope I'm not too far off:
Japanese culture was the first I was exposed to (before American mainstream culture) and I even had a Sensei (we could refer to her as nothing else, I never heard her name!) who taught me (and other second grade girls) how to walk in kimono, sit properly, cook, "be a sweet wife" all of that --which is invaluable, still, to this day --with some updating.
That said, when I started retraining myself in high-school to be feminine, I started with what I had learned from Traditional Japanese culture and then looked to notable Black Women from the 1930-1950s
to see someone who looked like ME that embodied the same principles I first learned from an EA/Traditional Japanese perspective.
The Colored-Girl Beautiful was a great read for that reason as well.
Culturally, Black Women are not taught the idea of being "living art". That Japanese principle has a lot of applications. The strength we have is unstoppable,
but it must be wielded deftly to not be dulled by stereotypes beyond our control.
The legacy of the amazing AA women that came before us is ours to take as well, combined with other useful ideas/points-of-view from other cultures we're #winning.
That's where observing other cultures can be potentially useful --but, not in demeaning ourselves!
I think it's okay to draw upon things that have helped women in general advance, across cultures. That's where I thought this thread was going....
Black women are tops as you said
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we just need to employ our awesome-ness in more effective ways to counter-act the negative PR we're dealing with today, that other groups don't have standing in their way.
I really hope that isn't lost in the melee in this thread.