This is a really good thread. Just broke up with my boyfriend for good last week. (We broke up the first time in September). He's not a bad person, we just aren't at the same places in our life right now. I think that makes everything harder. Him calling and trying to be there for me also makes things harder. Some days I wish he would just dissapear.
Throughout this all, I've learned that a good number of men (I've only been seeing black men at this point) are triffling liars that will lie about just about anything. I continued to talk to them as something to do because I thought I was going to get back with my ex. But as of today, I won't be answering any of their phone calls. You wouldn't believe the guys I've run into.
Guy #1: 32 yrs old (I'm 21 mind you), works a retail job (I think as a stock boy), lives at home with his dad. DOES have a degree. Mistake #1, calls me ALL THE TIME, I'm talking probably six times a day between my house and my cell phone. Leaves messages, texts me, you name it. I tell him that I don't like to listen to messages, and he says "what if I just want to tell you good morning and I'm thinking of you." I say, "don't". Mistake #2, asks me if I would bring him breakfast EARLY on black friday morning. Negro, PLEASE! I am not your girl. Mistake #3, tries to invite HIMSELF over to my apartment. At this point, I meet him wherever we go. He says I am guarded with my emotions, blasy blah, then says "What, are you afraid I'm going to come over every day." Frankly, YES! Mistake #4, we go to the mall so he can buy a suit. I'm thinking he's going on a job interview or something, NO, he's going to a costume party. AND we go to chick-fil-A and he can't even pick up the tab. PLEASE! And the icing on the cake is that I'm not even remotely physically attracted to him.
Guy #2, Drives a Benz. Lives in an apartment. Is 32 years old. That should be enough red flags, right? WRONG. This negro REALLY has the audacity to SHOW UP AT MY PLACE! NO, he didn't call or anything. I had known him for about four days. So we're talking, and I'm still in shock that he just came over. And he tells me that he needs something to wear to his SHOW tonight (I forgot to mention that he is a "singer" and owns a recording studio - yeah, right!), I tell him he better go look for something. He says, "BUT BAAABBBY" I'm like WHAT?! He says, you can't pick me up something? HELL NO. I don't take care of NO MAN! NEXT! (Oh, and at this point, I have all of my faculties and promplty curse him out for showing up UNINVITED).
Guys #3, I meet him, he says he graduated from Morehouse, went to Cornell for law school, and practiced corporate law for a few years before going to business school. Yeah, he said it. Mistake #1, I tell him I'm thinking about buying a Condo when I graduate, and he says that that's not a smart idea, because of all the fees and this that and the third thing. Fast forward two months, he tells me he owns a condo and a house. Yeah, he said it. Mistake #2, he tells me that he has all the money he will ever need because he invested wisely. Negro, why are you driving a MAZDA then? Mistake #3, he only calls me at 10:00 at night at this point, to ask me what I'm doing and to tell me he's doing nothing and I can come over and kick it with him if I want. Yeah, right, you just want to watch movies? At this point, I've never seen you outside of my apartment, or yours. Do you think I'm stupid? And the icing on the cake: he is terrible in bed, but things he's great.
WTH is wrong with men?
Sorry this is so long, but thanks for letting me vent.