Enyo
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As I promised, here is the spin off thread from the discussion about "Loving" and the Divine Feminine. Basically, this is a thread to come together as women and share how to be mistresses of our own sensuality and sexuality and teach it to our daughters. I was going to make two threads, but since our girls are often extensions of ourselves, I figure we can talk about both here. This is the original thread (http://www.longhaircareforum.com/showthread.php?t=671293), but for the sake of time, here are the main highlights:
Since I started the the topics I guess I'll start with a childhood experience. For me, classical African and European art that depicted nude women were the first exposure I had to the beauty of the female form. Now, a lot of West African carvings depict the breasts to be a bit unnatural looking, but I was taught by knowledgable people that often it was just to emphasize the role of the breast in reproduction. My mother and father never tried to cover my eyes and shoo me away when we went to museums or when I read her huge "History of Art" and happened upon a nude woman. Sometimes my mom would even comment at "how pretty" the painting or sculpture was. She also made a point in mentioning how healthy and strong the women looked.
My mom also tolerated my early fondness for burlesque. She really hated it, but there was no stopping me after I saw "Gypsy" on TV when I was about 7. I loved the fan dance and would imitate it with towels. Mom was pissed, but after a while, I think she realized that it'd be years before I understood the sexiness of it and just told me not to dance like that outside of the house. Something about the movement and the cheekiness (no pun intended) just attracted me like a moth to flame. To this day, I love me some burlesque. It's just so sensual and fun.
Personally, I've always wanted to be an excellent lover. Even at 13/14 sexual interaction was natural for me. No one had to teach me to do certain things to a man - it was almost as if my body told me. While I have no desire to sell myself, I do wish I was able to learn techniques to further my natural inclinations. Even in the age of the internet, I feel that everything is so spread out and watered down. I'm always reading about older women who teach the younger ones (though I'm not young anymore), so where are they? I've been around the block, but I'm always up for a few lessons. Where are the teachers?
We want people to believe that sex is dirty and that women's sexuality is offensive and dangerous. So in place of learning about sexuality in a healthy, positive way, we're left with porn which glorifies the mechanics of sex instead of the sensuality it should have.
After meeting her, I realize that training our daughters and helping other women isn't just about sex and sensuality. It's about the divine feminine power as a whole. Girls need to be aware of it and realize that it's broken up into different parts - social, physical, and spiritual. Some of us have mastered all three, but most of us are weak in one or two of those areas. I'm sad that we don't support each other in this matter.
I would definitely be taking notes from both topics. My mother raised my sisters and I to be afraid of our own sexuality. Growing into womanhood was such an unnecessarily terrible, shameful time. If I have daughters, I don't want to raise them the way that I was. I want them to be connected to their sexuality and womanhood. I believe it will make them stronger. So, I need to learn for myself and learn how/what to teach my future daughters.
My issue is that it seems that people seem interested in pleasing men and that is not what it is about. The point is not to excel at turning tricks which would be a denegration and vulgarizing of what the Divine Feminine stands for. We need to go for the Divine Feminine and not the Divine Hooker.
We do ourselves a great disservice as women not teaching the Feminine. Not just being an amazing lover, wife, mother, sister, friend, etc. but also, elevating those around us in a way that ONLY femininity can.
Since I started the the topics I guess I'll start with a childhood experience. For me, classical African and European art that depicted nude women were the first exposure I had to the beauty of the female form. Now, a lot of West African carvings depict the breasts to be a bit unnatural looking, but I was taught by knowledgable people that often it was just to emphasize the role of the breast in reproduction. My mother and father never tried to cover my eyes and shoo me away when we went to museums or when I read her huge "History of Art" and happened upon a nude woman. Sometimes my mom would even comment at "how pretty" the painting or sculpture was. She also made a point in mentioning how healthy and strong the women looked.
My mom also tolerated my early fondness for burlesque. She really hated it, but there was no stopping me after I saw "Gypsy" on TV when I was about 7. I loved the fan dance and would imitate it with towels. Mom was pissed, but after a while, I think she realized that it'd be years before I understood the sexiness of it and just told me not to dance like that outside of the house. Something about the movement and the cheekiness (no pun intended) just attracted me like a moth to flame. To this day, I love me some burlesque. It's just so sensual and fun.
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