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Wow, I love this. I love everything about it. We definitely seem like a perfect match in every way. I love how you are so into me and so attracted to me as I am to you...I love how you want to know about my life, my desires, dreams, my hurts, etc. I love all the relationship questions to see how we would get along...Every time we talk we are on the same page. Amazing.

However, I'm still on earth and I am taking it day by day. Many things start off perfect. The key is making it last and making sure that the good outweighs the bad.
 
Je Ne Sais Quoi said:
I wish I had more of an update I really do :lol: he keeps saying things like he is going to find someone to hook me up with and then yesterday. We had an interesting conversation yesterday which left me confused on if he is interested or not. I don't have time for guessing games so I am putting him in the friend box. What sealed it for me is that I went home sick yesterday which he knew and he never called last night to see how I was. That says a lot for me. He will see me today and ask how I am etc but it isn't the same as him picking up the phone. Still a nice guy though. Just not in to me.

Mzlady I wish we lived near each other. I would love to go out with you and meet folks and just have fun. All my friends are taken so I don't have many folks to go out with. And since I don't guy out my chances of meeting a guy are slim to none. Oh well.

There is someone out there for me I just know it.

Mzlady your friend sounds like he has a sleep condition. Or he has a lot of friends to juggle. Or hw just has you on the backburner
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I know, I think we'd have so much fun if we hung out! I can only imagine how much trouble we'd get in, lol.

I hear you, when you can talk about a guy about you and other guys, it's never a good sign. I actually found myself asking D for his male perspective on my situation with T. I've never discussed my dealings with other men with him but since he clearly doesn't have those kind of feelings for me, I figured what the hell. He told me to leave it alone, by the way.

I feel the same way about T as you do your friend- a decent guy but not as into me as he claims. I don't need another man in my life who can't/wont give me the time and attention I need. I already have one and I need to be trying to rid myself of him.
 
MzLady78 said:
:bighug:

I'm sorry you're going through this but it's great that you realize you want and deserve more. Sometimes, even when you know, it's not easy to take necessary steps to go find it (totally speaking from experience right now).

I wish you the best. :yep:
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Absolutely! It does take a lot of courage and faith to go after what you really want and deserve. But I'm going for it this time MzLady! I'm going for true love! If I fail, at least I tried! I won't be sitting up 30 years from now saying "would've, could've, should've". (His mother, now that all of the children are grown and married off, is saying "would've, could've, should've" about their father. He learned his lax behavior from his father. That won't be me!! :grin:) I have faith I'll find it. It may take a few years, and I'll be working on myself until then, but he'll come along.

I'm so tired of being depressed! My children need a happy mommy, not a depressed mommy. I cannot afford to stay in this unpassionate relationship any longer.

Thank you so much for your encouragement!! :bighug:
 
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Day number 3 of not hearing from this fool. Yet I've been back and forth with "the temp" all damn day.

What a friggin joke.
 
MzLady78 said:
Day number 3 of not hearing from this fool. Yet I've been back and forth with "the temp" all damn day.

What a friggin joke.
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So when is that trip to CT? :yep:

Mz L, please leave the high expectations and pondering for a man who actually shows a sincere interest in you and acts on it. I sense that most of your "interactions" with T has been by phone and worse yet, by texts. He seldom picks up a phone to call you and YOU have to initiate dates? Naw, son. On to the next one...

I mean it. Nip it. Today.


As for Mr. In-the-Meantime...he sounds a bit hurt.
 
Rastafarai said:
So when is that trip to CT? :yep:

Mz L, please leave the high expectations and pondering for a man who actually shows a sincere interest in you and acts on it. I sense that most of your "interactions" with T has been by phone and worse yet, by texts. He seldom picks up a phone to call you and YOU have to initiate dates? Naw, son. On to the next one...

I mean it. Nip it. Today.


As for Mr. In-the-Meantime...he sounds a bit hurt.
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I know right? Should really make that happen, LOL.

We haven't spoken on the phone in weeks. At least at first we were communicating frequently, even though it was by text, but that's not even the case anymore. I agree, it's time to be let this go. I'm not feeling this ish at all.

It's not unusual for me and the temp to chat back and forth throughout the day. I just find it amusing that I hear from him more than I do the person that claims he wants to get to know me.
 
Well, I'll be the first to admit I've been a stupid b!tch before. That's why I come down hard at times. I just wanna take these chillrun by the hand and say, "noooooo! You can do bettuh!" We all have to learn from our mistakes. So it's not about trying to be better, it's about being mad we go through things, continually, to our own detriment.
 
Rastafarai said:
So when is that trip to CT? :yep:

Mz L, please leave the high expectations and pondering for a man who actually shows a sincere interest in you and acts on it. I sense that most of your "interactions" with T has been by phone and worse yet, by texts. He seldom picks up a phone to call you and YOU have to initiate dates? Naw, son. On to the next one...

I mean it. Nip it. Today.


As for Mr. In-the-Meantime...he sounds a bit hurt.
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Yep! Let a sister know. I know I'm in ATL, but a girl has friends in NJ..not a problem
 
"where are you"
"nicaragua"


this is the first time in 2 years my SO has said anything so dumb. um, duh. :look:

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i miss our cuddling :( and being able to talk to him about the littlest things. those 90 days for his study abroad program will be longgggg. i guess im glad i got my SA out of the way early in our relationship. bitter he didn't do the same :ohwell:
 
I love/hate how the story of my relationship life is all up and through this thread...from finding love to heart break to finding it again with someone else. Wow, whodathunk? I dont think I have EVER been so candid in my whole time on LHCF as I have been in this forum :lol:

Oh well, I'm glad I did...There is just way to much insight here to keep stuff to myself.
 
Jesus Christ, at 48 years old lady I would think your days of playing on the gatdarn telephone would be over!!!!!!!!!!!! MAY BAD for thinking I guess.
 
T text me last night "how are you".

I didn't even bother to respond. That's not like me to just flat out ignore someone, but I'm done being considerate when it's not reciprocated.
 
Im sad I just got a message that a former church member boyfriend was murdered by his ex..just bc a man doesn't want you doesn't make it right to kill him bc your not ready to let go..I know men do this nonsense as well a senseless crime..I know that I have been damaged in relationships but I would never do something like this..love is blind I guess and can take over you mind./
 
Me and my friends went to PF Changs today. Dang, their waiters are good looking!!!!! :lick: We had the HOTTEST waiter and we were all salivating after him. When we all got our checks, one friend mustered up the courage to tell him we all thought he was so good looking. :love: He mentioned something about leaving him a phone number and we all laughed it off. Then my brave friend grabbed my signed receipt and wrote down someone's name and number and wouldn't tell us who it was. It wasn't until we got outside that she said it was ME! She wrote my whole name and phone number and left it with the hot waiter! Oh kill me now!
 
Sooooooooo, since your 48 y/o told you that she mistakenly dialed my number you believed her and told me things got blown out of proportion. Well, I told you the things she said and now you are typing subliminal messages on your old arse facebook page. Sorry, with your horrible dressing self, I must now delete you, ONCE AGAIN!!!!!! Why are you so freaking DUMB? We cannot even be acquaintences because you are a dumb arse and as you can see, life goes on. KPH is not the one who keeps trying to find reasons to call or chat with you, remember this "KPH, you never call just to say hi." UGH! Thinking.....I should get my numbers changed.
 
i don't know if its cuz its summertime or what, but i'm really feeling the urge to go back to my old playa days and ways
 
I'm lonely. I'm so tired of having no real prospects. I'm not understanding why everyone else in my immediate circle is maried or about to get engaged etc. I have been single for eight years. Maybe I am truly defective. I see no other reason at this point. I must be the problem. I'm feeling pretty defeated today. I know that I am attractive to guys here and there but if I'm not ever approached what difference does it make? This sucks.
 
Je Ne Sais Quoi said:
I'm lonely. I'm so tired of having no real prospects. I'm not understanding why everyone else in my immediate circle is maried or about to get engaged etc. I have been single for eight years. Maybe I am truly defective. I see no other reason at this point. I must be the problem. I'm feeling pretty defeated today. I know that I am attractive to guys here and there but if I'm not ever approached what difference does it make? This sucks.
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:bighug:

It's crazy that you posted this, I'm feeling the same way today. I guess maybe because this is the day me and T were supposed to hang, but instead I'm here watch "The Temptations" for the 1,874,400th time. I know I'm saving myself a lot of frustration in long run by leaving that situation alone, however, I still feel a little disappointed.

But you are not defective, so get that thought out of your head immediately! :spank: The dating world just sucks. I mean, we're on opposite sides of the globe and running in to the same bs, that's saying something.

You are fabulous, and don't ever believe anything different. :yep:
 
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