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Had a deep convo with my bestie today and my friend asked me about a old love..you loved him didn't you..all I could say was yes..I would have changed myself more just to be with that man..yea we were 10 yrs apart but that didn't matter I accepted you with your kids and grandchild and it would be a little adjusting being a 24 yr stepgrandmother I would have bc I loved that man..it hurts me inside deep that I may never love again ever...no man may ever see me as being a woman again..I will always be invisible bc I don't fit into the sterotypical female roles..Im not a giggle monster Im straight shooter..Im a intellectual convo that is deep is how my clothes fall off not bc you bought me a damn purse..I love that man I gave him my soul the best of me..
 
Helpmeblongagain said:
I'm in heat...I met this guy who was like the personification of sex n beauty all rolled in2 1...and all I could think about was...doing him...so damn fine...he can't come near my house...it will not end well...
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LOL I can so relate to this description...I can think of someone right now who matches this 110%
 
Angel_Face said:
LOL I can so relate to this description...I can think of someone right now who matches this 110%
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me too and he has brains. i swear if i'm ever near him i'm going to have to repent. talking to him and listening to him almost brings me to tears. oooooooooo boy!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
 
KPH said:
me too and he has brains. i swear if i'm ever near him i'm going to have to repent. talking to him and listening to him almost brings me to tears. oooooooooo boy!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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:lachen:YES!!!

There is a name for this you know...it begins with a K...like "kavorka" or some mess like that. I have to look it up and come back.

From what I think I remember it's when a guy brings out the animal attraction in a female...just by being in her presense. And most females respond to him in that way.
 
Angel_Face said:
:lachen:YES!!!

There is a name for this you know...it begins with a K...like "kavorka" or some mess like that. I have to look it up and come back.

From what I think I remember it's when a guy brings out the animal attraction in a female...just by being in her presense. And most females respond to him in that way.
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Ya'll must be talking about my "friend" who just left town. He does this to a LOT of women he meets, even if he doesn't mean to - i.e. he's just around and they go nuts over him.

The problem is that we both do this to each other.

Yeah, I need to go somewhere and "repent." :look:
 
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Saw my ex on Friday. We were talking about something as innocent as his new glasses when we had one of those awkward, tense moments you always see in movies & tv shows. He left and I was left thinking, "What the heck happened? Did he feel that?"
 
This is what I found...lol

Kavorka is a power, a mystical power, which only few possess. It is the animal attraction which causes friends to adore you and women to lust after you. Some say that it is a curse ,A great burden to be in such demand and Kavorka has been known to cause insanity as well as eccentric behavior. Those who possess Kavorka are the pinnacles of style, grace and popularity. Kavorka cannot be learned because it is an aura of sorts, and therefor you either got it or you don't.
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http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=kavorka
 
NYLegalNewbie said:
Ya'll must be talking about my "friend" who just left town. He does this to a LOT of women he meets, even if he doesn't mean to - i.e. he's just around and they go nuts over him.

The problem is that we both do this to each other.

Yeah, I need to go somewhere and "repent." :look:
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Yes, I am in a very similar situation right now...Alls I can say is Saturday cannot come soon enough :blush:...
 
:bighug:

Do NOT give up.

I'm not. :nono:
MzLady78 said:
So I'm sitting by myself at this bar where I'm one of 2 Black people, due to a surprisingly emotional reaction to some pics of my old flame (Mr. Iraq for those of you who remember him), his gf and her 2 kids on Facebook.

I always wondered why he started pulling away and eventually disappeared completely. Now I know why- based on when they were taken, he was seeing her while he was seeing me. Guess that's who he decided he wanted even though he kept telling me he wasn't cut out to be in a relationship. Yet one of comments was "aww baby, look at our beautiful family". Sounds pretty serious to me. But whatever, if he's happy, I'm happy for him. Just wish I had someone to be hugged up in some pics with. Been a long time.

*sigh* I really think I'm bi-polar or some ish some times.
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A friend is seeing an older guy, she told me she's in love but that she’d be embarrassed to bring him to any office functions or family gatherings. So if you’re embarrassed to be seen with someone do you really love them?
 
raaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

:gunner7::210::heated:
 
i like that SO isn't into material things. i can't imagine him wanting $100 pair of jordans, much less asking anyone in his life to buy them for him. a good book (that i've already read so we can discuss) is more than enough for him. that & some tokyo bowl.

me on the other hand...:look: i'm getting better i think.

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i dont understand his brothers. how can three men raised in more or less the same environment have completely different views on basic things? his one brother is the player, the other is a cheapskate that won't even cough up to help his family. not his responsibility but still, especially when he makes enough to contribute so that the weight isn't all on SO (college student). :nono:


but maybe i should be asking wtf is up with his dad? but i already know i'll never have the answer to that one.
 
*Sigh*

Negative thoughts are persistent mofos aren't they? All that work and yet they really just want to remain entrenched. So frustrating!!! :wallbash::wallbash::wallbash:

But, I'm not going to give up. I see the difference that can be made when you put the work into it, and it's worth it.

And besides, with all I've learned, I'm not really starting from scratch. It's more like starting over on a long run, but with much better training to do better during the race :yep:
 
Out of left field. Finest dude that has ever got at me broke his engagement. He starts texting me like he used to today. My sis says I should make a move. I say sit back and see what happens...he could get back with her...

But he's so cool and fine tho! lol
 
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why is it that when i don't hear from you after a certain period of time , i began to become very irritable and snappy?... anybody else i can really care less
 
I'm really getting a divorce this time and it sucks. I was never really in love with this man and he never really loved me. I have a need to be desired as a woman and he NEVER made me feel that way. I'm not going into my 30's with him on my back.
 
D said, and I quote, "I'm just the temp until the full time brotha comes along".

Wow. I've got to do better.
 
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topnotch1010 said:
I'm really getting a divorce this time and it sucks. I was never really in love with this man and he never really loved me. I have a need to be desired as a woman and he NEVER made me feel that way. I'm not going into my 30's with him on my back.
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:bighug:

I'm sorry you're going through this but it's great that you realize you want and deserve more. Sometimes, even when you know, it's not easy to take necessary steps to go find it (totally speaking from experience right now).

I wish you the best. :yep:
 
gabulldawg said:
WOOOOOW. What is wrong with some of these "men?" They are a trip.
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I can't even be mad at him. He basically just put a name to exactly what I've allowed him to be for the past year. At no point did he pretend he wanted to be more. That's on me.

And not to mention the fact that he's probably right. I probably won't stop dealing with him until I find someone else who looks promising. Not saying it's right, just keeping it 100.
 
I can finally say "I will see you next week"
I haven't seen my honey since December 22, 2009.
Next Friday I will get to hug and kiss him :cloud9:
 
Je Ne Sais Quoi said:
Me thinks we are entering the friend zone. Hmmmmm.
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I was gonna post "doesn't someone owe us an update" yesterday, but I forgot.

T is officially wacktastic to me. I sent him a text on Tuesday, telling him I was available all day Sunday if he wanted to do something. This was after not hearing from him all day. He said "cool, what do you wanna do". I'm like "Idk, is there something at the movies you wanna see". No reply.

Didn't hear from him all day yesterday until about 6 or so, when he sent me text saying "I gotta see what's playing". No "hi", no " how was your day", nothing. Then another text saying "sorry for not responding last night, I fell asleep". I've gotten that exact same text from him about 5 times since I met him about a month ago.

I'm tempted to not even bother going out with him this weekend. This situation is so lame right now. I think it's ultimately gonna prove to be a waste of time.
 
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I wish I had more of an update I really do :lol: he keeps saying things like he is going to find someone to hook me up with and then yesterday. We had an interesting conversation yesterday which left me confused on if he is interested or not. I don't have time for guessing games so I am putting him in the friend box. What sealed it for me is that I went home sick yesterday which he knew and he never called last night to see how I was. That says a lot for me. He will see me today and ask how I am etc but it isn't the same as him picking up the phone. Still a nice guy though. Just not in to me.

Mzlady I wish we lived near each other. I would love to go out with you and meet folks and just have fun. All my friends are taken so I don't have many folks to go out with. And since I don't guy out my chances of meeting a guy are slim to none. Oh well.

There is someone out there for me I just know it.

Mzlady your friend sounds like he has a sleep condition. Or he has a lot of friends to juggle. Or hw just has you on the backburner
 
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