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Umm, wow.

So he text me last night like "I didn't hit you back Saturday cuz I really didn't know how to respond. But you shouldn't assume I don't like you. Well, hope you had a good weekend." I was out still trying to enjoy myself with my friends so I didn't get into this situation, but I did tell him this morning when he text me that I haven't seen anything to suggest otherwise. So he goes "I do wanna get to know you, I just wanna take it slow and not rush into anything. But I do like you".

I'm like " this is what you should have said on Saturday, because your lack of response made me basically write you off. I would have understood and we could have been past that by now".

My gut feeling is that he has something in his past that is making him EXTRA cautious. I understand keeping your guard up to keep from getting hurt, but there has to be some leeway. You can't get to know me AND shut me out at the same time.

I really don't even know if it's worth it to continue at this point.
 
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^^^I would express that to him...let him know that you expect open communication. Then you'll have to decide if you want to see him again or end it there. If nothing else he might be someone you'll enjoy hanging out with from time to time.
 
He could of called and told you this. He seems shady...RUNNNNNN.

MzLady78 said:
Umm, wow.

So he text me last night like "I didn't hit you back Saturday cuz I really didn't know how to respond. But you shouldn't assume I don't like you. Well, hope you had a good weekend." I was out still trying to enjoy myself with my friends so I didn't get into this situation, but I did tell him this morning when he text me that I haven't seen anything to suggest otherwise. So he goes "I do wanna get to know you, I just wanna take it slow and not rush into anything. But I do like you".

I'm like " this is what you should have said on Saturday, because your lack of response made me basically write you off. I would have understood and we could have been past that by now".

My gut feeling is that he has something in his past that is making him EXTRA cautious. I understand keeping your guard up to keep from getting hurt, but there has to be some leeway. You can't get to know me AND shut me out at the same time.

I really don't even know if it's worth it to continue at this point.
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luving me said:
^^^I would express that to him...let him know that you expect open communication. Then you'll have to decide if you want to see him again or end it there. If nothing else he might be someone you'll enjoy hanging out with from time to time.
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The last sentence of my text was "you need to communicate with me". I don't get why it's so hard to do.
 
Speaking from experience. CUT HIM OFF and if he really wants you HE WILL BE BACK!!! You have to what they call unplug yourself from the situation and let it be.
 
I've gotta lay down the "rules" as soon as I see him. I'm sick of this.

If he's dumb enough to let me go, I pray I'm smart enough to walk away...for good.
 
I'm still just in shock.

We met each other exactly one year ago on the Fourth of July. You were so handsome, and I couldn't believe you were checking me out.

And then we had an, ahem, very, very, VERY awesome time with each other while you were here :lick:

Sure, we added each other on Facebook. And yes, I joked about coming to Europe to see you. But did I really think that I'd ever see you again? Nope.

So, for us to reconnect, exactly one year to the date...it just kinda blows me a away a bit.

But I guess, what really has me stunned is that, every once in a while, since we met, you thought of me. I know it was just a quick thing you said, and maybe I misheard you...but when you said "I thought about you know, talking to you more, but we're so far away, there was just no point..."

And then, to know that you wanted to come see as soon as you got off the plane...

I don't want to make more of this than it is. I mean, you're not in love with me or anything. But I'm just touched to know that, in some way, I'm kind of special to you. I just didn't expect that.
 
A girl I went to high school with just broke up with her fiancé, she`s devastated, they had been together for over 7 years. Why must she put it all on FB though?!
 
chocolat79 said:
OMG! What the heck is wrong with you?? I try to give you space and you want even more?? I mean, you didn't see me Friday night, Sat, Sun and now Mon and you think it's ok? I'm going to try to communicate this one more time that we need to spend more time together, this time in person. If it doesn't sink in or whatever, I'm chucking my deuces. So tired of this nonsense....

ETA: I see why women want to fight the "other woman". I don't really agree with it, but I understand. You put so much hard work into a relationship just to have some other broad benefit from it. I'm not even married, just in a newly re-ignited relationship and I'm ready to throw in the towel. So much work...I really understand Bey's song, Ring the Alarm :wallbash:
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Chile we are <<<<HERE>>>>
 
i don't have a relationship mostly cause bums always want to approach me, i also need to work more on myself, it won't hurt to go on a date or two....i miss male companionship :( and having someone to color with...restraint i tell ya!!!
 
MzLady78 said:
Bre, you know you DEAD *** WRONG for that!!!

You betta stop playin!!! We wanna know!!!
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I'm sorry yall!!! :lol:

It's just a bit overwhelming PLUS i would hate for what i'm saying to somehow get back to him since our situation is a bit "delicate". What i can gather at this point is that he "seems" to be a great guys, takes care of me in small ways, asks if i'm ok if i seem down. This morning he stopped by as i was just starting my day. I was shaking out my arm because it felt wierd. He immediately asked what was wrong with my arm and was I ok. There have been a couple of akward things to come up that i'm going to talk to him about over the next few days so that we can get it out of the way. One thing is that i want to know flat out if he views me as just a sexual object. He's pretty blunt so though I risk embarassment he will tell me where his head is. There are other things as well that i'm holding close for now but hopefully that kind of gives you a heads up :)
 
I've had fun with my fling...but when he's gone, I feel just as lonely as before :(

I just want to find someone here who I can actually be excited about who's really excited about me too.
 
Is it truly horrible to be thrilled when I logged into facebook just now and saw:

J*** F*** is single.

:grin:
 
One of my girlfriends got engaged on July 4th. He called the local newspaper and a great photographer to capture the moment. I am absolutely ecstatic for her!!!! He is 25, she is 22....they dated for a year, NO SEX. Marriage will commence in September...holla!
 
So you say your "hooked" on me huh? You want me to be your ride or die? Wow...I'm cautious but I'm liking it...I'm liking it. However, show me what ride or die is by being it for me too.

Sexy arse mf...love it!!!
 
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I really wish things had worked out between me and D. I was a little disappointed that he didn't come down to the Tuesday night spot last night, I wanted to see him. It's probably better that way though. The effect that he still has on me after almost a year is crazy. I guess I'll always have a soft spot for him.

I did see other dude, though. He passes by the spot on his way home, so he asked me to come out and say hi. IDK, he has this shy demeanor that really makes me think he's just scared, and not necessarily being shady. I've always felt like guys don't bounce from being hurt like women do, a lot of times they just shut down emotionally. Still, I can't allow myself to keep being shut out and treated less than I deserve because he can't move past that. If he's serious, he's gonna have to do a lot better, and in the meantime, I'm going about business as usual.
 
MzLady78 said:
I really wish things had worked out between me and D. I was a little disappointed that he didn't come down to the Tuesday night spot last night, I wanted to see him. It's probably better that way though. The effect that he still has on me after almost a year is crazy. I guess I'll always have a soft spot for him.

I did see other dude, though. He passes by the spot on his way home, so he asked me to come out and say hi. IDK, he has this shy demeanor that really makes me think he's just scared, and not necessarily being shady. I've always felt like guys don't bounce from being hurt like women do, a lot of times they just shut down emotionally. Still, I can't allow myself to keep being shut out and treated less than I deserve because he can't move past that. If he's serious, he's gonna have to do a lot better, and in the meantime, I'm going about business as usual.
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Yeah, I agree with the bolded. Our coping skills have always been better than theirs.

Mzlady, you are beautiful...trust me the right one will find you and never let you go.
 
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