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MzLady78 said:
*sigh* I think I might have jumped the gun.

Communication with this guy has been minimal since Saturday. He says he's been busy, but how busy can you be that you can't send a text? You do go to lunch right. I know you work 2 jobs, but you do go home eventually, right? I'm not buying it, especially when just last week, he were sending me texts just to say you were thinking about me, even when he couldn't engage in an entire conversation. He said he had a good time with me so I really don't know what to think. :ohwell:
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Yeah, I feel you on this one...I'm a stickler for communication with so many aids available, there shouldn't be any excuses other than didn't want to. Like luving me said...just let it flow and let him come to you. Don't text or call him...he knows what he's supposed to do...but in the meantime...keep looking for other prospects
 
luving me said:
^^^don't over-think it, relax and let it flow.
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Angel_Face said:
Wow, I'm sorry to read this. I'm not going to lie, I'd feel the same way you do especially if he was different last week.

And if he told you that he has been busy since Saturday, it's safe to say that you inquired about not hearing from him as often. He knows how you feel. So the ball should be in his court now. Give it some time to see what happens.
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chocolat79 said:
Yeah, I feel you on this one...I'm a stickler for communication with so many aids available, there shouldn't be any excuses other than didn't want to. Like luving me said...just let it flow and let him come to you. Don't text or call him...he knows what he's supposed to do...but in the meantime...keep looking for other prospects
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Ok, I'm glad y'all get where I'm coming from.

This has been the pattern with the last 2 guys I was involved with, so I'm really wary of this type of switch, especially so early. We haven't even spoken on the phone in like a week. :perplexed

Oh well, I'm just gonna fall back, keep doin' me and see what happens. I made my expectations very clear from the beginning so it's up to him to either step up or step off.
 
I want to see my ex-boyfriend in the mall...with my new SO, my newly natural hair, and my new "60 lb-less" body.....

the most fabulous day of my life....
 
this is why i should never wonder what i'm missing. :lachen: not much. i love my bff. i live vicariously through her. i cannot believe this. she really doesn't deserve nice boy. :lachen: at least not right now. her relationship with her boything is so bizarre and hazardous. :look:
 
If ya'll were already friends maybe he wanted to chat, but if he has a new lady and he calling you after 10pm .......booty call. it just depends. You dont want him, he probably cant make up his mind
 
BGT said:
Why is this 19 year old all over me?
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LOL, this reminds me of the day before yesterday. We had picnic day for the veterans and their families. Tell me why one vet's 13 year old grandson was following me all over the place telling me that I look to young (42) to be working here, complimenting me left and right.

I'm thinking to myself "wow this kid is going to be something else with women when he actually becomes a man"...He then slips me his number at the end of the day. We had to have a talk. *smh* 13 years old... again *smh*
 
MzLady78 said:
Ok, I'm glad y'all get where I'm coming from.

This has been the pattern with the last 2 guys I was involved with, so I'm really wary of this type of switch, especially so early. We haven't even spoken on the phone in like a week. :perplexed

Oh well, I'm just gonna fall back, keep doin' me and see what happens. I made my expectations very clear from the beginning so it's up to him to either step up or step off.
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First he tells you he's scared of being hurt and now the distance? He sounds like a commitment-phobe :perplexed.
 
Rastafarai said:
First he tells you he's scared of being hurt and now the distance? He sounds like a commitment-phobe :perplexed.
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Yep, and that's why I'm concerned, I feel like I could have another form of the "emotionally unavailable" man on my hands.

He's hit me up a number of times today, which is cool, but I gotta say that I'm not AS excited about this as I was 5 days ago. But maybe that's not such a bad thing. Maybe I needed the reality check that it's still early, and I could just be dealing with his "representative" right now.
 
:giggle: you are so sad and pitiful. You didn't stop my progress! I'm better and you know it and your miserable little self is trying to run MY name down? You don't realize that you look like an idiot because you STAY talking about me! So who is pressed? :lachen:
 
I think it's finally sunk in that he is afraid of a life-long commitment. 3 weeks ago you were ring shopping with my mom's blessing, now we are not talking because you let "Fear, Confusion and Doubt" in. You need to grow up and mature and I need to move on with my life. It hurts but, hey. :(
 
Ms Red said:
I think it's finally sunk in that he is afraid of a life-long commitment. 3 weeks ago you were ring shopping with my mom's blessing, now we are not talking because you let "Fear, Confusion and Doubt" in. You need to grow up and mature and I need to move on with my life. It hurts but, hey. :(
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Damn...I'm sorry :(
 
Thanks girl. He "changed his mind" about breaking up within 48 hours and called crying to me saying "I love you, I need you in my life, blah, blah, blah." But that 48 hours gave me serious pause and made me doubt if this was the man for me, after all. I think I finally cried my last tears over it and put it in God's hands.
MzLady78 said:
Damn...I'm sorry :(
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Ms Red said:
Thanks girl. He "changed his mind" about breaking up within 48 hours and called crying to me saying "I love you, I need you in my life, blah, blah, blah." But that 48 hours gave me serious pause and made me doubt if this was the man for me, after all. I think I finally cried my last tears over it and put it in God's hands.
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And it should give you pause.

My last bf had already broken up with me TWICE prior to me taking my silly a** to Arizona with him. And one thing I always kicked myself for was giving him the opportunity to hurt me a third time. Like the saying goes "when a man really wants you, nothing can keep him away". If his feelings for you are going from hot to cold like a damn faucet, then no, he probably isn't the one. There's someone out there who will have NO doubts that you're the woman for him. :yep:
 
Why do people assume that a happy couple is that way because they don't have any problems? This is ESPECIALLY true if the couple doesn't have children- because we all know that child-free/less couples have plenty of money and sex and no health, family, or job problems and always, without fail, agree on EVERYTHING :drunk: :reddancer: :rolleyes:). Why isn't the assumption that they have problems like everyone else, but resolve them oh... I don't know... PRIVATELY? Like what are people supposed to do when they have a disagreement with their spouse, talk smack about them to everyone they see? I especially have to :perplexed at married people who do this. You HAVE a relationship and know about the disrepancy between what happens in private and what others see in public.
 
crlsweetie912 said:
:giggle: you are so sad and pitiful. You didn't stop my progress! I'm better and you know it and your miserable little self is trying to run MY name down? You don't realize that you look like an idiot because you STAY talking about me! So who is pressed? :lachen:
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Wow, what kind of bytchassness is this? Now you see who he really is. LOL As long as you're ok sis...that's all that matters.
 
Angel_Face said:
Wow, what kind of bytchassness is this? Now you see who he really is. LOL As long as you're ok sis...that's all that matters.
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Exactly! God is so good! :reddancer:
Had the nerve to sit behind me the other night at prayer and after the service was over try to hug me and say he's sorry! :lachen:
 
He asked to touch my hair today. Is attentive to my needs. We are NOT dating but it seems he cares for me. I wonder what path our relationship will take.
 
I haven't heard from him since 11:00 yesterday morning, he never even responded to the last text I sent him.

I've pretty much written him off at this point. I don't have the patience for this, nor do I have the inclination to being playing Inspector Gagdet, trying to figure out what the problem is. I really don't care. This has been the quickest 180 turn I have EVER experienced and I can't be bothered with him and his bulls***. I don't need the stress, I have more important things to worry about, like the fact that I'm about to be unemployed again.
 
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Mzlady I'm sorry about this!!!

Why didn't you just ask me out? You had the perfect opportunity. You had to change it around and leave it in my court. Well guess what? I'm not picking up the ball. You will have to make this happen in an official way. Let's see what you do....
 
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