***Random Thoughts: RELATIONSHIP FORUM***

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'member I told you tho. f-up and I'll be ghost. No message, no hint, no explanation, no trace evidence, no prints, no dna; Straight up bermuda triangle on your arse.
All the best with you.
 
I'm sick and tired of liking guys waaaaaaaaay more than they like me. I give up so much of myself and inexplicably demand nothing in return. I'm so willing to accept whatever they'll give me, and it kills me to admit I'd rather have "something" than "nothing" and do all of the work. I'm just so tired of being alone. It's exhausting being rejected over and over again. At almost 21, I honestly feel like I'm destined to be alone forever.

Why do I feel like this?!?!
 
^^ i know exactly how you feel but just take your time and focus on you more , let them come to you , they are supposed to be impressing YOU not you bending over backwards and jumping through hoops for them.
 
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As much as I'd like to find 'the one' to settle down with and get married to, deep down I am really apprehensive and a bit nervous about meeting different men. My deep down fears are having to sift through people's personalities, and going through thier bullshyt, and the introvert in me is scared shytless about this :sad:. I'd just ideally like to find 'him' w/o having to meet several men before meeting him. Also, admittedly, I am very particular about what I'm attracted to so this is another fear that will probably creep up on me again. At least I'm consciously aware of this now, so I will face it head on, b/c this summer I plan to definetely date :grin:.
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i agree w/this post in it's entirety & completely!
 
He's a wonderful man, and I love him with all my heart. But he really is cramping my loner style. All this togetherness is really, REALLY foreign to me. Who sees and calls someone everyday?! This goes against 29 years of my well honed leave-me-the-hell-alone/hermit lifestyle.

But, he listens to me, addresses my concerns, makes me laugh, holds me when I cry, helps whenever he is able, and rubs my feet when they're sore... so, although it is totally out of my comfort zone, I'm willing to try to adjust, because my heart is telling me that he is the ONE.

OK, that is about as sappy as you'll ever see me get :lachen:. I'm gonna blame the late hour, cause I'm not a wuss, I'm a G!
 
BGT said:
I'm sick and tired of liking guys waaaaaaaaay more than they like me. I give up so much of myself and inexplicably demand nothing in return. I'm so willing to accept whatever they'll give me, and it kills me to admit I'd rather have "something" than "nothing" and do all of the work. I'm just so tired of being alone. It's exhausting being rejected over and over again. At almost 21, I honestly feel like I'm destined to be alone forever.

Why do I feel like this?!?!
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Aww girly you're just 21 (almost). You still have time to learn the game. :yep: Practice the art of putting more focus on yourself.
 
Got a painful lesson on men today. You attract to you what you put out there. I know a lot of you already know this, but I was in denial about that. I need to lose weight. The less i weigh, the better dudes I seem to attract...me all in white at this cruise was a BAD look. Never again.
 
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Aww girly you're just 21 (almost). You still have time to learn the game. :yep: Practice the art of putting more focus on yourself.
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I agree.

Seriously, the best relationships are where you just sit back and enjoy while a man treats you like a queen.

Otherwise, don't even bother!
 
See this right here is exactly why i dont contact you first. I sent u a message an hour ago I know it was delivered and you read it but I get no response. Not even an I am busy I will call you later or anything. This cant be the same person who begged me to call them over the weekend just to check in. Just do what you normally do and ignore me but your *** will want to know what's wrong tomorrow when I dont say anything to you.
 
I am so over men who constantly and consistently, tell you what they about to do, getting ready to do, what they promise to do, what they going to make up to you. How about get it right the first time!!!!! Stop over-extending yourself on offers you cant make happen...NEXT!!!! Thats an automatic dismissal. I dont have time for that crap, save it for someone else who wants to hear that mess!
 
I mourn the lost of a love of 3 years..even though you may never know how much my love is and how deep it was no more..I don't need to lose a lb to attract a man bc if he is a strong man he will see my beauty that is like any woman..I will love me and take care of me but I will not change for a penis holder ever again..only change for the better
 
Oh My Goodness. I have done some reflecting back on this little escapade call my life. I married a man who wasn't ready to be a husband. He has a lot of growing up to do. I now realize that I had been given warning after warning I just did not heed to the warnings. This marriage should not have taken place. The same things that he was doing before we got married, the same things that would set me off were the exact things that he did after we were married and they set me off. I have been doubtful about him since I met him. I always maintained that he was not ready for marriage. Well, it is over. We are divorcing and now that I see it written it is well with my soul. I am going to pray that God takes this feeling of love that I have for him away from me. I have closure. I pray he gets the same kind of closure.
 
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So.... this guy that I've had a crush on since like the first week of school told me he was interested me and that he'd been interested in me for awhile. I was so flattered cuz I really had no idea he even cared I existed.

Happened like two weeks ago and it still makes me smile when I think about what he said. Sigh.
 
I want to have what Tony and Abby have.
I have never been jealous or envious, but I cannot stop thinking about the power of their love and commitment to each other.
 
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I totally screwed up and now my 'having my cake and eating it too' approach has come back to bite me in the....

I know I have hurt him deeply but it appears he is too scarred to want to open up to me again. He's been ignoring me for a quick minute and he finally did answer his phone last night. But he wasn't his old self. He was short and abrupt. A man in pain, I presume. I have been a complete and utter ****** to him and I want to make it up to him before its too late. But he's not letting me. At all. Maybe it is too late? :(

I've wrote him a letter and if I see him today (which I doubt) I'll send it by mail tomorrow. If he doesn't respond...then....

...I'm praying for a miracle. :( :( :(

Funny thing is I realize that men who treat me like gold are the ones I treat like ish. I really need to change my approach. I may have let a good one get away. *sigh*
 
now that Im working I want to start dating but I want to date properly like so many of you pretty ladies on this board..I know I will have to take the 1st step and go places so I can.. i just want to be loved..my day dream is to have a nice man that I can trust,honor,believe in and allow him to lead in the relationship..I want to be a woman for once..I want to marry and plan a real wedding..I want a baby from my womb in spite of the complications..I want all this before my grandmother my rock goes to God..but Im 25 is it tooo late for such a pipe dream.
 
If there is any aspect of his life that you can describe as ratchetness, RUN!!! And if he belongs to the limp biscuit club, SPRINT! Just say NO.
 
"It's not like you to assume something."

You're right, it's not. Since you know this, what makes you think that I'm assuming?

By the way, you left your cell phone home on Saturday. That's a first. :grin:
 
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